Month: August 2013 | the Wakefield Doctrine

第十二批的十件实事的感激，韦克菲尔德主义（只有DownSpring米歇尔可以告诉我们，如果我的赌博得到了回报！）

August 24, 2013 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

…yes, I know! It would be so much simpler on all of us if I just wrote the numbers 1 through 10 in a vertical column and then, to the right of each numeral I wrote one thing, event, person, feeling, situation that I felt grateful for this weekend. But nooo I’m a clark and I feel the totally contradictory simultaneous need to be a part of the group but at the same time be certain that no one thinks that I am just part of the group! Ah, well…it is the nature of the worldview of the Outsider… the clarklike worldview.

i. grateful that Neil Peart¹ bears an un-canny resemblance to Gordon Bennett²; ii. grateful to Lizzi for making a reference to Mr. Bennett in the first place, iii. by way of a reply email to the TToT group (which I am also…in awe of)

IV. grateful that I find I can live with this (what you are reading) approach to a Post that (I believe) both meets the requirements of participation and is (somewhat) amusing to me to (try) to write, V. and somehow, even as I lurch out into the creative chaos of a clark trying to fit-in/be-different, I am still feeling good about, I am grateful and therefore, VI. I am grateful for the other members of this here group here for taking a fairly… open-minded view of what a Ten Things of Thankful list should look like

7. grateful for the members of this bloghop who, each weekend offer insights into realities other than my own, which allows me a new, different and (potentially) beneficial perspective on my own life these people being (subject to being incorrect or somewhat out of date):

eight. Considerer…Christine…Joy…Kristi…Louise…Kristi…Dyanne, and nine. all the people who write and participate and add to the growing reality-stability of the TTOT-ville the little metaphorical village that is created in the mind of some Readers each Saturday and Sunday…when we (also) have a Video Brunch when I get to meet and talk to in real time the people I know from this virtual place …I am grateful for that as well. 10!

Alright, that concludes my effort to be normal* in my attempts to write (and/or develop some skill at this late-in-life interest).

Welcome back, Considerer… thank you for the actual (not computer image), physical (not imagining what it would feel like) Vacation Post Card from the loverly Isle of Wight! I just got it last night. Phyllis, who always gets the mail because she always loves getting mail…even even bills! (she is a roger with a secondary clarklike aspect, but you knew that!) came into the house saying, ‘you have mail…it’s a postcard from some one in england?’ I do enjoy the Wakefield Doctrine, in part because of the people I have come to know and become friends with… very cool.

I extend the invitation to all to join us for a Video Brunch tomorrow morning… at a time to be determined (most likely 9 to 9:30 Eastern Daylight Time.) we hookup through google hangout (if you are not certain what that means ask me or Considerer or Cyndi or Michelle or Denise or Melanie it’s fun… not as scary as a clark might think and definitely (potentially) as much a hoot as a scott might hope and there are already people participating which is comforting to the rogers!

Well, today is Saturday. Work Day… I’ll be checking in later… Don’t forget Ttotville exists because you’re there.

* no, I would not be prepared to say what I would consider my ‘not normal efforts’ would be like….Christine! lol

Your hosts

A Fly on our (Chicken Coop) Wall, Considerings, Finding Ninee, I can say mama, I Want Backsies, Steps into Parenthood, Thankful Me, The Wakefield Doctrine

An InLinkz Link-up

1) Neil Peart…drummer extraordinaire for the excellent band, Rush

2) Gordon Bennett…. thanks to Lizzi for using him as a reference to my efforts to… stay organized in her absence

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‘of chi-squares and Bell curves’ the Wakefield Doctrine what?! wait a minute! that’s not fair! ( it is cool though!) lets F-the-S!

August 22, 2013 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This Post is being hijacked, supplanted, and otherwise used for purposes that will, no doubt, not meet with the approval of those bloggers who take things seriously!*

…to continue where we left off Monday.

Thanks to all who have taken the time to participate in our efforts to devise a multiple-choice screening test (for discovering) one’s predominant worldview.

(yeah, yeah clark! we read that yesterday! do you really expect us to believe that this is quicker than writing a Post like a normal, serious writer would? )

Hey Janine! Kate!! Steph…ah..nee!! Kristi yo! The prompt is? …. oh yeah

I wasn’t really myself…

When I wrote yesterday’s Post! (nah, a) they’ll never buy the pseudo-metaphysical setup or 2) that combining this with a pre-written Post! stop clark, you don’t know what you’re playing with here! These are your friends and you value their opinion and besides they welcomed you into this blog-hop at a time when no one wanted anything to do with you… is this how you repay their kindness? It’s almost as if you’re not….

