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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘…of tree stumps and self-improvement, instability is the key’.

May 5, 2018 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

‘A change both for the former tree and the earth that gave it meaning. One moves on, the other remains, subtly changed forever.’

Lets go for brevity

1) the Wakefield Doctrine as a tool for self-improving oneself. If for no other reason it is predicated on the notion that we, all of us, live in a reality that is personal. (Nothing weird or spacey, just personal… as in: my perspective does not create the entire world (the world in common, the world ‘out there’) it does, however, impart values, emphasis and, like the blue-and-red cardboard 3D glasses that we used to get back in the day, to see Thirteen Ghosts, (the original, not the recent version with Tony Shalhoub and the always excellent Matthew Lillard), you put them on and your see the ghosts. Of course the ghosts are there all along, the glasses allow you to see them. Perspective is a lot like cardboard 3D glasses. (cont’d Item 3).

2) Josie Two Shoes. Proprietoress of this here bloghop here. The doors are always open, the lights are on ever weekend, without fail. Thanks, J

3) So, you know how we suggest the best way to determine your own predominant worldview? What?! You don’t?! Welll You learn the descriptions of the three worldviews, the Outsider(clarks), the Predator(scotts) and the Herd Member(rogers) well enough to allow viewing the world through the perspective of each of the three. The view that is least blurry is your predominant worldview. The cool thing is, you have, with the aid of the Wakefield Doctrine, access to two additional pair of cardboard 3D glasses. Get them and you can see the world as ‘the other two’* experience. The amazing thing is that you will find you are able to cope with the worlds of the other two. Maybe not smoothly or automatically at first, but with practice? Definitely. I’ll refer you to one Lizzi Lewis and Cynthia Calhoun. They’ve experienced this. Of course, both are exceptional woman-people, so maybe they’re not the most impartial. But it’s true.

4) Una because she reminds me that today is the only real day there is.

Una surveys the surrounding woods. The broad expanse of flat, green(ish) lawn remains peaceful and un-trodden, little suspecting the presence of the balls, one blue and fiercely dense, the other large and disposed to identifying with the flat earth.
They both bide their time accepting the fact full self-actualization lies with the vigilant dog, who in turn delays her own enjoyment in deference to duty.

5) Phyllis  ya know?

6) The Six Sentence Story is a bloghop that we recommend. It’s a fun way to sharpen your wordage skills. No, seriously, not to make it sound like work or some kind of writing class or something. Well, kinda is, but the big difference is it’s a comfortable, totally supportive environment. I’m like almost always reading a Six by say, Pat or Val or Paul and sit back and think, ‘How did they manage to do that?!’ And then you try to imitate it for your own Six and ain’t nobody be in your face with ‘Copycat! Go get yer own words!’ lol Nope, not even once.

7) The Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) (inquire within) At least on Item is brevitic.

8) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE (Any new Reader or random visitor, like what you see? Want to participate? Have only one of two Grat Items? Fret no more! Send them in as a Comment and they’ll totally be placed here with full attribution.)

9) Sunday Supplement: ‘Instability and the Beast’

“The Beast begins to make his bid for freedom…”

“Employing a very risky vaulting maneuver, the Beast attains the edge of freedom…”

 

“A sleeping captor is no captor at all…”

“Embracing the power of instability, the Beast heads to the car in the enclosure. Every bit a God to the formerly earth-bound Beast, the wheeled vehicle awaits in the canvas cathedral.”

 

“To walk or to drive, that is the question. The top of the earth is both freedom and restriction to the Beast.””

10) SR 1.3

music goes here:

* example: I’m a clark. ‘the other two’ are scott and roger


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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine

April 29, 2018 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

‘A Garden-to-be and Namesake, both wait patiently.’

This is the bloghop that invites one and all to share the sources of gratitude in their lives. Being the virtual world, (in general), and the blogosphere, (in particular), the variety of experiences found on these pages are as remarkable as this ‘world’ in which they appear.

Hosted by Josie Two Shoes, the TToT, (from it’s proper name: Ten Things of Thankful), is blogging at it’s best. Eschewing the constraints of the common and ordinary ‘gratitude blog’, the TToT is the weekly repository of posts that are: written as well-ordered and engaging lists of the week’s past days; well-ordered lists with clever unifying themes as Mimi comes up with, each week; well-ordered lists utilizing photos that demonstrate the truism that (they) are worth, ‘thousand words’ Val having totally mastered the weaving of image and idea; lists that share the love of our non-human partners on this planet and lists that are as familiar (and enjoyable) as an impromptu conversation with a friend at a local coffee shop.

