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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So the computer we use 99 percent of the time is in the shop. We’ve brought our office laptop home to stand-in.

It is a perfectly acceptable substitute. Except for one thing: it has no letter ‘J’.

sibilant! minoris

(Now, alert rogerian Readers are going all Moonlight Sonata Third Movement on their computer keyboard about that last, next-to-last sentence.)

well, like we were all taught in catholic school, ‘That’s why god invented RePrints”

hey, that’s an idea! (no, not catholic school! RePr… ) Wait a minute! Surely we’ve written repeatedly on this topic, after all, why else would they call blogging, ‘the ill-grammared Language of Torment’?

let us go search the ever-ironic term ‘Sisters of Mercy’

Now, children! everyone find someone else and hold onto their hand

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine, class. If you pay attention, and listen closely, then at some time later in your life, much, much later, you will remember what you have learned here today. And when that time comes, you will say, (to your spouse, your friend, the police, your priest, the nurse or the man with the hearse)…”there was this place and there were these people and they told me about clarks, scotts and rogers and how it was so simple to understand other people if only I understood the Wakefield Doctrine! I see now that they were so very right…it is just sad that it is so very, very late for me…if only I had…written a Comment“!

Well, it’s not too late, binyons! You can participate, join in on the fun.  We are only a third of the way through the 90 Day Challenge, plenty of time to turn this bus around. Speaking of buses, lets make that the topic of today’s Post! (and the Wakefield Doctrine Lesson of the Day).

First Day of  School Trauma!

AlrightAll-right! I’ll go first…

… oddly enough, I have no memory of 1st grade but I do remember that my 2nd grade Teacher’s name was Mrs. Brennan. Starting with the 2nd grade I attended a parochial school  and for the most part all the Teachers at Our Lady of Mercy (who doesn’t hear James Brown, “mer-cey!!”)School were nuns. Real nuns, not just sallyfield-looking-hey-just-a-normal-girl-who-happens-to-be-a-nun, no sir! These were Nuns of the Order of the Sisters of Mercy. En regalia, full-dress nuns. For those unfamiliar with the look, we’re talking about white on black habits, with face and hands as the only clue that there is a human there, never mind a female human. Damn! (The borg look like nudists compared to the Sisters of Mercy back in the early 60s.)
(Back to my First Day of School Trauma). Arriving in class, the very first thing I learned from a classmate was,  “if you don’t eat all your lunch, they make you eat in front of the whole school and for the first day of school they always serve something called Welsh Rabbit”. I spent the entire morning of the first day of school in the Second Grade in fear of what would happen when I refused to eat the Welsh Rabbit. We are talking “worry” on a level such that I was so focused on trying to come up with a plan to avoid the lunchroom embarrassment, that I almost got sent back to the First Grade.I could not have spelled my own name when called on, cause I was busy! I had to think of something!  Sitting in one of those desks with the fliptop writing surface and the seat attached and the whole thing held together by a wrought-iron frame. Somehow I survived. I look back now, from the vantage point of the Wakefield Doctrine, can there be any doubt that there was a clark sitting in that totally uncomfortable seat in September, trying to figure his way out of spot that (he) was barely equipped to deal with.

( …Pero Principal Clarke, lo que Wakefield Lección Doctrina del Día vamos a tener de su historia muy interesante?… )

Why thank you, Miguel,  for that reminder. The Lesson of the Day is more an illustration of the clarklike personality. The reaction of the 8 year old clark in this story is that his response to a threat was to try and think of a plan to avoid the embarrassment that he perceived to be waiting for him at lunch (he really, really hated cheese). The saying at the Doctrine is: clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel.

 

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Doctrine’s weekly contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop. The reason? It is better to exist in a personal reality where the default emotional-state is positive. Like fashionable clothing or an expertly prepared meal, it is in small things, ingredients finishes,(clearly we didn’t think through this particular metaphor), that are responsible for the overall overall effect on the objective observer. And, as Mimi and the other hostinae demonstrate, the details count.

