Month: September 2015 | the Wakefield Doctrine

TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘of traffic, time and distance’

September 12, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Special Vacationette Edition of the TToT

Am writing from the ‘Fireplace Suite’ of the Ocean Mansion Bed & Breakfast in Ocean City, New Jersey at about 6:30 am.

1)Lets totally hear if for technology…. not just the gasoline engine-power vehicles that transported us here, but the phones that we used to take and send (through the ether) and all that….remarkable!

2) the Wakefield Doctrine … (big time there is so much to learn, especially out here on the 1st Annual Combined Wakefield Doctrine-TToT Vacation Safari (2015)… this is almost as much fun (and Doctrine learning-intensive as sitting in an airline terminal/sitting in the plane and watching everyone file on board!)

3) (for example: scotts: ‘they are self-narrating’ (they love people and are psychotically-sociable and when they do things, they will describe it (with great enthusiasm), “whoops!! dropped the napkin! Picking it up!! ha ha”

4) I’m grateful for my clarklike powers of ”sshh he seems nice enough, but lets just leave him he must be one of those people who can’t relax and always bring their work with them.

5) Phyllis (while very much a part of this challenge/vacation… she has the capacity to not be stressed, (provided the rogerian elements of her world are in order), and so, can enjoy both the actual relaxation of a short trip away from home and my own well-intended (one might even say, valiant), efforts to learn to enjoy one of the hallmark activities of real people everywhere, i.e. ‘the family vacation’

6) Una who is the family (along with Phyllis, of course)

7) The Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) …wait a minute, let me check…. yep!! found it!! SR 39.3 chapter 5 sec 89: when away on vacation if the accommodations, while rather nice, are still a B&B, it’s permissable to take 2 two Item credit provided one has engaged in an activity that otherwise would have no-frickin-way-in-the-world happened, which is to eat breakfast on the porch of a converted Victorian home, with like, 2 inches between the tables and people all around who are hell-bent on talking to strangers…

8) see Item 7

9) I said, Item 7

10) 1.3!! (thank god for 1.3, no?)

will be back later in the day with more photos and such.

complete

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the Wakefield Doctrine ‘a thursday with a sexto-limited number of complete (and written) thoughts’

September 10, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Yeah, totally reaching with today’s subtitle, non? (In case anyone was wondering), it’s 7:49 on Thursday. Ante Meridian, yo, ante meridian. I really don’t know why I put myself through this every week. Well, that’s kind of a lie, I do know why. (You all know how clarks are, like, the ‘introverts’ of the three, at least according to most of the more common, popular and, therefore, mainstream personality types systems? Yeah, well one of the reasons that the Doctrine works way better is that, while we will stipulate that clarks tend to be introverted, the following characteristic (of my people) is also true: clarks are un-comfortable being in the spotlight, they also will not tolerate being ignored.)

Ah yes, to the matter at hand. The Head Inquistoress, Friend of the Doctrine zoe/ivy has this bloghop and you really need to sign up and participate…. today. Here: Six Sentence Story.

My first thought, as consciousness returned, was that there were two other people in the room, my second was simply, “Why is it totally dark, and, since it is, how do I know there are other people here?”

“Well”, came a voice that insisted on tailored clothing, forced the supposition of a good education and hinted at a total lack of scruples, “Obviously you’re hearing this, and since ‘this’ is not you, it must be someone else. This does, of course, rely on your definition of what ‘this’ is, don’t you agree?”

“Hey!! screw that!!!” overriding the previous voice, my attention was… not quite forced, more tempted to another side of wherever it is I currently am, “yeah! sure! you know that thinking is what got you here…. are you gonna just listen or is there something you want to do…. ” this voice inspiring a sense of exhilaration, like the ‘actively-empty’ feeling that follows after narrowly averting a car crash, a feeling of false relief, like the next to the last dive of a roller coaster ride.

“Don’t listen… we’re not a threat…. don’t listen!!! you’re born to chase and catch the world is for there for you to take!!” …the second voice seemed to achieve a remarkable quality, best described as ‘seductively shouting’ in my ear, it was quite insistent on being heeded.

“It’s way past time,” I thought, “to find the door out of this place.”

… but turning did not produce the reassurance of direction, the darkness persisted, the voices decided to harmonize, not musically, but as a single thought, “the Wakefield Doctrine says that we all live in a perfect world…. and no, there is no ‘re-do’ key in real life.”

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘I’m gonna write a letter, telephone every town I know’

September 8, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

The Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective on behavior. The Wakefield Doctrine is a context, which when properly employed, makes available an increased understanding of the people in our lives. The Wakefield Doctrine allows us to know more about a person that you really would expect to gain, given that you learned about it, (the Doctrine, not the person), on a blog that does not appear to have any endorsements, any learned and credentialed, (especially credentialed), people attesting to it’s validity, efficacy or reliability.

So, what is a person to do? Well, to begin with you’re here….reading. At least you’re reading this Post, possibly other Posts, but definitely this Post. You’re intrigued, amused, interested, curious and are willing to stay a little longer. Fine. I’ll try to make it worth your while…

I normally would present the principles, the workings, if you would, of the Wakefield Doctrine and hope that the attractiveness of the facts would serve to persuade you to do the only thing that’s necessary to enjoy a benefit from this ‘personality theory’, and that thing is, ‘to allow for it to be true’. Of course, I haven’t, as of yet, presented anything in the way of information about this, ‘theory of clarks, scotts and rogers‘. Nevertheless, your investment of time and/or consideration remains the critical element. Why am I making this point? No reason. Just thought that maybe acknowledging that there is a price, an investment necessary, might be a good way to start. (I’m way too fond of Latin phrases, the more semi-obscure, the better, and in this case, what comes to mind is ‘sine qua non’, which, I choose to believe means: ‘without which not’. I’ll leave you, the Reader, to decide which of the two questions implicit in the previous sentence to be the more interesting.)

Lets say that we all live, to a certain extent, in what is best referred to as a ‘personal reality’. And, lets also say, that there are three characteristic styles of relating to the world )i.e. these personal realities). And, finally, lets allow that an understanding/appreciation of ‘how a person relates themselves to the world around them’, places us in a better position to know how, (and why), a person acts and reacts as they do, to the myriad of decisions and obstacles and problems and opportunity that make up our days. We call the characteristic way of relating to the world of a person, their dominant worldview. There are three of them:

the reality of the Outsider (clarks) clarks think (somewhere there is knowledge or information that will allow them to feel like a real person)
the world of the Predator (scotts) scotts act ( ‘I scream therefore I am‘)
the life of the Herd Member (rogers) rogers feel (‘perfection is not a way to be, it is a feeling to share‘)

know each of these inside and out and you will know more about the other person than they know about themselves.

Guaranteed.

Any Questions?

Q. that subtitle? it sounds familiar
A. It’s from the lyrics to the utterly classic Delta Blues songs, ‘Dust My Broom’ by Robert Johnson

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘six word thankfuls’ now why didn’t I think of ….?’

September 5, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

As our intrepid founderess prepares for her Trip to the New World, it is incumbent on the co-host (and co-hostinae) to step up and say, “Hey! the TToT is a bloghop that attracts the best and the brightest, the rich and the poor, the illiterate and…. (no, wait, that doesn’t work), the crème del crème of the blogosphere. So if you know anyone like that, get them to join up this weekend!”

No. Seriously. It’s like that episode that time on, (well, on every single sitcom since I started watching TV, which would be about 1961. There was always an episode where, (one of), the parental units becomes indisposed and everyone in the family decides to help out and do whatever needs to be done and then when the mother/father/boss/teacher or whoever gets better and returns, they get all, ‘you’re all doing so well without me! I guess I’m not needed anymore!’ … of course this is followed by some predictable misunderstanding that seems to reinforce their conclusion and finally, just before the next to the last commercial, everyone stops being so self-sufficient or maybe (they decide to) mess up on purpose, all to convince the I’m-not-needed-anymore person that they are loved and whatever. TV has always been a strange place, in fact, the strangest place most of us have spent time in, until, of course, (the) blogosphere appeared!
So, at any rate, this is not about early TV sitcoms. This is much odder. This is about writing a TToT post.

I’ve always wanted to learn to write a simple and direct TToT post. And seeing how I’m enjoying zoe’s Thursday ‘hop ‘Six Sentence Stories’, well, it’s only natural to think, ‘hey! lets write a TToT Post with each of the Ten Thing (of Thankful) consisting of 6 words! Sure! that’s a great idea!’

1) Work: it aggravates and it satisfies

2) (the) BoSR/SBoR: rules for all, not rules at all

3) Gravity Challenge (blog): sharing goals is effort made less

4) Six Sentence Story (blog): six sentences the author’s life disguised

5) Una: not just a dog, …family member

6) thoughts on last week: Summer evaporating as the temperatures decrease

7) (the) SGV (aka the Seven Guard Virgins): guardians of the SBoR/BoSR, all hot!

8) the Wakefield Doctrine: …way of seeing, way of being

9) co-hostinae: clarks, scotts rogers from X-Chromeville

10) SR 1.3: chapter and verse, end of Post

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Stories (consisting of) Six (and only six) Sentences -the Wakefield Doctrine-

September 3, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

It’s once again that time of week, when zoe invites us to put to the test, our:

skills (?) damn! that’s the hard part (and, oddly enough, the fun part) of this ‘hop. Of course, no matter how much bearing ‘skills’ have on coming up with a Six Sentence Story may be subject to debate, I will lay claim to a certain, ‘backyard mechanic’ (to employ an old and out-of-date expression) capability with this ‘writing’.
talent (?) …god, I hope so!
determination (?) sure, ‘where angels fear to tread, yo’

enough ‘analyzin and dramatizin’ I strongly recommend you join us on this week’s ‘Six Sentence Story‘ (brought to you by Friend of the Doctrine, zoe)

“Are you sure?” his voice conveying a sincere desire to please, yet failed to mask the threat that colored his words, the aggressive handicap that is such a persistent quality in the talented-yet-insecure.

“Yes, this really is what I hoped it would be,” feeling an all too familiar weariness, she tried to recapture her original sense of resolve that her wants and needs were not of secondary importance.

Moving over to the side slightly did nothing to reduce the increasingly unpleasant effects of his scrutiny, an all too familiar thought grew to life, ‘How the hell did this become about me?’

“I can do better! Tell me what you really want and no matter what it takes, I’ll do it!” the eagerness to please evaporating under his growing need for validation.

Reaching past him, she pressed the button marked, ‘Power’ and the display went black, taking with it the image of her very first, custom-designed, website.

“You really are the best, it’s everything I dreamed it would be, and I’m totally content with the content.”