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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

…running late.

Quality (in product) is a arguable second to continuity in creativity…  easier to work the pump handle when one is tired than it is to rest and then have to prime the damn thing. ya know?

Controversial Post on Sexuality and the Wakefield Doctrine Cancelled!! (‘what I would have given to have been a fly on the window for that meeting, whispers an unidentified roger’)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine ( the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

The Doctrine is zooming along the road to significance-hood, with an occasional horrifying veer off the road, through some bushes, straight across someone’s lawn (with one of the back-and-forth sprinklers on), barely missing the ‘breezeway’, into the neighbor’s backyard, through their clothes line and back on the road…all the while picking up speed!
Today’s Title refers to a recent project involving the active Readers here at the Doctrine. The Project was nothing less than an attempt to learn more by proposing an idea so outlandish that the only reasonable option was to try to re-phrase the thesis (that the Wakefield Doctrine can account for, in a useful and insightful manner, the way each of the three personality types manifest sexuality), in the hopes that a cogent theory would appear. Totally yeoman’s effort by all of the participants!

The thing of it is, the benefit and value of this exercise was not, as a clark might perceive it, totally in the final outcome, ‘the Answer’. We can appreciate, through the rogerian perspective, that the effort to engage in the process is what conveys the lasting value (of this project). This is, as all Readers will recognize, in keeping with the rogerian worldview, wherein the experience and sharing of a process, forms the basis of a lasting and more permanent tradition, the creation of (a) history, if you will.
And our scottian element (in this project) also demonstrated how the enthusiasm that is one of the defining characteristics of this worldview lent itself quite well to the ‘hell! who cares if this is grounded in fact, it just feels like fun…lets run with it!!!’
Finally, the clarklike members of the team were all, ‘err wait, before I commit to an answer, lets tre-phrase the question, and maybe I need to argue my case a little louder…” But, as those of you familiar with the Wakefield Doctrine will recognize, the creative drive of the clark had to be there to have a new, what do you want to know??! question to start with”.

As FOTD Mel used to say in his previous blog ( Spatula in the Wilderness), ‘onwards and upwards’.
The metaphorical car of the Wakefield Doctrine is safely back on the interstate… the scotts, all tuckered out, are asleep in the back seat, the rogers in the front passenger seat are comfortable re-folding the maps and organizing the glove compartment* and the clarks, feeling like progress has been made, drive on, their characteristic compressed-lips smile replaced with something more…open, confident ..like they were enjoying the feeling of the thought “hey this is not so bad!’

 

* betcha thats an archaic term

 

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

The best thing about the Wakefield Doctrine: the (additional) perspective it affords those of us with the time, inclination and predominant worldview to provide us with additional help with the day-to-day challenge of life, the world around us and the people who make it up.

Ridiculously simple, too. yo

Imagine, if you will, there are three characteristic relationships a person is capable of when dealing with ‘the everything outside of one’s head’:

  1. the Outsider(clarks) your place in the world, at least to the extent you are capable of assessing it, is lacking a certain… something. You know it’s not your ability to understand (intelligence), it doesn’t seem to be for lack of a level of physicality, relative to those around you… there’s just a gap. Everyone else appears to share a certain understanding of the world around them and the people who make it up, that you do not. You need to discover this and, for reasons uncertain, you need to do it without alerting the people, i.e. family and friends, co-workers and lovers, bosses and the clerk at the local Seven Eleven, you live among.
  2. the Predator (scotts) the world is like walking into a movie theatre two minutes after the start, say ‘Casino’ or… ‘Star Wars’. You are not disappointed at missing the title, you’re too busy enjoying the gunfire and explosions. Then you notice the other theatre goers… they’re laughing and/or jeering and while you’re tempted to pay attention to the screen and what on it is causing their actions and reactions, you’re totally engaged by the way the other members of the audience are acting. It’s fun, it’s exciting and, before you know it, you’re climbing over the seat-backs to sit next to the attractive couple throwing popcorn, at least you start to, when a movie fan goes running up the aisle, all kinds of upset and, after getting the attention of the first couple, (at least enough to wave and know they’ll recognize you later), you go racing up the aisle…
  3. the Herd Member(rogers) ‘What?’ you think with a shout, ‘is all the fuss about’? The instructions, the manual, the proper way of getting through life/ third-period Algebra/ a date where you’ve been set up with a really unattractive person is going badly, are right there. Why doesn’t everyone spend the time to read it? You’re increasingly aware of how most people never bothered to do their homework, but the Teacher seems determined to overlook that, which is not so bad a thing, except they, (the Teacher not the other kids in class), doesn’t seem to call on you every single time they ask everyone a question. It’s all their fault. You know that they, (the kids not the Teacher), appreciate the effort you’ve put into studying and will eventually acknowledge you.

