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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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The time of the week when we stop with the tread-milling for a moment and find, identify and state the aspects and elements of our (own) lives over the past seven days (or more) that cause us to feel grateful. (The oddly passive phrasing there is a hint to a) my predominant worldview and 2) my own relationship with the world around me. And, yes, if you thought, ‘well, could’ve saved some words there, Mr. Redundency-who-states-the-obvious’ you are absolutely correct. You probably should request a Wakefield Doctrine hat (for your damn head) or something. But, this is what our Mistress Lizzi would have us do each and every Saturday (into and through Sunday) and far be it from me to be contrarian.

So, lets to the list be us all.

1)Grateful I am for the new(er) participants in this here bloghop here. The questions and concerns that they present reminds me of the core value in this exercise. My personal favorite question/concern is, ‘what if I can’t come up with 10 things that were good in the last week?’  Probably is the best question of all. A lot of Answers, (imo), to that question, and, employing one of the acceptable Answers to this concern, I’ll proceed to…

2) the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)

3) the Gravity Challenge

4) the Six Sentence Story (and the wonderful of virtual and metaphoric psychological striptease)

5) the fricken google… man, the thing’s getting spooky. Example: Item 4? I wanted to say ‘metaphorical striptease’ and I wasn’t sure if it was metaphoric or metaphorical and so I went to ‘the google’ and started typing ‘metaphoric or…and it had a search result for the ‘which one is proper answer…. damn!

6) I could spend the next 3 or 4 items on my gratitude for the Wakefield Doctrine, but I won’t

7) Una and I had a nice walk yesterday.  We walked up Interstate 95 to Exit 3 (faster than any man and his Chodský pes have ever walked) and then to the gas station and then back home, circling around the golf course,  of course…she enjoyed the walk as much as I did (that’s probably a lie, I bet she enjoyed it more because she’s a dog and dogs are perfect lifeforms)

8) Phyllis  hey! I got a photo of Phyllis in bed that shows up in a google search!  no, really!  it’s great and we had no idea that that would happen! (a search of the name of Una and her proper breed name… hub pages!  what the hell!) lol*

9) I’ll be grateful (in a horribly painful and difficult way that, apparently, is not all that un-common in the world of people who decide that they can write a book (or a story or, in my case a serial), and …and!  by the end of the day, Chapter 1 of the Blogdominion Saga will be published and you can read it!

10) 1.3 yo   1.3

 

*(if you’re asking yourself that question, shame on you! of course I did!)

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Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘wherein we concoct a word smoothie (‘palabra batido‘) to send to friends’

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Hey, if I seem to start and stop in the narrative here, today, that’s only because I have two (self-imposed) deadlines*,  being this Six Sentence Story and publishing Chapter 1 of Blogdominion. So the thing about z’s Six Sentence Story (and, now, the writing of the other story) is that I’m further reinforcing the belief that, although I do enjoy writing, I must suffer the tortures of the damned for at least 1, maybe 2 days before I hit ‘Publish’. Still, I enjoy it.  ….the writing of the story, not the tortures of the damned…. well, maybe that part a little too. Anyway,  Six Sentence Stories  You need to try it… it’s a helluva lot of fun.

Tears slowly dropped, like lava breaking out of the crust as it flows down the volcano-side, keeping his face suspended from the quiet, peaceful embrace of the pillow on the un-worn, sheets-unwrinkled-after 6-days single bed….

If shedding a tear means having one less in the future, then I’m all for it,” the man-to-be said, getting off the bed and sitting behind the formica desk that filled 1/3 of the dormitory room.

“Hate to break it to ya, but it’s not that simple”, smiled the girl from the open door, “tears are not countable, and there’s no way of knowing how many you have left to cry,  …every girl knows that!”

‘Who the hell are you and what gives you any right to tell me that?’ he thought and then, throwing caution to the wind, spoke aloud, “I’m sorry, but were you talking to me?”

“…and besides!  I’m not a girl“, he continued to the empty doorway,  “but thanks for talking to me!

