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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘yeah, no….you’re right, it’s best that I write a new post instead of a re-print’

December 21, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Well, I best get to typin

the Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective on the world we live in, the people we interact with, the life we hope to lead. the Wakefield Doctrine is a tool and it’s a toy, serving as a diversion when the world is acting out just a little too much and it’s very useful as a way to put the sometimes, baffling shenanigans of the people who make up our world in a perspective that helps us see that the world is, in a weird way, all about us. yeah, I know… the world does not revolve around me and the world was not put here today just to make my life: terrible/intriguing/puzzling/aggravating and the other ‘-ings’ that I find myself musing about in the course of the day today.

But it is. all about me…and (it’s) all about you.

Hey! sometimes people say, so tell us why you seem to have some people coming around (which implies that this Doctrine thing isn’t total gibberish) and yet you don’t have, like, tons of people coming around (which says something about either those people or about the Doctrine)… huh, what’s up with that??
Whats up with that is that the one quality that is shared by the people you see coming around here and leaving Comments and reporting back their own insights and perspective on the use and abuse of the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers, is that they have the ability to imagine. No, wait, I know that you have, hell, everyone has the ability to imagine, but the people around here have what we used to call, flexibility of intelligence. This term is an awkward way of saying that, they can imagine the world differently and then try acting appropriate to this difference. These people can play with the notion that reality is, to a certain extent personal and not universally consistent. Most importantly, the people who hang out at the Doctrine are people know that the world is a personal affair and that if they see something or someone acting in a way that makes no sense, they can (and often do) ask themselves, ‘what might it be that this person is experiencing that I do not?’

….back to the ‘the world revolves around me’ well, if it doesn’t revolve around you, who does it revolve around? Just messin with ya. I don’t mean to say anything too outrageous. Oh, have we mentioned the fact that, from the perspective of the Wakefield Doctrine, you, each and everyone of you reading this, you live in the perfect world? Yep!

out of time! But!! Cynthia is around this week… be sure to stop by and say ‘Hidy!’ down at ‘the ‘tude’ and we were thinking about a mid-week get together. stay tuned! it’ll be fun!

Chapter 10 of ‘Blogdominion‘ is on the newsstands! go read it! hurry before it turns into ‘War and Peace’ and you’ll think that it’ll take too much time to read the backstory. (If you feel that way, call on Friday or Saturday or write a Comment, and I’ll get you a personal Cliff Notes. no! serially!

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- (by the numbers)

December 19, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

1) I’m happy that I’ve found something new to enhance my gift-giving this year. It, (this thing), is so terribly clarklike, so I will refrain from saying any more until next week, when this ‘hop will have already, just, sorta already occurred. (ok, one hint: you know how last year I awarded myself a prize for ‘The Worst Christmas Wrapper-of-Presents-and-such’? this is even better….)

2) (previous entry deleted for being too ‘late-night-stupid’ sometimes I write things and, if I come back and read it, I realize that it was not nearly as clever or funny or insightful as I thought as the words were appearing on my computer at 11:35 pm… totally grateful for when that happens.)

3) vidchats small or large, many or few, these slices of the life in the 21st Century are very cool… last night it was zoe and val and Jean stopped by, talk of books and writing, the internet and the Gravity Challenge

4) Blogdominion… working on Chapter 10 (we’ll be hearing from Tom Fearing and Sister Margaret Ryan and, once again, Chicago is the center of the intrigue for our intrepid band of nearly-imaginary people..)

5) Una who, as I mentioned to zoe and val on the chat, has reached the stage in maturity where she has learned to bark quietly… sort of out of the corner of her mouth. Bella, and Ola before her, all had this pleasing ability.

6) Book of Secret Rules (aka Secret Book of Rules) which allows anything that (a) participant would like to try, on the condition that they are willing to convince a certain group of virgins, (the SGV), who stand vigil on the Book. Not a frivolous undertaking, and you know how virgins can be, half of them are impatiently annoyed at their status and the other half wonder what all the fuss is about (while knowing fully well, but persist in the delusion that we don’t know that about them)

7) The weather that continues in it’s moderate ways and the approaching solstice when Winter will end

8) Six Sentence Stories… for me, they are enjoyable exercises in my ongoing effort to learn to write better.

9)archives of old Posts… specifically this TToT from a Year Ago (I liked it ’cause it ties into Item 1…. which is a good thing, because re-reading this list upon waking this morning I was starting to get the ‘oh-sure-clark-how-very-clever-at-11-pm… but then I read through the Comments (of this Post from last year and I was all, ‘dude! where did you find the time! that was a lot of work) speaking of faux secrets of the universe and stunning, yet metaphorical insights into life, and such…. ayiiie (clarks are warned: ‘The Following may be too Disturbing to Read Please look away or, as a gift that may save your mental health below this Item is a youtube of an artifact from the late sixties, early 70s (1971 to be precise) I hesitate to think how many of you were not yet present on this planet… go and listen to an example of what might be seen as the roots of the ubiquitous rap/hip hop music of the current day… to…who knows. Have we interrupted the momentum of ‘what?! there’s something I shouldn’t know?? tell me!!’ see below at the sign of the *

