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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

 

Let’s get all holiday-reminiscent on this, the most loud of holidays. Remember the first principle of the Talmud of scotts*: “There ain’t no such thing as too much… well, pretty much anything… but especially sound!!”

From July 3rd 2012:

a chart providing the average shelf-life of ideas for Posts* …..the Wakefield Doctrine ( happy scottian Holiday!)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine ( the personality theory that you can learn, understand and use today!! )

childhood memories involving  learning to become a better person:   …………………………… 6 hours
childhood memories involving learning bad habits and behavior:      ……………………………  3 days
childhood memories involving doing something publicly embarrassing to adults:    …………. 2 years
adolescent  fantasies   that result in being scarred for life:
(physically scarred): 3 years  (emotionally scarred): 5 years
workplace situations that result in receiving a raise:  ………………………………………………… 6 hours
workplace situations that result in being fired: ………………………………………………………..  3 months
workplace situations that result in being arrested: ……………………………………………………. 4 years
relationship maturity demonstrated in daily life:  ……………………………………………………..  1.4 hours
relationship immaturity demonstrated in public: ………………………………………………………  4 days
a Post trying to illustrate the ephemeral nature of creative ideas: ………………………………….. 75 minutes

Quick reminder about the Holiday tomorrow:  If you do not know that July 4th is one of the most scottian of holidays, then you need to write  in one of the Comment boxes below 50 times

scotts love loud noises, it lets them believe they can have an effect on the world“.

Seriously, picture the coming Holiday:

  • takes place at the height of the Summer season
  • eating and drinking to excess is encouraged
  • minimal clothing allowed in virtually all public places (including churches and hospitals)
  • outdoor sports activities including chasing frisbees, being dragged behind a boat and the use of explosive devices (such explosives, that were it December instead of July,  a visit from Homeland Security would be the immediate result)
  • …minimal clothing

So for you non-scotts reading this, three July 4th Survival Tips:

  1. stay indoors
  2. keep the lights off and the glow of the TV shielded from windows and doors
  3. turn up the air conditioning and ….wear extra clothes

We hope that helps.

 

* like the Tao of Pooh? yeah, sure, exactly like that

 

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Lets go try and find a reprint on the Doctrine and fairy tales, shall we?

ok.

kinda.

(In the context of the common misperception of clarks as the one (of the three) with the smallest-by-social-standing ego weight*, we’ll contribute something original. Well, as original as Heraclitus** might offer us cover for it being ….kinda original.)

Full Disclosure: Part of us feel it is shirking our responsibility to simply post what has been written, even with the understanding that old posts are new posts to New Readers. But, since we’re not against restating some of the more original insights and observations let’s run out a couple of the old favorites.

clarks abhor being the center of attention, but will not tolerate being ignored

a scott, alone in a room, isn’t

clarks are crazy, scotts are stupid and rogers are dumb

Reprint From April 2013

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Melanie and Janine and them wrote a Comment saying how much they enjoyed our little look at the Fairy Tale ‘Hansel and Gretel’ and went on to say how they were looking forward to today’s Post as we continued our analysis of these cultural icons vis-a-vis the Wakefield Doctrine. Being a clark and all, I am certainly not one to ignore a request, even if I did have a perfectly good ‘re-print Post’ all set to go for today. It was a Post from the first full year of the blog, replete to references to the foreign exchange students at Millard Fillmore High and there might even be a mention of our favorite valedictorian, and all-around cool co-ed, Janie Sullivan. It (this Post that was to have run today), even had something resembling a survey meant to determine personality types. The writing is a little rough, but it was fun to read. (Have I indulged in being rogerian enough in my un-gracious acquiescence to Melanie’s and Janine’s request yet?) No? Well how about this: for a personality type that is hardly ever accused of wearing our hearts on our sleeves, clarks place the feelings of others way, way before their own. Even if the other person does not explicitly state that their feelings or emotional state are at risk, clarks will invariably think, ‘it would be awful if their feelings were hurt’ or thoughts to that effect. Simple empathy?  …or the hint of something deeper, something more inextricably tied to the worldview of the Outsider?  Well, think about it… but first a little Fairy tale Doctrine-style!

