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I’d rather fight zombies in a parking lot than in a shopping mall*, the Wakefield Doctrine ’10 Things of Thankful’ (Bloghop and Weekend hangout…the 3rd)

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Weekends1. A job that involves working every/any day of the week2. A moment in bed in the morning before the day begins3. A secondary scottian aspect4. A new toaster5. The clean slate environment of the blogosphere6. An appreciation of the unusual7. A dog to greet me8. Having our new Wakefield Doctrine docTees finally be ready to ship9. Sending Wakefield Doctrine tee shirts to people around the globe10.

Alright, so what is it? Thankful or Grateful?  (our friends at ‘the Wikipedia’ define ‘thankful as :  “…a positive emotion or attitude in acknowledgment of a benefit that one has received or will receive.”  while  a search for (a definition of the word) gratitude yields the following:

Gratitude is not the same as indebtedness. While both emotions occur following help, indebtedness occurs when a person perceives that they are under an obligation to make some repayment of compensation for the aid. The emotions lead to different actions; indebtedness can motivate the recipient of the aid to avoid the person who has helped them, whereas gratitude can motivate the recipient to seek out their benefactor and to improve their relationship with them.

* and what does the Wakefield Doctrine have to say about zombies and/or the Zombie Apocalypse? Two things: a) scotts would appear, at first blush**, to be the best equipped to survive a zombie attack, and they would, as long as they did not run out of ammo or break a heel and fall down, b) clarks actually will, be able to survive the up-coming humanity game-changer… for a number of reasons, not the least of which is, we can decide to not resist the overwhelming horde attack and pretend to be one of them, ‘passing as being zombish’ if you will, until we can make our escape and 3) yeah, rogers… stand on the roof top with the brain-eating mob on the street and yell, “hey! look isn’t that Ken Burns down the street there!!” and you’ll be able to waltz out the front door, safe as can be… until the crowd realizes that Ken never actually got bitten by a zombie

 

1) a certain suspension of expectations/demands as to how much energy we put into our activities

2) being in business for myself allows me to take whatever time off I would like, being in business for myself, of course means I hardly ever do…lol

3) just before the body gets up to ‘stand up now’ mode… when the brain is ‘still in it’s pajamas’  (the Title of today’s Post came in one those precious moments of sanctioned insanity)

4) cause otherwise, I would totally never hit publish on this… interesting take on a Gratitude List

5) if I have to explain, you would not get it

6) this is a place of the ultimate “if I could, I would…”

7) lol

8) dogs, are, as I constantly remind people, perfect lifeforms

9) they are getting even better…

10) Kristi and Considerer! watch those damn mailboxes!  (hey ChristineTracy yo!  as it works out… I only got 2 ‘scotts‘ tees printed this run… you’re both welcome to wear one of these nearly-free Official Doctrine apparel  lemme know)

 

** yeah, like a scott is gonna ever blush

 

 

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Finish Your Dinner Friday (at) the Wakefield Doctrine

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(Janine and Kate and Stephanie and Dawn are the source of one of the more enjoyable blog hops in the blogosphere. Their hop, this FTSF, is the best, (with 10 Things Thankful coming up strong), because it offers us an opportunity to take a common thought/idea/premise/sentence fragment and see how creative we can be. This is not a competition and yet it is, but more akin to a ‘jam’ (in the sense of musical improvisation where a group of musician will take a familiar song and see where they can take it). Fun  (and  as guest bloggerini,  Katia from ‘IAMTHEMILK’)

 

If I could have dinner with anyone in history it would be with…

…my 9 year old self.

me: “Is this alright to do? I should ask my mother…”

Me: “She said to tell you it was alright, she knows me and thought that it might do you some good. Did she tell you who I am?”

me: “I don’t think so. She said you were an actor or something, maybe a model. Yeah, she said you were a roll model do you sell bread?”

Me: “No.”

me: “You remind me of someone. Kinda. Are you a part of the family? I never heard anyone talk about you, there is only Uncle Phil and Uncle Charles, he’s not really my uncle but we call him that. Are you one of those pretend relatives?”

Me: “In a way, you might say so. Thats not important, now. What is important is that I talk to you and answer your questions and maybe give you some advice. So, why don’t I tell you a story about someone I knew who was just like you, ok?”

me: “yeah, sure. My mom said she would be back to eat with us in a little while, that I should just start and not wait for her and that you had some advice that I should listen to, are you like a Psychologist or something? ’cause I’m ok, theres nothing wrong with me and I will figure out what I want to be soon.”

