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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘what? why no, I always look like this…. oh, I get it! it’s Halloween!’ (ha ha)

October 31, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So lets get all old school on this here TToT post here.

1)Lizzi aka (‘La Maîtresse de la Maison de l’effort contre toute attente à devenir quelque chose qui au sein, nous sommes déjà’) Creatrix of thé TToT which is such an enduring community, due, in no small part to (her) encouraging the breaking of rules

2)speaking of Rules, I (almost) always cite the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules), not just because it’s fun, but because, for those of us less-emotionally-fluent people, the SBoR/BoSR enables us to find ways to express ourselfs

3)speaking of selfs, shout out to my twin-with-an-entirely-different-genome, Kristi she was part of the crew at the first bloghop that the Doctrine participated in, the Finish the Sentence Friday. Very grateful. Not simply for the introduction to one of our more successful (and subversive) venues for our little personality theory, but because it was there that I met the aforementioned Ms. Rogers (and, pretty much everyone else that count as friends in this place.)

4)speaking of posse glad to have such good company at the Gravity Challenge every week…. Christine and Kristi, Val and Lisa and Joy and Sarah…. (see? I can write names with capital letters) these people put the ‘amazing’ in ‘the internet’.

5)writing about speaking gets us to zoe and the Gang of Six ‘yo!! semi-colons fricken rule!!

6)speaking of serial stories… somehow we’ll see Chapter 3 (of the increasingly interesting story), ‘Blogdominion‘ this weekend.

7)the Wakefield Doctrine, always a mention, simply because it is the reason you’re reading this

8)our geographic location, the photo above was taken this Tuesday past from Wawaloam Dr which is a few minutes from my office…. the best thing about the picture? the smell of the salt air… and the sound (not just of the crashing waves, but the undertone of the sand being pushed and pulled over and through the not-yet-sand rocks and boulders) v cool

9)speaking of (ha! you thought I lost the motif!) sine qua non… Phyllis and Una (Queen of Treehouses and co-pilot extraordinaire )

10) 1.3 y’all

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “VOTRE INVITATION A LA CONFERENCE” (‘is there a translator in the house?’)

October 27, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Well, sure! I could go to ‘the google’ and I could also take a wild guess as to what this cryptic phrase/Post sub-title, (found in the subject line of a spamish email), means in English. Or….or! I could use this as an old school Doctrine jumping off point for a quick ‘n quirky Tuesday Post. Which would you prefer?

Thank you. I appreciate your vote of confidence and adventurous nature.

So who besides me, looking at the photo above (origin: somewhere in the googlesphere a few years ago, totally don’t remember my search parameters) sees, at first a happy tourist and …a split, sure-if-you-have-a-mind-to-imagine-things-differently, second later a terrified woman being kidnapped by two men who seemed so Old World charming, sitting at a table in the picaresque* outdoor café …and why is that guy on the left hiding his right hand?!? You can almost hear her screams.

So what’s this got to do with the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)? You mean, the personality theory that not only is a fun way to better understand the people in your life, but the Wakefield Doctrine that offers such an insight into how the other person is experiencing the world that you will know what they’re about to do, even before they! That Wakefield Doctrine?

Well, I guess that pretty much says it all.

No! wait! there is one other thing about the Wakefield Doctrine that’s different from all the other personality theory, self-help programs and “Win the affections of that Girl/Guy Everytime” social coaching system! Well, actually there are two things. ….and one thing before I tell you about the two things. But, lets not make this too easy. First the second thing:

‘the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them’.

(This should be self-explanatory, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned in the past 5 years of writing this blog, it’s that the things I think are clear, usually aren’t and the parts of the Doctrine that I’m certain is going to be tough to understand, you people get right away.) In any event, this admonition is at the heart of the Doctrine and is a good example of why it’s such a useful tool for understanding the people in our lives. Everything you learn about people through the use of the Wakefield Doctrine, has value, bearing, meaning and use for you, and only you. It (this added insight and understanding) is helpful in understanding how you are (or should) (or might) relate yourself to this other person (or spouse) (or boss) (or that girl in history class) (or that guy who might or might not be a client, but manages to say something to you every time he comes to where you work, and now that you think about it, he does seem to come up with pretty flimsy pretexts)… that is the only value in the Wakefield Doctrine.
You know how, when, an otherwise intelligent and mature person comes across one of the countless surveys and personality profiles and ‘Which heroic legendary for history are you?’ things that you used to see in the backs of magazines (the ones sold in supermarkets checkout lines, not the kind that you actually subscribe to) or, more recently on the internest, the first thing this person will be heard to say is, “Honey!! Come here! you have to take this survey! They have you down to a ‘T’!
That’s what the ‘…for you, not them’ means… well, now that I straighten out my syntax, that’s what the phrase …implies …that the Wakefield Doctrine does …not offer (lol). Unlike the ‘Oscar Meyers, Briggs and Stratton personality system’ or (the) ‘Kubler, Fran and Ollie Seven Stages of self- acceptance’, the Wakefield Doctrine is not a mirror-coated club.