Jack and the Beanstalk: (that’s right!, this is a movie now), I guess I don’t have to expound on the role of Fairy Tales as indoctrination for the totally impressionable members of society. Well, yes I do. Ask yourselfs ‘who, of all the potential audience for these tales of violence, greed, subservience and rogerian membership is the one group (demographic, if you will) who has zero choice in being exposed to the sick, sick message that most of these tales are disguising?
Give up?  The most impressionable! the ages: (negative) six months (‘Look honey! I bought the complete Grimms Fairy Tale on dvd, so after the baby arrives, you can just hit ‘Play‘) to 18 months (“…leave the dvd running with the volume real low… it will lull her to sleep, it’s been such a long time, sure! leave the door open, we’ll only be a room away) to 2 years ( “would you read to the baby? I so have to get back to the gym  just take whatever you are reading and sit with her, put the dvd on and you can read your book and he will think you are reading to him…“) to 3 years (“…no dear, there is no such thing as a troll under the bridge, no matter what the big kids are saying“).

The victims are always the defenseless children. So, back to Jack and the Beanstalk. That is certainly an uplifting tale of triumph over adversity, beyond criticism or reproach, non?

(as always from Wikipedia*)

Jack is a young lad living with his widowed mother. Their only means of income is a cow. When this cow stops giving milk one morning, Jack is sent to the market to sell it. (“Carlos Castaneda wrote a series of books about learning about right living, in one of these books, he relates how a brujo offers a young man 2 gourds in exchange for help carrying them to market. The young man agrees and when the task is complete accepts his reward and takes the gourds and opens them. He sees only food and water, and, expecting gold or other tangible rewards smashes both gourds on the ground and walks away. Am I the only one to see the short-sightedness in Jack and his mom’s instant reaction to the change in the cow?”) On the way to the market he meets an old man who offers to give him “magic” beans in exchange for the cow. (Chase Bank is currently advertising a wonderful new feature of their credit cards…direct deposit of paychecks. That’s correct, you can have the ease and convenience of having your earnings be transferred from your employer to Chase, as the radio ad holds, ‘leaving you time for the important things in life’)

Jack takes the beans but when he arrives home without money, his mother becomes furious and throws the beans out the window and sends Jack to bed without supper. (“…what a bitch! you sure she isn’t really Jill and this is a way messed up couple and she has, like family issues and maybe a substance abuse thing going? rational response to a disappointment, Mom!”)

As Jack sleeps, the beans grow into a gigantic beanstalk ( lmao…not even going to go near this one… hey! Janine! …you got any Reader overview on this? ). Jack climbs the beanstalk and arrives in a land high up in the sky where he follows a road to a house, which is the home of a giant. He enters the house and asks the giant’s wife for food. She gives him food, but the giant returns and senses that a human is nearby:

Fee-fi-fo-fum!
I smell the blood of an Englishman,
Be he alive, or be he dead,
I’ll have his bones to grind my bread.

However, Jack is hidden by the giant’s wife and overhears the giant counting his money. Jack steals a bag of gold coins as he makes his escape down the beanstalk. ( As well he should! He was a guest in the couple’s house, given food and shelter…of course he would steal from his hosts)

Jack repeats his journey up the beanstalk two more times, (!!!) each time he is helped by the increasingly suspicious wife of the giant and narrowly escapes with one of the giant’s treasures. The second time, he steals a hen that lays golden eggs and the third time a magical harp that plays by itself. This time, he is almost caught by the giant who follows him down the beanstalk. Jack calls his mother for an axe and chops the beanstalk down, killing the giant. The end of the story has Jack and his mother living happily ever after with their new riches (Happily) (ever) (After) ( magic beans = 1 cow, giant beanstalk = hyperactive hormones, opportunity to steal = the hospitality of non-larcenous childless couple,  live happily ever after =Priceless)

… forget  the analysis, if there was a full-grown blue-fin tuna in my 3′ above ground pool and you handed me a fully loaded shotgun… it would be less obvious than the message of greed and avarice and violence and self-gratification at any and all costs than this child’s tale. I mean, really. lol  luckily, we have the Wakefield Doctrineto make sense of it all!

