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Monday Morning (reprint Post) the Wakefield Doctrine (hey, it was quite the weekend, tell ya later)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Very busy weekend, very busy week, the best I think is for a reprint of an old favorite (regular Readers of the Doctrine should remember this Post). Will be back later in the day.  …enjoy the Post from November 25, 2011

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine ( the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers )

This is a photo of my friend Bernadine Thomas and me (your Humble Narrator), taken about 10 years ago. Bernadine died  unexpectedly a couple of years ago.

(As often happens with clarks and scotts)  it was nearly love at first sight with Bernadine*.  Simply was one of those clark/scott things. I met  Bernadine when she came to work at a market and credit research company – I was experimenting with having a ‘real job’ in the ‘real world’. The company I worked for had their offices in Providence, on Westminster Street, and most important (to my story here) was that I worked in one of those cubicle workstation things,  at my desk from 9-5, Monday through Friday, calling  manufacturing companies all over the world, trying to get them to give me information about their use of raw materials. In other words, it was a very rogerian work environment, but one in which a clark could  ‘pass’ as an employee.  I had been working there for about 6 months when Bernadine was hired and moved into a nearby cubicle.

To set the stage for my meeting Bernadine,  picture an entire floor of an office building with the front of the floor (at the windows) being divided into three offices for the owners of the Company and the rest of the space taken up with clusters of cubicles. These were ‘open clusters’ which meant you could spin your chair to the 2 other people in your cluster or, with a little extra push, be out in the aisle where you could see what was going on in the rest of the office.   On one wall, located in the middle of the office was the elevator and directly across was the main conference room, which  had glass walls on three sides (windows on the 4th wall) and a large conference table in the middle. Totally visible from all the cubicles…think of  TV with the Mute on.
I will never forget the day that Bernadine came to interview for a job, as the interview was held in the conference room. (It will help to know that the demographic of the Company was typical for the industry (and) for our part of the country, i.e. mostly female and nearly all white…not counting the Asian guy in IT).  Bernadine, as characteristic of all scotts, not only had ‘presence’, but being a large woman,  the minute she walked into the conference room, it was obvious to all of us that she was totally owning that room. Keep in mind, no one  could hear the conversation that was going on in the conference room, except that is, when Bernadine laughed.  As with scotts ( male and female), when Bernadine laughed you noticed!  (…her’s was not one of those annoying, odd or quirky laughs), when she laughed it was full, un-restrained… totally without reservation or  pre-requisite…simply enjoying herself.
Bernadine was hired.
As we got to know each other, I began to tell Bernadine about the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers.  Bernadine made a lasting contribution to the Wakefield Doctrine.  One afternoon, I asked her about the ‘dominance thing’. I told her about how scotts will always challenge everyone in the immediate environment, in order to establish the ranking order. But then I asked Bernadine a direct question, ‘What happens when you are not the dominant one?”  Bernadine’s response was simple, ‘Nothing happens! It’s not a bad thing to be second in ranking! And…and…are you listening to me?  It isn’t  ‘better’ to be the alpha! All that matters is that we know where we stand ‘  This was a revelation that not only added to my understanding of scotts but reinforced my understanding of the fact that we all live in slightly different realities. As a clark, the concept of not being at the top could be nothing but a negative thing, it simply never could occur to me.

(Two experiences that tell you a lot about Bernadine and all about scotts…)

Bernadine’s cubicle was in the cluster (of cubicles) adjacent to the one that I worked in with another market analyst, by the name of Charlie;  a young kid, just out of college, smart, and competent  but Charlie had a habit of  sleeping at his desk in the afternoon. One afternoon Charlie awoke from his after-lunch nap, loudly grumbling about how much work he had to do and for reasons still unknown, I said in a fairly loud voice, “…It’s been a long winter, and Mr Charlie is starting to wake, while things have changed since the Autumn, one thing is still true..he is hungry…and surely will need to get out of the burrow”   (I was, of course,  hearing the classic Disney Nature Film Narrator voice in my head).
The immediate and unmistakeable peals of laughter coming over the cubicle wall on Bernadine’s side were worth it all.   It was at this moment we became friends.

The second experience came at the end of my employment at that company.

