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Mu -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘the Weekend in (re)-View: there were encouraged smiles in Outerville’

February 9, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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…I thought I had the ‘hook’ for today’s Post earlier this morning, around 6:10am. My computer froze up and the Error Message appeared:

Hit continue to ‘Force Quit’ the Application

damn!  doesn’t that describe what happens to clarks so often? (Especially on Mondays because we’ve just had two days during which time we could pick the people we were with), we learn and remember that part of what the Wakefield Doctrine offers is, as they so cleverly put it, ‘to self-improve oneself’. But this weekend was encouraging. A good TToT and a good Call-in discussion. So today, I will go out into the world (see, I told you I was a clark!) and know that there are other clarks struggling with the semi-self-imposed status of Outsider and, simply by virtue of this (identification with other clarks), I will more frequently remember to not forget that I have a choice in how I think and act and feel.

Had a great Saturday Night Call-in this weekend. Cynthia, Denise and the Progenitor roger! Topic: how do clarks best deal with the roger in the workplace (or to be a bit more accurate: how to manage a rogerian-dominated workplace). Very fun and informative and entertaining and everything you could want from a phone conversation.

So what do we clarks know now that we did not know, say, 3 or 4 years ago? For starters, that there is a direct (but not directly appreciable) benefit from associating with clarks in a context that encourages identification (with/for the other clarks). We also better understand our selfs and while this is not, in and of itself, a benefit, it is the sharing of this (increased) self-understanding that makes the identificationing with other clarks so effective.

But enough about clarks. how about scotts and rogers? What are they getting out of this thing that they could not get elsewhere? Again, for starters:

  • an increased sense of awareness of that which bothers scotts (on a pre-conscious level), with a better acceptance that it is not a flaw (this, by virtue of the scott’s heightened clarklike aspect)
  • (for the rogers) a sense of an increased-enthusiasm-for-nothing-that-is-identifiable, yet not perceived as threatening

 

 

 

Feet notes:

so: Denise and Cyn-thee-uh  and the Progenitor roger were all on the Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Call-in this Saturday past. It was a splendid time, the high points, syllabus-istically speaking the insight nodes were as follows:

topic: how do clarks manage (themselves or others) in the workplace  with an emphasis on the difficulties of dealing with rogerian co-workers

agreed: the negative, ‘lashing out’ of a roger is worse than being nipped by a scott or ignored by a clark

agreed: that the reason for this ‘over-reaction’ by the clark is their emotional investment (conscious or otherwise)

agree: the tendency is for clarks to take (false) responsibility for the actions, reactions and consequences involving others

agree: rogers (and scotts) think they know what it is it fear (the negative) reactions of others, but they are wrong

agree: rogers do not accept admission of ineptitude, no member of the Herd would ever consider this

 

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ᖷɿibɒy -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘Hey! scotts …rogers, ya gotta a minute?’

February 6, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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“HEY!!!! I’m nervous in front of people too!!!!!!!”

“You know you’re not so special, I have a lot of times where I’m shy and un-confidential… you’re not so different…”

Let me start by saying, ‘thank you, scotts   thank you rogers‘

I’m grateful, not just because we’re seeing increasing numbers of scotts and rogers coming to the Wakefield Doctrine blog and reading and commenting and, getting something from the experience and such, I’m grateful that, by you’re interest and activity you’re demonstrating, a critical  key aspect of our little personality theory is being illustrated and validated. Allow me to elaborate:

the Wakefield Doctrine is predicated on the idea that we all born with the capacity to experience the world in one of three characteristic ways, as Outsiders(clarks), as Predators(scotts) as Herd Members(rogers). At a very early age, one of these three (worldviews), becomes our reality and we grow up and develop in this context. the Wakefield Doctrine maintains that ‘personality type’ is (simply) the successful coping strategies appropriate to the reality we exist in, our style based on the nature of the reality we have to contend with;  if you grow up in the world of the Predator, guess what? you’ll learn that what works is to be aggressive, quick to act, given to ‘action before reflection’, as a result you’ll also tend to be mercurial in temperament, passionate in relationships…   if I happened to grow up in a reality in which I was ‘a part of/connected to my surroundings’, right from day one, then you can be sure the social interconnections that exist is where I will focus my efforts, learning to get along in life… this is both appropriate and successful because that ‘reality’ is where  living conscientiously and careful in action, grounded in a world that’s quantifiable and understandable will allow me to live at peace with my world, my reality of the Herd Member. But this  just tells you where scotts and rogers come from,  why they are the way they are…

the thing that I’m talking about today is what explains how a roger or a scott can stumble across this blog and (for a small percentage) stop and read and smile to themselves (and  look around and see if this is some kind of trick or trap or something) and… stay around. So why is that? Because of the potential (we all possess) to experience the world as do ‘the other two’.

the key to (using) the Wakefield Doctrine as a tool for self-improvement and the reason (some) scotts and rogers are finding this blog fun and useful lies in our potential to experience the world from the perspective of the two worldviews that we are not. So have fun.

and thanks for stopping by!

