Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
(Given our demographic at the present time, this Post may have more value as an insight into the lives of the child sent off to school today than it does to Readers who might recognize their own worldviews…whatever)
… gotta tell you guys! You know how, when I’m drawing a blank for ideas to build a Post on, I go surfing for images and such? (no, I’m sure I’ve old you about my approach to writing blog Posts before …. find an image, hear a song being played behind a commercial on TV, read the labels on the food products in the cabinets… the normal things people do to come up with ideas for Posts! Well, I do! Anyway, today I was feeling the need to write a Post, but had nothing. Well, actually I have a nearly complete Post that I wrote last night, the only problem is that last night was Wednesday night and not Thursday night as I thought… so that Post will have to wait for the week to catch up with it.)
So this morning, once I was able to accept that it was Thursday and not Friday, which is a lot like the moment that we realize that the blind date our friend set up was with a roger and not the scott we were hoping for…. I got to thinking back to high school days. Naturally I started looking for a memorytrail* to Thursdays, which lead to hamburger fricassee (the best of school hot lunches)… the next step was to search for images and who do I find in the image results page but our friends Kristi (Finding Ninee) and Stephanie (Mommy, for real). No! really! don’t believe me? here:
school lunch + hamburger fricassee
… no! I’m sure neither of them will mind… (then there’s that really cool one of a semi-high school Kristi… and Stephanie is looking quite proper… you have to scroll down about ‘three rolls’ to where you see a hamburger and a photo of 4 past Presidents… you’ll spot Stephanie first)
…and how cool it that? (follow the links on their images… very worthwhile reading)
…so, time’s up. Seeing how I always (try to) convey something of an insight into the Wakefield Doctrine with every post, allow me to suggest that, if you have small children (or a clarklike spouse) and they are exhibiting what appears to be ‘fear’, of doing something or going somewhere, at basis of most clark’s fear is the dread of ‘exposure’, …of becoming (by virtue of not doing something correctly, or at very least, as well as everyone else), found out. That is what makes a clark, (young or old, male or female, accomplished or hiding), say that they don’t want to do something ( something that you very well know that they would want to do). Help them by identifying with that sense of ‘no pants in front of the audience’… but, for godsakes, don’t invoke the, ‘well everyone feels like that‘! Unless you’re a clark yourself, you will not appreciate the degree of fundamental aversion to being held up before everyone as being… different and flawed. There are things that you can do (and, I suspect most of you who are identifying with this already do)… is to let them, (the clark in question), sneak up on expressing their concerns and providing the support (which is to say, reduce the pressure to perform and the time for them to come up with a strategy that they can get themselves through the first time…after they do, they will be fine.) your clark will thank you at some point.
* hats off to Lizzi, the Master of…. er, the Mistress of cool neologism