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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “I seem to find the happiness I seek…”

October 26, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

We have (both) Lisa and Pat to thank for today’s subtitle (and Fred and Ginger’s music vid). Thanks, guys.

First the Wakefield Doctrine, then the link to Chapter 2

the Wakefield Doctrine is intended for use as an additional perspective on life, reality and how best to deal with the rude checkout girl, the overbearing school guidance counselor, pig-headed spouse or the girl (or boy) of your dreams.

Now, the Doctrine is many things, including a way to predict the behavior of the people in our lives. To demonstrate: (assuming a proper attention*) the clark will read that as the Wakefield Doctrine will let them predict the future, the scott will read that as being able to have more fun surprising the people around them and roger will hear that prediction of the behavior of the people around them and, at least initially, will decide that they don’t need to know how a person will act in the future, as long as they know how they reacted in the past.

Blogdominion Chapter 2 is live and available for your reading and voting pleasure. I invite comments, seeing how I am writing this story with only the slightest idea of what happens next. (For the present, we get to know all the main characters better and we know that bad things are going to happen, now that Unit 17 is self-publishing… but there is still the matter of what Sister Margaret Ryan finds is the problem at St Emily’s School in Chicago and how well Tom Fearing makes out (on his blog! it’s not that kind of story…. unless, of course you want that kind of story) and there’s the matter of Mai and her friend…

Yes, you’re reading this correctly! A Post in less than 500 words. Gotta save ’em for the Serial.

Now that I say that, I’ve been meaning to ask my writing-inclined friends the question about how many words you have available. Let’s rephrase that: on any given day, do you have the feeling that there are only so many words available to your writing efforts and, (as a follow-up) do you find that it is not specific words, but the act of writing? Example: If I did not spend the time and energy to write this Post, would I have more to put into the next Chapter of Blogdominion.

Damn! getting near 500… better quit while I’m ahead.

*not such a monolithic concept here, people. ‘proper attention’ is manifested differently in the personal reality of clarks, scotts and rogers. While a discussion of ‘the Everything Rule’, vis-à-vis ‘proper attention’ is beyond the scope of this post, allow me to say:

clark: re-read every word
scott: get back here and finish reading
roger… would it kill you to not pretend to be un-interested, this once? I promise no one is watching

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘No. 12 Pole and Cows’ (yeah, adds a nice…artsy touch, doesn’t it?)

October 24, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So lets start this thing! No, you’re right! There is no significance to the order of the ‘Things of Grateful’, at least I don’t think there are… but, but it is certainly seductively suggestive*. Since there are very few Rules governing the creation of the Grat List, I’ll make a poll my first Item! yeah, boy! I’m sure glad that idea showed up when it did, otherwise I’d be slogging through the First Five and looking for my ‘hook’ all morning!

1) I’m grateful that the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) encourages the use of alternate expressions of gratitude, case in point, a survey of Participants on the question: Does your List represent a Priority of Gratitude or are the Items (comprising your TToT) effectively random?

2) While we wait for the others to respond, I will say that I’m grateful for the gift of a plant from an associate at work. It’s a money tree and stands about 18 inches tall. I researched ‘Money Tree’ (common name for gifted plant) and read that they can grow to 18m. I am from the Land of Y Chromia so you can well imagine what I did upon learning that! I immediately bought a much larger pot, more dirt and a little fertilizer. Taller is better, yo.

3) Una and I went for a walk yesterday afternoon. Unfortunately the sun is setting at, like 2:00 (and that’s on a sunny day) but we had fun… went to the bank where the Teller sent dog treats back with my deposit slip, which I gave to Una. …the treats, not the deposit slip.

4) We’re into the colorful-and-pleasing-if-you-enjoy-the-splendor-of-dying-leaves season, here in southern New England. Ok to look at. Not ok to think about.

5) Phyllis’s tree house is serving the secondary function of ‘lookout’…. Phyllis and Una go and sit on the little balcony/deck that faces the pond and gaze at the Autumn splendor.**

6) the Gravity Challenge is continuing… it’s proving to be one interesting place, it provides something different for everyone who participates, you should come by and join us sometime… click here and, well…. as a Post that you might read and understand? maybe you should ask someone. Tell you what! Today’s Gravity Challenge will have links to each participant’s blog… go ask them why they do it. Start by clicking here.

