Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
yes, the Wakefield Doctrine is having problems with coming up with a simple list of 10 things to feel grateful for out of the last week. Call it (my) insensitivity to an emotional reflection on my daily life, call it an effort to become a better writer by challenging myself with a difficult topic. But, here we are again. Saturday Morning. The ‘assignment’ is rather straightforward: write a list of Ten Things that I have felt grateful for (Thankful) over the course of the last 7 days.
| Hey! It’s a good thing it’s not… | Hey! When you look at it like that!… | Conclusion |
| lots of blog hops to write a Post for… | lots of blog hops to write for | grateful for these blog hops |
| getting stressed by my job | having a job to be stressed by | grateful to have a job |
| being in a business that involves a high level of (potential) stress | being in a business that is varied and interesting and never boring | fortunate that I have the skills/experience for my field |
| hoping the weather is nice | enjoying the weather | hey! it’s not snowing |
| having to write a new Post for the Doctrine | having a Doctrine to write a new Post for | no contest: having a unique, useful and fun personality theory is way a good thing |
| No, it’s not that I don’t have people that I am grateful for… | No, there are people that I am grateful for | …however uncomfortable I may feel, having people around who care is a good thing |
So in a trade-off of timeliness in exchange for coherency… lets go with timelines.
After all the Saturday Post is only the start. What makes this the place to be in the blogosphere on weekends is that this blog hop is an active place from today until the end of the day Sunday. So if you have a Post to contribute thats great…if you want to read and Comment thats also a good thing… ‘cross commenting’ is not only allowed, it’s encouraged! As you will see in the Comment threads as Posts show up, the conversation will swerve verve and perhaps open up a new topic… you can never tell what you might find at the Ten Things of Thankful on the weekends.
Now I count 12 Things (of Thankful) in the table above, but just to try to access my rogerian aspect, let me add:
- I am grateful for Considerer asking me to co-host this blog
- I am grateful for Christine being the friend and protecteress of Considerer and them
- I am grateful for the evolving nature of this blog hop
- I am grateful that I have a rogerian aspect…though I suspect I will be paying a larger price for it than I realize.
Enough.
Wait… before you go!! You know how, as you write a Comment on a Post, you get a thought…but you know that you would never take the chance typing it? …Welll we are having a Video Brunch this weekend! Problem solved! (also, if you are one of those people who keep coming back to the Doctrine…you’re not sure why, there just seems to be something about it that appeals to you… but you are sure that you don’t quite get it). Join us on the brunch tomorrow. Realtime conversation can be so efficient in communicating abstract ideas.
9:00 to 10:00am EDT Sunday and 1:00 to 2:00pm EDT Sunday
We will be using google hangout… so install that and if you have trouble joining in the conversation, we will be watching the Comment section here on this post and the Facebook as well. Hope you get to join us.
Here are our lovely (and sexy) Hostini:
About clarkscottroger
I’m also grateful for your rogerian aspect and your willingness to engage with it – gives me hope that I might someday follow in your footsteps and manage to connect properly with mine. It’s still playing up.
You’re a star, Clark.
I also LOVE love love the way you tabled it out to show EXACTLY the thought process and the attitude change that this hop here is ALL about. Thank you for making it so accessible. I keep trying to explain it, and end up tying myself in convoluted knots of conversation. This. Is. Brilliant. So straightforward! :D
Thank you for bringing the Y and the Wakefield Doctrine to this. It is a better hop for having you in it. Definitely.
Totally loved your conclusions and am with you that I do have plenty of work to go around and it isn’t snowing. All big pluses in my book as far as I am concerned. Thanks as always for co-hosting and seriously so happy to get to link up again!! Have a great weekend now, Clark!! :)
Damn. Maybe it’s time. Time to watch Fight Club. Again. Time to pick up the pieces. Again.
Time to join this extraordinary blog hop? Do I dare?
