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TToT Fifty the Wakefield Doctrine

May 31, 2014 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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in no way wanting to risk my own self-perception of being the quirky-but-lovable clark in the midst of the group of sincere-and-talented writerz, I will still follow my impulse for today/this weekend/the grand- and-first-anniversary of this excellent bloghop…with (from June 7th 2013),  the following reprint:

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

use this one

…and welcome to the Inaugural Edition of the ‘Ten Things of Thankful’ blog hop.

The  idea-child (to organize a blog hop with ‘Ten Things of Thankful’ as the central theme), of ‘the Considerer’. Her idea of a Saturday blog hop offers to demonstrate an aspect of the internet that is truly remarkable.  To have a community created by the thoughts and ideas (shared by) people from all over the planet… coming into existence for a day…spreading outwards through the blogosphere, passed along, modified enhanced then to fading from view…only to return again, different yet the same. How cool is that?

and…and!!  there are 9 co-hosts!  (the afore-mentioned Considerer), and

  1. A Fly on our (Chicken Coop) Wall
  2. A Woman’s Place
  3. Bringing the Sunshine
  4. Finding Ninee
  5. Icansaymama
  6. Shoved to Them
  7. Steps into Parenthood
  8. the Wakefield Doctrine

Each week…

That’s about it for me, for this Post. While familiar of with use and value of compiling a gratitude list, creating a list is an interestingly arduous task! Not that I am ungrateful, ( non-grateful?? anti-grateful?? hypo-grateful???  lol), for the things in my life, I have not engaged in a formal exercise before this…I will, without a doubt, be sharing my thoughts and impressions as the weeks progress.
And I am also a big advocate of bloghops… especially for those of us who spend a lot of time writing a blog. The hop (like this one right here) is an opportunity to ‘get out… meet new people, read blogs that you might not otherwise come into contact with… so add your blog to the place below that says sign up here… it’ll be fun.

List of 10 things about/within/comprising my life today 06/08/2013 that I feel grateful for:

  1. coming to know interesting people such as Considerer, simply because there is no way I would have met her, were it not for her blog
  2. having the time available to write this post
  3. seeing examples of Posts as written by the other co-hosts
  4. having a family (wife and dog*)
  5. having known the perfect dog…Ola
  6. living in a climate that is only bi-annually of intolerable climate (lol)
  7. the 3 or 4 years spent on fishing boats
  8. the friends that I have
  9. the enemies that I do not have (at least not in large numbers)
  10. the invitation from Considerer to co-host this here bloghop here

Now the hard part!  There’s supposed to appear some code for a button and an invitation to join us… all I need to do is get it right…. hold on….

 

Ten Things of Thankful
 Your hosts

(and since this post…the new hostinae:  Sandy (at) Mother of Imperfection, Sarah (at) Amycake and the Dude,  Dyanne (at) I Want Backsies, Kristi (aka K2) at Thankful Me, Michelle ‘Getting Literal‘   and……   zoe (zo eee zo eee!) at re-Written)

in the words of ‘the Dead’…. ‘what a long, strange trip it’s been‘

While I am one of those who still struggles with the appreciation of the benefits of gratitude. I have no doubt that I am better for having participated in this bloghop.  I’ll use one of our favorite words, perspective.  The TToT has given me the gift of an (additional/enhanced/varied) perspective.  Fun group, interesting posts every weekend and I get to hangout with people that I would never in 673 years, encounter and become close to in ‘Real’ Life.

nice work, Ms. Rogers

Ten Things of Thankful

 

 

 Your hosts


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Friday the Wakefield Doctrine (‘yeah, like anyone is stressed by Friday…especially after a week like this’)

May 30, 2014 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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in keeping with this being Friday ( the ‘what-the-hell’ day of the workweek) and still Note Pad Week, lets have a video and a reprint from March 1 2012

oh yeah!  the sign up sheet for the vid chat is up… the Wakefield Doctrine presents Lizzi (‘the Manchester Minx‘) and Michelle (‘the Singapore Siren’) ‘s Friday Night vidchat…. 8:00 pm EDST on google hangouts…look for a link in ‘the Facebook’ on Lizzi’s page…. tell everyone you know  lets see what happens when we try to get more than 10 people into the virtual house!!  (might be fun, ya know?)

(also, 7:30 is the Secret Advanced Doctrine Discussion Hour!  Jen-ay… zoe and I expect you to be there!) (tell everyone that you don’t know to join us!)

