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‘re=print Toosday’ -the Wakefield Doctrine- ” …’cause sometimes you gots to relax and…well, try to relax, ya know?”

September 29, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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The funny thing about (writing) a blog is that the more you write, the easier it is to write and the more you write, the more dissatisfied you are with what you (would) write.

Thank god for archived Posts!

no! you’re right! I don’t have to write a Post today. But the thing about the Wakefield Doctrine, (in general), and this blog, (in particular), is that half the fun is in reading what I’ve written. It’s no secret that the Posts in late 2013 and (most of) 2014, were vastly more entertaining that the current year’s content. Now, to be fair, I realize that the content over the years has changed (and developed) and the early years were really fun because the topics were so simple: “what is this Doctrine thing?”,   “What the hell are you talking about, three personality types!!!” and  “...for the last time, I’m telling you, I’m all three, but especially whichever one you say that I’m not.”

ok! I’m feeling much, much better now.  lol, no! seriously! this blog thing is so amazing. Here I am this morning, feeling like I’ve lost the whole ‘start typing and it will write itself’ mojo and so I concede with a reprint (knowing that there’s a good chance that my intro to the reprint will turn into something) but then… then!! on that last line?  The one  ‘..to be fair..’?  It took me a second to reread it and it hit me that I wrote the characteristic response appropriate to the three worldviews (clarks and scotts and rogers), without the slightest conscious intent.

cool.

(but I’m out of time, so here’s the reprint from October 27, 2014)

 

‘the most important’ Principle of our favorite personality theory? That one is easy! The most important Principle of the Wakefield Doctrine is: we all live our lives in one of three personal reality(s). We have the potential for it (our reality) to be one of three, at an early age it happens that we find ourselves in:

    • the reality of the Outsider (clarks)…another, very useful way to say this is, we relate ourselves to the world around us as ‘the Outsider’
    • the life of the Predator (scotts)… they would say, ‘life is happening now, there are threats and there are opportunities, life is neither bad nor good, it simply is…lighten up and do something!’
    • the world of the Herd Member (rogers) the world has Rules, there are 2,398 ways to do a thing and only one of those is the Right Way, a good life is the result of giving your all to find that way and be the example of why it’s the right way

Simple enough, right? Oh, one more (yeah, a very important Principle): these worldviews? real. seriously. real as in there are threats and prey and traps to be sniffed out, if you’re living as a scott ok?  the world is a quantifiable place? why do you think rogers make the best engineers and Chefs? The reason I emphasize this, is that, this is the Most Important Difference between the Doctrine and those other personality systems.
That is: I don’t find myself having to: ‘speak clearly, for crying out loud’ or ‘don’t slouch!’ or ‘use apostrophes’ or ‘great insight, now back it up with some empirical evidence, already!’ because I’m trying to be difficult, (well, maybe a little). I’m doing it because those are coping strategies that works best for a person who is trying to get by in the reality of ‘the Outsider’.
Bottom line? the ‘personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine are not categories, and they are not matrixeseses… does factoring in…..er factors, place me in a certain group according to my preferences and traits and peccadilloes? No. That’s not what we do here at the Wakefield Doctrine.
The reason I refer to myself as a clark* is that it accurately and consistently reflects ‘how I relate myself to the world around me’.
And scotts are not just Tasmanian devils, (barely able to restrain their enthusiasm), teaching pre-K children with a fiercely protective love and, given half a chance, inclined to throw the class in a mini-van for a road trip to the stockyards, rather than bore them to sleep with rote lessons. No! they are people who have developed the necessary skills and strategies to succeed in the world of Predator and prey.
And rogers know that how they do whatever they do, counts. The fastidiousness that they bring to everything they do, (from cooking a meal to learning to use a compound bow) is simply what the world demands.
To apply the Wakefield Doctrine does not involve: answer(ing) the following questions. (there is no) rate yourself. All that you need to do is ask: ‘how do you relate yourself to the world around you?’

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘…the beat goes on and on, and on and on’

September 26, 2015 By

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Today is Saturday and Saturday is the beginning of the weekend, which means that it’s time of the TToT Post. This, (the Post, not the weekend or Saturday or even Today), is an exercise in gratitude, which is not all girlie and school-like as it may sound! Sure, there are mostly girl-centric writers found in the pages of the weekend bloghop, but! we got Rich Rumple and, once there was this guy, Jak, who wrote a mean Grat List, but then went off on The Quest for the Missing Consonant. What I think I’m trying to say here is that this bloghop not only has something for everyone, but it’s a good thing to do (for yourself). Further, if you’re new to this thing and worried about the pressure of producing a full 10 Items each and every week, then I have two words: ‘the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)’* The BoSR/SBoR is there to assure us that to write whatever we have within, provided the intent (of our efforts), is in keeping with the intent of this exercise. But, enough about you!!  Lets hear about me and my week and things.