Have to say, when I can carve the time to read TTOT posts they are nothing but inspiring…
I am a zombie this morning, lol.
All those classes and the art show last evening…I’m barely finishing my first cup of tea. *yawn*
I DO have a post written for TToT…will publish it as soon as I have pics uploaded. Maybe today…maybe tomorrow, lol…not sure.
As for the rogerian aspect: I have a light switch inside my brain. I can turn the rogerini on and off at will. I consider it one of my talents. ;)
So thankful for the hop. :)
@Cyndi
waiting to hear all about the show (I have the artists rogers and the scottian female art critics (with black tights on and torn tee shirts) in my mind already!)
..the cool thing about the TTofT is that it truly is a 2 day affair.. so stop in once you have recuperated or jump into a Comment thread…they are all over the place! lol
will look forward to your insights into access the herd!
YES Girlie – you dare!
(Fight Club? Really? I had someone only the other day trying to convince me on that one…feel free to take a shot. I just Do. Not. Get it.)
@Considerer
something tells me this is a guy thing… I mean, while I might not actually join a Fight Club…there is something atavistically alluring(?) attractive(?) erotic(?) about it
I best stop now
You have perfected the ability to turn lemons into lemonade! During our recent rain for days period, when people would say, “God, will it ever stop raining?”, I’d turn and say, “Well, at least we don’t have to worry about water rationing and not being able to take showers!” It’s easy to see those that will change and agree, and those that give you that “really strange look.” (You know, the one that shows they’re wondering, “Is this sucker as crazy as he sounds?” lol) Well done, my friend.
@Rich
that is one of the benefits of keeping the company we do (dude!! how did we slip past security in this one?) All hail Landru
Aha, so you’ve a rogerian aspect! See you at the brunch tomorrow, Clark!
@Michelle
…didn’t saw I enjoyed it!
lol (just kidding)
Oh I get the allure of the thing itself – I’m a big fan of boxing…but not the film.
@Considerer
I would hate to suggest this…but (the thing itself) is way more primitive..I suspect.
..you did enjoy the film? I was totally laughing when I first caught what they were doing with the flash image (I have to admit, it may have been my second viewing..lol)
Back from work…will try to catch up…then off to Wakefield (yes, the Wakefield)… I will try to find some local scenery… may try the Facebook…
The hangout thing is aggravating…I don’t think it is possible to set up a ‘hangout’ in advance…I think it is just an ‘announce’ thing… hey everyone come on over…we will learn.
I just took up boxing after an almost thirty year hiatus…there is something to be said for primitive….I wont be sparring this time though. Just the work outs and the bag stuff….after reading your entry Clark…which is always intriguing to me btw…I wonder what it is you do for a living? Not that anything you’ve written about being stressed is unusual ( I suppose my garbage collector is stressed) but Im just nosey…oh yeah…all hail landru …why do advanced cultures always wear drapery and sheets? Maybe they know something about comfort the rest of us are missing.
@zoe
I’m gad you mentioned sparring… because for me… the Fight Club reference resonated more with fighting than boxing…there seems to be some drive (within all of us/some of us) that is attracted to the extreme situations (physical violence and other forms of peril), available in life.
As to my current profession, I am a real estate broker. And you’re right, stress is a state that does not (necessarily) attend to a particular profession or job. Having said that, I have been looking at (my own) dealing with stress from the perspective of my ‘relationship’ to the experience. (…one of the things we say around here is that ‘the Doctrine is concerned with how a person relates themselves to the world around them’). So naturally, in the course of a stressful, I would try to see if the Doctrine offers anything of value.
It does.
Well, I must confess that while I still don’t really understand you, I do kind of adore you. I don’t mean that in any sort of “invade your personal space” way…just across the blogosphere I adore you. I’m glad that even though you are not comfortable with all this “share your feelings” business that you still get involved and push yourself a bit. Thank you for feeling that the rest of us are worth your effort. :)
@Kris
that makes me feel good to hear, (which if the truth be told would be two weird things for me, a clark to experience: a) reading a kind statement and 2) not locking up totally… (well, semi-totally lol)
thank you.
