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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- the mildest of the Workweek Days

January 12, 2016 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

We’re attempting to write a Post in the evening. The normal time for post writing is morning, early-oh-my-god-so early morning. Because that’s the ~~quite~~ quiet part of any day. And to us Outsiders (clarks) quiet means: non-contested, open-ended potential, judgement surely not (yet) been rendered. So like the morning.

But ever since starting the Blogdominion project, my Post production level has been way the hell off. There may very well be something to that myth about having only so much creativity in a given day, and once spent, nothing but time replenishes it. But it’s all for a good cause, the story is approaching the halfway point with Chapter 13 (in which insight into the lives of our main characters are the Special of the Day). Hey, go to Blogdominion and read it.

But the Wakefield Doctrine is still the reason I’m here. (My favorite cool-sounding Latin quote is also very appropriate when talking about the Doctrine, in general. and my presence in the blogosphere, in particular, the Latin phrase being: sine quo non, ( ‘without which not‘). That’s totally the relationship between me and my perceived right to be here, writing stuff.

Hey! Speaking of writing stuff and the Wakefield Doctrine. I just had cause to use an expression that we haven’t seen in a while, i.e. ‘the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them’. This (hopefully) provocative assertion is one of my favorites, usually heard or read in the context of answering the question, “I can see how useful the perspective of the Wakefield Doctrine is when it comes to understanding the people in my life. But isn’t there a way that I can get them, those people in my life to see that they can be better people too? Is there?”

No. No there is not a way to get another person to be a better person through the use of the Wakefield Doctrine. The Doctrine is for you, not them.

So two things to start this week:

the Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective on the behavior of the people in our lives. With the Wakefield Doctrine as a tool, we shouldn’t ever hear ourselves say, “Now why on earth would they go and say a thing like that? I really thought I knew them better!”

If the other person, (i.e. a teacher, a shift supervisor, a lover, a classmate, a child-in-the-throes-(and-throws)-of-adoloescence, the spouse, the former spouse, the girl-you-would-trade-in-all-but-your-best-friend-for-a-shot-at, the girl in the 7 11 with the green-streaked hair, the cop who pulled you over, the mechanic who’s pulling your chain, your father, your mother…yourself) does something that you find both surprising and/or annoying, stop (for just a second, if you’ve been doing your Doctrine-reading, you won’t need a lot of time) and ask yourself, “this person, do they appear to be relating themselves to me and the world as might a(n):

Outsider(clark) they seem to want something, but they keep holding back, like they’re afraid or something, which is really silly, after all I’m their: (fill in the blank)
Predator(scott) damn! jeez they’re like all ready halfway doing the thing they’re asking about doing, somebody needs to have a little time out, slow down!
Herd Member(roger) why are they suddenly so nasty? and how did they go from ‘why I’m always happy to spend time with you….. asshole’ jeez, would be nice to have a warning

See how easy?

Consider which of the three worldviews the person is closest two. Review the nature and character of this worldview and… there you have it! It (the pain-in-the-neck/wtf!?/annoying behavior) makes sense!

Don’t forget! go to Blogdominion and read some or all of the story. SPECIAL Offer! If you have some question about the characters or the plot, go ahead and write me a comment and I’ll go total Cliff Notes on ya! And….and! if you have any desire to write a Review (apparently you can do that in the Jukepop site)… I’ll be semi in debt to you for a fair amount of time!

This Friday!! Me and my loverly vspouse, Laura, would love to have your company for an evening of discussion and dialogue, insight and reflection, and…who knows what else? Vidchat…. 6:45 yo

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6th of January Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine-

January 7, 2016 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

A bit early today, but seeing how I’ve taken advantage of the Date in the Post title, I better deliver, at least on a rough draft. I don’t recall the prompt word. Wait! I’ll just go and look it up… ‘Exact’

Fine.

All I need to do now, is decide whether to use the word most often heard in reference to rogers or to scotts! (well, think about it…. no, I’ll wait. correct!*)

zoe

Six Sentence Story

No! I’m not suddenly finding myself way behind in time and where I’m supposed to be…. why the hell would you think that?!!! Just read the story and, as Joe Walsh sings, ‘tell me I’m great’

Exact

Exact

The man sat in the chair, the smell of rubbing alcohol serving to tell the future (of the forever-5-year-old-child-about-to-get-a-shot) in this room awash in light that was both bright and unforgiving. The two/too young medical persons busily at work on the upper portion of his body, frighteningly rapid eclipses that visited pain on random parts of his face. One was cute, and, with slightly purple hair and a very caring, albeit distant affect, she was surely a clark. The primary worker was precise in his ministrations, which made them both exact and exacting, and was totally insensitive to the effects of the procedure, the price of the undeniable skill of a roger. A joke, make a joke, he thought and you will claim your role as an equal participant!

