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Word Salad Sunday!! the Wakefield Doctrine ( what did you say you have, that no one else has… something that can help me with my problems?)

August 19, 2012 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

(Fans of the Wakefield Doctrine will recognize the style of today’s Post, i.e. start with one theme…lose track, get another theme and try to tie together totally disparate elements… not for the faint of heart!)

Good Drive last night! The rainy weather was just clearing towards the end of the afternoon, un-fortunately, the damn axial tilt is such that it is getting dark at 7:30, which, so with the lingering cloud cover,  a Summer’s End photo just did not happen. Hopefully the weather will co-operate next weekend and we will have enough light to get a photo. We might even move up the start time of next week’s Drive to 7:30 (5:30 MT*), stay tuned!

Passagers de la voiture included DS#1, Ms AKH and Molly, discussion topics ranged from, ‘the start of the New School Year’, to the challenge of reaching ‘the young people’ and the evening ended with a question regarding the application of the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine to intra-familial conflict resolution. This last question was to have been the focus of today’s Post, but then I became engaged in an exchange of ideas with Jasmine  who, like Molly, has a perspective on the Wakefield Doctrine that is refreshingly direct.

Molly helps us by saying things like, “I know this person and they are a (clark or a scott or a roger) and they are coming to me for advice on their situation. Exactly how do I use the Doctrine to help them?”  This matter-of-fact approach is both immensely annoying and exactly what we need at this stage of developing the Wakefield Doctrine as a tool that can help all sorts of people deal with the challenges of living in the modern world.

Jasmine has that same directness, both in how she interprets what is written about the Doctrine as well as the questions she poses. Today, in our conversation, I mentioned something about how there are times (for clarks) when the the ‘simple certainty’ that scotts exhibit and the ‘un-shakeable opinion’ seen in rogers looks enviable… we find ourselves thinking how nice it would be to hit ourselves over the head hard enough to quiet the voice that is always asking ‘what if this is…’ and maybe waking up a scott or perhaps regain our senses to find ourselves a roger. I was getting a bit tangled up in trying to describe what I meant when Jasmine replied:

“I have often considered that in changing a part of myself to be more comfortable in society, or my school or job world, etc, I am likely sacrificing something that is essential and unique to my self — a part that might enhance my creativity, etc. I assume that is a clark-like thought‘

… to which I thought, “damn! exactly!”

So lets combine the two ‘Questions’ and hopefully get a useful Answer.

Based on the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine, how do I go about helping my friends who have problems and how do I help myself …both without ending up worse than I started?

  1. remember who/what you are
  2. be mindful of who/what they are
You are predominantly a clark or a scott or a roger, however you have the capacity to act as if you were one of the  ‘other two’, all of the qualities and perspectives and advantages of all three of the personality types are available to you. It is just a matter of developing your ‘secondary and tertiary aspects’. To this end you should make every effort to:
  • knowing which of the three you are is the first thing, understanding this not only allows you to see objectively where your strengths are, (more importantly) you will learn what and where your weaknesses are
  • knowing which of the three personality types the people you are trying to help,  allows you to see why they are acting the way that they are and therefore allow you the freedom of action that they lack
  • accept that much of your involvement with the problems of other people is a result of who you are (as opposed to the problems you find yourself  called to help others with)
  • know that the proper resolution of the conflict must be grounded in what you are, do you have the capability of bringing it about?   …if you do not, then which of your other two aspects does have what it takes to bring about a resolution?
Applying the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine will help you. And since the Doctrine is predicated on the concept of three worldviews, you simply cannot do any lasting harm in your efforts to learn about your own pre-dominant type and your secondary and tertiary aspects. So try it and let us know how it works and we will keep listening.

 

 

 

*MT  Molly Time

 

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Well, what exactly do you want to know? Whether I am a clark or a scott or roger? If you have to ask, then you need to keep reading the Posts for two reasons: a)to get a clear enough understanding to be able to make the determination of which type I am and 2) to realize that by definition I am all three.* *which is true for you as well, all three...but mostly one

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  1. Downspring#1 says:
    August 20, 2012 at 12:08 am

    My thought(s) before beddie by is this: discipline is needed when involved in participating in any sort of conflict resolution. We all fall back on automatic responses to certain types of people more out of habit than anything else. However, once familiar with the Doctrine, once one has been able to verify for oneself the distinctions and idiosyncracies of clarks, scotts and rogers, there is no going back.
    You cannot “unsee” the clarks, scotts and rogers around you. You know that there are people all around looking at life through 3 different lenses.

    In a huge nutshell, responsibility lies with…..you.
    Know yourself first, know the other 2. It really boils down to the “why” of behavior. “Why” it is a person can never be direct, “why” they use humor in a more passive aggresive manner than someone else; “why” someone is so moody or “why” someone does not take you seriously.
    OK. My eyes hurt and I need the little man to dump some sand into them so I can go to sleep….

    P.S. Jasmine expressed quite eloquently a valid and basic thought that has been in the mind of …many a clark.

  2. clarkscottroger clarkscottroger says:
    August 20, 2012 at 6:48 am

    the thing about Molly and Jasmine (even) Steve and Claire and the other is that they do not have the parochial limitations that some of us have to constantly be on the guard for… and if this Wakefield Doctrine does catch on out there in the general culture (and it will) it will be because it (the Doctrine, not the culture) will be expressed in a way that is accessible and understandable by all….even the scotts! (lol)

    So we keep writing and re-writing and tre-writing until the perfect set of words are found…