Oh yeah… who’s who? Jack is a roger, his mom is a scott the giant is a roger and the giant’s wife is a clark

…now go to sleep, tomorrow is almost here

 

* not a ‘real’ term or concept in mainstream/popular psych, not even those fine folks at Oscar Meyer Pick-a-Number, Any-Number School of Personality

** one of our favorite old, dead guy quotes: “No man person ever steps in the same river twice, for it’s not the same river and he’s they’re not the same man person.

 

ed. You know, we’ve never had a problem with Readers getting all escited about stuff in these post, getting worked up to the point of writing aggressive and critical comments. Too bad, in a sense, as that takes a much larger readership than we’ve had to date.

Yes,I did edit a timeless quote. And it set off a discussion in our head about…. “Wait a minute! You can’t do that. And, besides, its a fricken pronoun. And… and! that’s the cultural context the guy wrote it in. You think you’re doing something special? Making a statement? When you write your own timeless truth, then you can use whatever fricken pronouns you choose to… but if you want to use a quote, you should leave yourself out of it.”

…as you can see, the argument did not sway me.

Why? (Permit us a way-typical style of answering), we choose to replace the gender-specific pronoun with a …whatever pronoun for one reason:

  1. Dagwood Bumpstead
  2. Andy Capp
  3. Jackie Gleason and Frankie Fontanie

We plane to refrain from googling the above ‘reasons’ for now. Hopefully they, (the search returns), provide enough information for you Readers to get a sense of ‘why’.

Let us know in comments and, what the hell, if we continue on in this: ‘Dude! Lighten up, it’s a blog and a quote, chill. Have fun. We know the Doctrine is meant for fun, even if it’s explicitly stated to be gender, age and culture neutral.’

 

 

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

“…unfortunately this was taken on a Friday and so will not be useful for today’s Post”

The Wakefield Doctrine is a tool, an additional perspective on the world around us and the people who make it up. If employed, one is benefitted in two distinct ways: a) by seeing the situation (person/place/thing) differently (as is the case with most alternate perspectives, the difference can be great or it can be small) and, perhaps add to one’s experience and 2) to be reminded that there is more than one perspective on life, which in and of itself is empowering by the implied acknowledgement that our personal realities and the personal realities of others are congruent. Except where they are not.

One way to think of the goal of the Wakefield Doctrine is: to aid in the ongoing process of self-improving ourselfs by appreciating the world as the other person is experiencing it. (And, in doing so, improve our acceptance and appreciation of how we relate ourselves to the world around us.)

Here’s a post (title: Capital Letter-less Monday, its more fun you might think. ?%#? from June 2013)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Audience

hey, you know how we say that one of the primary values of the Wakefield Doctrine lies in it providing a certain perspective on behavior that, when applied to our own lives, proves to be a unique  tool for self-development?

well, we do.
the important thing is this: in order to effectively use the Wakefield Doctrine as a tool for self-improvement and/or self-development it’s necessary to understand the nature of the three worldviews.