 

You know the ease with which  some of us ‘get’ the core concept of the Wakefield Doctrine, there is an equal ease in missing the point of this thing of ours. We are fond of saying that the first people who come to this blog are among the ‘best and brightest’ that the blogosphere has to offer. They see the incredible insights that this Doctrine affords them, the ridiculously effective tools that allow you to understand why people behave the way that they do…not to mention the fun we (the Progenitors and DownSprings and FOTDs have, what with hats and Drives and videos and all).  And yet, sometimes people struggle with the (underlying) principles of the Doctrine which in turn makes it more difficult for them to acquire the full understanding of this thing, limiting their ability to contribute to the ongoing process.
When this happens, we blame ourselves. We accept that, while all efforts are made to be simple and clear in the different Pages illustrating the different personality types and offering examples (of these types) that can be seen in the public culture,  sometimes it is not enough! So as Malcolm said, ‘We want to talk right down to earth in a language that everybody here can easily understand‘.

The Wakefield Doctrine is not a theory, the Wakefield Doctrine is a label for a perspective. This perspective is one by which we look at the behavior of another person and make the assumption that (their) behavior makes perfect sense and is entirely appropriate in some reality.

The Wakefield Doctrine suggests that all people live their lives not only in the ‘common reality’ that we all share, but in an individual reality that is the context in which they act and react, feel and make assumptions to base their behavior.

The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that there are three individual realities (or ‘worldviews’) that have characteristics that can be associated with the three personality types: the worldview of ‘the outsider’, the worldview of ‘the predator’ and the worldview of ‘the herd member’.

The Wakefield Doctrine tells us that ‘personality’ is not a collection of traits, a list of typical behaviors or even a self-reported series of likes and dislikes all charted out on a multi-axis diagram, rather personality is simply the  repeated  reactions and strategies that all people develop in order to get through life as best they can.

The Wakefield Doctrine takes the critical step of saying, ‘hey, if we dropped you at a very early childhood age into the world of the clark, you would grow up a clark‘,
The Wakefield Doctrine takes the bold step of saying, ‘take a child of less than 4 years of age and drop them into the predator/prey worldview of a scott to grow up in and I will tell which person at a PGA championship will yell, “get in the hole!!!” ‘
The Wakefield Doctrine says, ‘what other explanation accounts for grown men wearing authentic period-fabric Army uniforms of the Civil War era and spending entire weekends practicing formations!!!??!”

The Wakefield Doctrine says to all of us the following:

  • all of us are predominately one of the three types and yet we retain the capability to act as the other two
  • the trick to using the Doctrine is simple, don’t try to make sense of what people are doing until you infer the worldview that they are doing it in
  • if you are not sure if a person is a clark, scott or roger, eliminate the most obvious (i.e. the girl with the sequins on her face and the mini skirt over the jeans? probably safe to scratch off  ‘scott’
  • practice on yourself, you can’t get this thing wrong! If you want to tell everyone that you are a scott, everyone will be polite and nod and say sure as you put on your beret and get your pipe and slippers and sit down to read ‘Genealogy Quarterly’
  • it is the world that you are living in, not the things that you do that make you a clark or a scott or a roger
  • finally,  ‘the Doctrine is for you, not for them‘
Alright. You have your weekend assignment:  go out into your respective worlds and convince one person to visit us here at the Doctrine (I’ll be available for ‘loss-of-a-good-friend-as-a-result-of-excessively-challenging-ideas counseling).

 

 

 

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Guest Post Thursday…Guest Post!! the Wakefield Doctrine …clark

May 29, 2014 By

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i met Kristi online a couple of years ago it was recognition at first sight  (have you ever found yourself hanging out in a place you didn’t think you belonged and one person kept turning up and you think  that you must know them?  for some clarks, (especially those with the Doctrine),  you sometimes encounter a person that you know you would have been friends with if you had already known them, you know? the funny thing about the Doctrine (as a way to look at life) is how bold and presumptive we can find ourselves being. so, anyway,  this one Finish-the-Sentence-Friday, the prompt is something like,  ‘what would you change in the past’ and I wrote a direct message to Kristi saying ‘I know what you’re thinking about writing and this is how you’ll end up writing this post’. to Kristi’s credit and my everlasting gratitude I did not find myself instantly blocked or otherwise told to stay the hell away from her or her friends.
successful writer, winner of a bunch of awards, featured speaker at the recent LTYM mom-a-thon, and creator of the most excellent ‘Finding Ninee’
Please welcome today’s Guest Post writer, Kristi

Ok.