When I started writing this blog, I was all… gee I hope I do this the right way so that no one tells me that I have broken all the rules of good blogging and that I had to turn in my password… that was back in 2009, June 28th to be precise I can remember it like it was yesterday… that person who, upon completing the Post and working up the nerve (finally!) to hit ‘Publish’ then leaned over and turned off the computer and calmly got up and left the house and drove around for at least 30 minutes before coming back to see what the response would be… it’s like, if I met that person today, I wouldn’t recognize him… as if that wasn’t really …myself?

…so if it is possible that everything changes and (technically) we are not…quite…the person we were say, yesterday or 10 years ago or when we were kids, how the hell can we present ourselves to the world with any confidence at all? And, since I know there are people who are like totally ‘Excuse me, have I told you recently how much everyone admires me?’ I can’t help but torment myself with the question: ‘How the hell do they do it?’ Do they (these people) forget that they are not really themselves… or do they simply believe that whoever they are…no one else remembers and… this is confusing me now! I know I had an idea when I started this Post about how to complete the Sentence… it’s almost as if that was another clark, writing another Post in another version of the Wakefield Doctrine!

damn!

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Here’s the idea: the test is comprised of common, everyday life situations, presented in the form of, ‘if this happened to you, how would you respond?’ These are the Questions.
For each Question, 3 ‘Answers’ are provided, a choice must be made… yes, a multiple choice test! Each of the ‘Answers’ are a reflection of each of the three personality type’s natural response. Scoring will be simple. Are your choices consistently or at least predominately the scottian ‘Answers’? Fine! there’s your worldview. The same applies to clarks and rogers as well. I don’t expect 100% consistency in the cumulative scores, however, this in and of itself will be valuable information, as it is expected that the person’s secondary (and tertiary) aspects will show in the selection of answers. This will be for future development.

I need you Readers to suggest additional scenaria, so I can create (more) questions for the Test. Anything in the way of common life situations that have the element of conflict with: the world (clarks), other people (scotts) or society (rogers). If you really want to help, describe a situation that you actually experienced, tell what you did (in the real life event). Don’t worry about figuring out whether your response was appropriate…it was, you can’t get this Doctrine thing wrong, remember? I think 20 Questions should suffice.

I will say, it is good to have, for future use, a handy, easy-to-use assessment to determine a person’s predominant worldview/personality type. As to whether it is necessary, I’m still not totally convinced. Hell, the Doctrine is so good that it tells us who will be the people who ask for a test before they get too involved. But, I appreciate the prompting and suggesting of Readers. As much as I love our little personality theory here, since the beginning of this here blog here I have been driven to do whatever appears to be necessary, in the service of improving how we present the Wakefield Doctrine to the world and all it’s new Readers. So, if enough Readers ask for a Test…well, we’ll just come up with a Test.

Enough for this morning. Speaking of the fun of the Wakefield Doctrine and (the even funner) learning about how to use the Doctrine for fun and self-improving yourself… don’t forget!! Sunday Video Brunch yo. We all, ( Considerer, Michelle, Cyndi, Denise and Melanie ), have had a good time with this thing. The times for the Brunch are still flexible… 9:30 am EDT seems to be a good time for everyone, though 1:30 pm EDT has also worked. Join us this Sunday! You know what they say, ‘5 minutes of Video Brunch is worth 5 hours of post-reading in terms of learning to use the Doctrine in yer own damn lifes).

Lets look at the Responses from our test Subjects!

From Stephanie @ Life, Unexpectedly

Yay, a personality test ;-) Looking at the questionnaire, I feel like a twisted personality ;-) (Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine, Stephanie!)

Supermarket line scenario: depending on my general mood, how much items the people in front of me have, how much items I have, how far I might (or might not) have gotten away from the actual line, and my time schedule, reaction of simply shrugging it off and get back in line behind the line skipper, breath heavily and look for people around me that have maybe witnessed the insult and just feel like a total victime of the universe, or totally confront the offender and get back into MY space of the line.

Fine restaurant scenario: Depending on what I wear and the temperature of the coffee, I might screetch or yelp for a second, then probably have an expression like a doused poodle and eventually start laughing, asking for s couple of napkins to clean myelf up. I might cry a little, depending on what I wear, but since I have worked as a waitress myself, I would not beat on the poor waiter, stuff happens.

Hospital waiting room: depending on how miserable I feel and again how much time I have to spend at the waiting room, I would not notice because I’m reading a book or magazine or get scared that it will take even longer now for me to get life-saving treatment (yes, I can be a total baby at times) ;-)

Traffic accidents: As long as they are not people covered in blood laying around, I’d pull over and call the emergency number to get help. If they are obviously people hurt, I’d get out and help; a first aid course is mandatory to get your license here in Germany.

