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December 25, 2024 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

 

…as little gift to ourselfs, this RePrint found as we searched for a holiday post yesterday, the Eve of Saint Christmas.

 

thank god that’s over! the Wakefield Doctrine (“it’s totally not true that clarks experience distress during major holidays…. bitch”)

December 25, 2013

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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You know how I just got through writing how Christmas is such a clarklike holiday? And how we said that, because clarks are all kinds of self-less and giving and such, that we do Christmas better’n the other two, at least in the old-school sense of the word?  It’s true. clarks do totally rock the Christmas spirit. So, why the developing un-ease as the Day itself is upon us? (Many clarks report a sense of: tiredness, reduced excitement, blunted affect, irritability, anogasmia, a desire to take up smoking cigarettes just to have an excuse to step outside on the porch, and totally be willing to be the one to ‘drive to the store for a couple of items that are needed for Dinner’.)

If you feel that way today or expect to feel that way today*, then we have reassuring news for you. It’s them, it’s not you!

The Christmas Holiday, like so many of the other holidays, (and to be honest, like much of life itself), has a way of being commandeered by one (or both) of the other two personality types.

  1. scotts  so many people, so many presents, so many bright lights and things that move and show unmistakable signs of delicious life!  (picture if you will, a lion cub taken from the pack just a season before maturity. the cub has the instinctual and learned survival skills, practiced as much as is possible from a season of play with the other cubs. let the cub skip a few meals and then put him/her in an empty basement and after a day of pumping the aroma of a nice roast beef, take a bushel of hamsters and gerbils and dump them down the laundry chute.**  …Merry Christmas Simba!
  2. rogers  there are so many memories that need to be created…no time for frivolity!  don’t you see the scene?!?!  it’s a happy (and grateful), appreciative (and grateful) festive day full of (grateful) family members coming together to enjoy the holiday! so don’t fuck it up with your moodiness and oh-look-I-want-to-be-alone strangeness! this is a once in a year opportunity to come together in a joyous celebration of the family and tradition (well, then…do it outside, ok?)

We kid the rogers and scotts. No, we do!  But we love them as well (as we are able).  New Readers? Well, there are these three ways of experiencing the world and you do it one of the three ways. The Doctrine says that the nature of the way that you see the world is your personality type. OK?  We don’t need to know your likes and dislikes and pet peeves and such. All we need to do (notice we didn’t say, ‘need to know from you‘?) is correctly infer how you relate yourself to the world around you. After that everything else sorta takes care of itself. The three ways to ‘relate yourself to the world around you’ are:

  1. as an Outsider. from as far back as you can remember (and it’s pretty far back), you have looked at the people in your life and wondered  where you dropped the ball, what you missed learning about how to be the way they clearly are…together and, (from this early early time in your life), you have resolved to learn what they seem to already know, all while trying not to be identified as a person who was left out… Merry Christmas  clarks!
  2. as a Predator. you wonder why some people think, “oh what an unkind thing to say, calling that nice girl a Predator“, you don’t give it a second thought and you know why? (no, we know that you don’t know why, because you don’t give a shit about the why’s and the ‘oh-if-only-I-knew-more‘), because you are too busy living…living a life that is full of threats and opportunity, fun and danger, excitement and the occasional quiet moments of sleep, you know what you are… you’re alive!!!!  Merry Christmas  scotts
  3. as a Member of the Herd. and no, you don’t walk around thinking I am a Member of the Herd, we get that. What you do is live a life that is full of potential and hard work, enjoying some pleasures but only when earned, people all around you who you can help live a better life….a Right Way and a universe that was designed to be understood and shared with the future generations, both real and imagined… Merry Christmas rogers

New Readers? Still with us?  Good. So you have one of these as your predominant worldview, (the character of your personal reality), but you never lose the capacity to experience the world as do the other two. So don’t be surprised if you get confused at first seeing in yourself  one personality type and then at times another. That just means you have a significant secondary (or tertiary) aspect. Don’t worry about that now. This is the fun and carefree phase of learning the Wakefield Doctrine. The rest comes later.

To all the DownSprings and Friends of the Doctrine and Readers and such,  thank you for stopping by! Do have the best, dominant worldview-appropriate, day possible today.

 

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(a clark with (a) significant secondary scottian and minimal tertiary rogerian aspects)

 

*when it comes to emotional response, clarks see no reason to leave them to the last-minute! get ahead of that worry, that concern that fear!! don’t wait!  be prepared!!