 

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Wodin -the Wakefield Doctrine- (…as our demographic changes, it behooves us to adjust, Post-from-Comment Wednesday!)

February 4, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

"…walk the boy, Lassie, walk the boy… like I got nothing better to do"

“…’walk the boy, Lassie, walk the boy’,  like I got nothing better to do”

 

“…So there’s this Roger in my life, (with a strong Scottian aspect), who always asks my Clark for her opinion, because Clarks know a lot about things. But she never opts for my opinion. What’s going on there? Plus I have another little scenario. I’m remembering a party I had at my new house with some neighborhood acquaintances. There was a guy, a member of the Volunteer Fire Department, (rogers right?-rule follower?) As we took the tour, he commented on how I should have this or this or this instead of that. I thought it was unsolicited advice and it annoyed me. This same person wore earplugs at a wedding recently because he thought the music was too loud. So Clark, what is your opinion? (Must be my Rogers talking)?”  (Val ‘My Virtual Vineyard’ )

“…I’m here again. I like to read. And since I am of a Clarkian nature, I am permitted to observe, correct?” ( Jen Kehl ‘Jen Kehl’ )

” …that’s very interesting about the roger-scott dynamic. …as a clark, try to be honest (sometimes to my utter detriment) and perhaps there HAVE been situations where I’ve said that and…it was awful. I said that a couple years ago when I went to a training and I hadn’t been “trained” and they “put me in charge of a group” – I acknowledged that I hadn’t had much training and that I probably didn’t know what I was doing. This is precisely why – I’ve figured out – the roger of the group strong-armed me and totally walked all over me. I was so mad…I didn’t let him have it, though. :P”  (Cynthia  ‘…the ‘tude, of course! ‘ )

We are very fortunate to have outstanding Comments. It’s almost as if they write a got portion of the Posts that you’ll find here! (I believe all of the Commentationers on the Post today are in possession of some form of Official Wakefield Doctrine fashion items… tres cool!) So, …to the Comments!

Hey… running out of time!!  (What to do, what to do? …. did I hear someone say   BULLET POINTS!!!!)*

(As a Reply to All Comments, sub-sections of Comments, inferences, innudenae and ‘my point is as plain as the nose on your face’, …in no particular order**):

  • ‘the Everything Rule’ cautions us to not assume that there is anything in life that is exclusively of one of the three worldviews, instead, we are charged with asking the critical question, ‘how does, (fill in your choice of activity/hope/aspiration/ambition/occupation/avocation/favorite pastime/bad habit or  famous saying), manifest in that person’s predominant worldview?’
  • having said that, there are ‘things in life’ that is more worldview-friendly to one personal reality over ‘the other two’ worldviews, i.e.  rogers make ‘the best’ firefighters, scotts make ‘the best’ cops and clarks… and clarks…. and… lol  (hold on!! it’s there…er  ‘clarks make the best something something …’)
  • there is hope! the Wakefield Doctrine encourages us,  not to become something we are not, but to become more of what we may be… the Doctrine maintains that, while we all grow up and live in one worldview (our predominant worldview), we retain the potential of ‘the other two’
  • …it is not easy….worse! it’s not natural (which is why clarks have a bit of an edge on scotts and rogers when it comes to self-developing ourselfs
  • (giving) un-solicited advice is common with rogers, however the key question is “…exactly how annoyed”  (that’s not phrased precisely as it should be… the everything rule for something this…small?!! absolutely!
  • ‘it annoyed me’:
    • scotts: …what??!  lol fuck you!
    • clarks:  (“what a jerk, doesn’t anyone else hear what a jerk that guy is being…I have half a mind to say something, if I did, it would be…”)
    • rogers: ‘huh… maybe I should help everyone put what this guy is saying into a more useful context, he’s clearly over-stepping his bounds”
  • is this still on? holy smokes! it works!  nested-damn-bullet-points!!
  • clarks are, in fact, sought out for opinion (and, more often, as a sympathetic listener…no matter what the issue or who the person is, clarks listen better than anyone!  now, before you object!  note! I did not say ‘clarks listen…and help/make the speaker feel better/come up with a plan’  just that we listen. (of course, this single trait is beyond price, if I may be so bold… there are times when a person simply needs to speak of things, that’s what clarks do so well.  (the listening, not the speaking…lol)
  • clarks are permitted to observe….hell! we do that by virtue of our reality… the real challenge is in taking what we learn and tricking ourselves into identifying with the people and activities and things that we observe… that’s when the real change, the true benefits of the Wakefield Doctrine are to be found!

