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January 21, 2014 By

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Short Post. Tuesday. Have 17 minutes. (yes, including editing) (very funny).
This is not meant to be odd, for the sake of being odd, it’s just what has occurred to me this morning. (Insight #1 worldview of clarks: because there is no such thing as permanent, variations of a standard is natural to the point of being inevitable). But I am stuck with it, (the form and the worldview), so lets just try to make the best of it.

So, I’ve recently found myself in a recurring struggle (with myself), over the question of how successful this blog has been in introducing the Wakefield Doctrine to people and (in) helping them use it’s principles as a way to better understand what the hell is going on around them. Of course, in order to have a proper struggle, you need at least two sides, a conflict between two differing views or viewpoints or opinions or values or positions. Basically between what is and what (I believe) should be. In my case with the Wakefield Doctrine blog, it is the question: am I successful in my efforts?  For the most part I feel the answer is ‘yes’. Then, without warning and on a suspiciously cyclic basis, I encounter successful blogs/books/ideas/ways-to-improve-your-quality-of-life, and I stop and look at my own efforts and think,  ‘damn, I am so not even close to doing this correctly/effectively/successfully!’  I see sites and blogs and books and they present themselves as ‘real’  or ‘credible’ or  or something that the Wakefield Doctrine clearly lacks.  Now, I do ask for feedback on occasion and some will say that, in my presentation, I am too quirky and others will say I need to be better organized. I accept those suggestions, but they are of the nature of (the) simple presentation of the ideas. There is something more…something about the other sites/blogs/ideas. There is, with these others, a respectability, an attitude of being real, and… well you’ve seen them out there, no need to continue too much more on the theme of what the successful personality theory people are doing.

I suspect that I should look at what I am doing, for a clue, for a way to change the approach I am taking. So I thought, ‘well, clark, what is this thing you are doing, what is the Wakefield Doctrine‘?

the Wakefield Doctrine is a helluva useful tool and a perspective on behavior and a way to better understand the behavior of the people in our lives.

For the record, I know what the Doctrine is and I believe in its potential and how useful it can be. Seeing my one line description (in block quotes, no less) I believe I see the problem. The Wakefield Doctrine that is described up there? It is a thing. An idea. With potential (but no life). It is dry and impersonal. It is abstract, and lifeless. What the hell.

so…my time is up today.

I think I need to either change my goals or find a way to present the Wakefield Doctrine in a manner that makes clear the energy and life and ‘holy-shit-how-cool-is-this?!’ and ‘hey!! you-should-read-about-this-Doctrine-wait’ll-you-try-it!’ or ‘oh man!! this-is-so-cool!! come here!!’

 

(this actually took 37 minutes and I haven’t proofed it all that well)

 

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TToSundee the Wakefield Doctrine (“when at a loss, look for the things you can’t see! it might be there.”)

January 19, 2014 By

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"…why no! not anyone I would recognize."

“…why no! not anyone I would recognize.”

It’s funny how groups form, (sometimes whether you intended to become a part of it or not), and when they do, it’s funny about how powerful the forces affecting the members of the group are, (whether you ‘know better than to go along or not’), and even when you think that you can stand off to the side, membership in a group or a family or team or club or a bloghop or any other, voluntarily joined collection of people with a common interest invariably makes (a part) of you become their’s and (a part) of them becomes yours. Funny.  I suspect that most of you out there are rather quite aware of this thing, for a couple of reasons: a) you have gender-related predisposition to being more sensitive to the emotional side of life and 2) all this is fairly obvious. But, …but! one of the benefits of belonging to a group is that members (ha ha) are allowed leeway in exploring and learning things that, if done elsewhere,  might entail an outcome that would be less…. positive.

So it is with the TToT. I offer myself as an example of the last person who would be expected to join a group like this.  (lol  yes… for a couple of you, that was a ‘free one’… go ahead, I’ll wait.  I could name names (as to who is reacting to that last phrase, ‘a group like this’….)  but that would not be fair, and might be a little creepy to anyone not familiar with the Wakefield Doctrine.)  Nevertheless, I am a member of this here group here. And, with today’s Post, I am taking advantage of the benefits afforded members of the group and discharging my responsibility, as a member of this group.  I suspect I will try to return to this theme, ‘the secret costs and often-over-looked-and-underestimated-value’ of belonging to a group, a little bit later, but I need to throw some of my co-hosts off my rhetorical trail.  The sight and smell of a tired wildebeest can be incredibly powerful for people who conform to one of the three worldviews (of the Wakefield Doctrine).

