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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

August 5, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

A couple of things: 1) good discussion this Saturday night past, in particular on the efficacy of the concept of ‘how we relate ourselfs to the world around us and b) damn! that was quick(er) than (usual)… had an idea for number 2, gone!

Probably turn up.

The one thing we did retain, the 1), will be of especial interest to the clarks out there. It has to do with the phenomenon of amnesisa and intent. Sometimes referred to as the New Year’s Resolution Effect. We come to the point of deciding to change, (something within, a trait, bad habit, self-destructive indulgence, like that), and, all charged up with righteous ambition and confidence we… forget the list by the third week of the New Year.

Except, here we’re talking about the Wakefield Doctrine and clarks. We acquire a new perspective on the world, the people who make it up and our ownselfs. We identify with other clarks.

Surely that is the primary miracle of this little personality theory, seriously! We’re not listed, (in the Doctrine), as ‘the Outsiders’ merely because all the cool personality type(s) labels were used up, right? Sure, ‘Warrior of the Shadow Society’ would sound cooler and maybe even relate (motto: ‘Stalking the fringes of well-adjusted people, they almost participate in a valued manner!’) to our people. But we’re the Outsider. (“Say it loud! I’m an Outsider and I’m Proud! hunh!”¹)

Sorry, we were saying: the factor of having others, (of our kind), to identify with is huge. Hell, it’s arguably, in and of itself, justification for all the posts and insights and examples and such*

Anyway, lets make our point and close up.

Every clark has had the experience of deciding to no longer: (fill in the blank with whatever self-identified behavior might be highest on your list of “Things-I-Would-Change-So-I-Don’t-Say-(to myself) ‘Why did I do/Say/Fall-for-That again!!”). We clarks set out in the morning with steely (and, admitted only among other Outsiders), somewhat invigorating optimism to be the person we know we have every right to be.

Then, two sentences into our first interaction, we forget.

Not to worry. The Doctrine has a trick to help you to not forget what you resolve to remember.

… you know the thing we always say, when asked ‘What’s the Point of this Wakefield Doctrine thing’? It is, of course:

“…to understand how we relate ourselves to the world around us and the people who make it up.”

ProTip: we did not say, “how we relate to the world…”; we said: “how we relate ourselves to the world…”

Consider this, meditate, cogitate, reflective-tape this little seven word phrase and you will be far more likely to see the opportunities to act in your desired, new-and-improved, ‘Finally! I don’t have to leave interactions with a bunch of ‘why-didn’t I’s’!

Go ahead. Try it today!

(Warning. like most things in ‘Life’ there’s a lot of learning to make this work real good. Mostly about the characteristic behavior of the three predominant worldviews of our little personality theory.)

here, from the movie Slacker**

** Seriously. If you want to identify the scotts and rogers in your family… oh, alright…make that: in your small group of friends. Put on Richard Linklater’s movie ‘Slacker’.

If you’re a clark, you’ll simply love it. The rogers in the room? They will leave before the clip is over. They might, if the demographics of the room is right, get mad first, then leave. scotts? they’ll laugh. Watch it with you. Get bored and find something fun to do/chase/

1) No. Way. …they wouldn’t!

Yes. Yes we would.

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

July 29, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

…now, where were we?

oh yeah…

But in the beginning, we spoke of the individual, (albeit mega-young lifeform), realizing their reality was that of (an) Outsider(clark), Predator(scott) or Herd Member(roger). And we meant it! (lol) Serially, we intended then, (and, at a certain level of discussion, now), to maintain that personal reality is real.

(Hey, on a personal note? We did not decide, at the age of five, to sign our Christmas cards to other family members with our full name because we were trying to be funny. (lol) We signed with our full name just to be on the safe side. To avoid scrutiny. (Honey, I can’t quite make out that first name, do we know a carl far.…)

A clark (or a scott or a roger) lives and, more importantly for today’s discussion, grows up in a real reality of one of three characteristic qualities. We didn’t find a ‘See and Say’ book titled ‘So You’re an Outsider!’ We adapted and compensated and developed the social strategies as best we could to survive in our worlds.

Fine.

But lets go back to the beginning of this line of…reasoning?!

We’re in a phase of transition in the ‘real’ world. (In the world of real estate, it being essentially self-employment, a business framework is necessary, usually a broker with all necessary services, admin primarly and….)

“Yes? The hand in the back. You have a question?”