I must admit that I feel like I should redouble my efforts to express this Wakefield Doctrine ‘better’* Caught as we are somewhere between a ‘theory of personality’ and (an) anecdotal system of observations and characterizations of…lol (“I’m doing it again, aren’t I?”) lol
You know how every now and then magazines will have a survey (‘test your emotional IQ’ or ‘are you a romantic’ or even ‘how compatible with your spouse are you really?’) They ask questions and you score them and they say look on the chart and your score says, ‘you are a genius romantic and your husband is crazy about you’ and they usually have other ‘qualities’ about what ‘you are like’. These are fun and (the better ones) seem to give you answers that you know are ‘true’. (I wrote in a Post once, that most animals and all humans find mirrors (their reflection) irresistible and that most of these personality theories are simply mirrors.
The thing about the Doctrine (that might be helpful) is that is a mirror, or it might be better to say it is a lens a way to look at the things in our world. But the Doctrine is not answer…it is a tool. A tool that offers one more way to try to understand the people in our lives.
And it’s fun…and it’s challenging. You mention the challenge I have with dealing with/writing about/relating to emotional matters… that is very true in my case, but I have found a way to use the Wakefield Doctrine to help to try.
*better is very simple: written in such a way that anyone who read it will understand the principles sufficiently to ‘try it out’ and decide if it (the Doctrine) has a use/value for them
I don’t even remember the film, except that I didn’t enjoy watching it.
Good luck with the vidding. And Sunday (oh! That’s today!)
Huffpost allegedly used G+ hangout for a thing they did recently, with specific bloggers sharing their experiences and views on highschool reuninons. It worked PREFECTLY for them, which was annoying.
@Considerer
lol I feel as you do. I played with it today… as far as I could tell I can’t set up a future hangout… I can only establish one and send out invites that say, ‘hey! come over to this hangout?’
well, this is the fun of learning*, right?
*no! this is the aggravation of learning lol
As much as I would like to join you on the video chat, that just won’t be possible anytime in the foreseeable future. It’s hard enough to have a phone conversation with six kids and a husband. I have no doubt if I got on a VIDEO conversation, all hell would break loose, and you’d see my oldest run by while swinging the youngest around by his toes, middle two boys would break out into a fistfight, and daughter would come pouting and crying that I never listen to her when she needs help with her hair. I shall have to survive on comments and FB alone.
Brilliant chart you have there. It’s amazing how better a person’s life is when nothing but his perspective changes!
And I am thankful for you, the co-host who is so good at encouraging everyone to jump in and comment, so Lizzi and I don’t look like rude goobers for jumping on everyone’s comment threads. :)
@christine
I got a chuckle from “… all hell would break loose, and you’d see my oldest run by while swinging the youngest around by his toes, middle two boys would break out into a fistfight, and daughter would come pouting and crying that I never listen to her when she needs help with her hair...” mostly because of my own ‘learning’ experiences with this video format!
The video part is excellent for communication, but it is startling how many other considerations enter into the process. (For me it was …is my office a mess?…is the door to the horribly over-packed closet open and showing in the picture? But it’s fun and, as with most of our other approaches to the Doctrine…it’s only one of a number of different things we try out.
You and Considerer totally deserve the credit for the appeal that this bloghop is exhibiting.
I was talking to Cyndi and Denise this evening and (naturally) we talked about the weekend thing and Cyndi was all, “it, (the TToT), will be perfect for part of my own blogging in the next few months as I work to reconcile crazy schedules of school and work and art… ” and Denise was mentioning the idea of it having a welcoming feel to it… write a Post or (even!) not write a Post…everyone is welcome! At some point in the conversation, I remembered reading a few months ago a well respected blogger counseling a new blogger (who was concerned about the number of visits to her new site) by saying, “…don’t waste a Post on Saturday or Sunday because nobody blogs on weekends”
But it was your (and Lizzi’s) steadfast determination that kept this thing going so that people, (who would love to blog on the weekends but didn’t have a place to go), could find us and get comfortable with this admittedly strange, but very warm and supportive community.