I am not a sociologist (although I am willing to try to play one here in the blogosphere) and I am not a warm, sensitive, touchy-feely, roger and yet I will only feel like I have succeeded with this Post if I evoke an obviously emotional response from a Reader and I am not a skilled writer,  (I don’t say that with a false modesty/look for compensatory compliments), instead I will continue with this Post.

I am one who enjoys this medium1 and, since (and) despite what non-bloggers might choose to think, writing a blog is a very, very social activity2,3. While many of us focus on life in general, many of us write topic-specific blogs. Everything from book reviews to cooking tips, child rearing1 and pretty much everything and anything. But you all know that! And, I am willing to wager that a good percentage of you are beginning to say to yourselfs, “ah! there’s his tricky List beginning to appear! I knew that he would eventually do something like that“.  Now those of us at the Wakefield Doctrine take a certain pride in the ability to predict the thoughts of others.4

Ok, in all fairness to my many Reader’s I was beginning to have rather high hopes of pulling off a Post today that would be: funny, challenging and yet still convey the strong feelings I have for Lizzi and her band of hostinae.  I think where I went wrong was to try and tie in the Wakefield Doctrine’s uncanny ability to allow a person to not just know more about the other person (than they know about themselves) but to also predict the reactions, responses and behavior of another person to future events.  (you know, like I did with Christine a little earlier…and as I was about to with our new Hostettes, Sandy and Lisa.. alas I must wait until another time, after I have covered my head with the blanket of obscurity and been polite and innocuous for a sufficient period of time.)

Lizzi:  hey!  all that stuff about the totally un-earned value to membership in a group? I was talking about you and this here bloghop that you created.  (there’s a famous saying, a favorite of all college students and other intellectual-wannabes…. “when you look into an abyss, the abyss also looks into you”  well I admire your courage and strength, but (totally not implied in my famous quote), I believe that when your share something painful with a group, you are automatically sharing in the collective strength of (that) group. Obvious to most Readers, but from the Doctrine perspective, sometimes clarks need to be reminded that we must (sometimes) force ourselves to accept the good along with the bad.

(…. I am grateful to this group and anything else that may be required to bring my grat list to 10 Items  which I think is 5 more, so I will say: good health (as reasonably as reasonable), the Wakefield Doctrine (well, duh!), the Vid Chats (totally the coolest thing available on the internet), and to Cyndi and Denise for the conversation on the Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Drive Call-in last night.

 

Ten Things of Thankful

 

 Your hosts


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‘of taxons and commas’ the Wakefield Doctrine (“… it is still Saturday, right?”)

January 18, 2014 By

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'Driveway and Dog'

‘Driveway and Dog’

I cannot believe I just threw away 497 words that was a draft post. Totally threw it away, I couldn’t even justify leaving them, (the 497 words), as a ‘strike-through-content-left-on-Post-to-form-launching-point-of-the-actual-Post’, something that I have done in the past.

But enough about me! You’re here because: a) you are a participant in Lizzi’s Ten Things of Thankful bloghop and have decided to read a whole bunch of the ‘other’ Posts or 2) you have stumbled badly in your killing-time-in-the-blogosphere and found yourself at the Wakefield Doctrine. This is our contribution to the TToT bloghop.

In any event. After I threw the 497 words down on the ground, I went back to bed. Lying in bed with Phyllis and Una, the thought occurred to me, ‘hey what about taxonomy?’  Needless to say, I started to get excited! Of course! I’ll break my life (at least the last 7 days of it) into simple categories and,  ….and!!  use bullet points!!!  the thing should write itself!!  (it would not hurt to wish me luck at this point. I mean, sure, I finished the Post and all, I know how it all turned out, but you, the Reader does not…know at this point. So before continuing, if you have a moment, think of your Writer, athletic and well toned body standing on a small hill in the middle of a field, yelling and waving, “Hey Readers!! up here!! I think I’ve found the way out!! Come on!!” and without looking back I run down the far side of the hill, heading towards some jungly looking woods in the distance. (Think Wizard of Oz  running through the field of poppies or whatever the hell it was and they almost make it to the Emerald City.)