With the perspective of the Wakefield Doctrine, when you go into the world today, you will be able to detect, in others: fear, desire and …fear. In yourself? That takes much more study and effort. But, what good is a personality theory, if it doesn’t let you say, “Oh honey! Come here and take a look at this personality theory. It’s so got you down to a ‘T’.

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Serially, the true goal of the application of the Wakefield Doctrine is to see the world as the other person is experiencing it. And, as we do that, to better appreciate how we relate ourselves to the world around us.

 

Hats and Understanding: the 3 personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine

For whatever reasons we are getting a lot of new Readers and Visitors in the last couple of weeks, so lets review the basic principles of the Wakefield Doctrine.

The Wakefield Doctrine, also known as the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers is a useful, unique and fun way to look at the behavior of the people in our lives. Everyone reading this has had at least one moment that they thought, “now why on earth would they go and act like that? I really thought I knew them better.”
Whether a spouse or a friend, a co-worker or a fellow student, there will always be someone in our lives whose behavior makes us wish we could ‘see inside their head’.   And as everyone reading this knows, there is a near endless supply of books and blogs and DVDs that promises to provide you with  ‘guides to understanding your spouse’, “do you really understand your lover?’ and ‘theories of personality and self-improvement’.

The Wakefield Doctrine is not quite any of those things. In fact, the Wakefield Doctrine is not like anything you have encountered before in your search for understanding others. And make no mistake about it, you have been searching for a way to better understand the people in your life, whether you are consciously aware of it or not.  This is true because everyone wants to be happy and even if you think that simply knowing:

  • what to say to that girl you are too shy to talk to, or
  • learning how to make your husband stop talking for 5 minutes or
  • trying to prepare yourself for a successful Job Interview

what you think/hope/know you need to learn is: how to understand another person.

Well, good news! The Wakefield Doctrine is a tool, a method, an approach…a theory that will let you ‘get inside the head of the other person’.  And the best part? It can be understood by almost everyone and can be effectively used (by almost everyone) real damn quick. All that it takes is a little flexible intelligence. What we mean by this is that while you do have to be pretty bright, the critical quality you need is to be willing to believe something   ‘just because’.
Ready?

The Wakefield Doctrine says that we all see the world in a certain context;  not just that you have likes and dislikes, or interests and attitudes, but that the world for you has (some) very basic rules.  Further, (the Wakefield Doctrine says) we all are born with the potential to see the world in one of three characteristic ways ( the context, we just mentioned). At an early age we (somehow) decide on one of three worldviews and we become clarks or scotts or rogers. These are the 3 personality types mentioned in the title.
But they are not really personality types though, are they?  (All the other personality theories) talk about interests and drives and attitudes, they give you tests to see what you are most like, what pattern you resemble, where you fit in their matrix.
The Doctrine is different. We say, ‘Hey! you are a clark or a scott or a roger. We know what the world looks like from inside your head. How about that!’

Sound like fun? Well, it is.  And it is useful.  You will know why the other person acts the way that they do and, as frickin huge bonus, you will know why it is you act the way that you do! If you want, you can learn to do things that were never even close to being possible, all because of the understanding that the Wakefield Doctrineoffers.

OK, ok enough! This was supposed to be a brief  Summer Post! But just to make your introduction to the Wakefield Doctrine fun and enjoyable, look over at the Table of Contents, there are Pages listed that talk about each of the three personality types, how to identify them, that sort of thing. And these Posts, they are sort of  ‘a conversation’ about the Doctrine; read them in order or at random, should not really matter.

