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‘stop the presses’ -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘a new insight/landmark of the rogerian worldview …this just in!’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

“I’ve called you here because we know something new about that strange, strange land of the roger.”

I hadn’t planned on writing a Post today. I’m finally getting traction on Chapter 9 (Blogdominion) and with only so many words in me, I thought to surpass on writing a Post today.

That, (for you New Readers), that use of the word ‘surpass’? is a deliberate reference to the rogerian worldview, be best if you looked it up.

So, I’m getting ready for work this morning. I open a letter from Blue Cross (Blue Cross motto: ‘we’re in control of your lives, you would think that paying us tons of money would be enough, but you’d be wrong! We enjoy sending mildly threatening letters to you, every now and then, not just because it upsets you, but precisely because it makes us feel good (in an institutional sense, of course)’  whew! long ‘throw away’ joke, even for us here at the Doctrine!) and it said something about, how,  at a certain point in time, I need to make the transition to other medical coverage. So naturally, I said to Phyllis (who was standing in the kitchen cooking her lunch to take to work), “Damn! I really want to get very expensively sick before I have to quit Blue Cross! Seeing how much money I’ve paid them over the years, it would be a shame to do otherwise.”
To which Phyllis replied, “…you wouldn’t want to hold onto one thing and give up a benefit in another form… like not paying a bill on principle.”

And I stopped. I said, “My god! that happened 30 years ago. rogers never change the profile of the people in their lives.”

Several things followed:

  • I realized that not only do rogers hold on to things from the past, (about themselves and about others), but they establish what can best be termed a ‘profile’ upon the establishing of a given relationship
  • Phyllis, fortunately is a roger with a strong secondary clarklike aspect, so she can talk about her rogerian worldview, at least as much as any of us can talk about our predominant worldviews… you know, it’s our reality, so we tend to not know what other people (in ‘the other two’ worldviews) are not experiencing or are otherwise unaware of, and so we could talk about this establishing a profile
  • this is very cool, because finding artifacts or landmarks that are ‘way inside’ a different worldview is tres difficult
  • how difficult?  well there are only a few, the best example being from our rogerian brethren’s world…. and that is the concept of ‘referential authority’ which tells us that if we encounter a person who wishes to impose their will on us, but almost always tells us that ‘it’s because that’s way it’s done‘ or ‘everyone knows that‘ or ‘it says so in the Manual’ then we need to be getting out our checklist of rogerian characteristics
  • finally, and this where the Doctrine is so very helpful, Phyllis and I continued our discussion of rogerian profiles and agreed that rogers can change their profile (of a person, place and thing), but it is always on ‘an additive basis’

New Readers? I’ll leave that last item un-elaborated upon, changes on an additive basis is the best way and, not coincidently, the best way to describe this new artifact of the rogerian worldview.

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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If anger maintained for too long a time without resolution results in a state of exhaustion, would an excessive level of gratitude be expected to create a feeling of rapacious  avidity? It only stands to reason, not that that has anything to do with today’s odd(er) TToT Post. Apropos only of having a little too much computer-enhanced-word-generation, Lizzi and Them invite you to join this here Ten Things of Thankful bloghop. Your work will be graded. (no, not really) ((well, I have to back up my assertion of being rapaciously avid, don’t I?)) (((well, actually, I don’t! and not just because the term, ‘rapacious avidity’ is morphing into a visual that includes pirates, school marms and being kept after class.))) oh well, if this is your first stop, and are relatively new to the TToT, I might suggest going over to ‘the Coop‘ or ‘un-Charted‘ might make for a better mood establisher, ya know?

1) the technology of the current day that allows events like last night’s vidchat.

2) the internets in general, for enabling the creation of ‘the Biggest High School Cafeteria (Last Lunch on a Friday, not to put too fine a point on it) in all of History’, not just the social environment that we all experienced, but, in a marked improvement over the original, the Biggest High School Cafeteria with a Shifting Time Zone (which allows, as did the original, a time of fluid social structure… i.e. cool kids at a sub-critical density, tough kids at a variable demand time and so on and so forth…. you remember, that one day, after class, you and a friend talked to a Teacher and they (the Teacher) talked like they were regular people.