The TToT is all about allowing others a glimpse into one’s world, life, reality. Sure, we all have ‘real’ world friends, a relationship that, by tenure, entitles us a greater insight into their life. But for most of us, our ‘real’ worlds are populated with people about whom we know height, weight, occupation and family demographic. Nothing wrong with that. It is not uncommon among those who become friends here in the ‘sphere, that we find (and welcome) the opportunity to offer an insight into a part of our actual lives.

So there you have it. Your own very personal library where the shelves are full of tales of people living lives; the pages are full of words that cannot be made up, they can only be lived (and, perhaps, recorded) and they are ours to enjoy and learn from and know that there are others in the world who have done some the things we have done but better and others in the world who have failed at some of the things we have excelled at and others in the world who have felt as we have.

Not a bad way to spend a few hours, non?

1) Una and her garden (see photo above)

2) Phyllis (who pretty much has a hand in all the better images on these pages)

3) Irene Waters, over at the Six Sentence Story, Irene did a Six semi-based on the music of Led Zeppelin. This is surely one of the cooler manifestations of the socio-cultural benefits of this here blogosphere. Her comment (and post) prompted me to remember the ‘day the music got loud’. Hence the week’s music vid.

4) Speaking of other bloghops, you owe it to yourself to stop by the Six Sentence Story and try yer hand at short, short, really, quite short-story writing. (The Six Sentence Story ‘hop has a rather impressive pedigree.. Preceeding the current host, Denise, Zoe managed the weekly prompting of story writing. In the Department of Tiny Planets, none other than our own curatress, Josie Two Shoes cracked the word-whip prior to Z taking over. There are muy (or would that be muchacho?) talented writers participating each every week; Pat being in the forefront of writer-I-watch. (The ‘watch’ implies the part of the reading that ends with, ‘…how the heck did she do that?!!’ For me, the Six Sentence Story is as much about learning as about reading. Pat has that gift for creating a small, simple world with engaging characters doing interesting things. In six sentences. Can I get a ‘damn!’)

5) And a grat item on bloghops is not complete without mention of the FTSF crew. (Picture Pirates of the Caribbean ‘cept with a mostly female cast…. I’ll leave you to decide who plays Jack Sparrow: Kristi or Kenya or Tamara or Madra or Janine or Dana)

6) Kerry… not just ’cause she wields a mean keyboard over at ‘the ‘kerchief’... but because she does stuff in the ‘real’ world and has had things published and been on the radio and does a podcast… in the kid-parlence from a lifetime ago, Kerry’s a total three letter blogger.*

7) Speaking of powers of example. Kristi who does a blog that somehow manages to combine many of the cited attributes, including my favorite, ‘photos-through-windshields- of-moving-cars’. (In the interest of protecting reputations, Kristi hardly ever steers with her knee while rummaging through settings on the camera as a potential photo approaches at 70 mph…like some blogwriters I know ) And, in all seriousness, she is my role model in the photo description thing.

8) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE (there are, at least statistics suggest there are, at least 3.45 Readers who, while not regular participants in the TToT, nevertheless harbor a medium strong desire to “...join in that blog someday. But… alas, I have not Ten Items.”

Well… your wait is over. Send us your Grat Item in a Comment and I’ll totally place it here. capische?

9) Technology and the relationships it makes possible (sure, a little redundant, but only in a repetitious way)… Friend of the Doctrine Cynthia. A total power of example and a credit to her people. She’s been busier than usual (ayiiee!) so get yerself over to her blog Intuitive and Spiritual, you can thank us later.

10) SR 1.3  (this is the oft-employed Secret Rule 1.3, one of a number of Rules. One less frequently used SR is SR 89.3 (i) which states, in part: [t]hose who, finding that the comments on a given post have, (somehow), managed to anticipate one’s own remarkably clever bon mot, may (ref SR 3.21 ibid) reply to a comment in (another’s) post and not, by doing so, be prosecuted for ‘thread-jacking’ and may, in fact (SR 2.1;3) be applauded for ‘cranking up the volume on this thing'” op.cit Secret Book of Rules (aka Book of Secret Rules) Cambridge ed. 2014)

 

 

* ‘three-letter’ a reference found in high school culture (at least that culture as I experienced it) referring to those members of multiple winning sports teams… not just a letter sweater… but that, times three.