From DownSpring (brevity is the soul of wit) Cyndi:

1. 1.
2. 3.
3. 1.
4. 2.
not sure if those truly are clark answers, but I’m going on personal experience : )

From Melanie (our friend from Down-over):

Oh this is fun!! Especially as I can see how it related to our chat on Sunday :)
Ok…here are my answers:

1) 1
2) 3
3) I have no problem asking reception what the hold up is or when it will be my turn. Esp. at the doctor who is ALWAYS late!
4) 1 <- At least I hope I’d do this. Never happened to me before.

Christine? (psst! you’re on!) :

Supermarket line: I would most certainly correct the situation. I may not ask if she knows line protocol, but would make sure she knew I knew she was cutting, then get back in my rightful place. (Unless she had screaming kids or was a really old woman, then I’d let her go.)

Fine restaurant: #1, I would holler in shock, but then would laugh it off. (Except this would never happen. I don’t drink coffee. :) )

Traffic accident: Something similar actually happened recently. I was on the interstate, driving home from Ohio with three kids in the van, when a truck towing a boat lost control when a tire on the boat trailer fell off. I immediately pulled over, jumped out (the passenger side) and ran back to see if he needed any help. The whole time I was thinking, “This probably isn’t the smartest thing I’ve ever done…” but I did it anyway.

I would totally get out and help.

Hope that helps!

* and you know who you are! hell, everyone knows who you are…you never fricken ever let them forget that you are a serious blogger…

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‘…the songs! where are the s.s..songs?’ the Wakefield Doctrine it’s Tuesday, it’s Twisted, but is it a MixTape?

August 20, 2013 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

There have been weeks when the songs, (in my head), build up in the days preceding Tuesday¹, the snatches of melody gather in my head, like overly affectionate parrots on a senile pirate’s shoulder. Today, it is Tuesday² and unfortunately this has not been one of those weeks. Now this is not to say that the ‘theme’, for today’s TMT is not valid or memorable or …suggestive. It is, they are, we could be…

I just can’t get the songs to sample in my head! My approach to Jen and Kristi’s totally fun bloghop is simply to find one song that seems to say: (“insert theme here”) then get out to ‘the youtube’ for a video. So far, not long after I find the first song, the rest show up. But today… but everything has the feeling of either déjà vu or déjà entendu.

But, the show must go on!³

Twisted MixTape 21

No Strings Attached

You know those musicians. It’s a seedy business. I mean, come on, Fleetwood Mac? Whom wasn’t with whom at some point. I think every single musician has written some song about an actual, or imagined, or desired night, or weekend or lifetime of a relationship with no strings attached. And so, without furtherness down this path that could cause trouble so I’ll just spin the tunes.

(Post-start Note: I feel that I can state, finally, that I appreciate how the force of habit can good for something more than: refusing to lose weight, finding old friends interesting and/or staying in a relationship with sexually proficient partners. Here are some songs. I hope you find them enjoyable. I trust that my Summer cold/writers block will have resolved itself by next Monday.)

Walk on the Wild Side – Lou Reed

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Crosstown Traffic – Jimi Hendrix

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKQK8I5ZqfI

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Hot Rod Lincoln – Commander Cody

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3R7l7nDuj1o

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Dallas – Johnny Winter

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I Get Off – Halestorm

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1) days with funny names like: Saturday and Friday and such

2) voted: Silliest Name for a day for 3 years running

3) mustn’t it?

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‘When is a Test not a Test?’ the Wakefield Doctrine (when it is a late Monday morning Post, of course!)

August 19, 2013 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

*** I apologise for the somewhat…un-polished tone to the Post…rushed this morning, frickin forgot to hit ‘Update’ for my last minute edits. This has been corrected. (unless you see something that doesn’t make sense, is mis-spell-suggested or otherwise could be better, then it’s not updated yet!)***

There has been an increasingly vocal call for the creation of a ‘test’ or ‘assessment’ that will allow Readers to quickly and easily determine their pre-dominant worldviews. You know, like a personality test. For the record, I understand the desire for such a test. However, (also) for the record, I do not understand the need for such a test. Having said that, and given that I am running out of time this morning, I will just say, “more on the subject later today’.