** this is a feature in many old, old houses where the washing machine was in the cellar, an opening in the wall of the bathroom closet that was directly above the laundry area… go ahead and put a half full laundry basket for the gerbils to land in… give ’em a better shot at getting away

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Tuesadt -the Wakefield Doctrine-

December 10, 2024 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Here, read this

(then, the footnote at the bottom of the page)

Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “Agree…Disagree…No Fricken Way”

November 3, 2020

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Now there’s a subtitle fashioned to set fire to a Reader’s heart!

(ed. We continue to eschew: the purloined parent’s cigarettes, peer-pressure illicit alcohol and Disney-inspired semi-pedaephilic romances, so, our response to your eyebrow semaphore is “No! This post is about…”)

…the fundamental distinction between the Wakefield Doctrine and most other personality theories/tests/’how-to-tell-if’ popular quizzes and …and! it also refers to the simplest approach for determining another person’s predominant worldviews*.

Distinction: lots of those personality tests, quizzes, surveys and EBRTII-axis-(with-ac-and-power-steering) take the approach of self-reporting, i.e. tell us your likes, dislikes and tendency to respond to that situation. Then you add up the scores (no cheating!) and discover your True (and-really-cooler-than-anyone-gives-you-credit-for) Personality Type! OK, nothing wrong with that! Especially if you’re in the market for a club-shaped mirror. The Wakefield Doctrine takes a different approach.

Doesn’t matter what you think. Doesn’t matter what you do. Doesn’t matter how you feel.

….any more questions?

The reason the Wakefield Doctrine, skillfully applied, allows you to know more about the other person than you have any right to know is that the basis of the Doctrine is the relationship between us (collectively) and the world (around us). That relationship is observable. The holy-smoke-how-did-these-qualities-get-so-aptly-grouped power of the Wakefield Doctrine is simply this:

  • imagine you are an Outsider(clark), from the moment you could reflect on the world around you, you see/think/believe there is a difference between you and most everyone, more so, as you try to determine the basis for this difference, you are forced into the conviction that most everyone else knows each/know-to-do/are a part and share something you know that you are missing. So you develop your strategy and social coping mechanisms and style… you learn to act like a clark
  • the world moves fast, it doesn’t ask your permission, it has a tendency to surprise, (fun surprise and fatal surprise), you are in the world of the Predator(scott), without taking the time to think, you react, accepting the nature of the world, seeing no profit in arguing with the fairness, you practice assessment and response, you enjoy the action, you cherish the variety, chase and be chased, its fun
  • you look around you, you see the parts and you see how they connect, you join the Herd Members(roger), the world is beautiful and it is imperfect, you are encouraged by the fact you know there are those around you who share your appreciation and they look to you to help discover the nature of the problem and to work out the Right Way, like an equation, a1 + b2 = c3  it is both solid and beautiful and reliable (it does not state: a*(sometimes)… it describes the quantifiable reliability of the world…

So, here when we want to know about another person, the first question we pose ourselfs is ‘how are they relating themselves to the world around them? as an Outsider or a Predator or a Herd Member… everything else follows from that

The second inference of our subtitle relates to the effort to discern a person’s predominant worldview aka personality type. We have three to choose from, one (of the three) is quickly determined to be a ‘no fricken way’. That leaves two worldviews. Like the last time you were at the optimist’s, look at the world from where they are standing, ‘Is that clear?’ now, (click) try this, is that clearer than before’ (click) how about this…

we did say this personality theory was fun, didn’t we?

 

 

*seein how we getting more and more views and reads and other google breadcrumbs of late, we want to remind all of one of the first (and few) rules of the Wakefield Doctrine. No one can say “You’re a clark (or) a scott (yeah, like thats likely to happen) or roger and claim this theory as their authority. (Did someone mutter ‘Referential Authority”?**) You are the one that decides, determines, accepts or laughs in relief which of the three personal reality applies to you.

** very apt, though beyond the scope of this Post. In short: referential authority is a deep artifact discovered by the Doctrine and represents a fundamental, if no secret, element in the world of the Herd Member

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

December 7, 2024 By

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This is the Wakefield Doctrine’s contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop. Continuously running since 1934, the TToT is a grat blog without peer. Now, two editions, WP and Blogger.  Hit us up on ‘the Facebook’. Hell, though we can’t imagine being that open-scheduled, why not join the ‘group’.

