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Tuesday Morning (of) Explanation Week (at) the Wakefield Doctrine (“…see how ‘low stress’ that feels? yep! that’s Tuesday!”)

May 20, 2014 By

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so, what else do you want to know?  (This being Explanation Week, for today, I will accept any questions from Readers.) yes? you in the back there…no, go ahead, …yes, you can let your friend ask the questions.”

‘What is it about the simpatico between clarks and scotts?  …why do rogers totally roll over for scotts?  and, speaking of rogers, how is it that they can be best of friends with clarks and, then out of the clear blue, they will ‘lash out’ and be total jerks (only to tell us that we didn’t understand), especially when a scott arrives on the scene!

Sorry to take advantage of y’all but I gots to run, will come back and talk about the above pre-lanations….  here’s a hint: go back to our behavioral metaphor: outsider…predator (think friendly dog/incredibly dangerous but attractive omnivore  and… member of the herd.

Then how about some reprint content?  (I did say that Tuesday was the most non-threatening Day of the Week, didn’t I?)

WAIT!  Hey!!  one of our own is totally on a frickin TV News (“…now back to Krystal in the Weather Center“)  Cyndi   is right here… I think that’s her in the yellow scarf  tres cool, non” (how proud are we? … v proud)

(from back in MMX!!*)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine ( three characteristic worldviews determine the 3 personality types: clarks, scotts and rogers )

Almost too easy. But we must be considerate of the New Reader! No telling how many people have arrived here at the Wakefield Doctrine this very Tuesday morning, driven by an insatiable curiosity, a little free-time at their computer at work/school or simply an annoying friend/co-worker (“...yeah, no! just go there! don’t try to read the About page, just read this Post! it’s about these people and these worldview things and…the thing of it is they are so right and I can’t stop seeing these scotts and clark and rogers…rogers!! do you have any idea how disturbing it is now whenever I drive past a bunch of guys riding bikes, wearing the kind of spandex that made Pat Benatar such a star… and  just go there and let me know when you understand how any of this is going to be useful!“)

We all know that Tuesday is the day of the week that is most clarklike, right? The clue was right there in the Title, right? And by the associating of the word ‘mild’, you know have a spot-on assessment of the clarklike personality type, right?

Wrong.

Well, right about the ‘Tuesday is the most clark-friendly Day of the Week’, but t-wrong about the assessment of the clarklike personality type as being ‘mild’. Moderate?, fair… temperate?, sure, why not? even-tempered?, now you are straying… easy-to-get-along-with? getting colder… flat-affect, overly rational? ok…warmer… driven by a disconnected emotional aspect to find the way back home… yow! boiling !

Tuesday is the easiest-going Day of the Week. Rivalled only by Thursday on the lowered expectations scale, Tuesday is the day where you can believe in the promises of the work/school, even commit yourself to giving all to making the week a time of great accomplishment. Without the threat of an Exam (Friday) or even a pop quiz (Wednesday), Tuesday is the day where:

  • clarks relax
  • scotts wake up
  • rogers begin to get annoyed

If you were looking through the eyes of a clark…on a Tuesday morning…and the newspaper headlines read: ‘Meteor to Strike Earth on Friday, Extinction of all Life Certain!’ your reaction would be:

  • relief because the mess you made of your first serious relationship would finally stop bothering you (…hopefully)
  • excitement because now you don’t have to worry about having enough money to pay the mortgage
  • amused because you had a dream in which you felt loved and cherished by all and when you woke up you had a genuine emotional conviction that you were ‘a part of the family’
  • a sense of vindication because you knew that nothing really mattered
  • regret as you finally realized that people did not really care about how strange the inside of your head is, they only wanted to believe that you liked and appreciated them
Well, that was …interesting!
If the rogers and the scotts would form an orderly line (yeah, right) we will register each and every one of your objections to this Post.
* for Lizzi a little Latin humor, haec omnia sciunt?
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the Week Ahead!! the Wakefield Doctrine it’s Explanation Week! (no, I’m not going to do the obvious joke)