What you learn about people using the Doctrine affects how you act (and react and feel and grow), it does nothing for the other person, so don’t bother trying to tell them. (Unless, you’re, like trying to get lucky at a bar and you see this really cute/hot roger or clark or even scott… then, you have our blessings and best wishes.)

damn! out of time…. check back later, (or even better write us a comment), and we’ll get to the First thing ….and, the one thing that helps understand the two things.

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “I seem to find the happiness I seek…”

October 26, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

We have (both) Lisa and Pat to thank for today’s subtitle (and Fred and Ginger’s music vid). Thanks, guys.

First the Wakefield Doctrine, then the link to Chapter 2

the Wakefield Doctrine is intended for use as an additional perspective on life, reality and how best to deal with the rude checkout girl, the overbearing school guidance counselor, pig-headed spouse or the girl (or boy) of your dreams.

Now, the Doctrine is many things, including a way to predict the behavior of the people in our lives. To demonstrate: (assuming a proper attention*) the clark will read that as the Wakefield Doctrine will let them predict the future, the scott will read that as being able to have more fun surprising the people around them and roger will hear that prediction of the behavior of the people around them and, at least initially, will decide that they don’t need to know how a person will act in the future, as long as they know how they reacted in the past.

Blogdominion Chapter 2 is live and available for your reading and voting pleasure. I invite comments, seeing how I am writing this story with only the slightest idea of what happens next. (For the present, we get to know all the main characters better and we know that bad things are going to happen, now that Unit 17 is self-publishing… but there is still the matter of what Sister Margaret Ryan finds is the problem at St Emily’s School in Chicago and how well Tom Fearing makes out (on his blog! it’s not that kind of story…. unless, of course you want that kind of story) and there’s the matter of Mai and her friend…

Yes, you’re reading this correctly! A Post in less than 500 words. Gotta save ’em for the Serial.

Now that I say that, I’ve been meaning to ask my writing-inclined friends the question about how many words you have available. Let’s rephrase that: on any given day, do you have the feeling that there are only so many words available to your writing efforts and, (as a follow-up) do you find that it is not specific words, but the act of writing? Example: If I did not spend the time and energy to write this Post, would I have more to put into the next Chapter of Blogdominion.

Damn! getting near 500… better quit while I’m ahead.

*not such a monolithic concept here, people. ‘proper attention’ is manifested differently in the personal reality of clarks, scotts and rogers. While a discussion of ‘the Everything Rule’, vis-à-vis ‘proper attention’ is beyond the scope of this post, allow me to say:

clark: re-read every word
scott: get back here and finish reading
roger… would it kill you to not pretend to be un-interested, this once? I promise no one is watching

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘No. 12 Pole and Cows’ (yeah, adds a nice…artsy touch, doesn’t it?)

October 24, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So lets start this thing! No, you’re right! There is no significance to the order of the ‘Things of Grateful’, at least I don’t think there are… but, but it is certainly seductively suggestive*. Since there are very few Rules governing the creation of the Grat List, I’ll make a poll my first Item! yeah, boy! I’m sure glad that idea showed up when it did, otherwise I’d be slogging through the First Five and looking for my ‘hook’ all morning!

1) I’m grateful that the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) encourages the use of alternate expressions of gratitude, case in point, a survey of Participants on the question: Does your List represent a Priority of Gratitude or are the Items (comprising your TToT) effectively random?

2) While we wait for the others to respond, I will say that I’m grateful for the gift of a plant from an associate at work. It’s a money tree and stands about 18 inches tall. I researched ‘Money Tree’ (common name for gifted plant) and read that they can grow to 18m. I am from the Land of Y Chromia so you can well imagine what I did upon learning that! I immediately bought a much larger pot, more dirt and a little fertilizer. Taller is better, yo.