3) the Wakefield Doctrine for being both an enabler and a dependent-of-the-most-trying-type,-like-that-friend-that-you-know-doesn’t-need-to-act-so-….-but-they-don’t-listen-except-that-one-time-that-only-makes-you-all-the-more-frustrate-because-its’-clear-they-know-better

4) work and such… (there must be a comparable expression to ‘such a First World problem’ that describes the vast range of jobs and employment choices and requirements) Wait, I just remembered! the Doctrine has something to say about jobs!  “Everyone works just as hard at what they do as everyone else.” (It’s true!  Look it up!)

5) *this space reserved for Insightful and Poignant Crowd-Sourced Grat Item (click 10 to make your contribution)

6) the internet (again) for allowing us, as individuals to feel free to express ourselves in ways that we would not, in a million years consider in the Real World, without depriving us of the total head-swelling feeling that accompanies the post faux-temp-couragous moment.

7) serial novel websites, even though they are clunky to use and subject to the same Lamarckian social environment that, having somehow survived once, we find ourselves eager to through ourselfs back into  Blogdominion Chapter 8 out this Sunday  (Sister Margaret Ryan and Detective Maribeth Hartley go out for a Sunday dinner at a local Italian restaurant and discuss Life, Death, computers, Police procedure and why Sister Margaret is not going to give up on the mystery of the defaced school website.)

8) Lizzi and her band of co-hostinae for maintaining this space over what we calculated was either 2.3 years or half of the last period of time that we mark in our heads as: ‘ok, I think I’m getting it’

9) Phyllis and her Treehouse and z and her Six and the SGV (with their well-worn, kama sutra of bloghop Rule Books: the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)

10) 1.3

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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the Wakefield Doctrine is: a perspective1

the Wakefield Doctrine isn’t: ‘the Answer’2

the Wakefield Doctrine can help you: better understand the people in your life (and by doing that, better understand yourself)3

the Wakefield Doctrine cannot help you: change anyone, their behavior, their likes or dislikes or refusal to live the way you know is best4

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1)  it’s predicated on the notion that we, all of us, experience life and the world on a personal basis. nothing mind-blowing, earth-shattering, paradigm-shifting (well, maybe this one, if you’re lucky and you work very hard). The fact of the matter is that our world is personal, and the Doctrine, when we get to the part about three personality types, will be referring to this personal part as being our ‘worldview’

2) but it is a hell of a good Question. Besides, there are, and have always been, a ton of people all to willing to provide you with ‘the Answer’. aka ‘the World According to- (spouse/friend/boss/TV personality/politician/cop/best friend/worst enemy/ pretty much every other person you meet today’s)-Name-goes-here. The Wakefield Doctrine’s position is that, since the world is personal, how could I really know what it’s like for you?

3) so, we have three personality types to go with three worldviews that everyone lives in, except we don’t really mean personality types (it’s more a matter of the way you learn to deal with the world around you, from when you were really young and trying to cope with adults, family, teachers, friends and bullies). However, we do say that you are sitting, reading this from the perspective of a person living in one of three characteristic personal realities (i.e. worldviews):

  1. the world of the Outsider(clarks): real simple, since as long as you can remember, you’ve thought about the world as being ‘out there’, as in, separate from, you. (Since that time), you’ve been quietly and, hopefully not too noticeably, looking for the Answer, the thing that everyone else around you seem to already know about belonging… not necessarily being popular, being loved or admired, not being an outlaw… belonging (as in: not being apart from)
  2. the life of the Predator (scotts): also real simple! life! live! fight/love/eat/sleep/fight/run/sleep/hurry up!! …of course, in the context of those with the ability to read this, which, btw, in no way makes you superior to your non-human scottian brethren (which you are nodding your head in acknowledgment of right at this moment), life is a bit more involved than the simple verbs listed. sort of. you know, (without having to re-understand it), that the world and life is meant to be lived and enjoyed… hey! come back!! we’re not finished yet!
  3. the reality of the Herd Member(rogers): I would say that this worldview is not simple (in contrast to the preceding two), but that would be valid, only if you are a clark… it’s not complicated for the Herd Member, life is to be lived and practiced so that living is done as it should be, as it has the potential to be, as those before you have tried to live, the world is quantifiable (which is helpful) but, life, by doing so, charges us with finding the Right Way and, to help others to find it for themselves … a fair amount of work, but worth it