May 19, 2014 By

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*****explanations are to clarks as sex is to scotts and tradition is to rogers*****

Hey! Have I mentioned how I’ve decided that I need to bring back dome of the more…scottian style to this here blog here? Nothing too scottian. In fact, probably not scottian at all, in the eyes of a predominate scott or a roger in that mood.  It’s just that when I started writing this thing there was only a few people around and they already knew the Doctrine first hand and so I found myself coming up with provocative and somewhat inflammatory ways to express the principles and insights of the Wakefield Doctrine. It was fun. I’m in the mood for some more of that kind of post-writing. (No!! Christine and Jean and (even) Dyanne  don’t worry!  This is not going to be one of those times when (the guy you’re with on the second date or your husband at the family reunion) comes upon some kids skateboarding and jumping over shit and all and he says,  “hey! I loved to skateboard back in school…in fact, I was pretty good….watch this!!”)

In any event, this is Explanation Week, so be on the look out for some fun insights.

Monday: Establish this as Explanations Week

Tuesday: easiest-going day of the whole damn workweek… sort of the Vanilla Wafers of the workweek

Wednesday: the fulcrum the tipping point (I really hate the expression  ‘hump day’… that, frankly is a rogerian sub-conscious attempt to provoke a scott into contributing to whatever conversation is going on in the break room at the time… there is a perfectly good clark sitting right over there, but…nooo!  the rogers don’t think a response from a clark will do anything to enhance their own position in the herd…and…er oh, yeah, we’ll think of something fun!)

Thursday: the second installment of Thursday’s Guest Post Thursday!!

Friday: day off!

So lets get to some ‘splanations:

clarks are Outsiders and scotts are Predators and rogers are Herd Members… too basic?   yeah, I agree. Although… there was a time, in the early days, when some of the scotts were trying to object to the term ‘Predator’ saying it was inherently pejorative and not very nice  (lol… but the thing was, I ‘watched’ them as they said that and noted that they, (the scotts), were looking around when they raised that objection, not looking at me, looking at everyone else (sorta on the sly, ya know?)  and,  well, I discovered the Wakefield Doctrine during the day, but it wasn’t yesterday!  …so I helped the scotts see that they were not going to be able to spook the herd that easily!

hey!! I’ve been a bit remiss in the last week or so with getting to everyone’s Post at the TToT… not ‘proper’ (especially being the sole rep from the Y Chrome Province)… so, I hope you don’t mind, but I brought along some homework from the weekend. Posts that I wasn’t able to get to before the end of Sunday, will get to them in the course of the day, today. I trust Lizzi will not mind.

 

 

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pre-pre,-50-oh-T the Wakefield Doctrine (rumor has it, Jak is working on the theme! (2 words: damn!))

May 17, 2014 By

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Hey! Everyone! I am so far behind that I will one thing before I hit the proverbial road:

  1. try to present a premise that allows me to post a truncated TToT list here… predicated on some
  2. clever(ish) idea   and/or
  3. present here a defensible form of a TToT List

So here’s the thing. When I come back to computerville, I will have a video and a list and they will include mention of the following: Jean, Jak, work, running-around-in-the-morning, new series of Guest Posts, a (firm) resolution to get more organized, a ‘shout-out’ to Lizzi and the difference it makes around here when she is able to be fully here (as opposed to the A to Z Challenge demands), an acknowledge of anti-grat to Christine’s physical condition and an attempt to pre-empt her admonition about ‘you spent more time writing about how you were not able to write… aka Christine’s Rule  and, fear not!  something about the Wakefield Doctrine.

Funny thing is, I’m not going to publish this before I leave, so why the hell am I still typing?   ’cause, as zoe might say, “you never know, ya know?”

 

Hey!  I promise to write a list, but I’m still at work!

catch up with you later!

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Guest Post Thursday!! the Wakefield Doctrine (“yeah, pretty cool, non?”)

