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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

April 28, 2019 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

‘Pond in mid-Spring’
(Landscape orientation)
Our pond as Una would see it from her vantage point in photo #1 below. The water is dark, it’s blueness on loan from a sunny sky, and even then, showing only as globs of light in a shadow-dark surface.
The pond extends from almost the upper left corner and runs down across to the lower righthand corner. (Picture the right side of the top half of an old-fashioned hourglass).
Standing along the dry land are the winter-bare trees. The thinner trunks are closest to the water, clearly the younger members of the woods have not lost the sense of fun and/or adventure.

This is the Ten Things of Thankful bloghop.

Founded by Lizzi Lewis (no relation to CS Lewis, at least none that we can actually prove), the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) is a once-a-week sharing of writings, musings, photos and all sorts of reflections upon, observations and expressions of the writer’s experience of people, places and things that cause, elicit and otherwise incite a state of being grateful.*

And…and! being a bloghop means that each post is a assorted variety (or would that better be, a ‘varied assortment’?) of views, comments, adventures and insights offered by a group of skilled bloggers …. and us here at the Wakefield Doctrine (…bar rump bump) (lol)

Organizing the multi-circumstial** gathering is our host, Kristi. Beside being an outstanding photographererer… Kristi has that all-too rare gift of keeping things organized without letting the air out of the carefree balloon. (Tougher than it looks, yo).

And so, our contribution to this week’s TToT

1) Una

2) Phyllis While spousal units are frequently seen in a TToT (the Wakefield Doctrine is surely no exception), there are times when the qualities (they) manifest becomes a challenge to describe in writing. This week I’ll simply say, ‘Phyllis shares my appreciation of the positive message in this week’s video.’

3) Gardening 2019 This shall serve as our ‘Before’

4) Beta Reading. I’ve reach the point in my writing of ‘Almira’ where its time to let people read the story in its entirety. Let me know in comments if you’d be interested in reading it and I’ll follow-up by email about the format that is best suited to your technology. No cost or requirement to respond after reading, though any feedback will be appreciated. It should be fun. Seeing how often I’ve done excerpts on these pages, a good number of people know who Almira Gulch and Hunk Dietrich and Edward Fenton are, not to mention Dorothy Gale. So let me know and I’ll wrestle the manuscript into a form that will make it easy to read.

5) Favorite old ‘oTs This from a series in one TToT from way, long ago (look at the condition of the hat on the dashboard)

6) Another vid from that TToT

7) Work and the things I get to do. (Mostly, in the words of Jules Winfield…)

8) Kerry. I’m not overly adept at following people in the social media. Truth be told, in the face of the multiple virtual venues like Instagram and Twitter and other places, I’m about as varied as Ward Cleaver’s selection of business suits. I do follow Kerry on ‘the Facebook’ and from what I gather, she’s off to another conference somewhere in Canada this weekend (which for me brings up visuals of: Winter Olympics, Sgt. Preston, Snidely Whiplash and that cool hotel in Quebec (or maybe it’s Toronto). I watch the things she does as a writer and advocate charging into the world and, I’m like, “Damn!’ How cool/daring/impressive is she?”
Stop by her site and check out her podcast, ‘Ketchup on Pancakes‘.

9) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE (Just in case you’re new to the TToT and, although you know you’ll enjoy participating, maybe you want to wait and watch a while. Send in a Grat Item and I’ll totally post it here. You know, like getting invited to sit in for a one song at the local club.

10) Secret Rule 1.3 (Reference the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)

music vid

(now this is a song that offers a glint of light at the base of door that many people will walk past, eyes focused on the map they inherited from family and friends which does not indicate anything of interest. the story (that I choose to believe) is that it was written by Brian May about his dog. and following the thought expressed in the lyrics, rather than that in the chorus, results in something quite positive and uplifting. imo, of course

* …or not grateful, such is the broadness of the over-arching tent of this here ‘hop here, is there is a place for the broken shoelace, studied-like-all-night-get-a-‘C’, find out you have to work on the weekend and all the other things that happen in real life, here at the TToT. They are referred to hypo-grats and require a special level of attention on the part of the writer, the standards for inclusion (in a TToT) provided courtesy of the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)

** not a ‘real’ word. chances are, though, if you’re still reading, you get the idea

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “… of Mondegreen(s), reality and clarks”

March 19, 2019 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Live! From the waiting room of a dentist office. George Michael is singing an example of ‘the writer not realizing the true power of his own work*.