4)  the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them

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Welcome to Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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So here’s my concern: this is a gratitude blog hop. Everyone is invited to participate by sharing the things that they are grateful for in their lives. These things can be anything, i.e. people, places, things, events, anything. The theme is Ten Things (of Thankful), and so, all are requested to write a post that includes ten things. (yeah, this is a long way to go for a single, yet silly joke… but I’m into this thing for 89 words already, too late to give up now!) The thing of it is, and my obvious concern, is what happens this week, which contains a holiday (for those of us in the Middle of North America), that’s called Thanksgiving. I mean, damn! By my calculation either a) the mere inclusion of this past Thursday in my grat list should, (per suam sufficientiam)1 automatically fill in the other 82 or 2) consume my keyboard and monitor in, like a blackhole, (which, for some reason, sounds really terrible), of thankfulness, leaving only a smoldering and singed Hallmark Moment card on my desk….

2) hey! I’m still here! I didn’t get pulled into a frilly, pink satin-lined tesseract!3 (and yeah, I totally will be comfortable submitting that as an item of this here list here)

3) Vidchats!  yeah!  had one last night, with my ‘sphere spouse Lizzi (aka Laura4) and it was splendid! (I can use language like that with complete assurance…having a ‘sphere spouse, of course.  (Nearly) everyone was there  zoe and lisa and denise and sarah and a new chatmate kerri! very good time (got some way good input on the writing from all)

4) Graviteers! you know how in most cultures, there’s like a, well, not a defining event, more of a exemplary event…. where the best and the most (fill in your own highly valued and/or sought quality for living a better life.. like that, only cooler)gifted are on display? well, thats what Thanksgiving Week is for those who participate in the Gravity Challenge…. which, this year, 2015, was christine, val, lisa, kristi, joy and sarah…. thrill of victory, yo… the thrill of victory!

5) I had a decent enough week at work, so I can put that …here, right?

6) Six Sentences damn!  (sort of like getting on the parallel bars in high school gym… (obviously not as cool as the high bar, which saw only the mutantly strong rogers and the pre-jail-sentence scotts), and not the baby climb-the-rope-until-you-got-high-enough-to-see-over-the-divider-to-where-the-girls-were-having-easy-fun-playing volley ball)… Six Sentence is the kind of exercise that is easy to admire those who do participate and appears just barely doable enough to convince me to climb my ass up on the bars, where I’m like totally visible to the whole class and even kids in the corridor, so then, you gotta do something!   thanks zoe!

7) Una for representing the best in lifeforms

8) Phyllis and her tree house, which, I am fairly certain, is going to get like, totally Christmas decorated ….photos in the coming weeks

9) Blogdominion!   Chapter 6 is out and Chapter 7 is due Sunday evening…. read and let me know your thoughts, (given that, by definition, you’re into this ‘writing thing’, or you wouldn’t be, like writing blog posts, am I right?)  so I seek your opinion on the story. thanks

10) SR 1.3 yo, 1.3

 

1)’by virtue of it’s self-sufficiency’ (or something, hey, it’s Latin… what it really means is not as important as the fact that I respect your readerness enough to go to google translate and cope ‘n paste, ya know?

2) because.. SR 1.3, of course!

3) well, it’s a cube…thing with like properties  here go read  wikipedia

4) Dick Van Dyke Show (1961-1966)  (yeah, most of people weren’t even born yet!)

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Six Sentences -the Wakefield Doctrine- (what?! that’s it… I can write a simple Post title, ya know’)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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I’m at my office. Those are the warm red, green and white lights of the strip mall across the street in the photo above. So far, the biggest challenge I’ve encountered in my recent efforts to learn to write good, is finding the time when I have a keyboard and I’m in the mood. Mood, as it pertains to (my) attempts to acquire skill in the art of wordifying, presents the more intractable condition. No doubt because it, (mood), lies in the realm of the life emotional and, therefore, resists definition. Be that as it may, I’m glad that zoe has this here bloghop here, going every Thursday. Nothing like a deadline to get the creative juices flowing! My Six Sentence Story, this Thanksgiving 2015:

 

Fable of Grapes

“But I don’t wanna go to bed! It’s still light out and all the kids are still outside!”

“But none of my friends have to stay in today…it’s not fair!”

“I don’t want to take that medicine! It tastes bad and besides I already took it but you don’t believe me!”

Let the oenophiles say what they will, aged whines are really no better, (and no worse), than young ones.

 

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