new readers! dig this: we are all born with the innate capacity to experience the world in one of three ways, or worldviews (aka personal realities): the world/life as an Outsider (clarks), living and developing as one must to survive and flourish in the reality of the Predator (scotts) and experiencing the world as a member of a Herd (rogers). you with us? fine. we all ‘pick’ a worldview and grow up and develop our personalities in response to the particular challenges and advantages found in these realities. the thing is, we retain the potential to see the world as ‘the other two’ do. for example, I’m a clark, predominant worldview is that of the Outsider which means the world around me today is such that I do not fit in, I see things in a way that results in my demonstrating a certain creativity, I spent a lot of  time being self-effacing, (often amounting to self-destructiveness), I have an insatiable appetite to learn new information and I am simultaneously sentimental and cold. that is because that is the nature of the world I wake up to.  I also have a secondary (and a tertiary) aspect. my secondary is that of a scott and my 3rd is rogerian. (btw these secondary and tertiary aspects? thats why people sometimes will say, ‘hey I must be some kind of new personality type! like a clarkroger, because most of the time I feel like I’ll never fit in and then sometimes I can be real real stubborn and obstinate’  that’s your secondary showing through.

so…learn the characteristics of the three worldviews. observe your fellow lifeforms. infer the reality that they appear to be responding and reacting to and once you are able to correctly infer the worldview of the other person, you will know more about them than they know about themselves.
so…learn the characteristics of the three worldviews. observe yourself. first eliminate the obviously not fitting worldview, then hold the other two worldviews up and see which one makes the world make (more) sense… that is your predominant worldview. that is what will be useful to you, if you have an interest in: understanding the behavior of the people in our lives, taking better advantage of the people in our lives, knowing more about the inner thoughts and feelings of the people in our lives and , for some of you… learning ways to improve your own life.

we used to do an internet radio show and one of the things I always tried to say to the listener about the Doctrine was, “the Wakefield Doctrine is concerned with ‘how you relate yourself to the world around you’.  note that I did not say, ‘…how you relate to the world’… I said, ‘ how you relate yourself to the world around you’”.  that distinction is of critical importance in making the Doctrine a useful and effective tool.

… so we will stop here for today.

… one thing!  to clarify my point, at the beginning of today’s Post, the key to using the Doctrine is learning and understanding the nature, characteristics and such of the three worldviews. in fact, it was DownSpring Cyndi who proffered the term ‘fluency’ as a way to describe our efforts to learn about the three worldviews, i.e. “hey, I am becoming more fluent in the scottian worldview… FUCK!”  or “my fluency in the rogerian reality allows me to approximate the ‘projectile disinterest’ that we see so many of the ‘natives’ employ to such devastating effect”

(to be continued)

Friend of the Doctrine, Melanie has let us know that, due to shifting priorities, she would have her other blog  ‘Steer Career Success‘  listed on our blogroll… it’s a good and useful and fun site, it has to do with jobs and careers and such and totally ties in with where we are taking this conversation about the use of the Wakefield Doctrine in the workplace… so stop over at her blog and  say ‘hidy’

speaking of sent ya… if you are still reading this Post, I totally want to engage you in …. conversation!   we are having the first weekly Wakefield Doctrine Video Brunch,  this coming weekend. since you are clearly interested in the Doctrine, I totally care about making the Vid Brunch convenient to your time zone… so leave us a Comment  and let me know your ‘zone  …am currently thinking to start in the early am this coming Sunday  (’cause Friend of the Doctrine Michelle is a nicely symmetrical 12 hours ahead of us. but there is still room to play with the exact starting hour)

 

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is our contribution to the Six Sentence Story bloghop

Denise the host.

The prompt word:

STROKE

“I’ve always wondered about why people are so taken with the expression, ‘The stroke of midnight’, you know?”

The compound sentence establishes a presence in your mind like a professional wrestler at a First Communion party, clearly the strategic approach is to hear it out; this proves to be a big mistake as it proceeds to split apart, one down to your gut and the other your mind, and a wave of nausea splashes up and against the ice storm racing across your scalp.

Your habit of sprinting into fantasy versions of life whenever you begin to feel overwhelmed by the stress of direct human interaction stutters just a moment, this allows you to resist the urge to speed rap on your provocative, if not off-the-wall observation, even as images of hot-looking villainess’ from random Disney cartoons and and other hormonal irrationality tries to grab the wheel and show you a route that nobody’s ever driven.