 


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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

April 23, 2018 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

No, not an effort to avoid the ‘real’ writing of the day! Just something Cynthia (or maybe it was Denise... possibly Pat) said in a comment yesterday.

Just that certain FOTD* have, in recent ‘conversations, mentioned how music, although subject to ‘the Everything Rule’**, nevertheless evidences a certain simpatico among members of the same personality types.***

So, here are two tunes for two very different moods likely to be encountered by the clarks today as we encounter, deal with and do what we gotta do with that world ‘out there’.

And, since all work and no play makes any lifeform dull, (yes, even clarks) we have this to play at whichever end of the day you choose.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iDpYBT0XyvA

 

 

*Friends of The Doctrine

** ‘the Everything Rule’ states: ‘everyone does everything, at one time or another’. What it means is: while each of the three worldviews have an inherent affinity for certain types of music, styles in fashion, professions and trades, cuisines and vacation milieu, no worldview has exclusive domain on anything.

Sure, scotts do well as police officers and surgeons and rogers produce examples of the epitome in the field of CPA, fashion co-ordinator and high school teachers and clarks…well, whatever it was that had the shortest line in gym full of registration tables….lol  What we’re saying is that a scott could be (and surely there are some) a CPA and a clark could be a frontman in a band and rogers could be rodeo stars. The interesting thing here is how, if we look closely, each of the three worldviews manifest their ‘thing’ in a manner reflective of their respective worldviews.

A scott as a policeman. Easy. They’re really good at being cops. The job (for them) entails being out among the general public, encouraged to drive fast, chase and capture people and, wherever possible make a lot of noise doing it. But a clark can be a cop as can a roger. Where do you think the Commissioner of police comes from? Or the cops turned successful authors?  lol

*** Our three personality types:

  1. clarks (the Outsider) poor posture, incredibly witty (when they can be heard),
  2. scotts (the Predator) active and move quickly, plan and reflect as little as possible
  3. rogers (the Herd Member) precise and exact, living by the rules, happy to share them

 

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- “…a tale of parts and the whole.”

April 14, 2018 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

‘Black dog on a milk chocolate couch with a nougat quilt’ (Jigsaw that, Phyllis)
(Landscape orientation)
Una is sitting in the middle of a leather upholstered loveseat that is in backed-up to the front picture window in our living room. The window itself is not in the photo. The effects (of the location) and the wear on the loveseat’s location are.
The top edge of the back of the couch are washed out by the light coming through the un-seen window. The cushions of backrest nearest the camera are indented and crushed out of shape, as if a weight had been placed on the top of cushions. Looks to be a weight of about fifty-four pounds, squeezing the top edge down to the middle of (the cushion).
Una is sitting facing the camera but looking to her left (the camera’s right). Given that the only thing to Una’s left is the crushed back cushion and the picture window, it would appear that she is thinking that there is something outside that requires barking at.
Una is sitting in the classic sphinx position (two front paws straight out in front of her, hind legs bent and folded in the back and her head aloft and alert. Her snout is point towards the camera and, as we mentioned, her eyes are looking to her side and we only just noticing, one of her ears is aimed in the direction of her eyes. No, seriously. Her right ear if a slightly-rounded black triangle, we can see just a hint of lighter colored hair in her inner ear. But her left ear is a wedge shape. The open part of her, at right angles to us appears a flat plane and the wedge is the concavity of her outer ear.
Her ears are independently aimable.
As implied in the title, the leather is a soft, milk chocolate and the comforter thats draped over the back is like, a light butterscotch. An anemic yellow, if there is such a color.

Given the subtitle that showed up this morning, experience has taught me to keep it moving. Hey! Josie, thanks for the invite and keepin the old clubhouse all ready and available. We all appreciate it.

Item (1) the Wakefield Doctrine. ’cause, well, sine qua, right?