“How long are you going to bore us? The 2:00 am commercial totally promised we would, ‘Learn the Principles of the Wakefield Doctrine, How to apply them. You know, like the guy in the record by those guys in the 90s? ‘We’ll talk right down to earth In a language that everybody here can easily understand.’ Come on, already! I want my Nineteen dollars and ninety-nine cents worth!”

(Yeah!! What the scott said!!) (And no Jack Nicholson quotes!!) (Except that one from that movie with Niles in it!) (Yeah… that one!)

Fine. No one really needs to hear the details of the context of our lesson.

Surely, if y’all have done your assigned reading, you will be hoping the vid will be on the Final Exam.

Sorry, It won’t be on the Final Exam if for no other reason than there is no Final Exam.

But, serially, what’s not to love about this (movie) interaction between a scott and a roger. Remember how we talk about the personality types (of this Doctrine thing) are simply manifestation of the individual’s relationship to the world around them and the people who make it up? Never mind the context here. (In the movie, ‘Wolf’, James Spader got Jack pushed aside at the publishing house they both worked at. and a girl’s in it too… or something)

Doctrine ProTip: Everything Rule* notwithstanding, of the three, rogers are the natural politicians. The maneuverization and influentializing (neither are ‘real’ words but…) within an established organization? They are possessed of a natural ‘ear’ for and their ability to socialize. Perfect,

Hokey Smoke!

We just noticed an inference to this discussion of scotts and rogers that a) provides a heck of an insight, and 2) being way beyond the scope of today’s post allows a graceful (and informative) exit.

What we started to say, that James (rogerian) character had out-maneuvered Jack’s character? That was quite accurate. But… but! what about Jack’s (scottian) character’s strategy. Being in the world of the Predator, he would, initially, be limited to the predator/prey wide-open Savannah approach to Problem Solving(lol). He would not be aware of the ways and avenues to exert his will, in a bureaucratic environment, that James’s character possessed ‘naturally’.

Lesson: When in a situation, say in business like our original theme proposed, one would be wise to reflect upon how the terrain looks to ‘the other two’. Using ourselfs as a starting point, that means asking ourselfs, ‘What does a scott see here (fill in the blank with scenaria from the workplace) how would a roger feel about (ditto on the POV).

The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that I am quite able to experience the world around me (and the people who make it up) as do all and each of the three personality types:

the Outsider (clarks) creative, curious to a fault and insanely fearful of scrutiny
the Predator (scotts) decisive, powerful and totally lacking in the capacity to remain still; subjective reflection being total anathema
the Herd Member (rogers) organized, analytical and devoid of the capacity to not take everything (and everyone) personally

… enough for today.
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* ‘Everyone does everything, at one time or another… aka there is nothing in human experience that is the exclusive domain of one of the three predominant worldviews. That said, the styles of one often is more aligned with the expectations society assigns…

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

June 23, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Wakefield Doctrine’s contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop. To that end, the following is a list of the people, places and things that elicit, stimulate, inspire and otherwise leaves a hand-written-note on a 4-times-folded, half-of-a-full sheet of white letter paper. (It goes without saying that the first fold is bottom edge to top, then left side over to right.)

1) Una

2) Phyllis ————————————→ catching up to Una as they walk the bike path (2012)

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) something, something

5) the Six Sentence Story bloghop Six Pick of the Week: ‘House of Cards‘ (Frank Hubney)

6) the Unicorn Challenge Read this one! ‘My Story‘ (from Keith)

7) New project (while we await warmer weather for the bridge reconstruction to begin) re-stain the deck. (photo detail: mostly done scraping the old paint)

8) the Meadow matures: Amber Wavelets of Grain

9) alas, This week we register a hypo-grat: The start of Winter. (New Readers? Check in with Mimi. She is our resident expert on grats/hypo-grats. While technically, a hypo-grat is in the category of life events that includes: broken shoelaces on the morning of the big interview, watching the other person get the promotion that everyone knows you were a shoe-in for and hearing, like the air breathing it’s last as it is cleaved by the blade descending in the hands of the executioner from X-Chromia who takes the dreams of adolescent Y-Chromians and stops them forever with the phrase: ‘But we can still be friends’. And, as she, (Mimi, not the Executionerette (shame on you for even thinking that!) will ask you, ‘But look at the parts of your life that were enhanced by them/it. That can never be taken from you. It is their gift to you. There is a positive in the negative. It ain’t easy to see. But worth the effort when you do.’