Which surely leads us to the wonderful word/concept ‘Mondegreen’

(…back in real time. A little more to tell you about)

This post is so for clarks (and scotts and rogers with significant secondary clarklike aspects).

It wasn’t ‘Careless Whisper’ that made me appreciate how interesting being a clark can sometimes be. It was Electric Light Orchestra’s ‘Don’t Bring Me Down’.

So I’m sitting there waiting for my hygienist (who is a clark) to call for me, so I did what any (of us would do) I looked things up. As it was, ‘Don’t Bring Me Down’ played from the ceiling. Naturally I thought, ‘so who is Bruce?’ And went to wikipedia (the best thing about the internet, from a clark’s perspective) and looked it up. I cite:

A common mondegreen in the song is the perception that, following the title line, Lynne shouts “Bruce!”. In the liner notes of the ELO compilation Flashback and elsewhere, Lynne has explained that he is singing a made-up word, “Grooss,” which some have suggested sounds like the Swiss/German expression “Gruß.” After the song’s release, so many people had misinterpreted the word as “Bruce” that Lynne actually began to sing the word as “Bruce” for fun at live shows”

OK I accept that.

Now this is where the fun we have (as clarks) begins…. mondegreen?! What might that be… all blue in linkage.

A mondegreen /ˈmɒndɪɡriːn/ is a mishearing or misinterpretation of a phrase as a result of near-homophony, in a way that gives it a new meaning. Mondegreens are most often created by a person listening to a poem or a song; the listener, being unable to clearly hear a lyric, substitutes words that sound similar and make some kind of sense.^[1]^[2] American writer Sylvia Wright coined the term in 1954, writing about how as a girl she had misheard the lyric “…and laid him on the green” in a Scottish ballad as, “…and Lady Mondegreen”

of course!

I smiled (to myself). This is part of the better part of the world of the Outsider.

The fun and genuine pleasure in knowing the Wakefield Doctrine began when I heard my name called, ‘Clark?’

Given that we spend a few minutes twice a year together, naturally I had long since told my hygienist about the Wakefield Doctrine. And, equally naturally, by virtue of being a clark, she immediately ‘got it’.

So as I sat back in the chair this morning she said, “So whats new?”

I smiled the smile of one clark to another.

“So you know that ELO song… I forget the name, its the one where they say ‘Bruce’?”

She nodded “I know the one you mean.”

“Well I looked it up and there’s this thing called a mondegreen and it’s a term for the times we hear one word and substitute it with another thats different but makes sense in a weird way, ya know?”

She smiled and nodded in acknowledgement and appreciation for the concept.

“You realize, of course, the implications of this for how we deal with reality, right?”

She laughed out loud and proceeded to tell me what it was I was thinking.

Thats the fun of the Wakefield Doctrine.

* ‘Careless Whisper’ I would argue that Seether’s cover of the song is one of those rare ‘better than original’

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

March 4, 2019 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Reprint Day!

But before we do, a brief word about the Wakefield Doctrine.

We mean it when we say, ‘all people are born possessed of the potential and capacity to experience the world as that of the of Outsider(clark), Predator(scott) or Herd Member(roger). We all, at quite an early age, settle into one (and only one) of these three and begin practice our style of relating ourselves to the world around us.’

The thing is, there is no ‘good’ personality type or ‘bad’ personality type. There isn’t even a ‘one worldview is superior to the other two worldviews’. Since we all start with all three (as potential) the only conclusion is that, if there were to be a goal of development, it would be to enhance the positive qualities of each and minimize the negative qualities. You know, a clark who doesn’t hide, a scott who isn’t always hungry or a roger who is naturally kind and selfless.