Sitting opposite you in the truck stop booth, the girl shows none of the familiar signs of exhaustion or it’s emotionally-conjoined twin, boredom; as a matter of fact, unless you’re mistaken, she’s calling your bet with a smile and a half-laugh that sounds at home in a half-lit bedroom.

You immediately assume two things: you’ve said something right and the dream from which you’ve always awoken prematurely is not over; being two forty-four in the morning, the interior of the diner somehow is becoming a miniature version of that 1970’s evangelical atrocity of a church in California, searching your mind for the name of the guy who built it you stop, grab yourself by the collar, all while reminding yourself not to show anything on your face or make a sound out-loud, like an outburst of laughter, as the mature part of your mind manages to take over motor control long enough to return her smile.

You hear yourself speaking and see the girl nodding and, for a moment, believe that the sun might yet rise on a day you do not wake up alone; the last thought you hear that does not arise from your busy, busy mind is: ‘Second Person Point-of-View isn’t the only perspective on reality’.

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Today’s reprint is pretty straight-forward (at least so it seemed, when I scanned it just now) and action oriented. So let’s get right do to it.

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

At last! Friday! With all its pressure to make the cost of the weekdays feel worthwhile, and most of its promise to allow sufficient enjoyment to believe we are not all running on invisible hamster wheels.

New Readers (and not-so-new-Readers) Here is our challenge for the weekend:

  • Find the clarks in your world and let them know that you know (but won’t tell anyone)
  • Spot the scotts (there will be one among your immediate social circle and at least one just out there) Make them laugh at something/anything*
  • Identify the rogers (to whoever said, ‘Like that’s gonna be tough, they make up 2/3s of the population‘,  we retort: “Hold on, we’re not done with the assignment.”) Get within conversational range and compliment them, then leave before he/she can reciprocate.

Any questions?

Quick Guide to the three worldviews:

  1. clarks tend to dress in a way that doesn’t look quite right, but not in a negative way. There is always something creative to the fashion/dress of a clark (in our North American culture, females enjoy a range of sartorial expression not normally enjoyed by their clarklike brethren, so why wouldn’t one make of the most of the metal and lace palette and employ a palette of color visible only to lifeforms more comfortable in the fluorescent end of the spectrum). When you spot a clark, make no sudden moves or otherwise draw attention to them, or they’ll blend into the woodwork faster than a chameleon on amphetamines in a pile of saw dust. Best way to let them know you know: listen for the jokes they mutter, the two of you will be the only ones laughing.
  2. scotts ….well, scotts they’re there, thing is, its best (for the purposes of this assignment) that you spot them first**. In fact, the challenge in this….err challenge is to spot the scott before they spot you… good luck.
  3. rogers… ok, don’t have to look too hard… well-dressed, (by local conventional standards), friendly and at the center of a moving spiral of people (if there are enough people) Warning: if you are a clark, do not attempt the challenge if your target Roger is not alone or has less than four people around them….
[Ed. Note: Yes, there is a correlation between the predominant worldviews of the Wakefield Doctrine and the three main characters in the Wizard of Oz. I mean, it’s as if the idea of a clark, scott and roger were, like, some kind of universal principles! lol If you’re trying to decide how to associate the three, remember, the Doctrine is about how a person relates themselves to the world around them.]

* extra points for it being a scottian female

** there is zero question that, once you’ve entered into their environment, (social, physical, sexual…pretty much all the ‘als’ other than spiritual, lol), they will notice you and interact with you if, for no other reason than to establish ranking***

*** total, defining dynamic in the world of the Predator

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Don’t forget! The Doctrine is not an Answer… it’s a perspective.. use it wisely

It’s all about how we relate ourselfs to the world around us and the people who make it up.

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