Nice work, guys.
Oh, and Girlie on the Edge, the time has come. Write a post! Write a post! Link it up!
Ah, Loved your conclusions. You had me at ‘It’s not snowing’. lol. I always liked the saying, ‘When life gives you lemons, turn it into lemonade, then ask someone for sugar.’ Okay, perhaps that is not verbatim. I don’t actually remember the ending so I just added one. :) When in doubt, fake it?
@DonettaS
lol I would suggest that (depending on intent) ‘faking it’ is not the worse thing a person can do when confronting a difficult situation, going into denial and/or otherwise ignoring it is worse. It’s fun how we change over time. At a younger age I used to reject a statement like the lemonade strategy as being mindlessly optimistic… but then with time my views changed and I came to have a different perception of mindless and optimism! lol
(Someone once said to me, ‘you are responsible for how you feel’. It drove me crazy for years! Not being overly in touch with my emotional aspect didn’t exactly help either, lol but I came to see that there is lot to be said for the choices we make when it comes to our feelings.. needless to say, I am still working on a full understanding of that…but with time.
Holy crap I’ve missed some most excellent conversations today. Sorry ’bout that. When it comes to Fight Club. Meh. Except Brad Pitt AND Edward Norton? WIn, right there. Fuck the story. Watching the two of them made it awesome. Plus, those cool psychological twists were kickass (forgotten about that movie – it was really actually great).
Dude. Love your chart. My favorite (which you probably already wrote down and predicted) is :
no contest: having a unique, useful and fun personality theory is way a good thing
Yes, that. That, exactly….
@Kristi
yeah… I forgot all about Helen Bonham Carter (Marla) in that movie…loved the intro scene where she steals the clothes at the Laundromat and walks across the street to sell them.
the thing I’m increasingly liking about this here hop here, is that people are realizing that there are any number of conversations going on at the different Posts and (they) are comfortable stopping by… ‘chatting’ a bit,just for the fun of it! for a part of the week that no one does any blogging, this TToT sure is getting busy.
(trust you enjoyed my movie reference over at Finding Ninee...)
You are sweet. I like “steadfast determination” a whole lot better than the usual term used to describe my inclination to force an issue. (stubborn)
I have noticed, wandering around all these blogs, that when someone talks about the Wakefield Doctrine, people talk about scotts in a way that leans toward the negative. I can practically see the eyeroll/you know how scotts are look. Why is that? Is it because there aren’t many of us out here? (Am I the only one??) I’m not offended in the least. On the contrary, I find it to be fascinating. Perhaps you’re all just jealous? :)
@christine
“I’m not offended in the least. On the contrary, I find it to be fascinating. Perhaps you’re all just jealous? :)”
I’m increasingly of the belief that how a person responds to the description of their worldview is telling us something… and for a scott, your reaction is perfect! scotts (at least those with sufficient secondary clarklike aspects*) like to have fun (among other things) and are possessed of the self-confidence/self-reliance that simply does not allow for them to take offense. (Watch puppies playing. You can be a giant human or a smaller dog and they will play…whole heartedly without reservation (you never ‘hear’ them complain “hey! you’re too big! no fair!!”). lol
It is good to have a scott around who not only ‘gets’ the Doctrine, but is comfortable giving us insights (into the world of your people).
I can write about the way you see the world…but there is no substitute for the real thing…the energy the directness is what always comes across. And since a big part of what we are trying to do here is develop a ‘common language’ between the 3 worldviews, we will be looking to you for what it is like… out there in the savannah resting in the shade of the Acacia trees watching the watering holes…waiting lol
One of things that I find challenging in writing about the three worldviews is to convey the sense of ‘hey! this is not only fun but lets exaggerate everything because then the (actual) differences between the three worldviews might become more easily spotted!’
