Month: October 2015 | the Wakefield Doctrine

TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘what? why no, I always look like this…. oh, I get it! it’s Halloween!’ (ha ha)

October 31, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So lets get all old school on this here TToT post here.

1)Lizzi aka (‘La Maîtresse de la Maison de l’effort contre toute attente à devenir quelque chose qui au sein, nous sommes déjà’) Creatrix of thé TToT which is such an enduring community, due, in no small part to (her) encouraging the breaking of rules

2)speaking of Rules, I (almost) always cite the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules), not just because it’s fun, but because, for those of us less-emotionally-fluent people, the SBoR/BoSR enables us to find ways to express ourselfs

3)speaking of selfs, shout out to my twin-with-an-entirely-different-genome, Kristi she was part of the crew at the first bloghop that the Doctrine participated in, the Finish the Sentence Friday. Very grateful. Not simply for the introduction to one of our more successful (and subversive) venues for our little personality theory, but because it was there that I met the aforementioned Ms. Rogers (and, pretty much everyone else that count as friends in this place.)

4)speaking of posse glad to have such good company at the Gravity Challenge every week…. Christine and Kristi, Val and Lisa and Joy and Sarah…. (see? I can write names with capital letters) these people put the ‘amazing’ in ‘the internet’.

5)writing about speaking gets us to zoe and the Gang of Six ‘yo!! semi-colons fricken rule!!

6)speaking of serial stories… somehow we’ll see Chapter 3 (of the increasingly interesting story), ‘Blogdominion‘ this weekend.

7)the Wakefield Doctrine, always a mention, simply because it is the reason you’re reading this

8)our geographic location, the photo above was taken this Tuesday past from Wawaloam Dr which is a few minutes from my office…. the best thing about the picture? the smell of the salt air… and the sound (not just of the crashing waves, but the undertone of the sand being pushed and pulled over and through the not-yet-sand rocks and boulders) v cool

9)speaking of (ha! you thought I lost the motif!) sine qua non… Phyllis and Una (Queen of Treehouses and co-pilot extraordinaire )

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FTSF -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘lets go visit our friends who got us started on bloghops, way back in ’12 or was it ’10?’

October 30, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Friend of the Doctrine, Lizzi, made an appeal today, from her position as spokesbeing at the BB&G* for all readers to either join in the TToT this weekend or jump in on the Finish the Sentence Friday today. Well, all it took…, (as Linda Ronstadt would sing), because the Finish The Sentence Friday is, like, the ‘hop that got us here at the Doctrine totally into the business of bloghops. (Sort of like in high school, where, as a clark, I’d move on the fringes of the established social groups, such as, the jocks, the Honor Society, the voc ed, the proto-hippies, even the tough guys (and surprisingly kind-hearted, but way hot girlfriends) out in the student parking lot, smoking cigarettes… I’d always find one person who had just enough secondary clarklike aspect to be secret buddies with and sometimes, as I passed through the halls between classes, they’d acknowledge me while they where among their kind and I’d be walking on air the rest of the day) … well, that’s kinda the story with how I got into bloghops. Athough it was Kristi (and Stephanie and Janine and Kate) at the FTSF, who invited me to hang our with cool (virtual) kids in the blogosphere.

So today, over at the FTSF, the show-us-your-heart Sentence fragment is,

“In 1,000 years from now…”

…distance will not be a factor, in our activities and our relationships. While nothing totally new, the percentage of relationships that are necessarily embedded in a physical connection, (birth, reproduction, death and the-chance-encounter-with-a-person-that-makes-a-list-like-this-totally-moot), will be way, way higher. Just as the human race got through a couple of thousand years of self-development predicated on a relationship with a god/high power/supreme being, i.e. never in the same room with, so human culture and society becomes un-tethered to the touch-me, hit-you, hold-me, where-have-you-gone paradigm.

It will be the best of times, it will be the worst of times….

*long story, but that’s our acronym for the Bloppy Bloopers group on ‘the Facebook’

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Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘everything is already connected, it doesn’t always show, but you knew that’

October 29, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Friend of the Doctrine, zoe/ivy has this bloghop called Six Sentence Story. The idea is to take a prompt word (different every week) and write a story…involving that word, using only (not more and not less) six sentences. Many people are naturally creative and others are quite skilled and they participate (as you can see in the form of the other blog icons) for the fun and enjoyment and camaraderie and such. I will admit to being one who enjoys the camaraderie of the activity and do not hesitate to say, I look for the opportunity to improve my skills by sharing my efforts with the others of similar intent. Regular readers know that I’m basically jogging in place… or stretching or limbering up or…. pick your favorite simile. The prompt word this week, at the Six Sentence Story is ‘refuse’. And we’re doing something a little different this week, (lets see if you spot it.)

The Sacrifice*

“No”

“That’s simply not going to be enough, you may say the word, but words do not change reality because, as a successful man such as yourself, you surely realize that the world does not care what you say or even what you think, what’s real is what you have before you.”

The memory came back, un-invited but forcibly, like the junior high school bully, looking for chance to pick a fight, that she loved him made the guilt he felt for the deception, not exactly better, but somehow noble.”

“I refuse to accept that,”

“Refuse all you want, what’s done is done and cling as you might to what is only denial and not refutation, nothing will change what is no longer a maybe.”

“But you both love me….”

*thanks to DVD

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “VOTRE INVITATION A LA CONFERENCE” (‘is there a translator in the house?’)