…and she smiled to herself as she left the building.

 

 

 

*yeah, every bit as daunting as the ‘how the word came to be coined’, except without the getting physically dead part, here’s a link

**  no, seriously! I had, like, two paragraphs written that was a setup for the photo of the meerkats, it was an attempt at a ‘4th Wall’ voice in the story and I referenced Christina’s World (Wyeth) and TATs (Thematic Apperception Test) and everything, but then I realized that I was holding back on my avowed desire to improve my writing. Given how much help zoe’s been my breaking out of my own self-definition, I figured I better cut it out and take a chance with the first sentence, which proceeded to take on a life of it’s own, and you know how that goes….

 

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‘Monday’s Child is Fair of Face’ -the Wakefield Doctrine- (yeah, I could’ve gone with ‘Prodigal Daughter’ …call me sentimental)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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Busy week ahead, need to keep the rhythm strong, so this, a Monday morning Post-ette.

I’m determined to have my writing schedule keep pace with self-imposed demands, a task I gladly accept. There is a Six Sentence Story to get ready for* and work on Chapter 1 of Blogdominion and, hopefully, a Finish the Sentence Friday. In addition to that, I’m committing to writing at least one traditional Wakefield Doctrine Post each week. I’d like to pull in Lizzi, now back from her walkabout in the New World, to start us off. (From a Comment on the TToT this weekend), our Ms. Rogers say,

“Yes. I think we take from each other on that – we’ve both been there, both done that, both will do the same again in future – and always mindfully (taking notes) in the knowledge that whilst we’re always alone, we also aren’t, and can (if nothing else) be USEFUL in these times when otherwise it might seem more prudent to curl into a ball and cry.”

As is her way, L keyed on one of my favorite topics… concepts… clark-insights, whatever the word is, identification. Learning to identify, (with other clarks), represents the single most beneficial thing to come out of the Doctrine, at least in terms of benefitting those Readers with the personal reality of the Outsider (aka clarks). That’s not to say that our scottian and rogerian friends do not, or cannot, benefit by this simple (yet very difficult) choice of perception. Disclaimer: the concept of ‘identification with others’ is very not original with the Doctrine. One might even say that it, identification, is an inherent relationship among (and between) people since time immemorial. It has always existed and it has always offered an opportunity to get beyond the confines of ‘me’. That being said, for those of us here, learning about the (additional) perspective on life that is the Wakefield Doctrine, who are clarks are focused on ‘how to step in from the Outside’**. Identifying with other clarks affords us one more avenue to become a real person.

The Comment thread on yesterday’s TToT that Lizzi initiated, will say it better than I can, here on a pre-dawn Monday morning.

Other stuff.  Blogdominion. (Warning! what follows is a characteristic clarklike lament that treats self-improvement like it was a setback. We are so crazy when it comes to stuff like that!  Man! you’d think we want to stay the same and never improve and are repelling the honest-no-big-deal compliments like… well, like clarks!  jeez!)
Anyway. I’m really enjoying this learning to write thing! Which makes total Doctrine sense and serves both as an illustration of the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine and as an ‘Close’ to this Post!

clarks enjoy learning things, (see footnote** below and the Page on clarks), and when something engages our interest, we enjoy acquiring new skills. This enthusiasm naturally invites the good wishes of the people around us (the scotts and rogers). We (clarks) shy away from the compliments because a) it makes us the center of attention and, therefore, subject to scrutiny, which may extend beyond the immediate subject and 2) we are afraid to change, or better to say, we are afraid that self-improvement makes us even more different from those around us and we risk losing what we think we have or… worse, we lose the special feature of being Outsiders and run the risk of turning into just another person.

ok, that’ll be quite enough for today. Gotta save some subjective angst for zoe’s Stories and the Serial!