May 15, 2014 By

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(In my first version), of this intro, I did a longish, semi-clever set up about going to a party and meeting someone who was the kind of person that I never have gotten to know, were it not for the party-anything-is-possible-with-sufficient-energy. If I ran into this person in a non-party situation, I probably wouldn’t  have the nerve to introduce myself. Jean would have been that person… a party during high school years (damn! no way!), college? (well, maybe I might …given the pharmaceuticals available) or in an adult work environment (nope! back to, no way).
But this is the blogosphere. All of us have the opportunity to feel connected and protected, (here), the shy are brave and the confident are relaxed and so I have come to know Jean Yates, our Guest Writer. I feel fortunate for having met her, for a number of reasons that should be apparent when you read her post below. (Jean writes a blog, “…there’s Beading to be Done” that (somehow) manages to combine craft expertise, artistic insights and humor…yes, in one blog.) Go there. read.  Without further adieu, lets give the floor to Jean.

Dear clark, I have never written a guest post before. I am doing this because I support you and everything you are and do. If you don’t want to use it, you don’t have to. If you want to analyze it, go right ahead. I wrote it with my eyes wide open.  What you do with this guest post is actually the part I am looking forward to.   xox jean

Hi! “It’s the jean show!”, as my husband Jim would sigh. With resignation. Jim is a clark. Funniest guy in the world; also terribly shy*. Very competitive, but you wouldn’t realize that unless you got him into a situation where you had to play any sort of game with him. Then he would crush you. That must mean–or does it?– that he has some scott in him?  Or is it just that all three types can be competitive…they just go about it in a different way?

 

Jim and I once had to meet with a psychiatrist, an appointment we had to keep as the parents of a son who needed an evaluation. The shrink would not set foot in a room with our son without a 700 dollar visit with us, first. We were sitting in our chairs facing the guy, and suddenly the doctor turned to Jim and said, “You do realize you are severely ADD, don’t you? You have been shifting around in your seat, tapping your feet, and looking out the window the whole time we have been talking, here.”  Jim replied, “Well, actually I have found what you are saying pretty boring, and I am in construction so I am looking out the window because I am checking the job they are doing resurfacing the asphalt on your parking lot, and I am also listening to the trucks on the main road as they accelerate because they are a lot more interesting to me than you are.”

I thought it was very funny and almost worth the money we were paying the guy to “fix” [clap clap] our kid.

The doctor also turned to me (what the heck?) and said, “Are you sure you are Bipolar I, as I see you have written here? Because you really don’t present as Bipolar I to me.” Strike two. I went back to my own doctor, and checked. He reminded me what I was like after my one manic episode in my forties. People, I am indeed Bipolar I, but ( I know now!) I am a Bipolar I SCOTT.  Sometime if you would like to know what it is like to be crazy and be a scott, I will tell you.  When they fixed me up with Lithium and Valium and sent me home, I decided never to fall apart again because I needed to be here 24/7 for my kids. But I had fun while it lasted. It was like a trip to a different world.

As for our son the psychiatrist was purportedly seeing?  He is still not “fixed”, but he is a lot happier.
By the way, he is a clark.

What is it that I think makes me a scott? Am I showing off, to be proud to be a scott? Yes! Are most of my friends clarks?  Yes!  Do clarks have mystique and charisma? Yes! …Whereas scotts are gawky open books, and resemble human golden retrievers when they are not on a hunt for a romantic partner?  Yes..and…no?

And what of rogers? From the perspective of a scott:  Try getting into the most haute social clubs without a roger member escorting you in. Try getting a loan! Try getting a second opinion! Try getting some attractive curtains!!! I mean, seriously!!!  Rogers are great at stuff like that. Look around people, when we have our video chats!  I rest my case! Get a roger to help you DECORATE!

However, who has the best taste in music?  Probably not a roger. Maybe not a scott…well, maybe occasionally a scott! But maybe not.

I was born on the East Coast. I was trained and taught all the rules. I am glad that my rogerian mother with a strong secondary clark aspect was able to bring me up to behave properly, because it afforded choices to me I would not otherwise have had. Plus some money for a while, which helped me pay all those shrink bills.