1) computer Solitaire. This, second only to spending 3 years sweeping the Monastery floors with one of the straw broom things and getting whacked upside the head by the Dali Lambchop (or Master Po or… Mother Superior) every week, is the most helpful tool for centering oneself and appreciating how easy it is to self-sabotage ourselves as we go through our daily effort at life. (what happens, if you play enough solitaire, is that, you will, if you are very lucky, catch yourself ‘cheating to lose’.)

2)  gotta go with a standard (for these Pages): technology! To be able to see something oddly….almost startling beautiful is one thing, to be able to capture it in a photo, as I did this week (and is my ‘lead photo’) is very very gratitudisicous

3)  hey!  almost missed one!  To (still) be able to notice the odd and the unusual and the semi-beautiful and other cool shit out there each and every day

4)  the work I do allows me freedom from routine, (in exchange for intermittently, very high levels of stress), and I get to wander about, on guard for adventure or simply the occasional rabbit hole

5) (Hypo-gratitude Item): the weather. While it’s not exactly bad weather, it’s so not Summer anymore. I mourn the absence of sweat and feel of a sun-baked steering wheel in my hands and 113 degree leather seats under my…. seat.  Only 9 more months ’til Summer!

6) every list has a dog in it! (Una, of course! Every Friday, we go for a 7 mile-an-hour walk and she gets to sample the world beyond her own yard)

7) shout out to the bloghops that no week would be complete without:  the Gravity Challenge and the Six Sentence Story  and,  this week, a blast from the past:  Finish the Sentence Friday!! Kristi and them are still at it and it’s a very good ‘hop. It was, in fact, the first bloghop I participated in… sort of the wait-until-no-one-was-looking-and-jump-in-the-deeper-end-of-the-pool experience (I’ll reserve the visuals for Rich and Jak  and all)

8) Phyllis for not only reading my blog (not constantly, like, say me…. but occasionally, which, as we all know, is saying something. Spouses and such are normally not that…focused on the imaginary world that so many of us spend so much of our time living in.)

9) sort of hypo-gratitude but, not really… just one of those experiences that, while not enjoyable tends to, somehow be beneficial: I have this property that had a tenant who had to leave the property, (so the seller could sell it), and he had a white German Shepherd that apparently he couldn’t take with him, so he gave the dog to the abutting neighbor. That’s not such a terrible thing, (at least not for me). What is terrible, (as a result of my limited capacity for emotional response), is that when I go to inspect the property, (roughly once a week), (if he’s out) the dog will run… run  up to my car and then sniff me and walk back to his (new) home. I do, in fact, apologize outloud each time, ‘sorry man, wrong human‘  and I hope that helps, but as far as I can tell,  he hasn’t found the person he is waiting for. kinda sad. but it helps me improve myself, (if I’m up to it), each time he demonstrates this loyalty and hope that is not, as far as I can observe, diminished by repeated disappointment.

10) SR 1.3

 

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*yeah, never miss a chance at this joke…somehow it still cracks me up, every single time I use it!! go figure

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-the Wakefield Doctrine- FTSF (yeah, I know! how long has it been?)

September 25, 2015 By

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The Sentence that I have been invited to Finish is:

“If I could have any superpower, I would want to be able to…”

super (adv) prefix:   “…and, more figuratively, “an individual, thing, or property that exceeds customary norms or levels”

power[s] (noun):  “…ability to do or act; capability of doing or accomplishing something.)  (both courtesy dictionary.com)

So, given the above, I guess the superpower I would want to have is …the capability of living and acting in the here and now.

Yeah, I know!! Not very sexy. Can you imagine the comic strip or graphic novel or movie franchise based on this Superpower?

Clark ‘The Here and Now Man’!!  “Watch in disbelief as he focuses on you without trying to qualify what he says in fear of offending! Be amazed as he approaches new people and novel situations without the fear and baggage from his memories of times just-like-this-one-except-with-different-people-and-different-circumstances!!! You’ll gasp in astonishment as he acts spontaneously and yet, even when everyone thinks he’s being really silly, he’s unafraid!! It’s as if he is not concerned with what people think of him!!! Come and follow the strange Tale of Living in the Moment…   as you leave the theater you’ll find yourself saying ‘it’s only a movie but it would be so good to live that way’!

…hey, I would totally give a shoutout t0 Kristi for this here bloghop here, it was my very first and remains one of my favorite ‘hops!  And to her co-hostinae Amy and Michelle.

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09/24/15 -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘you’re right! the date does add up to a number with 6 in it! It must be Thursday!’

September 24, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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Once again, I’m apparently taking purposeful refuge in mis-understanding the week’s prompt. Clearly the word is ‘axes’. In my defense, my intention was to establish the plural of that word, but alas, mis-logism reigned, (once more), and a story grew, around the word ‘axis’. Please don’t tell anyone, especially zoe/ivy! She puts a lot of effort into this Thursday bloghop, the Six Sentence Stories and, seemingly every week, I show up and mess up the word prompt, all semi-rogerian confidence, never letting the facts get in the way of my imagination.