Me: “Nope nothing wrong. Look, here’s the deal. I know that you think you are different and I know that you are afraid that people will find that out. I know that you really think it’s something you have missed or failed to learn and you believe that the answer is out there in all the interesting facts and information that you see, in the books you read, and the things you imagine. I also know that you hope to make your parents proud of you and your friends glad you are around and that’s all ok and all..”

me: “…but”

Me: “yeah!  but… the ‘but’ is that you are different, and people will always see that, but what they say and how they talk about you? you need to know and not forget that stuff  is about them, it is not about you.

me: “I am very gifted and read like a 12th grader, my mother says that I should be grateful and need to use my abilities and apply myself and do well…”

Me: “…but”

(we both laugh… my younger self laughing and feeling comfortable with this strange but interesting old guy. my actual self laughs with a surprising sense of affection for this younger version of myself …thinking, ‘this kid has some pretty human, everyday qualities’.)

me: “yeah, I really want to get people to like me or admire me or just be one of them… my friends or the kids at school. I don’t know, but I know that anything is possible and I feel like I almost know what I think I need to know”

Me: “I have a confession to make…. I thought about this ‘dinner with anyone…” thing and when I thought up the thing about having you, my younger self, be the dinner guest character, I got really excited…”

me: “and you imagined how neat it would be and how the story would make everyone sit up and say, ‘what a cool story’?  Like that?

Me: “yeah. and here we are and it is a neat idea, but it’s funny, but I already don’t think about how cool it will be, what a neat idea and how people will like it… but, you know something”  it is an interesting premise, in ways that just didn’t occur to me when started”

me: “ok,  so what advice are you going to give me, your younger self… something that will let me figure how to be a real person and be popular and admired and avoid all the bad parts and stuff?”

Me: “Nope. No advice from me. Because advice is somebody else’s information… you can (and you will) get all the information you need all on your own.  I will repeat, you are different (an ‘Outsider’ you will say one day, maybe), but you are still a kid with good intent and if you have to drag your self-doubt  and self-consciousness around with you for a while, feeling like no one will accept you the way you are, then that’s probably how it needs to be…”

me:”Man!  what a gyp! my science fiction stories say you’re supposed to tell me how to get rich and famous and popular, ’cause I’ll know stuff from my future and they’ll all admire me and my family will be proud of me and everything”

Me: “well…tough, got no secret answer for you… maybe that is the secret answer… that there is no secret answer, no shortcut.  And since we’re discussing your future, I’ll say this one last thing, I’ve been there (in your future) and there is nothing  that says you are predestined to have a good life or a bad life, an easy life or a hard life. Sorry, there is no Fate that rules that your life will turn out one way or another way… just you and the things you hold onto inside, your beliefs and hope, determination, faith and even what some people call Will,  that matters.  What do you have to say to that, kid?”

me: “or are we just gonna talk, can I order desert now?”

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‘of chi squares and video brunches’ the Wakefield Doctrine ‘…don’t worry, this will be over in 3.00687285223 minutes.’

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According to Research, the average number of words in a blog Post is 551.25. Today is the kind of day that has more things to do than time to do them. As all writers of blogs know, content is king. And new content is kinger. So I will Post this Post even though it is 6:41 am and I need to leave the house at 7:34 am.

This is what Julie DeNeen refers to as a niche blog, i.e. a specific subject, as opposed to a personal blog which is more related to the Writer’s life and times.

The subject is the Wakefield Doctrine and the purpose of the blog is twofold, a) to present the Wakefield Doctrine as (a tool) for understanding personality types, behavior (our own and that of the people in our lives) to as wide an audience as possible and 2) develop my ‘presentation skills’ written and verbal through these Posts, participation in blog hops and other activities and video chatting.

(damn! this is boring!! and I’ve used up 182 words of my 551.25   shit! (hell with the rules of rhetoric)

hey, have you ever felt on certain days that you were invisible?  no, really!  like you’re with people and it’s not just that they don’t speak to you, but you can see that they are not ‘recognizing’ that you are even there!  or… even though you have on your best outfit, heels ‘n makeup are perfect and you are with a group of people and you can’t buy a reaction…don’t you get this feeling that you really need to hurt something… or maybe you are work, you have an office to run, and there is that one employee who insists on working hard and is nice, no matter what you say… doesn’t it feel good to see the look on his or her face when you lash out and they get that expression of puzzled defensiveness?