In any event, in no particular order or ranking (except, we guess the numbering thing), the people, places and things that have elicited a state of gratitude in us this past week are:

1) Phyllis

2) Una

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) the works of Carlos Castaneda. (Castaneda’s don Juan maintains that Time (and it’s slutty step-sister, Reality) are a function of recollection. We know ‘now’ but for our remembering it. A carousel of vacation slides flashing on the walls around us at the speed Life.)

5) Outdoor Christmas lights. Phyllis being a ‘real’ person enjoys seasonal outdoor lighting decoration. Fine. She asked us to put them up.

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lol With graceful resignation (the product of many years) she refers to our efforts as ‘Christmas Area 51’

daytime:

nightime:

yeah, and did we mention they, like, randomly flash and ever thang?  yo. ho. yo.

6) the Six Sentence Story bloghop. from our contribution to an ongoing serial Six. ‘An Ian Devereaux Six‘

7) knots (large or small, loose or salt-encrusted) can be fun and relaxing to untie

8) knots untied (surely the most enjoyably direct philosophical insight into Life, Human Foibles and the #$(^*@& blinds))

9) the Unicorn Challenge.  Pick of the week:  ‘It is Enough‘  by jenne

10) Secret Rule 1.3

 

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RePrint -the Wakefield Doctrine-

November 27, 2024 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

How to: like a lens over an eyeball (eww?) consider what is going on around you. The lens is tuned to a certain relationship (to) the world around you and the people who make it up. Three different, (yet mutually-opposing/complimentary), styles of assigning roles and qualities to the people, places and things in our personal realties. The three being:

  1. clarks (the Outsider)
  2. scotts (the Predator)
  3. rogers (the Herd Member)

One (of the three) lens will produce an obviously blurry and non-usable view. Discard. The remaining two will be close but different. Consider them side-by-each. (Try viewing adgacent/concurrent people, places and things.) Clearer or less clear?

now the hard part. remain objective to the thought that ‘being clearer’ (or not) increasing/decreasing the value of the event being observed. It’s plain old focus, clarity, simple sharp lines. there you go… your predominant worldview, aka ‘personality type’

the much more difficult aspect. consider the view from the other person‘s perspective… sharper, blurrier…(get the heck outa my head)… yahtzee!

Why to: because some of us would like to understand what the other person is experiencing in this spoken-dialogue silent movie called Life. and…and! for our own benefit, the more better we can appreciate how we relate ourselves to the world around us? the better ever thang is

Who to: you (if’n you’re a clark or you’re  scott or a roger with a significant secondary clarklike aspect.)

as promised, a RePrint

‘the votes are in! Reader’s favorite T-Cell Day Post’ the Wakefield Doctrine ‘telling you what for, for 4 years… now trademarkedr!

November 26, 2013

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Thought I would get us in the mood for the upcoming consumptials with a re-print of a previous Thanksgiving Post. I will keep this intro brief as the Wakefield Doctrine has a disturbing tendency to take over, even when I’m feeling like not writing a new Post! (If the truth be told, especially when I do not want to write a new Post). Seeing how we’re all kinds of semi-mainstream these days, it might be right for me to apologize to the Norman Rockwell fans out there….nah  sorry guys,  the dude was twisted. In any event, here’s a Post from the year 2011.  (the ‘r’?  oh that!  yeah, the trademark papers came through the other day…we all kinds ‘o rogerian now, what with the government backin our moves an such.  keep your hands off the Doctrine, bitches…we gots ourselfs some major referential authority.)

lol (no, I don’t really think that Mila was at the First Thanksgiving, but I would loves to find me a photo of Alice in, like post-apocalyptic, Pilgrim duds…. damn!)

 

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine ( the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers) on this eve of Saint rogers’s Day! (c. MMXI)

Thanksgiving Day1 is the holiday that, if we did not already know that there exists a personality type referred to as a roger,  someone else would have pointed it out to us.  Perhaps the task would have fallen to an Art Professor in a land grant college somewhere  in the Midwest. We can imagine the epiphany …in the middle of the night (during his sabbatical devoted to the study of the works of Norman Rockwell)
” My god!  Norman’s work is not just a robust and healthy celebration of paedophilia! He has been  trying to tell us to transform our culture!  …for all good Americans to come forth and show their appreciation  of patriotism, consumerism and child-abuse!!”