October 27, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Well, sure! I could go to ‘the google’ and I could also take a wild guess as to what this cryptic phrase/Post sub-title, (found in the subject line of a spamish email), means in English. Or….or! I could use this as an old school Doctrine jumping off point for a quick ‘n quirky Tuesday Post. Which would you prefer?

Thank you. I appreciate your vote of confidence and adventurous nature.

So who besides me, looking at the photo above (origin: somewhere in the googlesphere a few years ago, totally don’t remember my search parameters) sees, at first a happy tourist and …a split, sure-if-you-have-a-mind-to-imagine-things-differently, second later a terrified woman being kidnapped by two men who seemed so Old World charming, sitting at a table in the picaresque* outdoor café …and why is that guy on the left hiding his right hand?!? You can almost hear her screams.

So what’s this got to do with the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)? You mean, the personality theory that not only is a fun way to better understand the people in your life, but the Wakefield Doctrine that offers such an insight into how the other person is experiencing the world that you will know what they’re about to do, even before they! That Wakefield Doctrine?

Well, I guess that pretty much says it all.

No! wait! there is one other thing about the Wakefield Doctrine that’s different from all the other personality theory, self-help programs and “Win the affections of that Girl/Guy Everytime” social coaching system! Well, actually there are two things. ….and one thing before I tell you about the two things. But, lets not make this too easy. First the second thing:

‘the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them’.

(This should be self-explanatory, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned in the past 5 years of writing this blog, it’s that the things I think are clear, usually aren’t and the parts of the Doctrine that I’m certain is going to be tough to understand, you people get right away.) In any event, this admonition is at the heart of the Doctrine and is a good example of why it’s such a useful tool for understanding the people in our lives. Everything you learn about people through the use of the Wakefield Doctrine, has value, bearing, meaning and use for you, and only you. It (this added insight and understanding) is helpful in understanding how you are (or should) (or might) relate yourself to this other person (or spouse) (or boss) (or that girl in history class) (or that guy who might or might not be a client, but manages to say something to you every time he comes to where you work, and now that you think about it, he does seem to come up with pretty flimsy pretexts)… that is the only value in the Wakefield Doctrine.
You know how, when, an otherwise intelligent and mature person comes across one of the countless surveys and personality profiles and ‘Which heroic legendary for history are you?’ things that you used to see in the backs of magazines (the ones sold in supermarkets checkout lines, not the kind that you actually subscribe to) or, more recently on the internest, the first thing this person will be heard to say is, “Honey!! Come here! you have to take this survey! They have you down to a ‘T’!
That’s what the ‘…for you, not them’ means… well, now that I straighten out my syntax, that’s what the phrase …implies …that the Wakefield Doctrine does …not offer (lol). Unlike the ‘Oscar Meyers, Briggs and Stratton personality system’ or (the) ‘Kubler, Fran and Ollie Seven Stages of self- acceptance’, the Wakefield Doctrine is not a mirror-coated club.

What you learn about people using the Doctrine affects how you act (and react and feel and grow), it does nothing for the other person, so don’t bother trying to tell them. (Unless, you’re, like trying to get lucky at a bar and you see this really cute/hot roger or clark or even scott… then, you have our blessings and best wishes.)

damn! out of time…. check back later, (or even better write us a comment), and we’ll get to the First thing ….and, the one thing that helps understand the two things.

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “I seem to find the happiness I seek…”

October 26, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

We have (both) Lisa and Pat to thank for today’s subtitle (and Fred and Ginger’s music vid). Thanks, guys.

First the Wakefield Doctrine, then the link to Chapter 2

the Wakefield Doctrine is intended for use as an additional perspective on life, reality and how best to deal with the rude checkout girl, the overbearing school guidance counselor, pig-headed spouse or the girl (or boy) of your dreams.

Now, the Doctrine is many things, including a way to predict the behavior of the people in our lives. To demonstrate: (assuming a proper attention*) the clark will read that as the Wakefield Doctrine will let them predict the future, the scott will read that as being able to have more fun surprising the people around them and roger will hear that prediction of the behavior of the people around them and, at least initially, will decide that they don’t need to know how a person will act in the future, as long as they know how they reacted in the past.

Blogdominion Chapter 2 is live and available for your reading and voting pleasure. I invite comments, seeing how I am writing this story with only the slightest idea of what happens next. (For the present, we get to know all the main characters better and we know that bad things are going to happen, now that Unit 17 is self-publishing… but there is still the matter of what Sister Margaret Ryan finds is the problem at St Emily’s School in Chicago and how well Tom Fearing makes out (on his blog! it’s not that kind of story…. unless, of course you want that kind of story) and there’s the matter of Mai and her friend…

Yes, you’re reading this correctly! A Post in less than 500 words. Gotta save ’em for the Serial.

Now that I say that, I’ve been meaning to ask my writing-inclined friends the question about how many words you have available. Let’s rephrase that: on any given day, do you have the feeling that there are only so many words available to your writing efforts and, (as a follow-up) do you find that it is not specific words, but the act of writing? Example: If I did not spend the time and energy to write this Post, would I have more to put into the next Chapter of Blogdominion.

Damn! getting near 500… better quit while I’m ahead.

*not such a monolithic concept here, people. ‘proper attention’ is manifested differently in the personal reality of clarks, scotts and rogers. While a discussion of ‘the Everything Rule’, vis-à-vis ‘proper attention’ is beyond the scope of this post, allow me to say:

clark: re-read every word
scott: get back here and finish reading
roger… would it kill you to not pretend to be un-interested, this once? I promise no one is watching