“Am I the only one who’s getting a visual from the movie, ‘Bladerunner’?”

*as we often do here at the Doctrine, this parenthetical contains the un-asked/un-answered question posed by the clarks in the readership** which is something to the effect of, ‘yeah, but what about clarks?’ and, of course, the answer is ‘their use of the prompt word (or any other word, for that matter) does not totally depend on actually using the word… if you know what we mean.’

**by definition, the Readership of our blog is comprised of clarks and scotts and rogers, the latter two have a significant secondary clarklike aspect. ya know?

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-the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘on self-improvement and New Year’s resolutions’

January 4, 2016 By clarkscottroger

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Seeing how we’re in the first week of the first month of the current year, that can mean only one thing! It’s surely that time of year when hearts seek renewal and minds strive to re-frame the context in which the world is encountered.

Given that, I thought it best to (re)address the Wakefield Doctrine’s approach to self improving oneself.

The Wakefield Doctrine’s approach to self-improvement is simplicity itself: you already know/have the skill/feel differently in whatever way self-improvement is manifesting itself. There are two key assumptions required:

we all live our lives in the world as characterized by one of the three worldviews; the Outsider(clarks), the Predator(scotts) and the Herd Member(rogers), but we retain the potential of the other two
what this means, very simply is, if I want to be more scottian (to act instead of think) or more rogerian (to belong and share the rightness of the world) or even more clarklike (to see what is not and learn what is unknown), then I have that basic potential already. (Warning: just because I have the potential to be a commanding presence like my scottian friends does not eliminate the need to practice! Even though I have within, the sea of emotion as manifested in the worldview of our rogerian friends does allow me to go out and hug everyone…at least and get away with it. The thing of it is, we all have all behaviors available, all we need to do is accept that fact and be willing to practice.)

…so there you have it! Self-improvement Doctrine-style!

You want to be more assertive at work? Know that you have within, the instinctual reflexes of the predator. Want to feel less alone, apart from the world around you? Simple enough, you have the potential to experience the day today as a Herd Member. Just give it a try.

…ok, just kidding! Well, actually not. At least not the way it may seem. The Wakefield Doctrine stands behind all of the above, with the reminder of the most essential understanding of all, and that is, the Wakefield Doctrine is about ‘how we relate ourselves to the world around us’. Understand/ Appreciate /Accept (this), and everything else is simple.

Hey! speaking of appreciate and such, Chapter 12 of ‘Blogdominion’ is out and available for your continued reading enjoyment! Follow this link if you’ve been keeping up with our story. If you’re new to our serial story follow this link to the beginning of the story and find out what they’re talking about.

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘well, seeing how it starts on a Friday, 2016 may just turn out to be cool 12 months’

January 2, 2016 By clarkscottroger

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No, I’m serial! It’s a near-scientific fact that Years that begin on a Friday are way, way cooler than, say a Year that starts on a Monday or a Wednesday. Ask anyone!

This is the first TToT of 2016. Which, as years to be alive in goes, is pretty damn cool. It is so far in the future. Growing up in the 1960s reading science fiction, I’m struck by the fact that most of the writers of that era, (1940s to 1960s, the so-called ‘Golden Age of Science Fiction’), when they needed to have a date for some future event, or maybe the setting for a time travel story, rarely left the 20th Century. Other than Yeager and Evans,* there seemed to be no need to imagine the 21st Century much beyond 2010. Anyway, I lost my train of thought… oh yeah, the future and how cool it is to be this far into it. That and the drive to self-improve oneself is on the minds of most of the people that I interact with, here in the ‘sphere. And there’s this, the TToT, I’m sure there must be a roger in the group who has the exact date of when Lizzi started this thing and that way, we could figure how long we’ve been at it… yearistically-speaking, of course.

To the Grat List!

1) this here bloghop here, the TToT. A lot of things can be said about the benefits of a regime of cultivating gratitude for the things of everyday life. All very true and, for the most part, already said better than I might. For me, the primary benefit is (to be found) in the continuity of the community that’s formed around this the TToT. The theme (of gratitude) is not particularly unique, in fact, to borrow an expression from an author that I enjoyed reading in the above referenced period of time, the field of gratitude blogs is so crowded that ‘you can’t swing a dead cat without hitting one (gratitude blog)’.