Final Tip: you have all three ‘personality types’ within you. You are predominately one, but the other two are always there. So if you read this blog, at some point you will say to yourself, ‘What the hell? Sometimes I am a roger, but then there are times when I must be what they call a scott!

Final, final Tip: this theory of clarks, scotts and rogers is gender and culture neutral. (If you need that explained to you then you probably need to wait (for one of us) to write ‘the Wakefield Doctrine For Dummies’.

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sure, some musica to get a body moving quickly enough to make the transition at the down-end of the ramp, with a modicum of grace and elán

Free Doctrine Lesson!! See Mr. DiMeola? Just there at the bottom of this post, on the cover of his break-out album? On the basis of the photo, which of the three do you think Al is? (Hint: rhymes with codger)

lol (that wasn’t fair) (lol)

But the fact of the matter is that there is the potential for you, if you study and practice diligently enough, to be able to correctly assess the personality type of a person on the basis of a photo. (Hint 2: scotts is easiest, followed by clarks (lol (Doctrine joke)) then rogers.)

Bonus Hint to Hint 2: scotts: eyes, clarks posture and rogers lips

thing of it is, the Doctrine is not ‘the Answer’. It is a good Question. And…and! it is a language.

And, as with acquiring any new language, the secret is: practice. As we all know, if you practice any language sufficiently, you become conversant. Practice even more and you become fluent. The goal is to become fluent in the Doctrine so you don’t miss the action going on around you, what with having to check the little paperback book you bought at the gift shoppe, just past Customs.

 

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

The Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective on the world around us and the people who make it up.

The core premise is that we, all of us, are born with the potential to experience the world in one of three characteristic ways, as does the:

  • Outsider (clarks)
  • Predator (scotts)
  • Herd Member (rogers)

… interrupted by an unsuccessful word-verification search. Will continue tomorrow on the subject of the Wakefield Doctrine in which we clearly outline…

SPOILER ALERT!!! We will be saying that personality types in the context of the Doctrine is, in the simplest of terms, the best adaptation to reality as experienced by the individual. There are three characteristic relationships (above bullet points) everything else is in appreciating how we relate ourselves to the world around us and remembering that what the other person is experiencing might very well be different from what we see. So, in a sense, the value of the Doctrine lies in it’s capacity as a translator! (Also: we grow up and live in one and only one of three, though we might enjoy certain benefits of the innate capacity offered by ‘the other two’ worldviews.)

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“want to know the most dangerous, toxic, corrosive word used by a clark?” …the Wakefield Doctrine (‘publish or perish, yo’)

 

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sorry to off-load an earworm this early in the week, but one strategy, (horrifyingly characteristic of the twisted social mentality of too large a percentage of mankind), is to share it. misery, as we all know, is always down for a par-tay!

 

 

 

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

The single most essential to learning and using the Wakefield Doctrine?

What we used to call: intellectual flexibility.

Well the Reprint does a decent job esplaining the concept, so allow us to noodle on the keys here for a second or two.

nah, let’s just go with the reprint.

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‘of chi squares and video brunches’ the Wakefield Doctrine ‘…don’t worry, this will be over in 3.00687285223 minutes.’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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According to Research, the average number of words in a blog Post is 551.25. Today is the kind of day that has more things to do than time to do them. As all writers of blogs know, content is king. And new content is kinger. So I will Post this Post even though it is 6:41 am and I need to leave the house at 7:34 am.

This is what Julie DeNeen refers to as a niche blog, i.e. a specific subject, as opposed to a personal blog which is more related to the Writer’s life and times.

The subject is the Wakefield Doctrine and the purpose of the blog is twofold, a) to present the Wakefield Doctrine as (a tool) for understanding personality types, behavior (our own and that of the people in our lives) to as wide an audience as possible and 2) develop my ‘presentation skills’ written and verbal through these Posts, participation in blog hops and other activities and video chatting.

