clarkscottroger | the Wakefield Doctrine - Part 45 clarkscottroger | the Wakefield Doctrine - Part 45

“want to know the most dangerous, toxic, corrosive word used by a clark?” …the Wakefield Doctrine (‘publish or perish, yo’)

May 30, 2013 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Well, do you?

Well, before we get into what that word is, about today’s video Post.  Pretty good, right?  You will be Commenting in the form of a video (though audio is acceptable), won’t you?  To reinforce the ‘message’ of the video Post, we are totally serious about the fact that when we talk about personal realities we mean real…. reality. Not… “well I feel like yelling out during a movie!” or ” I think you look great in that dress and no one will notice your complexion, believe me”  or even  ” I really will work hard on getting a job, it will all work out for the best.”

We’ll revisit this aspect of the Wakefield Doctrine more frequently going forward, as we now have Considerer and Michele and (the others) asking the hard questions.

So the word.

It’s an innocent enough word. More than innocent, this word is often considered to be one of positive meaning and intent, a hopeful word, an optimistic word. But as a loan shark is to your local bank, the price of the loan is always higher than the value secured.
The word is ‘maybe’.
In the hands (or on the tongues) of clarks, the word is meant well. “It is a good job, maybe I’ll get it“. Perhaps because, when clarks look at the world we see people and institutions, groups and family members who, while certainly not intending us harm, (they all) clearly know something that we don’t know. “Maybe I don’t want to be a doctor, maybe I really want to find my own way”. The words we use when describing the world we find ourselves in, are  picked with the hope of blending in, looking to be a member or, one of the guys/one of the girls. “I think I should ask her out, maybe I’ll wait until a better time” “How many times do we have to discuss this, maybe next time you’ll listen to me”

Not really sure what it was that struck me about the use of the word ‘maybe’, it just seems that it has a certain resonance when employed by clarks. It is a word that lets us ‘commit without committing’, a word designed to insulate us from disappointment. clarks fear disappointment almost as much as we fear fear. More in a way. Fear can be run from. Disappointment is a sentence of reduced possibility. And if clarks are anything, we are people who believe that having possibilities is the difference between a possibly happy life and a life where we still have options. In a sense, as long as we have the possibility (of something) there is hope.  Maybe.

 

Share
Filed Under: Featured, Psychology, the Wakefield Doctrine Tagged With: , , , , ,

Monday, hurry up…. the Wakefield Doctrine ( of keywords, Comments, personality types and attracting Readers)

May 27, 2013 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Victoria's Secret supermodel Candice Swanepoel and boyfriend Hermann Nicoli hitting the beach in Miami Beach

Nice day out there, so here is a quick, ‘down an dirty’ guide to getting something from the Wakefield Doctrine today.

You at a picnic and from your vantage point off to the side you hear:

  • “…does that potato salad look a little… old to you?” 
  • “hey! theres only one can of lighter fluid!”
  • “yeah, no! I’m ok… I’ll join you guys later”
  • “hey! do anyone of you think this bikini is too small?”
  • “I will if I want to, everyone likes their pictures taken”
  • “don’t be such a shrinking violet…they all want you to join in!”

They are:

  1. clarks (who grew up and developed seeing the world as being ‘out there’ and everyone in it as being ‘real people’ )
  2. scotts ( who grew up and survived by developing strategies that let them react to threats, take advantage of weakness and recognize each other)
  3. roger (who are secure in the world as they know it, satisfied by seeing the history and continuity that replaces all need for validation)

Now get out there and have some fun(a little fun won’t kill you), excitement(thats what lets you know you are alive) and satisfaction (cause you deserve it).

 

 

Share
Filed Under: Featured, Psychology, the Wakefield Doctrine Tagged With: , , ,

(Add New Post) …well, if that’s what WP wants, that’s what it’s gonna get! the Wakefield Doctrine

April 29, 2013 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

double-indemnity

After School Special  Thursday 3:30 ! me an Cyndi,  y’all invitated of course, bring your blue compostion books and a good supply of No 2 pencils, yo

Melanie’s got a new look! Acutally another blog

Janine is on a new Venture… go to her blog (and then go to her new, new site)

There will be (additional) Content to be added…a little later, but I did want to get this here Post here ‘out there’ for reasons that are not quite clear to me at this juncture.

Ok! Ok!! Here’s the additional (reprint from 12.14.11) content!  Don’t say I didn’t warn you…

“why clarks hate being nice, scotts avoid responsibility and rogers just want everyone to stop what they are doing… your Life, their problem and the Wakefield Doctrine”

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine ( the theory of clark, scotts and rogers )

The answer(s) to the questions implied in today’s Post Title are way more aggravating than they have any right to be, yet is very simple. If you ‘get it’, before I finish this explanation, then you are the kind of people we want to hear from! ( and ) if you do not ‘get it’ and get annoyed, then you are so the kind of people we want to talk to!

(frequently asked)Questions:

OK, I know that I am a clark, so what now?

Do you really think you can tell me more about myself than I am willing to tell myself?

Is there a trick or something to this… these Posts are fun, but what are you really trying to say?

You make the statement several times in several ways that the Wakefield Doctrine can change my life and/or help me eliminate bad habits…who said I needed to change and even if I did, what gives you the right?

My boyfriend says that this blog might be fun but you seem a little stupid and silly, I want to tell him that I think he’s wrong…but sometimes I wonder….