We have, from time to time, been accused of indiscriminate use of hyperbole in these pages, however, just consider the astounding level of pervasiveness of the  ‘Holiday of Thanksgiving’.  It is not enough to close the Post Office system and all other government agencies2 , no it is not, this Holiday actually attempts to compel normal, rational, adult people to sit in front of the television and watch a Parade involving giant balloon representations of out-of-print newspaper cartoon characters! Who the hell watches the Macy’s Day Parade on purpose?!?  Throughout the entire morning of Thanksgiving, you simply cannot escape the pageantry and spectacle,  broadcast live and has as the ’emcees’,  News Anchors from the major networks morning news shows!  ( ” Thats right, Matt! That’s  Kenny Chesney and Taylor Swift on the Snoop Dog float… it says here that her eye makeup took 12 hours and 6 pounds of aluminum foil chips to create!!” ). Like a  Hieronymus Bosch painting done in ‘live-action’, the whole country is exposed to hours and hours of Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade… more than 3 hours of parade music and floats  (” … hey, Anne isn’t the next float from your hometown”?   “That’s right Al! it’s my old Alma mater,  the East Clydesdale High School Marching Band playing a medley, ‘Straight outta Compton’, ‘Fuck tha Police’ and ‘Gangsta Gangsta’ )

Why do we say Thanksgiving is the most rogerian of all holidays?  Simply because Thanksgiving is about the how, not the why.  As a holiday and a cultural event, this particular holiday tells it’s participants exactly what to do; what to eat and how to cook it!  Taught from childhood, every member of our culture knows precisely how (and) where they are expected to spend the Holiday! Thanksgiving is about family! and if there is anything that rogers fake better than anyone, it is the joyful appreciation and celebration of the family.

But don’t just take my word for it! Following is an excerpt from a Post of the Wakefield Doctrine that was written over a year ago! (and nothing says credibility better than…age)

We all know that “the holidays” are experienced differently by each of the three (clarks, scotts and rogers) and therefore the demands of the celebrations are a very effective illustration of the nature of each. But if there was no Thanksgiving, a roger would have invented it! (Actually, they probably did). Think about it! A holiday celebration that is:

  • based on a factual historical event (sort of)
  • the protagonists (of the story) are religious refugees, persecuted and driven away together on boats
  • food, specific food and a not-to-be-deviated-from Menu
  • ritual menu and a full schedule of events
  • shopping in herds, as the climax of the celebration (Black Friday)
  • a moral taught to the young: we came here, those strangers who helped us were different, (…we had a feast and wiped out their culture)

I will be so bold as to suggest that there is no more rogerian a holiday than Thanksgiving!  And since we are on the subject of rogers and holidays, (sort of),  is there any human activity that is more one sided, over-hyped, ‘expectations-sure-to-fall short’, ( not counting sex on the eve of a relationship breaking up),  than Parades? I don’t care if you are a trombone player in the middle of the herd or someone sitting in their living room watching it on TV, nothing says roger better than Parades!

 

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1)  the Day that the indigenous people of the North American continent made a gift of their lands and cultures and cuisine to their new European friends.

2)  you do know about the Post Office and rogers, don’t you?

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Monday (rainy Monday) -the Wakefield Doctrine-

November 11, 2024 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So, this curious psycho-artifact, this mechanism birthed by an archaic mind, what of it?

If we were to fashion a ‘mission statement’ (as we have over the past multi-years), it would he this(ish):

The Wakefield Doctrine is a tool to help us better appreciate the world as the other person is experiencing it. And, in so doing, (as well as perforce, subject to and, everyone’s favorite, sine qua non), we will come to better know ourselves.

If a person is speaking a foreign language and you want to interact with them, you can either insist, (to yourself, them or whatever construct-of-your-soul that is charged with making sense of reality), that they are simply mispronouncing pretty much every word of your language and proceed on that estimatory basis or you can read up on their country of origin, buy, prepare and consume as much of their ethnic cuisine as possible and, finally, learn as much as possible about that country’s culture, history and people. After which,  while you may never pass for a native, whenever you need to find a bathroom in a hurry, you are not overly at risk of being arrested and put on public trial for heresy and/or espionage.

So, if’n you are so inclined, read as many posts as you need to get a sense of the world of the reality of the Outsider (clarks), the world of the Predator (scotts) or the life of the Herd Members (rogers). It’s fun and it’s beneficial.

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