(For the clarks out there? Details, in this context, should not be construed to be the: ‘oh, shit, I see, now that I read through it, I missed a point, over-did the similes all those little things!’ No. Despite being how ‘details’ may manifest in the personal reality of Outsiders, the true meaning is way easier. And simpler. And, ‘ya coulda told me!!’

That said, we place our faith in the notion that ‘Practice leads to approaching perfect’. And so we make the decision to look at the world and decide to see how it, or the parts (of it) we encounter, are positive. Rather than negative.

1) Phyllis —————————————————-↓

2) Una ——————–↑

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) the Six Sentence Story  Doctrine’s Six-Pick of the Week: ‘Happiness‘ by our very own Mimi.

5) the Unicorn Challenge  Wakefield Doctrine’s Choice Challenge of the Week: ‘Champagne on Ice‘ from the Sicilian Storyteller

6) Tom and me and the Serial Six ‘Of Heroes and the MisUnderstood. (This link takes you to a page we’ve created that allows you to read the story as a whole. Let us know what ya think of it!)

7) Weather is reasonably moderate. Not only can’t complain, but gotta sigh with relief.* No frozen water.

8) something, something

9) getting some rainage…. this past week

10) Secret Rule 1.3

 

* purely in a personal, aka selfish sense. It does not bear too much thought about conditions in the ‘real’ world. ya know?

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Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine- [a Café Six]

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Doctrine’s contribution to the Six Sentence Story bloghop.

Hosted by Denise

Having but one rule: the sentence count for the story must be Six.

Prompt Word:

NAIL

“Hey tall err thin…. fuck, old man, where ya goin?” the Sophomore’s voice held an urgency common to the young when caught-up in an unexpected but overwhelmingly enjoyable event, a voice behind the music laughed, ‘Tell them it is the Raconteuse  and she commands their attendance,’ a flare-up of voices laughing.. ‘yeah! immediately, post haste… don’t make us call jenne and Ford…” ; the remaining sound was celebration rather than information.

Stepping out of the darkness of the hallway, the tall, thin man stopped at the edge of the glow emanating from the Café, slow rollers of respect and love shared by two beings at the end of the bar broke around him, a human-scale Flying Dutchman at the mercy of the ocean.

The Proprietor smiled, “It’s good to see you two.”

Behind the bar, a computer screen flared into life in sync with both human’s phones: The bar display scrolled letters, “And don’t forget the Prompt word, (signed Major Tom); Mimi’s phone played a bar or two of Max Rebennack followed by an animated clouds of smoke spelling: ‘It Rhymes with Ace’, yours Ἥφαιστος and from the tall, thin man’s device, a audio file whispered, “If you three think I’m schlepping drinks up all those stairs, well, yes in fact my name is Bartender.”

Hūnga barked, in that special tone, which all too-few could translate, “You humans, you’re almost where you were Supposed to be.”

 

 

 

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Wednesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘a quick reminder of the value of the Everything Rule.’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

the Everything Rule is the second-most significant development in the presenting of the Wakefield Doctrine to the werld.

The most significant, not really a development as a refinement in how we look at our little personality theory, came about when we started focusing on (our) relationship to the world around us (and the people who make it up). For all of a seemingly minor change, ‘the world we see/experience’ into ‘the character of our relationship to the world/reality around us’ has made a huge difference in both understanding and application of the Doctrine.

But we’re here to talk about the Everything Rule: ‘Everyone does everything at one time or another.’

It keeps the ‘them’ in ‘Unified Theory of Personality Types’.

lol

Seriously though, in the early days of this blog it was not uncommon to have a Reader ask, “I have a tendancy to …. is that a thing only a scott would do?” Or, ‘My husband is so… does that make him a clark?’