If there’s ever been a reason to say “Fuck you, Clark!!” It’s this:
(a direct IM quote that I’m no longer naive enough to believe was ONLY delivered to me, because that’s how Clark works and also, there were no flowers with it):
“sometimes will admit to not appreciating exactly how good the Doctrine is at what it does…. (here from the TToT:  9) We will be auditioning clarks for next week’s guest Post post… all are encouraged to apply…only those who refuse to apply are qualified and, of those, only the applicants who insist that someone else would be much better, will be considered… I need you to write something/anything for this coming Thursday’s guest Post… as you see in the previous two Thursdays…no standards or requirements at all…just email me what you might have and I will paste into the post”
See? WHAT THE FUCK.
Of course, I was also super-excited, as I’d previously admitted to a bit of jealousy regarding Clark’s new favorite blogger (what about ME ME ME ME ME) defiling his blog with a first guest post (I like to think of myself as a defiler although that’s never really been my thing), and then, well, shit, Roger? You seem a lot nicer than I’d have thought.
Anyway, fuck you, Clark. While I’m honored and happy to be here, you, above all, know that I need you to tell me what the rules of this guest posting game are, and what it is, exactly, that you want to see here. You’re supposed to tell me what to write about. Of course, if you had done so, I’d resent it, and assume that you know nothing about my creative prowess, know nothing about me, and may have chalked this relationship up to yet one more in which I’m misunderstood. Sigh.
Until, well, I’m not misunderstood because I can FEEL you in my brain right now (get out) (you totally knew what I was going to say, didn’t you?) (write it yourself?) (ok don’t because I like my name here too) (OMG such a Clark).
I remember the first time I stumbled on this here Doc thing, and asking Clark how autism fits into it. I’m sure he was like “Um, yo, dumbass, you didn’t read anything, did you?” which, well, I hadn’t. I think he’d linked up to a FTSF hop and while I was intrigued by the personality stuff, I didn’t really put myself into it, at that point. Until I later did. And whoa.
I’ve learned things to help me deal with actual situations in real life. That I’m now able to further understand coworkers, friends, and my sister-in-law is a true gift. Something that The Doc has given me is an ability to not (always) immediately internalize things, and instead look at why I’m reacting the way I am, and why I feel like an outsider at my own party (sometimes – because other times, Scott roars his head within and I. Am. The. Boss.).
This here Doc thing is awesome. Of course, it’d be even more so had I received my current sunburn doing IRL stuff with my (mostly a Scott, I think) little boy at an outdoor carnival this week while wearing a — you guessed it —  DOC TANK (you’re welcome, Lizzi).
Big thanks and mwahs to The Master Clark Clark Himself. Clark.
(does a little curtsey thing in my head that I’d never actually do in real life unless drunk or whatever)
:D :D :D
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A little maybe-autism. Some stupid-looking drawings. Life.
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thank you for the connection
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(wandering) Wednesday the Wakefield Doctrine ( ‘nope! still encouraging short, randomized expressions of an insightful nature’)

May 28, 2014 By

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Denise mentioned something yesterday that reminds me of the thing that I most often forget about presenting the Wakefield Doctrine: using famous people (real and imaginary) as examples of the three personality types of this here personality theory here.

Adam:  roger ( first thing out of his mouth, when god catches him…”it was her fault“); Eve: clark ( I was going to cite her gullibility, how she fell for the scott or intended to do it for the good of the family, then I remembered… the Tree-of-Knowledge, risk abso-frickin everything…to know shit  (sometimes this Doctrine scares me lol), Satan: scott  (hey baby… wanna see what I got in my hand?); George Washington: roger (‘I cannot tell a lie’… jeez, every personality assessment since the Boy Scout Oath has included validity questions like this); Abraham Lincoln: clark (come on! …even those of you with more in-depth knowledge of his life and Presidency, have go to agree). Yahweh( or whatever is the proper name of the primary deity in the old testament, you know him, white beard, cool robes prone to raining trials and tribulations and such down on his creations): roger (do I really need to explain this one?) Thomas Edison: scott  Nikola Tesla: clark; George Harrison: roger; Maria Muldaur: scott; Prince: clark; Sylvia Plath: roger(?); Emily Bronte: clark...

…oh man! you should read this wikipedia entry on her…wait, I got it right here!