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*my Saturday semi-epiphany is simply this: we all share the experience of time passing faster and faster as we grow up and older. When I was 5 years old, today, this very day might be the Saturday before Christmas and it, (this Saturday, not Christmas), would take forever to pass by….from the cereal (in plastic bowls, certainly long since banned from homes as unsafe as food storage, never mind serving bowls!) in front of the TV (Cherrios or Rice Crispies, more than likely unless my mother happened to be feeling especially exuberant the previous week, in which case it might be Frosted Flakes or even Sugar Smacks) and then, around 11:30 getting out of pajamas and into real clothes and spending the day…. sad to say, I can’t remember how I would pass the Saturday before Christmas but what I’ve getting at is that the day would take forever to go by for this 5 year old clark. Today, right at this moment, I’m looking at this clock (yes, pun implied) and wondering if I have enough time to finish this post and get some editing time in on Chapter 10 before I leave for work. If there is some, as yet un-discovered calculus for measuring subjective time (sort of like the age of dogs, relative to the human lifespan, but sideways), then the Saturday that took a week to pass will be over in 4 hours today. But… but what I’m getting at is suppose this subjective acceleration continues… we all joke to old(er) people, ‘oh my! for you the years must pass by like months’ suppose the rate of acceleration increases. The Science channel has been running several ‘different’ shows with black holes as the topic. Very interesting, how as an object is drawn in, it’s speed of falling increases to the outside observer and yet, the opposite is the case to the one falling in… for them time slows down. Suppose time (or the subjective experience of it) speeds up to infinity. Then our very last moments would last forever.

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Friday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘hey, it’s mess-with-people’s-heads-without-letting-on-thats-what-you’re-doing Day!’

December 18, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Remember! Accept no substitutes! The Facebook seems to be trending to postings of life-outlooks that seem suspiciously familiar…. in a half roger, half scottian way. Which is as it must be, it being Facebook, (Facebook motto: ‘remember the last day of high school and how you went around trying to get everyone else to write something in your year book and even the people who would make fun of you would write something, and it wasn’t always bad‘), well, just be on the look out, ya know?

Hey had something clever, (and a little cutting), to say about the way people think they understand the Doctrine and all the other kinds of self-improvement tools, but lets be more mature and positive than that, here’s a partial post partial reprint:

So a quick review of primary characteristics of clarks and scotts and rogers. (from 12/12/2013)

clarks: quiet, tend to mumble and are on the “brainy” side (not geeks, who tend to be rogers) but clarks are the ones who are living in their own heads. If you want to know about anything that normal people don’t have the time to learn about, clarks are the people you will go to… there is one in your life, close but you just haven’t noticed them. clarklike females will dress from the “androgyny fashion collection” mix and mix, especially shoes [special bonus 2015 insight: they treat the components of fashion as if it were their own private serial novel, “this is how I want you to see me now, but don’t be surprised if I change the premise entirely without warning,” gender identity for a female clark is as subject to their whims and decisions as everything else in a clark’s reality lol] … the clarklike males will be grey(with a splash of beige) and have virtually no eye contact when speaking to you, which if they do, will consist of strings of incomplete sentences. [clarks are the ones who demonstrate the quality of aggressive self-effacement…lol]
scotts: never stop moving, never stop talking, never fuckin stop…sports fans to a person…your scott is the one who introduces themselves whether they are entering a situation where they are the stranger or there is a stranger entering the setting where the scott already is…when you move to a new place, the neighbor who comes to “welcome you to the neighborhood” that’s your scott…always helpful as long as “completing the task” is not the priority…scottian females…always attractive/seductive/commanding/demanding depending on the context, scottian males…always in charge…the person best described as “not always right but never uncertain…”

rogers: the most social and accommodating person you know, the roger is, in fact, most likely your family doctor, your family lawyer, your family accountant, emphasis on family…the person who knows the family history and insists that you come to the family reunion that’s your roger, the one who knows how many forks should be on which side of the plate…there’s your rogerian female…want to have a long conversation?…talk to a roger, they make it so easy to talk about yourself…the rogerian male will be well dressed and if you want to know if ascots and large briarwood pipes are still worn and/or smoked you will find the roger when you see either of them and if you want to imagine settling down and raising a family with a beautifully decorated home and be a member in all the right clubs and organisations…then a rogerian female will be near by.

Hey! Don’t forget!! Friday the tomorrowth 7pm EST Wakefield VidChat

In other pre-weekend news:

Vidchat tonight 6:30 EST come join me and my delectable v-spouse, Lizzi R. as we affect to speak with every goloss in our bag of tricks… a little George and Martha (yeah, sure, I do mean the Washingtons) to Scully and Muldur to Jane and George to…. of course, Rob and Laura (someone be sure to remind me to ask writing questions early on, I have to leave by 8:30 at the very latest.)