 

 

 

* Thank you Christine… not that you really said it, but, had you been in the metaphorical auditorium, there is a better than even chance you would have been yelling,  “Bullet point this sucker so we can get to the payoff… I paid good money to get in here and I want the secret!!”

** hey, If there’s one thing that I think I’m coming to understand about this personality theory business, it’s, ‘trust the Readers to understand, if they don’t then it’s up to them to ask’ (thanks Molly!)

 

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Mondant -the Wakefield Doctrine- true life situations, real Doctrine principles…and musical humor!

February 2, 2015 By

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So I was saying, just the other day, I said, ‘you know, the hardest thing about trying to write the Wakefield Doctrine book is that, despite the fact that it, (the Doctrine), can be applied to unlimited life situations (for insight or laughter-based purposes), when I get to a section where I need to say, ‘for example, in this common life situation, one might apply the Doctrine as follows’  I draw a total blank!’.  The other person laughed and said, ‘hey! sucks to be you!’  In any event, I had two experiences this weekend that I would like to offer as examples of the Wakefield Doctrine proving itself useful.

Situation 1: Maps, Directions and clarks

Part of my work involves working with another clark. (Another) part of my work involves inspecting properties. This weekend I needed to ‘cover’ the inspections that normally, my associate clark would do. There were 5 houses in a nearby city. I had the list and was beginning to check the google map (for best route) and my associate said, ‘here start with this property and then….’ and proceeded to give me directions…

Wakefield Doctrine Principle: clarks are good at couple of things: a) having a sense of direction 2) visualizing

… so, not only was I not needing directions, I was enjoying the prospect of mapping out the perfect route*. However,  I was pressed for time and left with the suggested sequence of houses on a piece of paper. (I should stop at this point and remind the Reader that clarks sometimes think that they are in sole possession of ‘the correct answer’ and, if someone else were to offer an alternative, well, by definition, it couldn’t be ‘the correct answer’ now could it?) This weekend I got myself reacting that way and, remembering my Wakefield Doctrine Principles,  thought, “well, he is a clark, so his route should be the same as I would have come up with”. And so, I followed his route and found my self both appreciating and approving of the choices (mostly in the sequence of the path)…. I could see that there was only one best route and he had picked it, pretty much, exactly as I would have. Like worldviews result in like decisions.

Situation 2: ”dodging bullets’

So, this weekend,  I had a certain task, I missed a step and there was about to be a situation where things might get very, very ugly. The moment came and, as it turned out, everything would be alright. As I left the room, I thought, “well Clark, you’ve dodged another bullet” and the second thing ( I thought)  was, “so what does the Wakefield Doctrine have to offer?”

Wakefield Doctrine Principle: the ‘everything Rule’ states that it is not that there are clarklike things that happen or scottian jobs or, even, rogerian interests and hobbies** rather than try to discern whether something is exclusively of one (of the three worldviews), (it isn’t),  we should focus on how a thing (or a job or an interest or hobby) manifests in the worldview of the other person. Take an easy example: upcoming event during which you are required to speak before an audience. It is not that one of the three might be better or worse at this, it is each of the three personality types experience this ‘speaking before an audience’ as a different thing. That is what we mean by ‘manifest’. Remember, one of the goals of applying the Principles of the Wakefield Doctrine is to be in a position to ‘see the world as the other person is experiencing it’.

So I thought, ‘well situations and circumstances like this are not that un-common and surely down through the ages clarks and scotts and rogers have survived this type of live/die, on/off, win/lose, lady/tiger life events, I wonder how ‘the other two’ would experience ‘dodging another bullet‘”

  1. clarks:  ‘Well, I guess I successfully dodged a bullet, this time’
  2. scotts: ‘I dodged that one!! Who wants to take another shot?!!! come on!!! it’s fun!!!’
  3. rogers: ‘Who the hell is shooting at me and why would they want to?’

Musical humor:

 

* ‘the perfect route’ is one that there is no wasted  driving, one path naturally leading to the next, without any, god forbid, doubling back… the mark of a poor route, indeed!

** there are, but that’s not what we’re talking about here

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TToT(pre-Saturdee) -the Wakefield Doctrine- (the weekend, already?)

January 24, 2015 By

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1) Today started very early. I am, apparently,  a ‘morning person’. Given a choice of getting up extra early or staying up extra late, I’ll pick the former every time. So, today,while not particularly unusual in (my) getting-up-time, saw me out on the road extra early… as the photos indicate, about sunrise.

20150123_071440_resized …20150123_071437_resized…20150123_071433_resized…I was driving –>  on my way in to my office. Good to have technology to be able to grab the photos as I drove.