(Hey! We just appreciated how the two developments mentioned in today’s post are so intrinsically related. ikr? Been writing these posts for what, nearly fifteen years and we’re only now….?!?!)

We repeat, lol.

The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that everyone is born with the potential for one of three characteristic relationships with the world around them. While we all settle into one at an early age, we never lose the potential of experiencing the world as from ‘the other two’. Our personal reality is defined (and therefore, created) by this relationship and we, as all young lifeforms must, struggle to learn and create, practice and develop strategies for negotiating, interacting and, hopefully, thriving in our lives as:

  1. an Outsider (clark) the world is strange (with a hint of hostile), it is not simply that we know we are different, we begin to suspect at the heart of our difference is that everyone else in the world around us seem to relate to each other; seeing that, in the world of people, different is a risky proposition we begin to search for the knowledge that seemingly everyone else is in possession of, without being spotted doing it
  2. the Predator (scott) the day is simple: find prey, flee larger predators (or negotiate a standing in the pack). the only thing that does not makes sense about the world is… well, everything makes sense as long as you don’t spend too much time dwelling on questions that have more than one right answer, and/or get comfortable with the inner shadows. life is short and there’s no time to waste
  3. the Herd Member (roger) Life is Good. Not always pleasant, rarely ever perfect but it makes sense. everyone in your life knows what you know. except for a handful of people who clearly do not and even they are useful, if for no other reason than to remind others of how good it is to be of the Herd. your job in life is uncomplicated: discover the Right Way and share it with the others.

Damn! did not tie in the Everything Rule!

maybe a quick RePrintlette.

No, wait. We’re already at five hunert words.

lets move this along.

the most useful take-away from our Post on the Everthing Rules?

The bottom-line value of this perspective on the world is simple: become able to see the world as the other person is experiencing it. (italics totally deliberate)… to make sure you don’t forget that reality for all of us is, to a small but way important degree, personal. And since personal is, by common definition, private, the only way we can become aware of the personal of another person is to put ourselfs in their shoes. Not easy. Relating to the world as they do, much easy(ier). So next time you see someone do something inexplicable/fuckin-stupid/way dumb, know that you are capable of the same thing and then imagine your relationship to the world was one of ‘the other two’. and take a look.

fun, fun, fun

 

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Doctrine’s weekly contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop. Heralded by institutions, both professional and civic, this grat blog is considered by many to be ‘the place to go in the blogosphere after the toxic exhaustion of daily news alarums and the incessant mid-numbing chittering of much of what passes for social media wears on us’. As an exercise in Will, the TToT is second to none. While the choice remains inherent, if not unfashionable, to deliberately perceive the positive in the world around us and the people who make it up, is not the worst thing a body can do.

1) Una

2) Phyllis

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) the Six Sentence Story  the Doctrine’s ‘Six Pick of the Week!’: ‘Time and Space‘  from D. Avery

5) the Unicorn Challenge  the Doctrine’s ‘If you only have time to read one, this is it: ‘CSI‘ from the co-host of the bloghop ceayr

6) Our new Serial Six Sentence Story, “…of Heroes and the MisUnderstood

7) hey! the Quick Brown Fox is back!! And even quicker than in previous years, Which between you and us, is not such a dramatic assertion, at least in terms of your Humble Narrator’s physical response time. To our credit, we did look down at our desk and almost immediately spotted our cell phone. However, this particular morning, Mr. Q.B. Fox was clearly on a mission and did not stop to pose for photos. (the path he followed diagramed in the photo at the top of this post). Looking, btw, healthy and well-fed, and, (to quote W. Z.) his brownish-red coat was perfect.

8) something, something

9) Made it to March (booyah!)  Of course this is telling when contrasted with previous year’s posts and their reasonable hesitancy to express elation at the achievement of survival. But as, Chuck Palahniuk wrote: “On a long enough timeline, the survival rate for everyone drops to zero.” 

10) Secret Rule 1.3

 

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