So, in keeping with the eternal duty to maintain a balanced perspective, this post about our herdly-friends, the rogers.

(from April 2015)

clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel

That tells you most of what you need to know to get started:

learning the Wakefield Doctrine

practicing the Wakefield Doctrine

(and, if you’re a clark,) benefitting from the use of the Wakefield Doctrine

so, while there’s a whole page here that will explain why it is that rogers behave the way that they do and what the world looks like from their perspective, lets just employ the ever-popular blogging device, ie.e “5 things you didn’t know about rogers and 3 things that you’d rather we didn’t feel the need to mention!”

rogers live in a perfect world

(if you’re a clark) rogers will see you before you see them and will have already made their decision

rogers believe that they hate the way that they behave with other people, (but when you hear them apologize profusely, that is not one of those times)

the person who introduces you to the day-to-day routine at the new job and uses the phrase ‘…we call this the bible’ ? yeah they’re the roger you need to keep your eye on

and

clarks are fond of rogers (but love scotts), scotts are fond of clarks (but love rogers) and rogers have an irresistible disdain for anyone who does not treat them badly on first encounter

if you’re a clark, there is a way to deal with rogers when they, (the rogers) are being difficult but, although you, (the clark) are capable of achieving the necessary state of mind, you cannot maintain it past the situation that requires it (if you could, you’d be a scott)

all rogers know that the world makes sense and is, at its essence, ‘good and sufficient’ and, (all rogers), seek to practice the perfect way to do something/anything/all things and, they will try to achieve this by reading history (which can be the books of a library or the fables of earlier people, the tradition of a family or the stories one person may pass on that describes those who came before)… the goal is to ….exemplify the (kind of/style of/belief in) behavior of those who history (to their reading) has conveyed honor upon.

…that plus! if we didn’t have rogers you would not want to have to fly from Newark to Biloxi in a plane designed and built by a scott!

jet airliners designed by scotts: very fast with at least 5 or 6 engines (not necessarily required to get off the ground, but make them louder than frickin anything)

a part of the cabin has a basketball net/hockey/or batters box

the stewards would have to wear bathing suits… male or female and they would carry those little air horn things (can of compressed air) to warn the unruly passengers or just in case they get bored

the flight deck would have windows that open, so the pilot could yell at passing jets

0r a clark:

instead of normal seats, there would be couches with pillows and quilts (that would have a disturbing tendency to slide around when the plane has to bank for final approach)

the stewardesses would be scotts and stewards would be rogers

there would be a bathroom-to-passenger ratio of nothing less than 1:2

…ok, enough silliness.

without rogers we would not have:

enduring and stable cultures

CPA level accounting

a judicial system

ships in bottles

civil war re-enacting

Carl Rogers

Fess Parker (aka Davy Crockett)

civil wars

most medical procedures (not involving surgery… that’s from you know who)

Aesop’s Fables

Mrs. O’Leary

Ken Burns

Shaker furniture

Bible/ Torah/ Quran/the Vedas/ Book of Mormon

Fabergé egg(s)

effective oncology

so if you are a roger, let me say, ‘Hey!! good work. Love the Sistine Chapel and the Spanish Inquisition. Tell us about how it used to be!’

…and, apropos of nothing (we trust), other than waking up with the song in my head:

…and to whoever said, “Dude, this is way more likely to resonant with a post about scotts.”? lol. send in your name and I promise a free DocTee the next time a do a run

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

March 2, 2019 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

A study in black, white and serenity.
Una sits on freshly fallen snow and lives her role in life, i.e. guardian and protector of the pack.
Her back is to the camera and so presents a hypo-hued outline of her primary characteristics: triangular ears to detect sound and, a furry apostrophe, bushy tail to signal all is well.

The first weekend of March.

Hell, that’s an Item in and of itself! (No, I’m serious! Go ahead, scroll down, past Una and Phyllis and a couple of something somethings…. Item 7 See? Told ya I’d do it.)