7) zoe continues with her very pleasing ‘hop ‘the Six Sentence Story‘ ‘never have so many write so much with so few (….er words!)’ def you should go and read and, hell! join us next week, the more the merrier and god knows I’m totally a ‘merry’ person.

8) thank you to everyone who went to Jukepop and read the latest Installment in my serial, ‘Blogdominion’ (if you haven’t been there yet, go! you’ll find a Prologue and Chapter 1) I’m working on Chapter 2 this morning and hope to have it up by Sunday’s end! I’ll be sure to let you know.

9) work, should be listed, as it is interesting and supports my newly discovered writing jones

10) 1.3 (the first and still the Best of the Secret Rules)… wait a minute…. maybe there’s a place for the SGV in my….nah, it’s getting confusing as it is (why didn’t anyone tell me that when you create characters for fiction, they sometimes start changing on their own?! Damn!)

*well, I’m on this big writing kick and, since I’m practicing and learning, well everything is a lesson and yeah, ‘seductive’ and ‘suggestive’ certainly are a pairing that draws the attention….even if it is 7:14 am in the morning lol

** Phyllis is a self-admitted roger and rogers do this thing, something that neither clarks nor scotts do and that is ‘to gaze’…. you will, if you’re practicing your Doctrine, come upon a roger appearing to ‘stare into space’. If you thought this, you would be wrong. clarks ‘stare into space’ rogers, ‘gaze’… there is a difference. (scotts? no way, are you kidding me? scotts not pay attention to their surroundings (physical and social)??! sorry, go read you Doctrine! ain’t gonna happen!)

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- (celever subtitle here…. )

October 17, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

The time of the week when we stop with the tread-milling for a moment and find, identify and state the aspects and elements of our (own) lives over the past seven days (or more) that cause us to feel grateful. (The oddly passive phrasing there is a hint to a) my predominant worldview and 2) my own relationship with the world around me. And, yes, if you thought, ‘well, could’ve saved some words there, Mr. Redundency-who-states-the-obvious’ you are absolutely correct. You probably should request a Wakefield Doctrine hat (for your damn head) or something. But, this is what our Mistress Lizzi would have us do each and every Saturday (into and through Sunday) and far be it from me to be contrarian.

So, lets to the list be us all.

1)Grateful I am for the new(er) participants in this here bloghop here. The questions and concerns that they present reminds me of the core value in this exercise. My personal favorite question/concern is, ‘what if I can’t come up with 10 things that were good in the last week?’ Probably is the best question of all. A lot of Answers, (imo), to that question, and, employing one of the acceptable Answers to this concern, I’ll proceed to…

2) the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)

3) the Gravity Challenge

4) the Six Sentence Story (and the wonderful of virtual and metaphoric psychological striptease)

5) the fricken google… man, the thing’s getting spooky. Example: Item 4? I wanted to say ‘metaphorical striptease’ and I wasn’t sure if it was metaphoric or metaphorical and so I went to ‘the google’ and started typing ‘metaphoric or…and it had a search result for the ‘which one is proper answer…. damn!

6) I could spend the next 3 or 4 items on my gratitude for the Wakefield Doctrine, but I won’t

7) Una and I had a nice walk yesterday. We walked up Interstate 95 to Exit 3 (faster than any man and his Chodský pes have ever walked) and then to the gas station and then back home, circling around the golf course, of course…she enjoyed the walk as much as I did (that’s probably a lie, I bet she enjoyed it more because she’s a dog and dogs are perfect lifeforms)

8) Phyllis hey! I got a photo of Phyllis in bed that shows up in a google search! no, really! it’s great and we had no idea that that would happen! (a search of the name of Una and her proper breed name… hub pages! what the hell!) lol*

9) I’ll be grateful (in a horribly painful and difficult way that, apparently, is not all that un-common in the world of people who decide that they can write a book (or a story or, in my case a serial), and …and! by the end of the day, Chapter 1 of the Blogdominion Saga will be published and you can read it!

10) 1.3 yo 1.3

*(if you’re asking yourself that question, shame on you! of course I did!)