This week, the things that I am grateful for/are, in the following categories:

Work:

  1. having work, a profession that I enjoy and have done for long enough to acquire the experience that allows me to do what I do competently but not for so long that I am tired of it
  2. part of my work involves driving in my car, which has always been one of my favorite things, as it is, in a sense,  sort of a portable/moving living room… comfortable seat, entertainment from the radio or the scenery as I drive along
  3. grateful for the difficulties I encounter it the course of doing my job, odd as that may sound.
  4. I had a former client stop in the office yesterday, I had his house listed last year. We were not able to get it sold and the listing expired. However, he felt comfortable coming to my office because he needed some help with information required to refinance the house and I was, in fact, able to help. I liked the…. I guess I would call it a compliment, or whatever it was that was implied by his coming to me for help, even though it did not involve selling his house.

Home:

  1. comfortable home, environment is semi-rural which means that when we (the family unit) are at home, there is a degree of privacy which is kinda nice
  2. that other than one snow storm, the winter has been dry (or at least snow-free)…we have a pretty long driveway (not as long as, say, Christine’s, which from the Posts I read, is crazy long), but longer than any of the other driveways in the neighborhood.  I have resisted buying a snow blower so it is all shovel-by-hand whenever we get a storm… wait, let me get a picture!
  3. technology!  that I was able to stop this typing, get my phone and take 6 or 7 photos and email them to myself and use one in this here Post here, how cool is that?
  4. modern heating systems.  We have a wood stove on the lower level of the house, it’s one of those with the glass doors so besides being an additional heat source, it has the aesthetic appeal of a fireplace. The thing is, the amount of work necessary to produce a state of ‘not cold’ in the house using wood as a fuel!  no, I am totally grateful for the thermostat-based heating systems

the Virtual World:

  1. we had the Friday Night Vid Chat last night. I really enjoy this form of social interaction with people. As is often cited in these grat lists (mine and others), I really get off on the fact that I am able to meet people who, without the medium of the internet, I would never, ever have met.
  2. Cyndi’s Comment/Question/Follow-up-that-provided-it’s-own-answer (see Comments in this Post)
  3. had some technical talk last night,   …grammar!!  (god!  if my 19 year old self could hear me now!  “hey! young clark!!  women and the proper use of commas and semi-colons  someday that is going to be the high point of your week!”)
  4. that I am not, in fact, being the least sarcastic in that last item.

there! and without having to invoke a single Secret Rule! (thanks for the reminder, zoe).

Welcome to the newest Co-host, whose identity we managed to un-cover, despite Lizzi’s best effort to keep us all in the dark!*

 

Ten Things of Thankful

 

 Your hosts



* a little joke, referring to email thread… ha**

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‘three worldviews’ the Wakefield Doctrine ‘…a way that will change you and yet make you more ‘yourself’ than ever before’

January 16, 2014 By

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so the question from astute DownSpring Cyndi:  can a person change predominant worldview?

ggreat question, Cyndi! you know what they say!  “…if you have to ask the question, then it has not, in fact, happened!”   ( jajajaja  no!, serially… ) The three worldviews are ways to understand how the character of our personality is both a cause and a function of our behavior, our personality. I am a clark (as are you) because the nature of the world, of my actual damn reality is that of an Outsider. What we call a clarklike personality type is simply a way of describing a (person’s) successful efforts to cope, contend, challenge and celebrate being alive as a person who is not a part of the world around them. The goal (and the gaol… ha ha) of the Wakefield Doctrine is to help us develop the coping, contending, challenging and celebrating behaviors  that are required and result in the personality types seen when a person lives in the world as a predator ( a scott ) and even  the behaviors and such that we see rogers exhibit, as they go through their perfect, well-ordered, quantifiable days. But it gets even more…involved than that.

hey Cyndi!! ‘how ya doin today, baby!‘  There!!! quick!  (damn! it’s gone now). The totally first response inside your mind as you read those words, your reaction/response that got near-instaneously put into another, more sensible form ( ‘oh that clark, he sure is funny, how does he do that!’ )  that is what you are probably referring to when we talk about changing our predominant worldview.  I would say, ‘not to worry at this point’. What will happen, imho, is that, as we develop our secondary and tertiary aspects simply will be that we will gain a richer variety of interactions with the people (and the world) around us. Keep in mind, although the worldview(s) are real reality, we can develop the capability to see a situation as a scott or a roger would… and be comfortable with it and have behaviors appropriate to (a given) situation. But since I have not, for example,  practiced for a lifetime how to: cut that one gazelle out of the pack and:  run her down, until she stumbles (I knew even when she was with her friends that she would believe that she could function alone, this despite how bad she felt that evening) and then I can jump on her for the kill… I might want to hang back for now…with my Michelin book in hand and learn a little at a time about these two interesting countries for which I have a totally valid passport.