 

*the careful preparation for which consists of:

  • Monday: don’t look
  • Tuesday: no! I mean it! do not look
  • Wednesday: ok…look, now don’t think about it until later*
  • (Wednesday)* unless you have an idea for a story**
  • (Wednesday later)** yeah, right, like that’s gonna happen… why do I do this to myself!?!***
  • Wednesday very late)*** well, cause there’s a bunch of skilled bloggers and, no matter what, if you participate, your own skills will improve and besides they liked that one last week… or the week before, hey! ‘last week or the week before’ that sounds interesting
  • Thursday: what was I thinking?!?! ‘last week or the week before’  what does that even mean?!?!  damn! time to write something anything and hit
  • Thursday (at some point): Publish

** the nature of the personal reality (aka ‘worldview’) of clarks is that of the Outsider. A more complete description of this worldview can be found on the Page on clarks…. a less complete description would be: clarks are the people who know that that they are different and this difference sets them apart (not above or over others…apart from) all the people in: their families (growing up), their friends at school (learning about the world) and at work and in marriage and while engaged in living. clarks perceive the world as being ‘out there’… a separate place. clarks believe that they are different because of something within them, most likely, something they didn’t learn that everyone else clearly has learned and so, clarks search the world of the rational, the intellectual, the ‘knowing about’, all in the increasingly desperate drive to learn what everyone seems to already know. Of course, as everyone else knows, it’s not in the mind, it’s in the heart. Overlooking this does not deprive the clarks of the capacity to be like everyone else, overlooking this does make them clearly different. And that’s why clarks mumble a lot and laugh at odd things and will do anything for a friend (while avoiding accepting credit), because we are searching for what, once we learn it, will make us real people.

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘we have lists and stories and videos and ever so many interesting things this week, you simply must join us!’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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This Week, we got it all!  a Video Grat Item, a link and a request to go and read the latest project to come out of Doctrine Central….and tree houses and turning leaves, planting grass and ignoring the early morning dark. Sure, your typical pre-TToT week of activity!  Oh, and our illustrious Leaderini is back (maybe not re-acclimated but at least people are no longer speaking with accents wherever she goes).

Hey Facebook-TToT-page-person!! You know most of the participants here every weekend are, like, skilled and totally eloquent in their TToT Posts! If you have a problem with that… you can come and hang out with us at the Doctrine!

1)You the Reader…. sine qua non, binyons, sine qua non.

2)  hey!! Speaking of Readers and Reading!  I have a favor to ask. I’m embarked on the ordeal* of writing a Serial (no!  nothing to do with Frosted Flakes, Dyanne!…. although, now that I think of it… back in the day, I suspect you might have preferred Lucky Charms (they were, after all, magically delicious)…  where was I?? I’m asking you to go and read the first entry in the Online Serial, ‘Blogdominion’   there is a place to vote and follow and all the usual things and… thank you.   (damn! that was kinda weak, is there a roger in the house!?!  lol)

3)lawn work… trying to replant grass in the front yard. They say that you use 23 muscles to walk, 57 muscles to run up the stairs at the office, (and not  actually gasp and sound like you’re totally out of breath when you get to the top of the stairs where the 27 year old new agent is politely waiting for you to finish your climb, with what you want to believe is a an expression of respect and admiration on her face, but is, in fact, a reflection of the internal debate whether she should be dialing 911, but you know that you need to smile and say something clever), but …but! it takes 123 muscles to rake the front yard… I believe them.

4)speaking of front yards, we went for our Friday Walk yesterday…. went to Farmer Brown’s (“…them’s some mighty smelly cows, by Jesus!“) grateful for the car and the camera… video in Item 5

5) video of Friday October 9 2015  ‘Walk by Farmer Brown’s Cow Place’

6) Phyllis who is, at the moment, wrestling with the washing machine…. being a roger, she has a pretty fair chance of getting the thing to work again, unfortunately, being a roger, the solution might involve sealing off the laundry room and allowing the entire space to perform the rinse cycle, there is no underestimating the power of duct tape!

7) total gratitude for the Wakefield Doctrine… it is simply amazing! That I’m writing this? …Wakefield Doctrine. That I apparently get a kick out of trying to figure out how to write better …the Wakefield Doctrine! That I have friends in the blogosphere? …that’s right! the Wakefield Doctrine.