3) Una and I went for a walk yesterday afternoon. Unfortunately the sun is setting at, like 2:00 (and that’s on a sunny day) but we had fun… went to the bank where the Teller sent dog treats back with my deposit slip, which I gave to Una. …the treats, not the deposit slip.

4) We’re into the colorful-and-pleasing-if-you-enjoy-the-splendor-of-dying-leaves season, here in southern New England. Ok to look at. Not ok to think about.

5) Phyllis’s tree house is serving the secondary function of ‘lookout’…. Phyllis and Una go and sit on the little balcony/deck that faces the pond and gaze at the Autumn splendor.**

6) the Gravity Challenge is continuing… it’s proving to be one interesting place, it provides something different for everyone who participates, you should come by and join us sometime… click here and, well…. as a Post that you might read and understand? maybe you should ask someone. Tell you what! Today’s Gravity Challenge will have links to each participant’s blog… go ask them why they do it. Start by clicking here.

7) zoe continues with her very pleasing ‘hop ‘the Six Sentence Story‘ ‘never have so many write so much with so few (….er words!)’ def you should go and read and, hell! join us next week, the more the merrier and god knows I’m totally a ‘merry’ person.

8) thank you to everyone who went to Jukepop and read the latest Installment in my serial, ‘Blogdominion’ (if you haven’t been there yet, go! you’ll find a Prologue and Chapter 1) I’m working on Chapter 2 this morning and hope to have it up by Sunday’s end! I’ll be sure to let you know.

9) work, should be listed, as it is interesting and supports my newly discovered writing jones

10) 1.3 (the first and still the Best of the Secret Rules)… wait a minute…. maybe there’s a place for the SGV in my….nah, it’s getting confusing as it is (why didn’t anyone tell me that when you create characters for fiction, they sometimes start changing on their own?! Damn!)

*well, I’m on this big writing kick and, since I’m practicing and learning, well everything is a lesson and yeah, ‘seductive’ and ‘suggestive’ certainly are a pairing that draws the attention….even if it is 7:14 am in the morning lol

** Phyllis is a self-admitted roger and rogers do this thing, something that neither clarks nor scotts do and that is ‘to gaze’…. you will, if you’re practicing your Doctrine, come upon a roger appearing to ‘stare into space’. If you thought this, you would be wrong. clarks ‘stare into space’ rogers, ‘gaze’… there is a difference. (scotts? no way, are you kidding me? scotts not pay attention to their surroundings (physical and social)??! sorry, go read you Doctrine! ain’t gonna happen!)

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6th Day of the Week -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘…can mean only one thing/can only mean one thing/only one thing is meant!’

October 22, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

As the clever sub-title intimates* I am faux-consumed by my efforts to tolerate my ambition to develop my skills in the pen ‘n paper arena. Though we all like the illusion (or is that ‘allusion’? “is there a rhetorician in the house?!”) …and yes, I did just spend a few minutes researching the etymology of that phrase. But that’s not important now** What is important now is that I get a rough draft of this week’s Six Sentence Story. A bloghop curated by Friend of the Doctrine, zoe, readers are challenged and invited (or, invited and then challenged, like accepting an invitation to a formal dinner, only to realize as you’re being seated that a) you don’t know anyone else at the table and 2) you have no idea what piece of cutlery to use with which course (most of which are clearly of ignotorum culina) but you’re there and, overall, it is kinda cool, so you decide to tough it out.) Like that, only different. (Full Disclosure: I toyed with the idea that this ‘setup’ would be my Six, for this week’s prompt ‘Entrance’. But I’ve lost the thread and besides, I’m still debating leaving the footnotes and god knows what impact it has on your pre-reading experience might be, best I continue right to the story).

He held the door for her. She smiled, (her head tilted down, as if to watch her step, yet her eyes looking up without the slightest hint of her attention being anywhere but on him), and he would do anything for her, at least, for the remainder of the evening.

She stepped through the door. He glanced at her, (while simultaneously looking in all directions with an air of challenge and pride and a little bit of uncertainty), she knew that what she knew no longer mattered, what she was, tied her to his world for the remainder of the evening.

They made their entrance.

And Mother Nature smiled.

*too much? no, seriously, new Readers? the reason for the scrabble-plus vocabulary is quite simple, I’m a clark and clarks view language and words and such like, …well, like a lion views his mane or a streetwalker views her mini skirt… it is the characteristic that, while related to functional value, at some point, ontologically speaking, is a bit of an appendix, in modern-day living, ya know?

**great recurring line in ‘Airplane’

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