* it is nearly axiomatic that anyone ‘getting’ the Doctrine at it’s current level of presentation (meaning my writing skills) has a secondary clarklike aspect…both predominant scotts and rogers and not for any reason having to do with intelligence or intellect. It is simply that implicit in the worldview of clarks is a combination of curiosity and imagination that makes the key premise of the Doctrine (‘personal realities’) so un-challenging
SO Ive been following what you’ve been writing to myself and others. I like your take on stress and responsibility of affect. In terms of emotional responsibility I truly subscribe to the idea of radical acceptance. That is that I may not like something but I may have to accept it and therefore the only thing I can do is choose how I am going to react to it…it is my responsibility. While everything is not in my control at least this is… I railed against it for years but have finally come around to realizing its innate truth. It must have been my Clarkisms fighting back…
@zoe
…clarks very definitely ‘rail against’ but I would submit that is it not (your clarklike aspect) fighting back…rather it is (your clarklike aspect resisting*)
* clarks take resistance to a whole ‘nother level lol actually it might not be another level, but a thing itself…denial (in the full sense of term**)
** the premise of the Doctrine is (in part) an offshoot of the concept of denial… that of ‘for the person in question, they are no longer refusing to understand…the thing simply does not exist in their worldview)
I love the chart; it’s a good visual reminder that we can choose to find good in our circumstances.
@Kristi
it was one of those things… (“what to write..what to write…(visual of a clock with the minute and hour hands spinning like crazy)… I’ve got it!! A Chart!”) lol
@Christine – scotts (spoken of amongst clarks) often are referred to with an affectionate eye-roll because there tends to be an inherent cerebral level occurring first (with clarks) prior to any action. There is an internal dialogue whereby every action is ‘unpicked’, viewed from different angles and assessed before it is taken. And once taken (e.g. my decision to respond to you here, to explain) will then continue to be mulled over, pondered and the ‘rightness’ and efficacy of said action called into question until validated by a response (so this is gonna bug me all evening now, and I’ll be coming back later to see whether Clark’s told me I’m out of my tree, or whether you’ve told me that you understand now/have taken proper offense and left me something snarky (my anxiety being the latter, obv)) whereas a scott tends to be unfettered, more straightforward, more able to just *do* the thing without the very deep emotional and academic ‘whizzing over the same ground, searching for all possible outcomes and pacing, anxiously, at the thought that the worse outcomes may occur) – scotts are confident enough to put out there what they want to say, as they feel like saying it at the time, and let the chips fall where they may.
And we’re totally jealous.
@Considerer
…with you up to a small point (and even that point isn’t a disagreement as much as it is an interpretation of the use of a word, which, I suspect you are not using the manner that would give rise to my small point) er Christine?? wait! don’t leave!! I promise to stop talking like that* lol
I think I mentioned a while ago that the Doctrine is a thing of value to clarks first…then scotts and then rogers. (Neither scotts nor rogers need the Doctrine, but in the future I am convinced that it can be presented to (scotts and rogers) as a way to enhance their… approaches to life. Meaning, of course, a scott can become a better predator and a roger can become a better member of the herd
..so on one level, we are jealous of scotts (and rogers, believe it or not), but that is not based on a simple: their way is better… rather it is based on the idea that scotts (and rogers) are comfortable with your worldviews.
I’ve joked about it, but if you want to spot the clarks in a crowd of people in a hurry, make this announcement, “if you would like to be somebody else, move to your left’
* glenn is a Friend of the Doctrine who is also a scott and he used to kid me (no! imagine that!) about how, if he came upon me in conversation with another clark he would have to run away…. he referred to is as a ‘conversational blackhole’ the density of the ideas being such as to suck in any and all unwary scotts and rogers…lol
Ah, leave it to you to find some new* way to present the 10 things (or in this case 12) you are Thankful for throughout the week. Though, come to think of it, I may be “cheating” by posting on Sundays, which is mainly used for individuals deciding to post two sets of Thankfulness (a feat I don’t fancy myself meeting any time soon), but I definitely subjectively retain belief it is befitting of one’s sole post for the weekend hop nonetheless.