I was called into the  office of my (rogerian) boss late one Friday afternoon. He did all the talking and it was mostly about him and his difficult responsibilities and how I surely must understand how it was that he had to let me go.  And, being a roger of major proportions he assumed that I would be embarrassed to inform my co-workers of my imminent departure.  He asked me if I wanted him to make up a reason that would explain my not working there anymore or did I want to make up a reason…
I said, ‘No thank you, I will take care of it, first thing Monday morning’.   He seemed satisfied with this plan and I left the office and went home (by this time it was past ‘quitting time’).
When I got home,  the totality of what had happened finally began to sink in,  ( I have mentioned that I am a clark, haven’t I?), and  I decided that I needed to call Bernadine. (This was noteworthy, as while we were workfriends, we did not socialize outside of the office. I had  never before called her at her home.)
But call I did.
After the surprise of,  “Hi Bernadine, this is Clark…from work, you know?  wore off,  Bernadine  asked, ‘What’s wrong?” My response was simply, “They fuckin let me go today

Bernadine’s next words were, “Alright. Tell me exactly what happened. And, don’t leave anything out!”

I still miss Bernadine, she was such a scott.

1)  love being defined (by a clark)  as ” this person not only is not suspicious of me and/or my behavior…they seem to actually enjoy my company!”

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stream of conscious? did someone say stream of cons…. the Wakefield Doctrine (ok folks Summer’s over, it’s time to get back to work!)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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I will accept compliments (both real and imagined) for this my first second TToT for a (given weekend).

seeing as this is still the TToT, I will strive to: a) make it resemble a list and 2) focus on things that I am grateful for (though this might be a bit of a stretch)

1) I am glad that I am in a position to talk to people I would have otherwise had  (negative) zero chance of even meeting, never mind engaging in a meaningful conversation (yeah, thats most of you people out there)

2) speaking of ‘you people’, I am grateful for the openness to the Wakefield Doctrine among the co-hostini and other participants to my incessant referencing of said amazing insight

3) I am (semi) grateful for the fact that the others had some delays this morning prior to the regularly schedule Wakefield Doctrine Video Brunch

4) …you, on the other hand, might feel differently

5) I am thankful for ‘list Padding’

6) I am glad I retain some sense of limits (to messin with the rules) and trust that it coincides with the perceptions of the group as a whole

7) glad that I just had the insight into what I am missing with my attempts to produce a list that resembles those (lists) that I consider a model and a standard (including but not limited to Christine’s and Lizzi’s and Dyanne’s and them)… and the answer is clearly very simple… and (to a clark) very instructive/enlightening

8) (no the answer was not to add to the list…but what the heel)… it is about that damn  figure ground!!!  clarks… are very,  very  prone-to and adept-at and limited-to and unlimited-by and caught-up-in whatever figure we pull from the background!

9) and so, for the scotts and rogers out there we (clarks) are the classic good news/bad news peoples:  good news:  as Outsiders we have a much greater range of choice when it comes to pulling the figure (we always get those  trompe-l’œil photos like the one above)  but the bad news:  when it comes to simple common sense  assumptions and conclusions and knowing the right thing

 

Note from Considerer and Michelle, it’s ok to stop now and finish later…cause we’re on a Jetsons call.

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TToT 16 ***61 ToTT enirtcoD dleifekaW eht (oh oh, this can’t be good)

(sregor dna sttocs ,skralc fo yroeht eht) enirtcoD dleifekaW eht ot emocleW

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!stsop  ToTT epyt-tsil ,lamron eht htiw llew os gniod ruoy’ eht dna tnemegaruocne eht htiw tahw …neppah dluow siht ekil gnihtemos taht yletaidemmi uoy dlot evah dluow kaJ !lleh …ennayD dna enitsirhC taht erus m’I  !emalb ot sfles nwo ruoy evah *uoy ,lleW

(hold…let me try this… ouch!)

1)   …mron eht morf yawa pets ot lliw eht tsol ton evah I taht lufetarg ma I

2)  ? ….nuf yllaer si siht !taht ekil eb t’noD  !?gniog uoy era erehW  !!etunim a tiaW

3) Alright… relax  If one of you would please tell Christine and Dyanne that I stopped and promise to not do that again, I’d be so…. grateful

4) I am grateful that I have enough…. maturity? sense?…common sense?  to know when to quit on the excessive clarklike stuff, though I will defend to expulsion-from-the-group the right of anyone to go for the road less traveled on these here    TToT lists.

5) …glad that I could appreciate that ‘yesterday was Friday’… my work has, of late, attained the level of overload as to cause me to go through most days with a background feeling of falling behind no matter what I do, (what did the Red Queen say about having to run twice as fast to get somewhere’?)  yesterday had just a slight sense of… ‘hey, I’ve gotten a lot done!’