Where were we?

TToT… of course. Started by LL, hosted by Wendy for a few years and now in Kristi’s capable hands. Share and/or cite examples of people, places and things that have elicited a feeling of gratitude. Anything.

1) Una (The photo above is very much Una. She enjoys the simple things. Given the opportunity, she will sit and consider the surrounding woods. We have a backyard, but it is fenced from tree-to-tree, the better to discourage un-invited lifeforms. Although the deer jump the fence for fun and the rabbits, well they have two or three exits (gaps in the fencing) that when they’re in a grey hound racing mood, will head towards. (The photo below? At the gate where the fence intersects Ola’s grave. Thats the Finish Line.) It’s a good workout for Una and an affirmation of the primacy of life and staying in shape for the rabbit.

2) Phyllis Member in good-standing of the Briar Patch Guild. (‘course one has to wonder how difficult it was, at first, growing up in the briar patch)

3) the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) The BoSR/SBoR is a tool for reducing stress and enhancing the fun in writing blog posts. Check for yourself! (SR 3.25 sub chap. 4: “…[I]f you don’t want to get all locked up by writing properly, you don’t have to…(ibid. op.cit.)

4) Sunday Supplement

5) WIP ‘Almira’ excerpt of the Week. (Dr. Morgan is chief of medicine at St. Mary’s which serves the citizens of McPherson County, Kansas. It is located in Circe. Nurse Claire Griswold… well, she is someone…special):

“And, as our last stop, oh my, I mean the last place we will visit on today’s rounds, Ward C.”

Dr Thaddeus Morgan’s expression betrayed his enjoyment of the unintended witticism. He pushed through the double doors and was well into the Ward before he realizing he was alone. The charity ward appeared empty, ‘Of people’, he corrected himself, ‘these patients in the beds were… well, they were patients, not people’. The intern and the new nurse, who had been accompanying him on morning rounds, were nowhere to be seen.

“Well, I suppose they stopped to write notes of my diagnosis of terminal happiness for that boy in the children’s ward. Ward C has little to teach us. By the end of August there won’t be a patient left…”

“May I help you?”

Dr. Thaddeus Morgan was prone to spontaneous outbursts of emotion when surprised. His reaction at this moment, was anything but characteristic. He stood and stared at the tall blond nurse in the aisle that ran down the center of the ward. Her look in return was one of peaceful strength. Surprised that the words ‘peaceful strength’ would occur to him, he remained silent.

“I said, May I help you?“

There was something familiar about this woman. This observation had the effect of restoring the rightness of the world for Dr. Morgan. St. Mary’s was his, as he was the Chief of Medical Services and this woman, by her uniform, was a nurse.

“What is your name, young lady? Who is your Supervi..?”

His authority-establishing question hung in the air, as the intended object of his exertion of will was no longer standing in front of him. She was standing at the far end of the aisle. ‘And that’, he thought, ‘is not possible’.

Thaddeus’s first impulse was to demand she come back and resume her position in front of him. After all, he was the medical director, she surely would obey. Instead, while being certain to keep the tall woman in the center of his line of sight, he walked to her. He thought he heard a noise from the hallway outside Ward C, but for reasons he could not express, refused to take his eyes off the nurse as he covered the twenty feet to where she waited. ‘She’s waiting for me’.

He thought there was something important that he was forgetting, but it kept escaping his mind. “Sorry, I’m becoming forgetful in my old age. I neglected to introduce myself. I’m Doctor Morgan. And you are?”

Thad Morgan decided he liked this woman. She must be a new hire, although that made little sense, since he interviewed everyone hired at St Mary’s. Everyone. From the janitor to the newest surgeon, they all met with the Medical Director before being hired. And seeing this woman up close, he was certain he’d never met her. And yet, there was something familiar about her.

“I’m Nurse Claire Griswold. Now that we’re properly introduced, may I ask, again, what is it you want here?”