That and I will likely stick with the numerical listing option (though this week I may add bullet-points within them**).
It’s a great list. I’d say having a job that is varied and interesting if very important. Doing the same thing over and over again drives me mad and has lead to my departure from employment in the past.
Having people you care about and vice versa is always important to me. If you didn’t care about anyone wouldn’t you be a Monster? Though, even Monsters feel (as evident in Monsters Inc.), so what else is there?
I am hoping to get my webcam (though hoping it will be on sale when I do), but I am a bit too shy/timid for those video chats. I am not sure what time frame EDT is, but I think a lot of times my schedule is a bit apart from those overseas.
*Not excluding fun and interesting
**Due to formatting between Blogger and Google Drive having conflict*** and being a pain trying to space individual paragraphs in between numbered listings
***Which makes no sense being both are Google based
Jak
@Jak
ok first things first: plan on joining us on next week’s Brunch (we probably will have 2, as Michelle is 12 hours away and her input totally makes it worthwhile to have two chats)..as to time differences, it probably is not as bad as you would think. For instance it is 5:01 pm* 5 minutes in realtime will save you 5 hours of reading Posts. I am confident in saying that it would not be necessary to teach you the principles of the Doctrine (during one of these chats) you obviously have put it together… but what I find is useful is my being able to connect some dots, that may not be connected, the result of which is a way big jump in the fun of this thing. One thing…you will have to bear with us as to getting onto the actual call… Michelle and Considerer (and Cyndi) are much more adept at the ‘set up’ but we find a way… fun
as to Sunday or Saturday one post or two… Lizzi and I were talking about just that today… the ball is rolling, people are seeing that this bloghop is different. no pressure, not requirements just stop in and share what you would, take what you think you can… you know… visit the virtual small town that Mayorette Considerer and co-Mayorini Christine have founded… we totally need to have a Contest to name that small town!
*lol god I crack me up sometimes… I really love that joke…but serially, Eastern Daylight time is probably ‘in your future’…if you are in Central or Mountain time then just subtract the hours… there are a couple of Time Zones convertors out there**
** not nearly as cool as they sound eh?
Yes, I loved the movie reference over on Finding Ninee. Picking a fight with a guitar sounds perfectly perfect.
@Kristi
yeah… I have been talking lately about how…when it comes to pushing out the boundaries of understanding of the Doctrine, that it involves a lot of hyperbole cause crashing ideas together is fun lol Hey you want to co-chair the Name that Virtual Small Town Committee?
Precisely. Jealous in that they (scotts and rogers) don’t have to suffer (I don’t say it lightly) the internal conflict every time they do anything…they can do it freely, lightly, without returning to it in their mind, agonising over whether it should have been done differently and (upon outcome) wondering if the result was what they wanted.
They ‘sweat the small stuff’ less. It’s a desirable state of being, else we (clarks) wouldn’t be so damn interested in this here tool of yours.
@Considerer
…sort of what you suggested… lol am wading into the pool of un-moderated a little slowly. no moderation necessary for anyone who has already commented. Who knows if I get used to that, I will no doubt go for full non-moderation.
Watch for me, if it doesn’t ‘show’ the new comments as new… and you don’t get a reply pretty much right away, please let me know.