(damn! this is boring!! and I’ve used up 182 words of my 551.25   shit! (hell with the rules of rhetoric)

hey, have you ever felt on certain days that you were invisible?  no, really!  like you’re with people and it’s not just that they don’t speak to you, but you can see that they are not ‘recognizing’ that you are even there!  or… even though you have on your best outfit, heels ‘n makeup are perfect and you are with a group of people and you can’t buy a reaction…don’t you get this feeling that you really need to hurt something… or maybe you are work, you have an office to run, and there is that one employee who insists on working hard and is nice, no matter what you say… doesn’t it feel good to see the look on his or her face when you lash out and they get that expression of puzzled defensiveness?

If you can identify with any of these here imaginary people here, then the Wakefield Doctrine might, just might be something that will change your day today.  maybe.  if you have the …intellectual flexibility, the confidence in your own reality to try something that says,”‘hey! you want to see something really cool?”

so with the weekend approaching, if you won’t be surprised at finding yourself thinking: “I don’t think I want to go through all that effort to go out…it probably will be a waste of time” or “if that husband of mine would go back to being the guy he was when we were dating, then all this work wouldn’t be so…” or even “how many times do I have to talk to her, I explained why I didn’t find the idea of going there this weekend and spending all that time… I don’t understand what I need to do to get through to her and the kids.”

The Wakefield Doctrine is a unique, productive and fun way to understand the behavior of the people in our lives. Never again find yourself saying, I really thought I knew them better than that!

( 23 words to spare! …damn what should I say…   hey Cyndi! Denise!  Considerer! Michelle! Melanie!  Julie!  video brunch coming up… yeah Terrye! you too! (Hey Christine... Kristi  come on! it’ll be !)

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How did we not use this video below before this?

(yeah, probably have but: 2) the mind tends to, like a clothes dryer filter after a month of flannel shirts, sheets, towels and…. towels? Are there really flannel towels?!? damn…. gather words and such until nothing gets through or a) when the occasion arose we were in a more, ‘be sure not to use anything that a potential Reader might feel offended by…… but. but! damn! kinda funny video)

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

In yesterday’s post, we were starting to discuss how the three predominant worldviews, (‘personality types’), were component aspects of a real, but imaginary person. One who we all would do well to be more like. Why do we say that?

Because it’s true. Because we are a clark. (We will leave the support and/or proof of this assertion to the Reader. You have twenty-six hunnert posts, some written with a modicum of readability. In and among those posts you will find what you’re looking for. If, of course, you feel a need to: a) find and 2) look. Not trying to get too Lewis C. on y’all. But the Wakefield Doctrine is nothing if it’s not a Swiss Army model car, i.e. what you need it to be and whatever kind of project you would like it to be.

We’re fond of saying, ‘If you’re back here, reading, still not satisfied that it’s safe to ignore the intimation of value (or the hint of fun), being offered, relax. Read. Try it out’.

With the Wakefield Doctrine, as with: life preservers in a stormy-night sea, a flashlight in a branch-clutching forest or, a date who smiles and turns off the car’s overhead light, ya can’t really do this thing all that wrong. Follow your own impulses. The insights afforded by the applications of the principles of the Doctrine are gonna be there. You can’t break anything. All you need do is imagine how the world appears to a person who is working from the bias of:

  • the Outsider (clarks) curious to a fault, careful not to be discovered prematurely
  • the Predator (scotts) wanting nothing but, (if forced to state it objectively), to be free to follow their own impulses and live the moment
  • the Herd Member (rogers) knowing there’s a Right Way (to live) and a bunch of ways to mess-up, while resisting the urge to get others to realize it

So, that’s about enough of the ‘Lessons from/of the Wakefield Doctrine’.

(We’re serious about it always working. If it doesn’t (for you) then none of this will be enjoyable and beneficial and satisfying. That’s ok. We’ll be fine. No! Not to worry… our ride is a little late, we’ll just stay here. Thanks for joining us. Anytime your curiosity starts to: twitch, itch, rise… come on back.)

We were thinking about a reprint. But, nah, let’s save that for tomorrow.

What say, instead of words from the past, you think about what you’ve read and ask the question that’s been:

  1. nagging at you since you got to the part about, ‘One and only one predominant worldview’
  2. there from the start but, reluctantly accepting that everyone else seems to be comfortable, at least in terms of the comments down through the years, you thought would be…impolite to bring up
  3. waiting for a post that is direct and unambiguous and, for god’s sake, simple.

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