8) the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)… one of the coolest things about this here bloghop here  (new readers?  questions on the BoSR/SBoR?  zoe is the life form!  she has a link to a great explanation!

9) oh yeah!  all my homies at the Gravity Challenge and at Six Sentence Story  hey!

10) Welcome back Lizzi!

 

*not as bad a thing as the word might imply… Lizzi knows (hell, all clarks intuitively recognize the value of framing (an) effort as an ordeal…. ask them)

 

 

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-the Wakefield Doctrine- (‘it’s time to kick some devil butt*’)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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*Fred Hammond’s introduction to ‘Let the Praise Begin’, the next to the last track on the reprint section of this Post.

If you enjoy (modern) Gospel music, you gots to listen to Fred! Not that I go to church, but if my church had this kind of music, I might still be there… no, wait. I was brought up catholic and there is no way in the multiverse that I could imagine this kind of un-restrained, joyous music coming out of the building (to be fair, when I grew up they were still speaking Latin. I understand there’s been some changes since that time.)

hey I just listened to the first cut, which I also really enjoy, so maybe my problem with the church music of my childhood wasn’t the music, but my perception of it! I mean, I enjoy listening to ‘Caritas abundat in omnia’ (the first track in the reprint). But then, that is what the Wakefield Doctrine is all about, isn’t it? Perspective.

One might say that perspective is the ‘personal’ in ‘personal reality’. So, if you want to better understand the other person, or persons in your lives, then (we all)  would benefit by allowing for these other (personal) realities, and the way to do that is acquire a different perspective. This is what we mean when we say that the most useful thing inherent in the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine is that it helps us to, ‘appreciate how the other person is relating themselves to the world around them’. Now, the Wakefield Doctrine, as a personality theory, proposes that there are three characteristic ways that people relate themselves to the world around them, as:

  1. an Outsider (clarks): bad posture, poor enunciation, painfully shy, insanely creative
  2. a Predator (scotts): great friends, terrifying enemies, psychotically protective mothers and sure-I’ll-rob-this-gas-station,-if-that’s-what-you-really-want girlfriends/boyfriends
  3. Herd Member (rogers): meticulous and precise, patient to a fault and capable of reading (and believing) every word of the instruction manual (and…and!! waiting until it’s completely read before assembling!!!)

…. the re-print? oh, that!

Jen Kehl used to do this music blog hop  Twisted MixTape back in 2013… it was a fun way to do Tuesday. Jen has a blog consultation service (and assorted other useful things) go see her, tell her the Doctrine sent ya!

 

(from Oct0ber 22, 2013)

Well, this surely will be an interesting week, MizTape-wise. Our Host(s) Jen Kehl and Kristi McNichol have advised us to ‘think spiritual’ for this week’s MixTape. Given that I was taught from a time before I can remember that, in polite company, ‘one simply never discusses politics and religion’, I am in a bit of a quandary. I really enjoy our tunesome Tuesdays and yet, that pesky up-bringing thing. Well, as we say at the Wakefield Doctrine, if it walks like a nun and quacks like a minister, then it must be… (sorry, last minute deadline pressure got the better of me. The Wakefield Doctrine does have something to say about religion, seeing as you have already brought up the topic. When it comes to matters of the soul and deities and such, then: clarks are spiritual, rogers are religious and scotts… they pretty much decide on which sect has the hottest clergy and/or offer the most opportunity to get some…enlightenment.)

Alright! That takes cares of the mandatory, ‘hey-we’re-blog writers-and-music-fans-write-something-profound-insightful-or-failing-that-weirder-than anything’ Done…Done….(and)…Done!

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Caritas abundat in omnia – Hildegard von Bingen

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Elected – Alice Cooper

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fs6AExtcNEQ

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Old Time Mix – Fred Hammond

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Let the Praise Begin – Fred Hammond

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Oh What a Night – Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nDxhugRKZ8g

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