Item (2) the virtual world. it’s not like the Doctrine wouldn’t exist without it. because there was a ‘theory of clarks, scotts and rogers‘ from, like 1984. it’s just that I get to meet so many more people ‘in here’ than I would ‘out there’1 And, with the numbers, the odds of meeting remarkably talented and caring people (not always qualities found in the same person) increases, exhibitiously.*

Item (3) grateful for the fact that those who come here more than once, on purpose, are those possessed of the kind of mind that enjoys the occasional ms from more far-flung realities.

Item (4) go back… three is/was a double

Item (5) the underlying theme today: self improving oneself and 15andmeowing. (Wait! This will make sen…. well, wait anyway). We all know that the Wakefield Doctrine is, among other things, a particularly useful tool for self-improvement. (Hint: while we all live in one and only one of the three characteristic worldviews, i.e. Outsider, Predator and Herd Member, we retain the potential of the other two. Thats not to say that I can pass for a roger just because I feel like it. That is to say that sometimes, under duress, I will look like a scott in how I react to a situation, or as if I were a roger. What all this means is that I already have within me the ‘improvements’ that I seek.)

(…ok, I’m getting to it.) So 15andmeowing, on one of her posts a while ago, had a link to one of those online jigsaw puzzle sites. Kinda fun. She mentioned her time (to complete the puzzle)  uh oh.… so, naturally2 I tried again. And, equally naturally, I found a site and started playing. I mentioned this to Phyllis (Item (7)) and she started to play as well. She immediately became better at the game than I was. I thought, not surprisingly, ‘What does the Doctrine say about this?’3

Anyway… the self-improvement part. I find that when I’m trying to assemble a jigsaw puzzle, whenever I just move pieces together, without thinking, I am very much quicker. The lesson? Don’t think, trust the self. aka, ‘get out of your own way’.**

Item (6) Una. My role model. To live and act in the here and now.

Item (7) Phyllis. A roger with a significant secondary clarklike aspect.

Item (8) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE! (Now, this is usually meant as an option for anyone not yet ready to post a full-on TToT but would like to get their electronic toes wet…. (eww some how creepier than I would have thought).

In any event we have a Commentation situation developing with our hostinae, Josie. Who hasn’t felt that sinking feeling after writing one damn fine comment and seeing some lame-ass computer generated message about how ‘You can’t do that’. Josie emailed her comment, which we are proud to present, uncut, unedited, in its entirety, in the our little BLOCKQUOTE Theatre.  (Be sure to get over to and make sure she knows we got her back, commentistically-speaking.)

Thanks, it is my pleasure to be able to provide a place where we can meet up and exchange our thoughts on gratitude each week, it must be one of the most positive web addresses that there is!

I love stopping by your blog, it is always an experience in another reality that challenges my mind to keep up and makes me smile.  I suspect that at times you are smiling as you write and annotate too!

This is such a beautiful photo of Una, perfect blend of colors for us to see her well, and you are right about dogs (and cats) teaching us to live in the now, not stressing about yesterday or tomorrow, accepting life as it comes, and accepting us with all our faults and flaws… that’s a big one, something people find much harder to do!

The virtual world is my favorite place to hang out, all my friends live there, and what an eclectic bunch it is!  I think that’s the fascination and satisfaction of the experience… meeting people in far-flung places and discovering that we are more alike than different. 

The Doctrine is a very cool thing that is indeed useful in putting things in perspective. I loved the commentary on Clarks and puzzles… right on target.  We really can’t just take anything at face value and the boring order of routine, so it takes us longer as we toy with possibilities.  Finding new apps to try and to share is one of the things I love about the Internet. We get to try new things and improve skills on old ones.  Who would have thought we’d one day be doing jigsaw puzzles online or creating pottery late at night as Zoe and I sometimes do with the pottery app she found.  It’s all fun, and it’s all a step toward self-improvement, as is the efforts we put into our writing.   I also play “Scrabble” much better now than I did when I first started on Words with Friends, it’s great for exercising my fuzzy brain.

As always, I smile when you refer to the infamous BOSR or SBOR in your posts. It takes me back to a time when SSS was quite a social hangout and the drive to come up with that tenth item was strong enough to inspire creative ways to accomplish same.  I think all facets of life should have BOSR’s that we can add to and imiplement as needed.  If there must be rules, why must they be inflexible?  Hence my determination that “my blog… my rules” and I shall use an ex word for the X post in the A-Z Challenge.