 

But then again, when I turned my back on that group from which I came, I was proud of myself.

 

I knew exactly what I was leaving behind, and when I made this choice it was as if a burden had been lifted off my shoulders. For every Muffy, Rigden and Tibby I walked away from, I gained more freedom. I gained more freedom and the power to make choices and mistakes and screw ups which I OWN. That freedom from “what will everyone think?” is priceless to me. I will never care what everyone thinks, because I have to care what I think.

So yes, I am an outsider too, but I choose this. I choose my destiny.

I prize integrity, loyalty, intelligence, a good sense of humor, curiosity about everything in the world, food, knowing how to cook good food, any sort of creativity, originality, and great hair.

 

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* Jim wants to state that for the record “he is not shy!”.

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Wensday* the Wakefield Doctrine (“…I had a clever title in mind, discovered I already used it, should I be concerned?”)

May 14, 2014 By

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Lets mark today as the imaginary start to a hypothetical new approach to writing this here Wakefield Doctrine blog here, ok?  (As zoe put it, in a Comment yesterday, “…am I to infer from this post that you are rounding a corner of starting the maiden voyage of writership of this here Doctrine? How very exciting….” ). The ‘writership’ she alludes to is my renewed effort to organize the presentation of the Wakefield Doctrine in a form that will make it more user-friendly and more accessible to a wider demographic of Reader. These Posts will remain essentially the same, targeting the new Reader, I will always include a definition of the Doctrine and an example of the nature of one (or all three) of it’s worldview.

The biggest ‘change’ is that I am going to have people writing Guest Posts here! And, …and! as is obviously appropriate, to start us off will be Jean from ‘There’s Beading to be done!’, writing tomorrow’s Post. she is one of our favorite scotts, here in the ‘sphere and I’m totally looking forward to it.

I had a Post that I wrote Sunday, I kept the draft form of it, intending to post it today. Unfortunately, drafts have a built-in ‘spoiled-by-date’, pretty much one chance to sit down and complete/edit/add-something. If the draft doesn’t turn into a published post, it ends up in the trash. So anyway, I had this draft Post going into yesterday, I still liked it, even found a music vid that I really liked for it. But, this morning I sat down and looked at it and thought…’nah, gots to go’.  But I did keep one line and the video. Both are at the bottom of this Post.

before that,

hey! new Reader!!  no, I mean the person behind you… of course I mean you! You’re still reading and it’s been about 300 words. Guess what? We know something about you already. (yeah, yeah, of course this is a trick to keep you reading… no! I don’t mind, that thought just confirms what we already know.)  Still here? great. While I don’t have time to tell you what it is we know about you, I will say this: either you are a clark or your secondary aspect is clarklike.

pretty cool, no?  (yeah, I know that doesn’t mean anything yet.) …the Wakefield Doctrine maintains that we all are born with the potential to grow up, develop and live our lives in one of three characteristic worldviews,** that of the  a) the Outsider (clarks), b) the Predator(scotts) and c) the Herd Member(rogers). While other personality theories will be asking you at this point about your likes and dislikes, favorite colors and worst nightmares, the Doctrine is different. All we do is say, ‘here are the general characteristics of the three personality types (clarks, scotts and rogers)’, they act the way they do because of how they relate themselves to the world around them’. Figure that out about a person and you will know more about them than they know about themselves. Lets put it another way:  using the descriptions of the characteristics of the three worldview as guides, try to ‘see the world as the other person is experiencing it’.

..ok one more and that’s it!   ‘clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel’

Interested? Sure try going to ‘the About page‘ or… given that the chances are you’re a clark, try this page.

better yet, you think you’re a clark? then you’ll know all about the post I didn’t publish on the basis of the following:

“…and I embarked on a path that is terribly familiar to my people… I began to worry about fear

( what the fuck is wrong with me? ) “

 

 

* that is the way you’re pronouncing, right?

** personal reality… you know “hey! how was the party?  a) it sucked b) it rocked c) it could have been better

 

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