If you can identify with any of these here imaginary people here, then the Wakefield Doctrine might, just might be something that will change your day today.  maybe.  if you have the …intellectual flexibility, the confidence in your own reality to try something that says,”‘hey! you want to see something really cool?”

so with the weekend approaching, if you won’t be surprised at finding yourself thinking: “I don’t think I want to go through all that effort to go out…it probably will be a waste of time” or “if that husband of mine would go back to being the guy he was when we were dating, then all this work wouldn’t be so…” or even “how many times do I have to talk to her, I explained why I didn’t find the idea of going there this weekend and spending all that time… I don’t understand what I need to do to get through to her and the kids.”

The Wakefield Doctrine is a unique, productive and fun way to understand the behavior of the people in our lives. Never again find yourself saying, I really thought I knew them better than that!

( 23 words to spare! …damn what should I say…   hey Cyndi! Denise!  Considerer! Michelle! Melanie!  Julie!  video brunch coming up… yeah Terrye! you too! (Hey Christine... Kristi  come on! it’ll be !)

 

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Twisted Mix Tape Tuesday #12!! the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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If you’ve gone and made it through Monday, then mostly likely today is Tuesday. If this holds to be true then the following…. er   follows:

Twisted Mix Tape Tuesday  #12!!

For the new Reader at the Doctrine, Twisted Mix Tape Tuesday is a blog hop created by Friend of the Doctrine, Jen Kehl.  Jen is the astoundingly versatile writer behind the blog, My Skewed View that you see in the Doctrine Blogroll right over —> there. In any event, Jen has a passion for music and a blog so we have this totally fun blog hop where we all suggest song lists (mix tapes to the ‘not old people’). Jen has the support and assistance of  the able-bodied Kristi who is also a Friend of the Doctrine, is on the Blogroll because she is the authorini of the startlingly original blog, Finding Nine.  (‘the Minnetonka Times-Tribune says, “holy smoke! that blog she writes, who the hell gets born with a sense humor, grammatical skills and be able to draw cartoons?!?! “)

This Week’s Mix Tape Tuesday is all about the 1970s.

In case you were wondering, the answer is, ‘yes, the Wakefield Doctrine does, in fact, allow us some degree of insight into probable musical choi)ces by the three personality types’. Of the songs provided below, some will be more likely to have an appeal to someone with a scottian worldview than those with the rogerian worldview.  For example, the song Funk #49 will count among it’s fans a higher percentage of scotts than rogers, while the Elton John tune, ‘My Father’s Gun’ will be attractive to a rogerian audience in a significantly higher percentage, when compared to scotts and clarks. While the temptation to look for scottian themes versus, say rogerian production values is very strong, and is not without merit, it is totally necessary to stop and remember the saying, ‘everyone does everything, at one time or another‘. What this statement/observation is meant to remind us is that there are virtually no activities, interests, jobs, preference of position, hobbies, avocation or professions that are: scottian jobs or rogerian hobbies or clarklike interests. It is all about ‘how we relate ourselves to the world around us’ and, specifically how the clark or the scott or the roger relate to say, being a carpenter, going to a live concert, introducing someone to a new artist, teaching someone how to play music. So look at what the person feels about the activity and that will tell you a great deal about their particular worldview.

Below is the Wakefield Doctrine’s Mix Tape from the 1970s

Sunday Papers – Joe Jackson  From his first album Look Sharp. Joe Jackson could have (and should have) been a top selling artist in the 1990s as well as the 70s. The clean, spare production with the nicely edged lyrics, his first album is solidly in the category of ‘not a bad song on it!’

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X5r1ub00btE

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Funk #49 – The James Gang   scottian guitarist extraordinaire, Joe Walsh started the 70s strong with ‘hook intensive, guitar driven’ music and is still going strong (google him: Crossroads Guitar Music Festival) and great sense of humor.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2_J4pADDMZs

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My Father’s Gun – Elton John From the album, Tumbleweed Connection,  one of those albums that burst on the scene by virtue of ‘a sound’, not just a single song or catchy hook, immediately recognizable.