Thank you for faithfully sharing here each week and giving us things to think about, you are an original and I like that a lot!

Item (9) The Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) which states, in part, ‘…a participant, cognizant of and amendable to the imposition of the rules pertaining to presenting a List of Ten Things of Thankful, may [p]rovided the words ‘Thankful’ (substitutions of grat, gratitude or ‘landscape orientation’ permitted) in said list, can use pretty much anything that wanders into their awareness, like a child into their parent’s bedroom at midnight…op cit, ibis. (ed. 2018)’

Item (10) Secret Rule 1.3

 

1) hey! think you might be a clark but not sure? (and really crossin your fingers…please come out scott or…roger) try this: you wake up in the morning and the world takes shape around you and you think, ‘ok we can do this thing… lets get out there and deal with the world’ good morning, clark!

2)  not to say that only those of us from Y Chromia see the mention of a completion time as red a flag. it’s just that part of my genetic code (‘AGCTGGCAT’, to be precise) lol says ‘You better do better than that!’

3) rogers will always be better at jigsaw puzzles than clarks (and scotts) because the reality that they (rogers) exist in is a reality in which everything is related. If everything is already related then all they need to do (playing a jigsaw) is remember how the pieces go today. A clark, on the other hand, sees that parts all spread out on the screen and tries to use the parts to create a picture.

*  my modest attempt at a rogerian expression

** kinda advice for clarks, as opposed to rogers and scotts, ya know?


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Finish the Sentence Friday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘I’ll finish it, if and when I decide’

April 13, 2018 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

“You’re all still here…*”

Lets get to the instructions from our two favorite ladies-in-waiting, Kristi and Kenya.

Hey all! This week, we’re doing a listicle of “10 things I hate more than anything.” Feel free to make your list about things you don’t like, things you wish you could change… once I saw it again, I texted Kenya saying “uhhh, what were we thinking?” Her advice “You have to be kind of cranky.”
The linkup will go live Thursday night at 10pm eastern time and will stay open through late Sunday night.
Link up with Kenya here: https://www.kenyagjohnson.com
or me (Kristi) here: http://www.findingninee.com/

So hope to see you there!

Ayiiee.

I have long been of the opinion that Finish the Sentence Friday is the most subversive of the bloghops. (As a clark) I am, of course, genetically-predisposed to play my cards close to the vest. Not that there is anything invasive or prying in Finish the Sentence Friday prompts. They’re just words (or list topics or incomplete sentences) that, like a certain candy-and-cake encrusted house in the forest, wait for those of us who spend an inordinate amount of time in the virtual forest at the end of each week.

Ten Things I hate more than anything….   ten things….   hate….

Wait, no, I’m good. Just need to organize my thoughts (no, I don’t think consolation in the form of the percentage of writers who find themselves unable to write is really overly helpful) I. Am. Not. Embarrassed. Just give me a second.  One…. right here. Ok 1) … (They say going in the opposite direction is the best way to proceed when self-blocking)….

-1 the Wakefield Doctrine (’cause not only does it allow you to know more about the people in your life than they know about themselves, it will actually allow you to predict future behavior)

-2 the blogosphere (because thats where the friends who enjoy the contemporary me hang out)

-3   …. no, this reverse shtick is never gonna last through Ten

Wait, stop with the clever, reverse/negative numbering ‘list’ thats so like pretending-to-almost-dance-while-standing-behind-your-friends-at-your-first-high-school-sock-hop, clark.

I hate to admit it, but either I don’t have anything that I really hate or I have succeeded in putting the negatives far-enough-under-the-bed as to no longer be distinguishable from the old sneakers and box of memorabilia or… I’ve broken my outrage. (I suspect that last thing. Not so much that I no longer feel outrage, god knows there’s no shortage of things to feel outrage at, it’s just that I’ve made a conscious effort to put the real me (if there is such a thing) out of reach of the general world so that I have as much energy for the real things in my life.)

…or I’ve gotten too old and jaded to work up a decent outrage.

Now that would piss me off.

 

 

 

 

 

* borrowed from one of my favorite songs, ‘Hollow Moon’**

**reproduced below for your listening pleasure, provided (and this is the all-too-considerate-warning) that you’re good with adult language and/or swear words. Only one, but it’s a good one.

 

 

 

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