In 1842, Emily accompanied Charlotte to the Héger Pensionnat in Brussels, Belgium, where they attended the girls’ academy run by Constantin Héger. They planned to perfect their French and German in anticipation of opening their school. Nine of Emily’s French essays survive from this period. Héger seems to have been impressed with the strength of Emily’s character, and made the following assertion:

“She should have been a man – a great navigator. Her powerful reason would have deduced new spheres of discovery from the knowledge of the old; and her strong imperious will would never have been daunted by opposition or difficulty, never have given way but with life. She had a head for logic, and a capability of argument unusual in a man and rarer indeed in a woman… impairing this gift was her stubborn tenacity of will which rendered her obtuse to all reasoning where her own wishes, or her own sense of right, was concerned”. (wikipedia.org)

ok…that was fun!

what about jobs?  …physicians:

  • General Practioner/Pediatricians: clarks
  • Surgeon: scotts
  • Oncologists: rogers

firefighters: rogers  while cops, on the other hand, are scotts (come on! your job is to chase people down and catch them, while driving real fast in cars that make a lot of noise and when you catch them you get to handcuff them and bring them back to the pack!)

Note: do not, I repeat, do not forget: ‘everyone does everything at one time or another’  of course clarks can be successful cops, (how else to explain why guys and un-attractive women get out of speeding tickets?)  and rogers can be very successful psychotherapists (how else to explain Oscar Meyers Briggs or psychoanalysis or Robert Carkhuff or even Bobbie Flay!) The point is this:  the Wakefield Doctrine does not take the position or otherwise maintain that there are ‘scottian jobs’ or  ‘clarklike interests’  or ‘particularly annoying social habits of rogers‘  there is none of that, so don’t even think about saying, “I know so-and-so and they’re a reformed nun who is a runway model, while during her off-hours she works at a homeless shelter for stray Labradors and is going to school for her PHD in  paleo-sociology.”

Thursday is tomorrow! not the day after!  It’s Thursday Guest Post Post Thursday!

 

hey, got this song in my head since last night,  maybe spreading it off will help

 

…you’re welcome

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(temporary) Tuesday the Wakefield Doctrine (we continue with our little theme-of-the-week)

May 27, 2014 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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so you’ll hear us make the statement, “…with the Wakefield Doctrine, you will be in a position to know the other person better than they know themselves.”

bold statement? (yes, yes it is)

but, it’s true.

At this moment*, some of you are thinking, “if only“….and others, “yeah!!” and (still) others could be heard muttering to themselves, “who the hell does this guy think he is? does he realize who we are” 

What we mean by this statement is simply this: the Wakefield Doctrine is predicated on the notion that we all grow up, develop, live, love, hate, fight and die in what we call a worldview (just a made up word for ‘personal reality’). the Wakefield Doctrine goes on to say that there are three worldviews:

  1. the life of the Outsider (clarks) in which the very nature of the world is one of being excluded…. (think the Garden of Eden thing….’cept there were more people (at least six) and nobody got thrown out, but the one of the three got a serious jones for the tree of knowledge and god went and put a ‘kick me/kiss me I’m weird’ sign on their backs and made everyone else promise not to tell)
  2. the world of the Predator (scotts) since we’re into the Adam and Eve metaphor… these are the people who Satan didn’t even bother with… not that they are evil, just that for Satan to score any points in the contest with god, he needed people who would be tempted by: physical pleasure, mental aggressiveness, a way of living without thinking of future and/or consequences, with these two, one effort at temptation was all it took … (“Apple??  I got ya apple…right here“/ “why, aren’t you the attractive snake, you know what that makes me think of?”) He almost gave up and then
  3. the reality of the Herd Member (rogers)… how is it a person can be both the ideal victim for a temptation and, through their avowed resistance, become the greatest promoter?

Well, we certainly veered off track this morning!  Time to go to work.

Hey, help me out here. If you write a good Comment, I’ll cut and paste the darling right here and then, later in the day, when the 2nd shift clocks in, they won’t know what’s going on!  (well, probably they will).

we have our first (aka FRIST) Comment… pre-proto-draft Post (theme) from JNay:

“…so why would you get a Scott who believes wholeheartedly in the honor system? If you want to understand the honor system in all its complexity, check out West Point.”

(if I may… West Point (actually the whole of the military organization is, at heart, rogerian. We see scotts in that context, cause they are drawn to noise and excitement and getting to shoot at stuff, but as you look through history, the scottian military figures tend to not last…at least in the organization. I’m thinking Patton… Grant guys like that. )

….and if anyone sees zoe, tell her to get on over here.

(oh yeah…the rest of the explanation: the reason we know more about you is that, when applied correctly, the Wakefield Doctrine will allow me to know how you relate yourself to the world around you….and knowing that world, I’ll know your first response to many a (not all!) life situation. ya know?)

 

* why no, this is not what we mean by ‘know the other person better than they know themselves’… but it’s close

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