HEY!!  you think there won’t be total competition and crowding and such for an invite to the Vid Chat tomorrow??  how can you forget the scotts cutting in the lunch line or the rogers somehow managing to know someone at the door and get in before you do?  (you have forgotten, haven’t you?  not to worry…theys clarks around here  but ya gotta sign up!)  Hey!! you wanna know how coolio we are here at the Doctrine?? well, we are and to prove it, I just put a links link down at the bottom of the page! so you are feeling creatively-challenged and don’t want to try for the clever funny reasons to sign up… just link your damn blog and everyone will see that you be planning on joining us tomorrow night!

the Wakefield Doctrine presents

 ‘the Awesome Bloggers VidChat (doncherknow!!)’

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Name                                   Blog                                                              reason should be let in

 clark                      the Wakefield Doctrine                                         it’s me and Lizzi and Michele’s house thats why!

Christine             A Fly on our Chicken Coop Wall              Seeing that I’m a scott, you NEED me in that chat to keep the party hopping.  :)

jin nay                 there’s Beading to be Done!                        (“…you’re a clark or roger ’bout ready to leave the party and in walks…”)

Lizzi                    Considerings                                                   well, duh!  Laura Petrie

Denise                Girlie on the Edge                                          total frickin roger-bait

zoe                      re-written                                                          ’cause!

(a little…music?)

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a bloghop? the Wakefield Doctrine ‘Life vidiotic’ (a bloghop at 24p)

January 15, 2014 By

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"…exactly like this, but different."

“…exactly like this, but different.”

In the course of one of our Friday Night vid chats*, I mentioned that I thought a bloghop based on video Posts might be fun. As Readers know, I use video for maybe one Post every 10 days to 2 weeks, mostly as a way to give myself a day off from type-type, typing these here Post’s here. Well,… a lively discussion ensued. I recall (or choose to recall), that everyone thought it was a great idea, but there was a wide range of opinion as to how (a video Post) should be presented, in a video blog hop. We all agreed that they (the individual vid Posts of participating bloggers) would need to be short. All of us who have worked in this medium (lol  “…look at the giant beret on Brad!”), have learned that attention span is more than fleeting and no one, among the participants, believed that anything more than 3 minutes wouldn’t be a waste of ‘film’.

In fact, most of the ‘fun’ of the discussion (of length) focused on how short the video should be… the primary advocates of very short vids, were, I believe Kristi and Starr.  I got a sense of agreement with my position, ( i.e.  ‘short is good, but long(er) is not bad’), from zoe and Tamara and Christine. Lizzi was reserving judgement as would any good co-host.

So here is my contribution to the First Annual Wakefield Doctrine bloghop, ‘the View idiotic’.  Astute Readers and experienced blog-hoppers will notice that I don’t seem to have any mechanism for anyone (else) to participate in this ‘hop. Anyone with experience in such matters, who would care to make suggestion, I welcome any input. (I did try…sorta, the linky app that Lizzi uses, but got the impression it is designed exclusively for blogger blogs…could be wrong.)

The really important feedback is,  ‘is there anything to this idea that is appealing enough to cause people to do a vid post and send it in?’

Doctrine Tip: we all live in one of three characteristic personal realities, aka worldview. And it is because we are in a reality that has a certain characteristic (that of the Outsider, the Predator or the Herd Member) from a very early age and have to develop coping strategies and ways of negotiating life that is geared to the characteristics (of the worldview we are in) that we have ‘personality types’ that we call being a clark or a scott or a roger.  Here: if I grew up in the worldview of a Predator then I would most likely not be typing this Post… I would be out there eating/defecating/reproducing or… back here sleeping, simply because the challenges presented by the worldview of the Predator (a scott) required action, aggressiveness, minimal reflection on the subjective… scotts act!  same for  clarks and rogers   we (the three personality types) represent the best effort to cope with the world that we find ourselves in… not perfect not inappropriate, just the best based on the conditions we face.   ¿comprende?

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