Thad smiled. Her disregard for status or rank was refreshing. He felt a responsibility to assert his authority. Even if he didn’t know this nurse, he was her superior and she would answer his question, “I was taking the intern and the newest nurse on rounds, for an initial orientation. I thought they were following me. It would appear they’ve lost their way; Not so surprising, here in the old wing.”

It dawned on Thad Morgan, with something of a shock, that he was babbling like a sixth-grade student trying to delay having to answer a question to which he should have had the answer. This Nurse Griswold was regarding him with a look that, had it been any other circumstance, would have caused him to stumbled over his words.

Her eyes were of a pale blue that brought to mind the wrapping paper of a present he received for his fifth birthday. It was a toy medical bag, complete with a stethoscope and a Diploma with his name on it. He remembered how his mother laughed when he put on the stethoscope and try to listen to heartbeats, of anyone nearby. His dog, Scout, was his most frequent patient.

“Do you enjoy being a physician?” Nurse Griswold asked, to the medical director’s unconscious relief, she remained standing where she was, when he last looked.

“Why I should certainly say so! I’m the Head of Medical Services! I’m in charge of all medicine here at St Mary’s.” Dr. Thaddeus Morgan spoke with a pride that made some men leaders and with a conviction that made others charismatic preachers.

“That’s not quite what I asked you, Thad.”

She was standing closer to him than he’d realized. Her eyes seemed to require all of his attention and though he’d noted that she was tall, he couldn’t understand how he felt like he was looking up into her eyes.

“Well, yes, I realize that. And no, you’re correct, I do enjoy my work…”

At that moment, there was a wobbling-whirling sound of gum-rubber wheels pushing through the swinging doors of Ward C. Ahead of the cart that contained mid-morning medications, was a young man and a young woman. Both looked somewhat sheepish.

“Dr. Morgan! We looked all over for you!” Sally Rowe spoke with relief in her voice. The young man beside her let her offer the explanations for their absence. Even as an intern, he recognized that sometimes it was best to allow the nurse to take responsibility. In case things did not work out as planned.

Dr Thaddeus Morgan caught himself turning back to Nurse Griswold, but, smiling, he said, “Well, let’s not dilly dally. The duty to heal waits for no one!”

As he led the intern and the new nurse out into the hall, he allowed himself one quick glance around the ward. It was as empty of people not lying in bed as he’d thought it would be.

6) Technology well…’cause this whole blogging thing? (Imagine the olden days of writing longhand. Though there are some rogers who insist they are much more creative doing it that way. Well, as creative as rogers can be*.)

7)…didn’t believe me huh?

Thomas: “No. Way.”
Jesus: “Way”
Johnny Depp-looking guy: “Dude!”

8) * The Wakefield Doctrine has something called, ‘The Everything Rule’. It states, rather succinctly, that ‘everyone does everything at one time or another’. What it means is that although there are three characteristic worldviews, i.e. personal realities, all three are full of the same things. The Doctrine holds that, while a thing, say ‘creativity’ is present in all three personality types, how it manifests differs according to the worldview. Creativity manifests in the world of the Herd Members (rogers) as novel and attractive re-assembling of parts and components. clarks (Outsiders), on the other hand, experience creativity as getting something from somewhere that has never before existed.

9) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE (For anyone out there on the fence. Like the idea of a grat ‘hop. Have almost enough for a post. Send it in and I’ll post it right here.)

10) Secret Rule 1.3

video

getting a little heavier this weekend…song stuck in my head and it is the epitome of modern giant-guitar music (c. ’80s)

Inlinkz Link Party

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘a quick little re-print post and then on with the day’

February 19, 2019 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

It has long been understood that each day of the week (as divided by our Greco-Roman-Franco-American culture*) possesses a certain…Simpatía with each of the three worldviews.

Part of the charm, nay, the fun in employing our little personality theory as (an) additional perspective on the world around us is how the Doctrine is everywhere! No, seriously. Everywhere.