10) Secret Rule 1.3

music vids

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Tewesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “we continue with our discussion of… you know, rhymes with ‘Wakefield Doctrine’

June 18, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Mild Tuesday, y’all

Leave us continue from where we left off yesterday:

(Excerpted from her Comment this weekend) Cynthia sez:

in the past we’ve talked about it, but it would be interesting to talk about how Clarks operate under sustained duress, how Rogers do and how Scotts do. I feel like clarks can move into their more unpredictable nature. Lol.

Astute oberservation yo

But first a word about ‘manifest/manifesting/manifestationing* Germane, and really quite helpful to any discussion of the Everything Rule is an appreciation of the concept of manifest.

Question: Is being a cop something that only scotts are really good at?

Answer: There are successful clarklike policemen/women and there are rogerian law enforcement personal. The ‘being a cop’ manifests differently to each of the three.

for a clark (Outsider) the role of being a policeman/woman manifests as something akin to a game of truth or dare or, perhaps, Halloween Evening. A clark will need to work hard at wearing a uniform (clarks are not real big on that or, for that matter, wearing a name tag). They will be effective as long as possible provided they believe the potential to rise through the ranks into plain clothes or better yet, policymaker.
to a scott (Predator) this could be the perfect job! (If stripper or tort lawyer isn’t currently available, of course). There is almost nothing about the job that does not resonate with the personality type, aka behavioral metaphor of Predator! Drive fast, carry a gun, drive fast, chase and capture people. Chase them!! In a car or on foot… all good. In the car? sirens and lights. Loud sirens bright (and swirly!) lights. We repeat: what part of this predominant worldview doesn’t fit like a glove (or handcuffs)?
for the roger (Herd Member) the elements that resonate the most is: to enforce the law (aka Rules). Whether it’s a jaywalker or a Unibomber, a roger will not suffer those who carelessly break the Rules. And a roger will execute his/her duties to the full extent of the law. At least until there’s and opening at the Fire Department.

So, be it the field of carpentry and woodworking (perpetual helper/rough carpentry, framing/finish carpenter, respectively) or the judicial system (Public Defender/successful personal injury attorney/DA, also respectively) all three predominant worldviews of the Doctrine can find satisfaction and success in all jobs, hobbies, avocations, careers, professions and ‘someday you’ll find a way to make this pay’ activities.

* ok, that last? Not a ‘real’ word

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

June 17, 2024 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Easy Monday, Simple Week’s Start.

(Excerpted from her Comment this weekend) Cynthia sez:

in the past we’ve talked about it, but it would be interesting to talk about how Clarks operate under sustained duress, how Rogers do and how Scotts do. I feel like clarks can move into their more unpredictable nature. Lol.

Astute oberservation, yo

New Readers? Cynthia asks a question about the value of the application of the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine in a most conducive (to examplification) manner. It, (her comment), also invites us to state one of the most critical Rules of our little personality theory, ‘the Everything Rule’¹.

Damn! We went on at length, (we trust you followed the note-of-feet to the discourse below, otherwise this little aside would make almost no sense), sharing with the New Readers here today on the ramifications of the Everything Rule and have done gone and used up our day’s word allocation!

We reserve the right to re-address our friends question tomorrow. aiiightt?

(Preview: C‘s question is not only useful from the perspective of undersstanding the Doctrine, but it hints at one the it’s more productive if not subtle elements. Don’t want to give it away. (Hint: It rhymes with: ‘Damn, I’d of done better if’n I was a (clark/scott/roger) in that situation.’)

(hey! hypo-youths! warning!! warning! ear worm ahead. (Thanks, adolescent clark, a lot for the eclectic taste in music)

1) from the very beginning of this here blog here, one of the most frequent questions from New Readers has has been:

“I get the whole each predominant worldview thing, one of my friends is fond of going up to total strangers when we’re out in public and talking to them like they’re either a favorite-but-distant cousin or an ex-girlfriend. This is surely something only a scott would do, am I right?”

You are (almost) right. The Everything Rule states: ‘Everyone does everything at one time or another‘.

What it means is that there is no aspect, element, predilection, habitual tropism or habit of human interaction that is exclusive to one of the three personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine. The Wakefield Doctrine is concerned with the human being. On the most basic level. As a lifeform, not as a male or female, old or young (lifeform), introvert or extravert, wallflower or kudzu vine. Since the Wakefield Doctrine is concerned with the character of an individual’s relationship with the world around them, i.e. as an Outsider(clark), Predator(scott) or Herd Member(roger), the correct way to frame the question is: “How does overly-exuberant socializing manifest in a scott?”

The key word/concept: manifest (to express, exhibit and otherwise engage in…)

ya know?

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