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Moondance – Van Morrison  (2:30am in the dorm room, the Sangria is gone, the incense is nothing but an ash-worm in the tray by the window and you need just…. s he’s still there but you need something to push the evening over the carnel cliff… Moondance!! totally worked every time)

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Stormy Monday – Allman Brothers (Live at the Fillmore East) the Kings of southern rock, what says 1970s guitar music better than ‘entire album side songs!’ Either our (musical) attention spans were massively greater or the pot played tricks on our minds and these songs really were 3 minutes/3 hours.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SX9g50Mvppg

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Brown Sugar – ZZ Top  You know how it is with some groups, from the first note of the first song that you hear, you know that they are special. More associated with the 1980s, ZZ Top’s first album had ‘the other Brown Sugar song’

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IZBKQpY1pis

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First I Look at the Purse – J Geils  (Thursday evening in the dorm, if Van Morrision was the Closer, then this song was the room bait… played on Harman Kardons college campuseses across the nation c 1971)

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Belly Button Window – Jimi Hendrix   something a little different from one of his last and, relatively under played albums

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EMeCm4d8F5U

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So that is a look at the 1970s

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Monday Morning (at) the Wakefield Doctrine (“…like that Rosetta Stone thing on TV, ‘cept more useful and way more fun!”)

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The Wakefield Doctrine is a personality theory, it is a unique, useful and fun way to look at the behavior of the people in our lives. With an understanding of the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine you need no longer find yourself saying, “Why on earth would they say a thing like that? I really thought I knew them better than that!” This ‘Doctrine’ maintains that we all live our lives in  personal realities (what we refer to as ‘worldviews’). This is not an overly exotic notion, nothing too metaphysical. All of you out there reading this sees the same world, a world where…

…where the supermarkets have big plate glass windows, the parking lots are full of new-car-paint-scraping-carts; that the world is full of a variety of people in an incredibly diverse range of occupations, with the teachers, the nurses, the hookers in the bad part of town, the politicians in the wealthy part of town, and socially we all see the same associations, the boss out to get ahead, the co-workers who refuse to say anything about the bruises on the new worker, the friends our children make at school, the rejection that happens in our mind on Friday while trying to hope for salvation on Saturday night, and in a very personal way we all share the world of hoping to meet the expectations of our parents, trying to endure the pain of seeing them in a nursing home, we hear the ‘why-didn’t-you-say-something-before’ from our spouse in bed late at night, we bear up under the terrible/wonderful experience of helping our pets at the end of their lives, while at some time in the course of this very Summer we will smile and we will frown at the predictable behavior of our husbands at the annual family cookout…

…the world in common is the same for all of us. What the Wakefield Doctrine focuses on, and where our personal reality becomes personal, is that for all of the above common things, people and situations, the important thing is ‘how do we relate ourselves to them, to these parts of life’?  It is how what we think we know about/how we tend to respond to/how we feel about these (and every other of the tiny little aspects of life) that the Wakefield Doctrine is about.

The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that we all have the capacity to experience life in one of three characteristic worldviews (these personal realities we just mentioned). At a very early age we ‘pick one’ and that is the world we grow up and develop in: the reality of the Outsider (clarks), the life of the Predator (scotts) or the world of the Herd (rogers). When you know the characteristics of these three personal realities, you will be able to recognize the three personality types. When you recognize the three personality types, you will know more about the other person than they know about themselves. When you understand the nature of these three worldviews and recognise your own predominant worldview (your personality type), you will have new ways to change the things about yourself that you have always wanted to change but have been unable to change (or have changed for a while…).
It is a principle of the Wakefield Doctrine that we all have one predominant worldview/personal reality but that we never lose the potential of the other two worldviews.

The original topic of today’s Post was to have been the latest developments in the Wakefield Doctrine. And as such, might be of limited interest to the causal reader*. But as DownSpring Molly has said in the past, “Don’t worry too much if they understand what you are saying, clark! If they are interested and don’t understand, they will either figure it out for themselves or ask you.”

But rather than tell you the somewhat esoteric, although totally exciting insight into the rogerian worldview, which holds huge potential to increase our understanding of all three separate worldviews.

With the Wakefield Doctrine you may:

  • identify your worldview as being a clark (which you suspected since the pretty quick after reading this blog) because for you,  ‘there is a whole wide world full of people and things and stuff …’out there’
  • see that your best friend (the one from longest ago) is probably a scott though there is a roger running a close second
  • decide that this Doctrine has a thing or two that you might find handy and so decide to hang out
  • find yourself on a damn international conference call with totally cool guys and remarkably attractive womens and yet, you are comfortable (…clark)
  • need to remind yourself that the Wakefield Doctrine is gender, culture and age neutral
  • find that the rambunctious scotts and the charming rogers and occasionally scary clarks are actually  kinda fun
  • learn ways to self-improve-yourself… the way that you want to change, not necessarily the way that everyone says you should change..

 

 

(bought a beat-up PC and learned how to type…lol)

*yes, on purpose …a little humor for the Writer

 

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