2) Friday Night vidchat… always fun, even if the topic is dream-murder and flying (or, as some of us prefer, bounce-flying) you never know who might drop in… last night it was zoe and Denise, Lizzi and Kerri and it was a good chat

3) the Graviteers over at the Gravity Challenge: Christine, Val, Kristi, Lisa, Joy, Sarah and Lizzi (yes, she does get around!)

4) zoe’s Six Sentence Story every Thursday, 1/2 writing exercise, 1/2 fun and 1/2 skills enhancement… you really need to join us

5) ‘Blogdominion‘ in Chapter 12 (due to hit the newsstands this Sunday) in which, we visit with Tom and Cheri Fearing, Tom is getting what he things he needs to be a good husband and Cheri is worried that the news of a addition to the family might cause discord in the the-Family-that-wants-to-be and we’ll catch up with Maribeth Hartley as we learn the information that Sister Margaret Ryan has un-covered in the late Father Noonan’s Journal and Stephen Eddington is in Chicago visiting his mother and is called for a meeting with the new VP of IT Services who makes Stephen an offer that it might be unwise to refuse… meeting Anya Clarieaux certainly ratchets up the stakes for our young engineer…. join us this weekend for all this and more!

6) Phyllis for having the quality of self that sees that things like tree houses are easy to see in a context of being 5 to 13 years old, but to see how something like a tree house can manifest to an adult and have the will to see it brought into reality… v cool

7) Una dog. perfect. lifeform.

8) the SGV (the Seven Guard Virgins) the people like us (well maybe like some of us… no! not saying anything about anyone in particular, Dyanne!) who remind us that the beauty of this virtual world is that, while, by definition, we can be anyone to anyone, we must face a certain judgment on the purity of our motives and intention… and, I for one, know that the next-to-the newest GV totally is into me, I know I saw her smile at something I wrote last week. just sayin.

9) the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) the BoSR/SBoR allows that the simplest standard of successful participation be recognized, i.e. it is not the number of items, the clarity of the description, it is not the turning lemons in to apple turnovers, it is not even the level of skill of the participant. It (this standard that is manifested by the existence of the SB0R/BoSR) recognizes that it is the participation, with good intent, that is the measure of success for a TT0T list.

10) 1.3 the first of the Secret Rules and the one that most symbolizes the difference between the TToT and most other exercises in gratitude. SR 1.3 states that the act of completing a TToT list is, in fact, a valid item for said List.

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Merry Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine-

December 24, 2015 By clarkscottroger

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There is an ancient Inuit saying, appropriate to this week’s prompt, “The snow is always here, sometimes we think we can only see it when it returns”

Late with the start/ warm up/ the hand-in-hand-walk/ phase of finding out what words are available to me for this week’s Six Sentence Story. I’ve taken the extra precaution to have an abacus available to me, although, the fact of having such a device is no guarantee that I will actually use it. And, using it should not be taken as an assurance that I will use it correctly. Sometimes we can have all the tools in the world, the very exact same tools that the much admired, never-incorrect-in-execution Master Craftsman and still the result is somehow disappointing, “tools”, as the other old saying would remind us, “are the zippers and buttons and clasps of happiness.”

So today is Six Sentence Story, ‘the gift that keeps on demanding’, made available for those of us who enjoy the thrill of a challenge by Friend of the Doctrine, zoe.

“What a great view, just look at that snow come down,” Stephen Eddington stood, staring past the receptionist’s desk, out through the glass wall that framed the Downtown Chicago skyline like a modern-day Currier and Ives.

“Surely Provo has storms that would put this flurry to shame,” Anya Clarieaux spoke quietly, feeling pleasure at managing to get up from her very formal, business-like receptionist’s desk and be standing close enough to the young engineer to feel the fabric of his off-the-rack suit catch and tug shyly at the sleeve of her blouse as she pointed out towards the slightly snow-whitened skyscrapers.

Stephen looked at the receptionist, now standing very close to his left side, revised his estimate of her age downward, and immediately felt an odd yet pleasurable sense of alarm, which he eagerly ignored.

“Send Mr Eddington in now, Anya,” the voice of the Vice President of the IT Services Division suddenly demanded the attention of both the young Computer Engineer and the attractive woman, shifting the axis of their world from the city beyond to a door marked: ‘Private’.

With a smile, Anya walked ahead and held the door for Stephen Eddington, who hesitated as he approached, straightened his tie and whispered, “How do I look?”

Looking very directly into his eyes, Anya said, “You’ll be fine…” straightened his already very straight tie and slipped a folded piece of paper in the breast pocket of his suit coat.