Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
“…I have no idea why, (I suspect this is a gift for the rogers)
This will be a Post with hope and no plan. (It is a matter of record, in this here blog here, that the Posts I most enjoy reading are those that turn up only after I’ve given up totally on any hope of ever writing another word that anyone would feel the slightest desire to read. …am I setting the bar too high? lol yeah, I know).
Speaking of despair and setting the bar too high… is there a clark out there who doesn’t agree with the following statement: ‘I would trade all the success I might acquire in exchange for a day in which I did not worry about being found out?’
sorry, rogers (and clarks with a secondary rogerian aspect*) you are not qualified to participate in today’s semi-rhetorical Post. No, we don’t want to hear it. Yeah, yeah, we all appreciate how much you try to understand and how you feel that way sometimes. and no, scott… this is not a play-posture and it is totally not an injured clark signal. (at least with scotts, there is not too much danger of hurt feelings, as insensitive and predatory as they can be at times, most of our scottian friends mean well… even when they forget that we’re not prey…that we are as real as they are… (no, not even a roger can understand this insight into the scottian worldview)… hey, just ask your clarklike friend! he or she will (possibly) be willing to esplain it to you. hey, seriously folks… there are some things that clarks understand/appreciate/are-loathe-to-admit-even-in-private-to-ourselves, that you people will never understand. worse… way worse than not understand(ing), you will believe that you understand, (that) it’s us clarks that need to be shown the right way to look at things. scotts and rogers both, at one time or another, will be heard to say, ‘hey, lighten up! have some fun forget all that head crap‘ and ‘I know how you feel, believe me I’ve felt like you (worse even!) you need to get over yourself, let me tell what real suffering is about‘
er, guys? …fuck you
clarks, when we are talking about the world in the above terms are not, I repeat, are not suffering. (at least not in terms that a scott or a roger has any prayer of understanding)… we are pissed off. (angry…possibly) (mad as hell…yeah, I’d like to believe that’s what we feel) it’s a clark thing… you scotts can’t know what it’s like and you rogers will never know how it feels.
alright. Now I have to get out of the house and off to work. (lol yeah, huh? how the fuck do we do that? I mean seriously, thank god for the emotional disconnect! otherwise we’d be spending our lives under the bed or hiding under the porch in the warm embrace of last autumn’s leafs)
I will say to clarks out there… this thing, this collection of clarks coming ’round the Wakefield Doctrine? people like: ‘name-withheld-because-I-am-overly-sensitive-to-privacy’ and ‘not-mentioning-her-name-’cause-she-has-such-a-cool-real-life-and-sucessful-blog‘ well it has produced a benefit that is hard to put into words…but then again, that’s the point. not necessary to put into words. but I will anyway…
thanks
and that permission thing? that Cyndi brought up that Denise mention in her Post? yeah we tend to not give ourselves permission to: take (or even) to be ourselves … so, for today I’ll give whatever clark is reading this, permission to: …be satisfied with your best efforts; …happy with what you enjoy; …angry without guilt; …to take without having to justify; …have a little peace and quiet in your head at the end of the day. I know that you would do the same for me.
ok.. does anyone want to volunteer to go and let the scotts back in? the rogers will be a little more work, maybe we can pretend we’re sorry for being so rude and self-centered
laugh out loud (‘lol’)
* no, not you, z you have sufficiently strong predominant clark to overcome the desire to disagree with this statement (although, a part of the back of your mind was thinking…. yeah, but….)
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let me play my violin while the purebred Clarks go off and lick their oh so deeply rooted wounds… lol…yeah…lol.
lol
…I take it that you read today’s Post
no! no I’m more clark than you….
lol some of my best friend are clarks with a secondary rogerian aspect!
(this is not helping, is it?)
no one is gonna accuse you of being slow….stupid maybe…. but not slow….lol…ahem
…ok, how about:
‘well, I have a secondary scottian aspect, that does not mean that I’ll chew up the couch and piss on the rug, does it?
…well, it kinda does, doesn’t it?
lol
I do believe you have been pissing circles around your territory all weekend and then some… yes?
what on earth is this all about???
jny
Hey jean, I’m too willing to be alienated when I’m cranky… ironically its my Clarklike aspect that does it to me… who would figure, eh? (C, Nope that is not a rogerian attempt to make it better…its not. I’m still pissy)
Good morning jean!
good morning!
(I suspect I should leave well enough alone and simply appreciate the write-the-next-Post-hurry-the-hell-up effects of Posts such as today’s)
Ok, I won’t participate, but will drop in and say hello!
no, michelle you know that you are one of the ‘exceptions to the rule’… and (I would suspect) your secondary clarklike aspect, while not necessarily approving of today’s post, does identify…just a bit with what we clarks sometimes feel like and do …
Just holler “Ollie Ollie Oxen Free” whenever it’s safe to come out.
Kristi
(a part of the great Doctrine ‘proof’ experiment*… I should have written a little disclaimer … “object in mirror may appear smaller than in real life, and clark is writing from some part of himself that he hardly ever goes to, doesn’t overly like and still probably will be for the best…any friend of the Doctrine (including non-clarks) should consider themselves protected from any negative vibes that may appear on these pages”)
thank you for the thought… of course, this Comment (of yours) sort of makes you privy to some of the more… outré efforts on the part of your host to understand the human personality and such. and it is safe for you here
* nothing weird, just a touch on the clarkstrange side
So now it’s been taken out of the box, shaken free of dust, put on and worn for a while then stuffed back in the box (and probably the box kicked for good measure) I take it we’ll see a return to the status quo soon enough.
In the meantime, glad it wasn’t a ‘clark suffering’ signal.
Lizzi
thank you (the law of clark peer groups allows us to say anything to each because we (all) recognize that we will take in whatever way is available to us, subject to our state of mind at the time, the over-riding consideration being that clarks know about other clarks*)
…no, clark suffering is a signal-less event. that is to say: if it is relatively minor, i.e. down, disappointed, angry or upset it well be totally clear in our voice, our writing, our body language, if it is anything else we will not be available for interpretation ya know?
* translation for rogers and scotts and such: thank you
You define the “clark suffering” well. It is a true thing that a clark will suffer alone, like an animal crawling away to find somewhere to die.
A “suffering clark” will hibernate, indulge in music (Jar of Flies by Alice in Chains plays on this laptop…at this moment, Nutshell. Enough said. LOL) film, writing, whatever amplifies the struggle that is dealing with emotion.
Glad this topic came up. Reminds me of a post I did a couple/few years ago in which I shared several “melancholy” music videos. I was not depressed or feeling bad. I was simply enjoying utilizing a vehicle of personal expression (through music). I received several comments from folks voicing “concern” about my state of mind. Thinking me quite sad, they simply could not relate. Needless to say, the readers commenting were not clarks!
And so the circle goes. The attempt at knowing as well as one can, how another views the world. How they relate themselves to the world.
One more thing. Many folks, rogers in particular cannot understand how heavy metal music can be happy music!!