Following are 4 draft questions. Thanks go out to Considerer and Michelle and Cyndi and Christine and Kristi and Denise for their feedback, input, support and causal weekend wear habits. You will notice that one Question does not have any ‘Answers’… this is also Lizzi’s contribution of a Question (scenario) time to get involved! Jak, yo lets hear from you on these. Remember the point of providing multiple choice Answers is that we are writing the answers knowing which of the three will pick them.. and no, Kristi, I am not concerned.. how many people are going to read this Post today, never mind remember it when I add to it this November! lol

I invite your feedback, questions and Comments.

the Supermarket line

You’re in a Supermarket checkout aisle; there is one person ahead of you and two behind you in line. It’s late on a weekday afternoon, people are all getting their mid-week grocery shopping done. While you are focused on the magazine rack opposite the checkout counter ( One newspaper is stating, ‘Obama and Rhianna are siblings born on the Planet Osiris’), another shopper ‘cuts in line’ in front of you. You:

Look to see if anyone else in line noticed. Try to figure out why someone would be so rude and whether you should confront them or maybe tell the person behind you that the line will be delayed and aren’t people rude these days…
Tap the offending shopper on the shoulder, tell them (nicely) that there are people in line and ask them, do they understand the normal protocol of lines? You say this with a smile and a genuine sense of wanting to help the person understand how they should behave in a checkout line.
Establish eye contact and smile and shake your head in a ‘no, don’t do that’ gesture. (if the person is an attractive member of the opposite gender, make them stand immediately ahead of you in line).

In a fine restaurant

You’re out for dinner with your spouse and another couple. The restaurant is new and very popular, so popular that there is normally a 3 month wait for reservations. But you have a client who has connections and you were able to get in with very little delay, much to the impressed delight of your spouse and your friends. The dinner is all that you hoped it would be, outstanding cuisine and everything perfect and then as the server is pouring your coffee at desert they are jostled by a passing customer and spill coffee in your lap. You:

scream loudly (if female)…shout loudly (if not) look around the table and the nearby tables and decide whether to play it for laughs or simply the fun of making the server cry (if female) get mad and storm off (if not)
apologize to the server while trying to determine who might be to blame. Failing that, consider the possibility that either the server simply made a mistake or has a flawed personality
feel embarrassed…feel like people are staring…apologize to the nearest person …hate yourself for ruining the server’s evening (Optional)

Sitting in the waiting room of the urgent care center.

You’ve been there for 3 hours, there were two rows of waiting patients when you arrived, that was reduced to half the number (of waiting patients) but now you (still sitting there) detect a noticeable increase in the number of people coming into the waiting room. You:

(your suggest Answer here.)
(and here)
(hey, come on! does ‘Free highly collectible Tshirts mean anything to you people?!? one, more…the easy one too! give us the scottian Answer)

A traffic accident off the side of the road.

You’re alone in your car, driving home late at night and you notice an SUV in the woods by the side of the road, it’s emergency flashers are on, steam is billowing from under the hood, clearly it has run off the road. You immediately:

Pull over, get out of your car (hopefully remembering to put it in ‘Park’) and run towards the car shouting “Hey! Is everyone alright in there”
Slow down and watch your rearview mirror until you see someone else pulling over, then speed up so that you can get to where the cell phone reception is strongest so that you can call for back-up
Look to see if you recognize the vehicle, when you see that it has out-of-state plates, look at your watch then pull over and get out of your car, but stay where you are parked so that you can wave down the passing cars, ignore the screams for help and try to decide if the Good Samaritan laws apply to engineers

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‘… the Top Ten Ts of T for the 11th Week!’ the Wakefield Doctrine (well, if you must know, for a lot of different reasons!)

August 17, 2013 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

I am ‘happy’ to have another Post to contribute to the Ten Things of Thankful bloghop. Created by Considerer with the aid, support, encouragement and participation of Christine and them, this is not your typical bloghop. While there is nothing wrong with the ‘typical’ bloghops (I participate in the Twisted MixTape Tuesday run by Jen (My Skewed View) and Kristi (Finding Ninee) and Finish The Sentence Friday Janine ( ‘mommyholic) and Kate (‘bottle of Whine) and Stephanie (‘for Real) and Kristi.

What makes our TToT different is that it is a true ‘weekend blog hop’. By that I simply mean that it starts this morning and ends tomorrow night. If you want to participate you can do so at any time this weekend…and (here’s the difference) people come and read and Comment throughout the weekend, so if you have trouble today (I am a great example, I have to work today, so I’ll get this Post in and read who ever is around…later in the middle of the day, I’ll pop in and see whats going on…then the end of the day and so on). And… Comments? thats a little different here too! Jump in anywhere we totally believe in cross commenting. So… I think I have put this off as long as I can… my List of Ten Things: