Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

…in our last Post we left two thoughts started, but not completed:

1. a renewed appreciation for the skills that allow something that has so much potential for being confusing to be made simple enough to allow for the ‘parts to connect’
2. that the key to reducing stress and anxiety for clarks is to re-frame ‘the questions of the world’
3. and cognitively dissonant jokes are a lot of fun!  (hey! this is the damn age of instant communication, right? wanna see something funny?  yeah, no! wait… I’ll do a  self-video I do this every chance I get, out there in the ‘real’ world!)
4. video joke:  

…while we wait for the cameras to warm up, you want to know an interesting way to tell if you’re talking to a clark? (btw this only works if you’re a clark too!) ‘bumping into each other, conversationally’. You know, you’re like, talking with this other person and you’re always both stopping and starting statements at the same instant.

Bullet Point #1: the three worldviews, i.e. the personal reality that you are living in at this moment, (more critically, the character of the world that you, as a very small and young human found yourself having to develop coping skills and strategies to stay alive and flourish in… it is the ‘style’ of coping that characterizes the three personality types):

• the reality of the Outsider  aka clarks.  a clark is simply (yeah, right) a person who developed a set of social skills, (did I already use the ‘yeah right!’?), that are best suited to living in a world where you are the Outsider. you know that you’re different from everyone (… everyone), and your primary drive is to learn whatever it was that you missed, because when you look around, everyone around you seem ‘to belong’ and you’re pretty sure it was something they were taught that you weren’t. You still have to make your way through life and while you know you have something special, (the things inside your head), you are totally certain that you need to keep it to yourself… just in case, …’cause you realize there’s a possibility that you’ve been cast out/into this world, for a reason
• the life of the Predator aka scotts  your basic human! a Shelby cobra:  powerful, agile, no radio (so of course you should sing loud!), handles really well (hey, you look like you need a hug), funny (pull my finger!),  at times uncomfortable (he doesn’t want to understand!! but you, you’re different, you’re smarter than him). But the truth is, the person who grows up in the personal reality of the Predator acts first and reflects when he/she has a spare moment which is…. hardly ever!! Mercurial in temperament, loyal without being slavish, the scottian personal coping strategies reflect a world where life is to be lived, is too short for spending time inside one’s head reflecting and regretting… it is a strategy prone to errors in judgement for the consequences of impulsive action, you know, a natural leader!  (hot, too!  it’s that directness, the animal magnetism thing)
• the world of the Herd Member aka rogers  ‘a certainty wrapped in tradition coated with confidence‘  rogers are like scotts in that there was no question as to the meaning of life and what they (as individuals) should be, rogers belong.   hey! you want to know something about rogers that they don’t know about themselves? When rogers write posts and blogs and such? while they appreciate comments and reactions, (to what they write), they don’t really care if they get one comment or 2 thousand.  why?  because rogers ‘are of the Herd’, this means that, in their reality, there is always a Herd (of like-minded/similar-in-a-way-beyond-the-need-to-understand other people…and things) and the Herd will read their post. rogers know this on a level beyond conscious knowing…. sort of like when you walk down a flight of stairs, you don’t need to think about whether ‘down is that way’…. it’s simply down.  so the mere act of writing ‘in public’ includes the reading of this writing (by the Herd). hence their inconceivable lack of concern for feedback!

gotta run!  (yeah, still haven’t got to the matter of ‘re-framing the questions of the World’  later!  I promise!)