6) I am grateful that I have a workable explanation of why there does not seem to be enough hours in the day… it gives me something to shoot for (in terms of feeling like I can change that feeling)… space does not permit giving you the full explanation other than to say,  “we have all been out in our cars and found ourselves behind a car driven by a very old person (you know, all you can see is the top of their head and two hands on the steering wheel) and you see them put on the blinker for a right turn (Left Turn for Lizzi) and you know how the rest of this scene plays out….” Hold that thought, that ‘visual’ contains all the clues and information that you need in order to understand why there are not enough hours in the day for you…

7) I am grateful to Lizzi for providing a good example of how the Wakefield Doctrine really works… innocently enough (yeah, right) she said something about (one of) my Reply(s) having a ‘touch of the manipulative’. Her Comment lead me to (re)state my Reply: if the question is,”…are clarks manipulative?” the answer is, “… yes, they are!”  However, as I thought about it, I realized that the proper answer is, “since everyone does everything at one time or another’, your question, Lizzi, should be, ‘how does manipulation manifest in the worldview of a clark?’  the implication being that all three ‘personality types’ can exhibit the drive to (attempt) to manipulate their surroundings.  Thanks! Lizzi

8) I am totally grateful that there are Readers who are thinking, ‘Hey! wait a darn minute! don’t think we don’t know what you’re up to!’ ( …loved the boots, Christine.  Dyanne you know you were thinking that…. zoe, sorry, too late… even you can’t erase that first impulse of “he thinks he can get away with….”)

9) I was going to close my list with a return of the backwards thing that started this Post, but I decided not to (so I would venture that that is one of your gratitude items this weekend).

10) I am grateful to Lizzi. For being such a valued and contributional DownSpring… and on this particular weekend,  because she is embarking on a new adventure (the job, ya know). We here at the Wakefield Doctrine look at what she has accomplished(in the very short time we have known her)  and what she is accomplishing and can’t help feeling something akin to pride.  ( “Hey! you know Considerer?  yeah well she was one of the DownSprings that really helped the Doctrine move forward”)  We psyched to hear about what she can report back from the new environment… the Wakefield Doctrine will be all the better for it.

Thats it for this Saturday morning… off to work.

Oh!  quick programming note:  The Wakefield Doctrine Video Brunch tomorrow?  you will so not want to miss it!  We will be trying out my new phone’s capability to do live video on the google hangout…. So the Brunch will start a little later than usual 9:30  instead of the 9:00 am EDT  but we will be trying for Wakefield!  So  download your google hangout app…. and stay tuned tomorrow at 9:30 am EDT   Hey Melanie!!  Hope you make it Sunday!

 

 

 

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Finish The Sentence Friday, the Wakefield Doctrine (you can close your damn eyes and listen…it’s a video Post!)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

The hostini of the bloghop known as Finish The Sentence Friday …that would be Janine and Kate and Stephanie and Kristi have given us the following sentence fragment:

 I deserve a medal for the time I…

(though i messed up the ‘set-up’ a bit, following is my contribution)

the Wakefield Doctrine is a way of looking at the world… or more precisely, a way of understanding the world as the other person is experiencing it. If you learn the principles of our personality theory you will never again need to  hear yourself say, “How could they do that? I really thought I knew them better than that!”

 

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‘Il viaggio di scoperta e comprensione’ …the Wakefield Doctrine (hey! lookit that! they got, like, subtitles in their titles! I gots to read that Post!)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

With more and more new Readers are joining us on our little adventure of discovery (of the uses and fun of the Wakefield Doctrine), I thought it might be best that I indicate that we (DownSprings and Friends of the Doctrine) know how confusing it can be at first… you learn the characteristics of the three worldviews…nothing seems to happen and then, one day totally out of left field, everything falls into place.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4pYCXC8XNA

(Of there are any opera buffs out there who want to help us set this scene in the overall context of the story…let us know!  I so see a clark and a scott and a roger in this scene)

come back later today…we’ll talk a little

(I’m back…)

the Wakefield Doctrine is not: easy to learn/APA-approved/subject to hideously rigorous empirical analysis/something you use to get your boyfriend in line/something you use to make your children behave/something you use to get your wife to… (hold that thought)/full of carefully structured categories/useful to get people to fit a certain definition/only useful to ‘professionals’/an ‘Answer’

the Wakefield Doctrine is: a tool/fun/useful/easy to learn/something to do to yourself to get your girlfriend in line/helpful in understanding your children/something that will keep you from being surprised the next time your husband…/a wonderful tool for self-improvement/a way to understand why people behave the way that they do/ one more (…did we already say ‘fun’?) perspective on life

Here’s the deal: if you can hold in your mind that we all live, to a certain degree, in a personal reality and you can (hold in your mind) that there are three worldviews (personal realities) that everyone can experience then you can use the Doctrine. The thing about the Wakefield Doctrine that you should know (actually 2 things …for now, a bunch of things later, if you decide you like it):  the goal is to ‘see the world as the other person experiences it’  and ‘the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not for them’.

…so go read these pages, take the Assessment if you want, definitely ask questions. We will guarantee that, with the proper use of the Wakefield Doctrine, you will know more about ‘the other person’ than you have any right to know!

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