Won’t my parents be upset if I tell them that the only reason they want me to go to Medical School is that they are both suchrogers ?

(mix ‘n match)Answers:

The Wakefield Doctrine holds that all of us have the potential to see the world in the three characteristic ways that are associated with being a clark or a scott or a roger and that while we are predominantly one (of these three) we never lose the capacity to see the world as the other two.

Personality (according to the Wakefield Doctrine) is first about the reality that we find ourselves in and second the individual choices that we make.  Rather than start with a questionnaire, “what are your likes/dislikes, your interests and your turn-offs” we are concerned with understanding the world as you are experiencing it.

The Posts you find here are what you would find yourself talking about if you happened to call in to the Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Drive. ( …and this Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Drive is a ‘live blog Post/call-in-and-get-your-questions-answered show)

There is no more effective tool for self-development than the Wakefield Doctrine and there is no more difficult and challenging approach to self-development and lifestyle improvement than the Wakefield Doctrine

Fuck ’em, they’re rogers… if you asked them the question, then you would be telling them that they are right..

The Title of today’s Post?

  • there is nothing a clark hates more than to be told by a roger that they (the clark, not the roger), are such nice people…and there is nothing a clark enjoys more than being told by a scott that they are nice people

  • scotts are afraid of everything that threatens to mean more to themselves than it might mean to others

  • rogers want, hell! they need things to be orderly and focused and the simplest way that most rogers know in order to make sure of that, is to place themselves at the center of their world. That way they will be able to watch everything equally and not miss a thing, not a single detail.

 

Share
Filed Under: Featured, Psychology, the Wakefield Doctrine Tagged With: , , ,

the Wakefield Doctrine ( hey, you know, you’re right! …who doesn’t *love* a Survey?)

April 18, 2013 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Lets start with a few questions, in the form of multiple choice Polls.

 

Well, that was more work than I remember! (Creating a Poll, that is.)

OK  everyone answer the Poll? Great! Good work everyone…. (no, scott you can’t go back and change your answer…one vote per Reader. alright… the next Poll you can use capital letters in your answer, we promise).

The Second Poll has to do with which of the ‘other two’ personality types do we focus on first. Lets put that a little clearer… you are a clark or a scott or a roger. fine. you live with (or near) clarks, scotts and rogers, you interact with all three personality types everyday (and every night). You would like to know how you can change the tone, the feeling of, the outcome to, the process of, these interact

 

Sorry… getting too clarklike

hey, which of the three personality types do you want to concentrate on first?

Great! Thank you for the input. What we will be doing is, based on the result of these two initial Polls, looking at the three personality types from the perspective of ‘the other person’…which will be you…or us or me… you know what I mean. And we will work through all the combinations so no one will be over-looked. This will be presented in an on-going series, not sure if it will be on certain days of the week every week or just one day of the week or what…lets just see how it develops.

So lets see some Voting with today’s 2 Poll Questions so we can get started!

(what?  Janine, did you say something? well, no that you mention it, that does sound like a good idea… no, I don’t think that the scotts will get mad)

Hey everyone, before you go…one more question…an Essay Question!

( now Terrye   stop that!  Janine was just being helpful… yes she does like to write, no, that doesn’t mean you can do that… just answer the Essay Question… no, leave the pencil at your desk)

ESSAY QUESTION: (please use your Comment section)

I would like the Wakefield Doctrine to show me how I can:

 

pencils down!…Amy!!  Cyndi!!  Melanie, yes, I know, but you have to stop now…it’s time to go to recess…

 

 

 

 

Share
Filed Under: Featured, Psychology, the Wakefield Doctrine Tagged With: , , ,

the Wakefield Doctrine …a theory of personality types, (insight into) behavior and a tool (for self-development)

April 17, 2013 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

 

So.

…any questions?

the Wakefield Doctrine is a way to choose (one’s) responsibility. responsibility as in, ‘but honey! you promised!‘, ‘don’t worry, I got your back’, ‘for a very small investment, you can guarantee your family’s financial security’, ‘tell me that you love me’, ‘are you going to stay in your room all week with those damn videos games?‘ ‘study hard and you’ll make something of yourself’,  ‘why can’t you be more like...’

One might say, our individual responsibilities are as much a function of who we are (or would be) as it is anything that others place upon us. Whether we take on responsibility, say for having children or finding the perfect animal family member or someone else gives us responsibility, in the case of work or school or friends who need our help, how we define ourselves is an often overlooked consideration. …which is really, really too bad because in most cases, how we define ourselves makes all the difference.

The Wakefield Doctrine, maintains that in order to understand ourselves and other people, we need to understand which of the three worldviews the person (under consideration) is living in, we say one should infer,  ‘…how a person is relating themselves to the world around them.’
Note that we did not say, ‘how a person relates to the world’ or ‘how a person feels about’…etc etc. No, we said ‘how a person relates themselves to the world’.

We’re bringing this up now because it is time to move beyond being entirely focused on identifying the three personality types of the Doctrine, (the Outsiders that are the clarks, the Predator but fun most of the time scotts and the rogers, who are so nice most of the time) in the people in our lives and start to work on how this thing can be used to improve our own damn lives and such.

(I know you are all ready to move on with this thing of ours).

…to be continued

 

Share
Filed Under: Featured, Psychology, the Wakefield Doctrine Tagged With: , , , , , ,
« Older Posts
Newer Posts »