And…. Chapter 10 Blogdominion is scheduled for release this weekend! …in which we find out: a little more about Sr Margaret Ryan’s life before showing up at the door of St Dominique’s with a single suitcase in her hand and why the decision to help her Mother Superior comes at such a (potentially) high cost and we drop in on Tom Fearing, who is really coming into his own (finally!) as he talks on the phone to his faux collaborator Ed Willoughby, and what news is Cherie Fearing so excited/fearful about telling her husband and… and, we’ll learn why the heck Maribeth Hartley doesn’t feel the need to wear clothes at home! All that and more in Chapter 10 (so yeah better get over to jukepop and get caught up on our story!)

(been listening to Joe Jackson of late. The guy is simply great. Here, listen)

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-the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘lets get this here week started!’

December 14, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

(lol… no! wait! I’m sure there’s a mature and reasonable explanation for today’s Post photo!)

…nah, nothing I can think of, other than it reminds me of the TAT (Thematic Apperception Test) The idea of picking a photo or image and letting that prompt me to write a Post goes way back to the beginning of this blog. Kinda fun, actually. And….and! in ways, not nearly as disturbing as when I write the Post first and then pick whatever image that jumps off the page at me. More often than you might think, some underlying theme of the Post manages to influence my fairly un-deliberate decision process. Actually what’s more disturbing is when a theme that I’m unaware of (at least consciously unaware of) becomes dominant because of the image.

hey! speaking of TAT and the Wakefield Doctrine, get a load of this:

“…(Henry A.) Morgan and (Christiana D) Murray decided on the final set of pictures, Series D, which remains in use today. Although she was given first authorship on the first published paper about the TAT in 1935, Morgan did not receive authorship credit on the final published instrument. Reportedly, her role in the creation of the TAT was primarily in the selection and editing of the images, but due to the primacy of the name on the original publication the majority of written inquiries about the TAT were addressed to her; since most of these letters included questions that she could not answer, she requested that her name be removed from future authorship. ” (from wikipedia)

Anyone out there care to tell us the predominant worldview of our Ms. Murray? lol yeah, I know! too easy!

Speaking of fun on a Monday morning, Chapter 9 of ‘Blogdominion‘ is out and live and ready for your readification! If there’s anyone out there who has not yet read this here serial here, I would totally owe you one, (I don’t know… maybe be a character in the story at some point? intrigue me), if you would read the story from Start to Finish and write a short review in the site (jukepop). If that’s more than you have the available time for, a comment about what you enjoy and what (if anything) you find confusing about the story would have me eternally in your debt.

the Wakefield Doctrine is described as a tool that can help us better understand the people in our lives. Well, it’s true. It can also help us understand ourselves better than we already do. Of course, this requires us to identify our own predominant worldview. How challenging this process is has everything to do with a person’s predominant worldview (and/or their secondary aspect), but I think, this early Monday morning, I’m going to be somewhat coy and not reveal the quick ‘n easy approach to determining your personality type.*

As to using the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine as you venture out into your world this Monday in December? Know the characteristics of the three worldviews by heart, observe the people you come into contact with and ask yourself this very simple question, “how does this person relate themselves to the world around them? as a(n) Outsider(clark) would…all mumbly, aggressively deferential and full of un-realistic hope? or as would a Predator(scott) fast-moving, fast reacting, hungry for life to the point of eating everything/anything, even that which makes them sick, because the appetite is point, life is for living, or (perhaps) this person relates themselves to the world around them as would a Herd Member(roger) so certain, so sure in the fact that the world makes sense, if only enough people are brought together and there is no greater value than to demonstrate the Right Way for all to access.

like that

*experienced Readers and DownSprings are now nodding and saying, ‘yeah, and those New Readers don’t realize that their own response to this holding back could answer the question, in and of itself’

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Six Sen T’en ceS tor y -the Wakefield Doctrine- (no, nothing significant, just playing with the title of the ‘hop)

December 10, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

It’s kinda late tonight, (Wednesday), to get my non-blank-page entry established, so that when I get up tomorrow, I won’t face an empty screen. I know that the word prompt this week is ‘Standard’ and so, I begin the process. I looked up (alternate) uses of the word ‘Standard’ and came across: “…standard, i.e. either a type of flag or an inflexible but mobile image,” this is a part of the definition of the ‘standard bearer’ and may, very well, be our starting point.

Not sure, but one thing I do know, I want to write a Six Sentence Story this week that is a little, less…. metaphysical, ya know?

The couple left the church, amid a downpour of un-cooked rice, waving over their shoulders at the well-wishers who would soon be celebrating with food and drink and music. Neither spoke as the limo pulled away from the curb, bound for their hotel suite, to usher in a life of two-made-one. She chattered incessantly, inanely and constantly, hearing her own words much as fish, swimming in schools, sense the change of position of the other fishes, she talked about the world that she felt changing, unable to accept that the change was within herself. He listened to her quietly, as he found, in her sounds and words, a distraction from his own internal dialogue, a quietly-shouted stream of drives and desires, forming conflicts and amplifying each new thought until the world seemed to become, a vast, silent and thoroughly judgmental audience.

They found their way to the bridal suite, each by following the other, each by distracting themselves, there remained only physical consummation, very much a standard with two bearers.

(yeah, I know, ‘nice try’ I can do without the sarcasm ….lol next week for sure!)