Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)
…I thought I had the ‘hook’ for today’s Post earlier this morning, around 6:10am. My computer froze up and the Error Message appeared:
Hit continue to ‘Force Quit’ the Application
damn! doesn’t that describe what happens to clarks so often? (Especially on Mondays because we’ve just had two days during which time we could pick the people we were with), we learn and remember that part of what the Wakefield Doctrine offers is, as they so cleverly put it, ‘to self-improve oneself’. But this weekend was encouraging. A good TToT and a good Call-in discussion. So today, I will go out into the world (see, I told you I was a clark!) and know that there are other clarks struggling with the semi-self-imposed status of Outsider and, simply by virtue of this (identification with other clarks), I will more frequently remember to not forget that I have a choice in how I think and act and feel.
Had a great Saturday Night Call-in this weekend. Cynthia, Denise and the Progenitor roger! Topic: how do clarks best deal with the roger in the workplace (or to be a bit more accurate: how to manage a rogerian-dominated workplace). Very fun and informative and entertaining and everything you could want from a phone conversation.
So what do we clarks know now that we did not know, say, 3 or 4 years ago? For starters, that there is a direct (but not directly appreciable) benefit from associating with clarks in a context that encourages identification (with/for the other clarks). We also better understand our selfs and while this is not, in and of itself, a benefit, it is the sharing of this (increased) self-understanding that makes the identificationing with other clarks so effective.
But enough about clarks. how about scotts and rogers? What are they getting out of this thing that they could not get elsewhere? Again, for starters:
- an increased sense of awareness of that which bothers scotts (on a pre-conscious level), with a better acceptance that it is not a flaw (this, by virtue of the scott’s heightened clarklike aspect)
- (for the rogers) a sense of an increased-enthusiasm-for-nothing-that-is-identifiable, yet not perceived as threatening
Feet notes:
so: Denise and Cyn-thee-uh and the Progenitor roger were all on the Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Call-in this Saturday past. It was a splendid time, the high points, syllabus-istically speaking the insight nodes were as follows:
topic: how do clarks manage (themselves or others) in the workplace with an emphasis on the difficulties of dealing with rogerian co-workers
agreed: the negative, ‘lashing out’ of a roger is worse than being nipped by a scott or ignored by a clark
agreed: that the reason for this ‘over-reaction’ by the clark is their emotional investment (conscious or otherwise)
agree: the tendency is for clarks to take (false) responsibility for the actions, reactions and consequences involving others
agree: rogers (and scotts) think they know what it is it fear (the negative) reactions of others, but they are wrong
agree: rogers do not accept admission of ineptitude, no member of the Herd would ever consider this
About clarkscottroger
I am in a constant internal struggle with the primary Roger in my workplace.My best strategy thus far seems to be avoidance. We have cameras all over the workplace and if I see her coming my way I get up and close my door. Its a miserable way to have to be at work ,but I find it exacerbates and remits so there are times that I can tolerate it better than others. It’s just now isn’t one of them.
well, further insights (in the nature of the clark/roger relationship) may be of value… to follow later in this here week here
Im sure my Clarkisms are just as responsible for my current difficulty…its always a choice.
it is always ‘our responsibility’ … it is not always our fault
well the weather seems to have my back…if it keeps snowing I shouldn’t have to deal for at least another week and by then maybe I can calm down.
we’ll have to get you on a Saturday Night call (or maybe a vidchat Friday)… I believe we are seeing ways of understanding (our ways) that, though not changing everything at once, does alter the available paths for our people
ya know?
You so missed a good call Ivy!
As I’ve said in the past, for me, it’s a practice thing. Your own office gets to be your petri dish lol. You observe their (rogers)behavior, listen carefully how they verbally express themselves, the words they deliberately use and the ones they don’t! How they interact with other rogers….It’s all very educational I assure you.lol
Before you know it, you’ll be interacting with your rogers in a much less “confrontational” or “disgusted” or “impatiently frustrated” manner:) Honest! It can be a pleasant experience. No, really:)
Hint: find a commonality with the roger in your office. A common interest on any level. It’s a starting point.
OK. Done and done!
true dat
Clark, dude. You frickin’ make me smile. You, my compadre of Doctrinedom – aka, nerddom – but mean in the most awesomest, loving way possible. And now, I must drink to that!
even more better
Outsiders who, although we know that there are other clarks, therefore others who are Outsiders, recognize that even though that just does not change what we are…it can, however, alter our (potential) paths…emphasis on the plural.
we totally need to do another phone call Saturday (or even a different time of the week)… the discussion that began this Saturday past… very exciting the (emotional) economy of being a clark (“can we afford to invest that which we would not swear that we even have, never mind how much of it”)
I second that! Another call! I’d like to expand/explore the idea of “energy”. We kinda sorta began that conversation. Curious thing – clarks, the creative drive, achievement and energy levels.(up, down, non-existent. How clarks “re-charge”. How does “drive” manifest in the world of a clark.
Energy is a very interesting thing, indeed. And the way it affects others around you is pretty interesting, too.
Happened to come upon this post this evening and…Denise – your comment: creative drive, energy, etc. And then there’s days like today where I couldn’t motivate myself to do s**t because it was like…snowing and such. I had work to do. I had drawing to do. Yet I could only stare out the window and look at stupid Facebook at pictures of the weather. *smh lol
That should read “I meant that in…”
LOL. This here Doctrine reminds me of calculus II in college: the downsprings will work the integrals, thank you very much.
I need to figure out what my boss is (she’s mostly okay, but a few unsavory descriptors do come to mind). It would make it easier to deal with her.