2) (I’m really determined to write a normal, orderly TToT Post this week. Not that anyone is suggesting or otherwise attempting to compel me to do so, it’s just that for me it’s difficult and therefore accomplishing it would be a good thing. I am grateful to Christine and Dyanne and the other co-hostinae who are skilled grat list writers, for their encouragement and, in their own contributions here each week, demonstrate of ‘how to write a grat list… here and now style’!*

3) Phyllis had a birthday recently and, as a present, I thought….’hey! real people send flowers to loved ones at their place of work as a surprise‘. The pleasure of such gestures is, by all appearances, enhanced by the public-ness of the gift receiving process. I suspect that this is a X Chrome thing, as it seems to be all about… the ‘awwws’  Of course, I am a clark, which would have become totally obvious had you the opportunity to observe, as I went online to the FDA online florist site (FDA online florist site motto: ‘ You’re at home in your bathroom with a cup of coffee… you can afford to be extra romantic!‘). But, flowers are not really something I understand (other than their ‘aww’ producing qualities), so I thought, ‘a plant for Phyllis’s office would be nice… bonsai plants are pretty cool and slow-motion zen an shit… get her something Mr Miyagi would approve of!‘ and so I did and I am grateful for the opportunity to do so.

4) I am grateful for the new plant I have on my desk at home:

20150123_185651_resized… if it weren’t for the fact that only girls and rogers name things like cars, and plants and such, I’d call it ‘george’ (or ‘ジョージ’)… but being neither, I guess I’ll just take a photo and maybe come back to it from time to time on these weekend posts. It’s not that Phyllis did not enjoy my gift, it’s just that she’s not a plant person… so we’ll see.

5) (I’m actually still within the last 7 day period with my post here!) Allow me to go a little generic, and say I’m very grateful for the non-snow infested winter season that we’ve been experiencing here in southern New England. Granted it’s been cold, but, (the lack of snow), is worth at least 10 degrees of outdoor temperature.  and…and! it’s like still light at 5:30!!

6) I spend a significant amount of time in my car everyday. The lack of snow has made this much more enjoyable. I’m more inclined to try and take photos as I drive:

20150120_103641_resized is it just me, or does this cloud formation seem a little odd. (That special kind of ‘everyday unusual’… like walking into kitchen and seeing a clean plate on the top of the stove, obviously the result of a major distraction…. nevertheless it can be a bit …un-nerving, teetering between funny and creepy… these clouds? They could go either way.)

7) As always, I’ll cite the Wakefield Doctrine as one of the most significant aspects of my life. No, seriously… were it not for this fun and unique and helpful theory of personality, I would not be here, writing this Post! 

8) You know Christine did something at ‘the coop’ this week that might serve a grat item prompt, if I may borrow (and mutate her idea)… i.e. to tell a story from the early days of my life in the ‘sphere. It ties into Item # 7, the role of the Wakefield Doctrine in my (online) life.   So anyway… a couple of years ago (stop me if you’ve already heard me tell this story!) I was doing a FTSF** and I came across this small blog, ‘Considerings‘. I liked it immediately… very intense, personal and rather well written  and clearly there was a clark on the other side of the computer screen. So I started ‘hanging around’, reading each week on Fridays and then other days and, finally, I started commenting. (This act of commenting is a testament  to the Doctrine, in that many of the Posts were dealing with difficult situations, (in the life of the author) and, although I didn’t know the author (our Ms. Rogers, of course), I did know that she was a clark and therefore I felt comfortable enough to respond as I would to a person I already knew. Because, in a sense I did.
Anyway….!!   so, I was writing comments at Considerings for, probably a month or two when, totally out of the blue, I get a Comment at the Doctrine from a woman living in the Midwest. It was an interesting Comment,  ‘I found your post interesting…. I’ve seen you at my friend Lizzi’s blog and I wanted to introduce myself’.  I sat back in my chair and smiled, as I immediately realized that a) the comment writer was a scott and 2) she was checking me out. her purpose was simply to make sure I wasn’t some kind of un-desirable, stalker kind of person, and so, I smiled. I smiled because of the value of the Wakefield Doctrine in understanding people (including total strangers), and I smiled because that is what a scott does when they have a clarklike friend… Christine did not need to ask Lizzi if she needed help, Christine did what a scottian friend would do.  Naturally we got along splendidly right from the start.
I am grateful for the Wakefield Doctrine.

9) Hey! Always grateful for the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)… it represents the kind of attitude that makes this bloghop the excellent thing that it is… ‘rules without force’ the manifestation of the sense participating in this community, according to ‘where we are, on a given weekend’  Very cool

10) Lets close with the photo I took as I headed back to the office to finish my day today:

20150123_160859_resized…I was driving <—- and the sun was beginning to start to set.

 

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* both Christine and Dyanne are scotts and that’s where they live, in the present, immediate and real world… ( as they might say, ‘hey! grab for the brass ring… you only have so much time here!!’)

** ‘Finish The Sentence Friday’ my first bloghop… and still a favorite, though I have not participated in a while, Kristi was one of the hostettes…

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