The Clockwork, the Mortal Axis and the World

“And these little dots,” the black magic marker moved around the big red circle in the center of a spiral-bound note book, the newly placed dots showing a practiced randomness, “show what can happen, even when we successfully remove all of the primary tumor,” the physician’s voice was directed at the man and woman sitting on the far side of the desk, yet his eyes never rose from the drawing, clearly more comfortable with the certainty of his illustration than the reaction of the people who were watching the pad with dutiful eyes.

Ironically, the good health of the couple, combined with the suddenness of the diagnosis, resulted in finding themselves in the office of a highly rated surgeon, (“Blue Cross Blue Shield is listening and knows that you want to take responsibility for your healthcare!“), who was, nevertheless, a total stranger. Despite (or because) of this, both halves of the couple were at their personal strongest and personal weakest, as is sometimes the way with long married couples, the strength each had was intended for the other, the weakness, a deception that both wished for the other, yet accepted for themselves.

The Doctor continued his lecture in that patiently-focused manner shared by successful dog trainers and beloved kindergarten teachers, he chose to believe (without actually being aware of his decision), that the distant look on the face of  the patient indicated non-comprehension or, worse, in his opinion, the refusal to come to grips with a problem that he was demonstrating his competency to solve.

The man, sensing the approach of a turning point, probably the last level spot on an un-seen roller coaster, decided that he had to do something and took advantage of a momentary pause (between metastasize and mortality) to say, “I believe you know Bill Hendron, a client of mine, he said to give you his regards, apparently the two of you did your internship at the same hospital, what a small world, isn’t it?”

“Oh! I haven’t heard that name in years, Bill’s an exceptional physician, up at Children’s Hospital in Boston, isn’t he?”  as the Doctor spoke, there began a change, as if the world, (or at least this small and private section of it, a doctors office and a doctor presenting his prognosis), were a revolving stage, almost imperceptibly, the physician was beginning to see two people in his office, instead of two patients, …the clockwork of the world, the wheels and gears of that mortal axis, moving the stage, (as Shakespeare would like it), backdrops and props exchanged, the actors remain yet relate differently to one and another, the way that they relate themselves to the world around them, making all the difference to quality of the un-folding drama.

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-the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘We’re reaching out to all Audi owners with news of a great Offer…attached you’ll find a full trade-in Offer!!!‘

September 23, 2015 By

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What excellent timing on the part of my local Cadillac dealership and it’s news of the 2015 Jump Start Program!  Their mailing not only had the information that, with the enclosed “…three (3) signed offers [See checks #802- #804].” would allow me to trade in my car, but I could also upgrade to a new Cadillac ‘with no money out-of-pocket while even lowering (my) current monthly payment with approved credit’.

What great timing.

I woke up this morning thinking, ‘whatever happened to the Posts (that) got written because I read a part of a label on a jar in the refrigerator door, or because I heard a fragment of background music on a commercial on TV?’. So, when Phyllis came into my office (aka ‘the spare bedroom’), this morning, asking,  ‘Can I open this envelope addressed to you from GM, maybe it’s about the SUV we rented for the Ocean City trip?‘ I was all, “Sure, why not?” And then she said, “No, it’s just that they want you to upgrade to a Cadillac.”  (And… a little wheel turned in my head.) Walking out of the room, “I’ll throw it out for you.” (…and some rust flaked off enough for a cog to lurch on its axis).

“…no, wait!  Let me see that.”

So the obvious question arising from reading this snail-spam is:

“Would you trade in your predominant worldview for one of the other two?”

Dyanne…Christine?  you’re both self-admitted scotts… (if you could), would you trade in the world of the Predator (” live to chase, catch to survive, protect to thrive…. the world is a vast savannah and you have cubs and you have an acacia tree to doze under in the noon day sun (remember, this is a metaphor…. although if I come upon a scott …in a gym class or the study hall during 2nd Period and they seemed to be asleep, I, for one, would not try anything! Even asleep, scotts are all about response to threats and opportunity.)

(Or), lets ask Kristi or Michelle, our rogers in residence, if someone offered you the chance to trade in your thoughtfully and properly coordinated world of the Herd Member (a place for everything and everything in its place, and though this sentiment need not be literally expressed, the world, to a roger, is like the most wonderful Lego set ever, everyone and everything in the world has the potential to be…. good. Good and sufficient. And all one needs to do is understand the Right Way and share it with the people in their lives.)

Would either of  you trade it all in for the ever-changing, never boring (except when it becomes tedious) world of the Outsider? (‘ according to your friends’ (and some of your family), you have such gifts and talents and potential and, even though you’re willing to accept that they’re probably not saying that to trick you, you still know that you must live in the shadows. Metaphorically, of course, but your life, your personal reality has conditions (as do the other two) and the primary of (those conditions) is that you must, at any and all costs avoid scrutiny by the real people who surround you. Stay on the edges, avoid overoptimism and life, well, life is just about nearly perfect.

Like that. Would you trade up to another predominant worldview?

 

hey! thanks local Cadillac dealers!!

…the car thing?  what, are you frickin kidding me?!  But thanks for the Post.

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