The magic is in how the ‘qualities’ of each of the three predominant worldviews are gathered. It is not uncommon, when first seeing the world through the lens afforded by the Doctrine, to be frightened and/or amused by the consistency of the qualities being demonstrated by a person. You learn the nature of the relationship of each of the three personality types to the world around them and you happen upon a:

clark (Outsider) if at work, you’ll think you’re seeing them for the first time. The occasion will be either something crazy funny they say that no one else seemed to hear or you spot them reacting to something going on in the immediate environment and it’s the perfect ‘aside’. You’re pretty sure they must be new, otherwise you’d have noticed them before, given how… oddly they’re dressed
scott (Predator) if at work, you’ll sit back and watch the show. this guy/that woman is, like, ‘how do they even get away with that… but in a fun way. Unless you’re the one they focus on (“Is there someone in the audience who is thinking of…. lets get them up on the stage, come on, folks a great big hand for!!!”) For the eightieth time you wonder: a) how do they keep that up and 2) their spouse is either a saint or the devil
roger (Herd Member) if at work… you’re in luck. Most of the people around you are rogers. But that’s not the lucky part. They surely are easy-going and friendly and so intense when you listen to them…. but that’s not the lucky part. You like how they confide in you and pulling you off to the side or closing the door makes it all the more special… but that’s not the lucky part. The business of their relationship to the world around them is… they are the center of their own Herd. And if you draw anyone away from them, they will lash out. And this is the lucky part. You know, (if you’ve done your Doctrine homework), when that happens, its them, not you.**

So what about the reprint?

(From 2012 ‘Tuesday Morning: how the 3 personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine respond to this ‘mildest of Weekdays”)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine ( three characteristic worldviews determine the 3 personality types: clarks, scotts and rogers )

Almost too easy. But we must be considerate of the New Reader! No telling how many people have arrived here at the Wakefield Doctrine this very Tuesday morning, driven by an insatiable curiosity, a little free-time at their computer at work/school or simply an annoying friend/co-worker (“...yeah, no! just go there! don’t try to read the About page, just read this Post! it’s about these people and these worldview things and…the thing of it is they are so right and I can’t stop seeing these scotts and clark and rogers…rogers!! do you have any idea how disturbing it is now whenever I drive past a bunch of guys riding bikes, wearing the kind of spandex that made Pat Benatar such a star… and just go there and let me know when you understand how any of this is going to be useful!“)

We all know that Tuesday is the day of the week that is most clarklike, right? The clue was right there in the Title, right? And by the associating of the word ‘mild’, you know have a spot-on assessment of the clarklike personality type, right?

Wrong.

Well, right about the ‘Tuesday is the most clark-friendly Day of the Week’, but t-wrong about the assessment of the clarklike personality type as being ‘mild’. Moderate?, fair… temperate?, sure, why not? even-tempered?, now you are straying… easy-to-get-along-with? getting colder… flat-affect, overly rational? ok…warmer… driven by a disconnected emotional aspect to find the way back home… yow! boiling !

Tuesday is the easiest-going Day of the Week. Rivalled only by Thursday on the lowered expectations scale, Tuesday is the day where you can believe in the promises of the work/school, even commit yourself to giving all to making the week a time of great accomplishment. Without the threat of an Exam (Friday) or even a pop quiz (Wednesday), Tuesday is the day where:

clarks relax

scotts wake up

rogers begin to get annoyed

If you were looking through the eyes of a clark…on a Tuesday morning…and the newspaper headlines read: ‘Meteor to Strike Earth on Friday, Extinction of all Life Certain!’ your reaction would be:

relief because the mess you made of your first serious relationship would finally stop bothering you (…hopefully)

excitement because now you don’t have to worry about having enough money to pay the mortgage

amused because you had a dream in which you felt loved and cherished by all and when you woke up you had a genuine emotional conviction that you were ‘a part of the family’

a sense of vindication because you knew that nothing really mattered

regret as you finally realized that people did not really care about how strange the inside of your head is, they only wanted to believe that you liked and appreciated them

Well, that was …interesting!

If the rogers and the scotts would form an orderly line (yeah, right) we will register each and every one of your objections to this Post.