Let’s try this new thing OUT! *jumps in, hits it into gear and zooms off*
@Considerer
it works, but I will need to remember the last Comment to recognize the new Comments… oh! the trials and tribulations of bringing this here Doctrine here to the world!
lol
I have every confidence in you.
lol
Clark, just a bit of blog news…I’d comment a helluva lot more if I didn’t have to type in all my info every single time. I don’t know if that’s something you can change, but your site doesn’t remember me. Ever. And I hear I’m kinda hard to forget. :) And I picked a stupid name. Do you know how annoying it is to type “aflyonourchickencoopwall@hotmail.com” every time? If it is my computer making this happen, my apologies. :)
Aaand I’ll move on now…
So, by calling you all out and asking the question, I’ve proven my scottness? I can see that. You both are spot on in respect to our oppositeness. I do not him and haw over decisions. I make the decision and move on. If it ends up being the wrong one, (it happens every so often. You’re shocked. I know. So am I.) whatever is wrong can be fixed and we move on again. I really have a hard time understanding people I know in real life who can’t make quick decisions. Working with them used to be impossible for me. I’m getting better.
Considerer, basically waiting the ENTIRE day for me to respond practically killed you, didn’t it? So sorry. I wasn’t home all day, and then HAD to can some salsa before I could get on the computer.
Thank you for all of the insights. It astounds me how you two can nail down my personality so well.
@Christine
your friend Considerer has convinced me to dispense with the moderation (of Comments), I have taken that step, with a slight mod, I am using the ‘no moderation required if already Commented’. So, you might want to follow up with one (more) Comment, to see if it works.
The Doctrine is pretty astounding. (Actually it is capable of much more, but we try to not scare people too much, at least at first), I am not astounded that you have ‘gotten’ the Wakefield Doctrine as quickly as you have, I have said repeatedly that, the people we have you read and understand this thing are the exceptional ones.
There is more that can be done with our little personality theory, but all in good time. I am grateful for the effort that you and Lizzi have put into this bloghop and very cool community that you are creating here.
@Christine
Just one thing:
It remembers us cool folk…
*struts*
…that is all!
*runs away*
@Jak
Jak dude…yo don’t forget next Sunday be there or be characterized as being comprised of four 90 degree angles
@Christine – not the waiting; I’m just about plugged-in enough to the real world to understand that you have other priorities (really? 6 kids, a husband and your own life – no kidding!) but more the internal dialogue in my own mind, the endless “Should I have said it? Could it have been put better? Will it be taken badly? Will I have to try to patch things up? What if I’ve really truly screwed it up? But she’s not like that – I shouldn’t worry, should I? But what if I *should* worry – then what? Perhaps I should delete it. Maybe go back and re-write it? But that would mean I don’t stand by my original point. Which I do. I think. But if it’s taken badly then I’ll wish I’d never said it. Why am I so screwed up over this? Maybe I SHOULD just delete it. But no, because there was a point to be made.”
On. And on. And on.
And it happens all the freakin time. I’m sure you’ll find this bizarre and totally alien as a concept – you have been blessed with lightness of spirit and the courage of your own convictions. I have the above crap to contend with. But it’s a fascinating place to be, and although EXTREME amounts of over-thinking happen, they sometimes (dare I say, often?) lead to good things. And I’m learning, slowly (with the WD as a tool) to operate more effectively in spite of my natural inclinations to succumb to the internal dialogue.
Am I the only one who noticed that Clark referred to his co-hosts as lovely and sexy?
And Christine, I am a cool cat like Jak, because Clark’s comment page remembers my information, too.
*running to catch up with Jak*
@Dyanne
…you have just added a piece of the puzzle: which of the three is Dyanne’s predominant worldview!*
* which is one of the few forms of fun here that is left to the discretion of the individual…by the secret rules of un-necessary niceness, no one can tell you which of the three worldviews is your predominant (famous saying, “…the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not for them”). You are free to ask anyone, but since you can’t get it wrong or break it** feel free to play with it in whatever manner maximizes your enjoyment of use***
** aggravating but true, try different things out see what feels right, which resonates and remember there is one predominant but you retain the other two to a certain degree
*** …we know the joke that is going through your mind right now…yes, the Doctrine is that good