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Sixth Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘a man comes on and tells me, how white my shirts can be…’

October 8, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Here we are …again, Thursday with our Six Sentence Stories bloghop, brought to you by zoe/ivy. The premise is simple, (the execution perhaps not so much). Tell us a story in six sentences. not 78, not 3… Six. So why the long (and, to be honest) kind of obvious introduction? I spend time writing (and re-writing) this intro section, in the desperate hopes that something will coalesce in that part of my mind that ideas rise to the surface of awareness.

“…now is the time, a new day {chhkk}…now is the time, a new day {chhkk}…now is the time, a new day{chhkk}…”

Awareness returned without notice or, for that matter, any sense of transition whatsoever, the early dawn light was simply a presence in the room, like the teacher in Study Hall or the Librarian at her desk, unavoidable, implacable and possessed of Power to define and determine the quality of his life, at least for the present moment.

Through eyes that he was pretty certain were open, he could see light, leaking in around the dark window drapes, like water rising in the bottom of a boat, the essence of pending but-undefined-trouble-ahead, immune to all thought or explanation or rationalization, simply ‘the future is coming and you probably are not going to be happy’.

With the light came thought, with thought, awareness… an awareness in the manner that he thought animals might experience awareness, distilled to the simplest of messages, ‘thirsty’ ‘hungry’ ‘tired’ ‘excited’ ‘danger’, not, all in all, a bad way to live

Sneaking in with the morning light was the sense, the idea, the thought, that if he waited, even just a little, something would happen to indicate that the world was going to take at least partial responsibility and therefore provide him a compelling reason to leave the percale and wool cave that he was hiding in, for the moment, for better or worse, all he had was the silently whispering light and the record on the turntable, endlessly repeating,

“…now is the time, a new day {chhkk}…now is the time, a new day {chhkk}…now is the time, a new day{chhkk}…”

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-the Wakefield Doctrine- (‘it’s time to kick some devil butt*’)

October 6, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

*Fred Hammond’s introduction to ‘Let the Praise Begin’, the next to the last track on the reprint section of this Post.

If you enjoy (modern) Gospel music, you gots to listen to Fred! Not that I go to church, but if my church had this kind of music, I might still be there… no, wait. I was brought up catholic and there is no way in the multiverse that I could imagine this kind of un-restrained, joyous music coming out of the building (to be fair, when I grew up they were still speaking Latin. I understand there’s been some changes since that time.)

hey I just listened to the first cut, which I also really enjoy, so maybe my problem with the church music of my childhood wasn’t the music, but my perception of it! I mean, I enjoy listening to ‘Caritas abundat in omnia’ (the first track in the reprint). But then, that is what the Wakefield Doctrine is all about, isn’t it? Perspective.

One might say that perspective is the ‘personal’ in ‘personal reality’. So, if you want to better understand the other person, or persons in your lives, then (we all) would benefit by allowing for these other (personal) realities, and the way to do that is acquire a different perspective. This is what we mean when we say that the most useful thing inherent in the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine is that it helps us to, ‘appreciate how the other person is relating themselves to the world around them’. Now, the Wakefield Doctrine, as a personality theory, proposes that there are three characteristic ways that people relate themselves to the world around them, as:

an Outsider (clarks): bad posture, poor enunciation, painfully shy, insanely creative
a Predator (scotts): great friends, terrifying enemies, psychotically protective mothers and sure-I’ll-rob-this-gas-station,-if-that’s-what-you-really-want girlfriends/boyfriends
Herd Member (rogers): meticulous and precise, patient to a fault and capable of reading (and believing) every word of the instruction manual (and…and!! waiting until it’s completely read before assembling!!!)

…. the re-print? oh, that!

Jen Kehl used to do this music blog hop Twisted MixTape back in 2013… it was a fun way to do Tuesday. Jen has a blog consultation service (and assorted other useful things) go see her, tell her the Doctrine sent ya!

(from Oct0ber 22, 2013)

Well, this surely will be an interesting week, MizTape-wise. Our Host(s) Jen Kehl and Kristi McNichol have advised us to ‘think spiritual’ for this week’s MixTape. Given that I was taught from a time before I can remember that, in polite company, ‘one simply never discusses politics and religion’, I am in a bit of a quandary. I really enjoy our tunesome Tuesdays and yet, that pesky up-bringing thing. Well, as we say at the Wakefield Doctrine, if it walks like a nun and quacks like a minister, then it must be… (sorry, last minute deadline pressure got the better of me. The Wakefield Doctrine does have something to say about religion, seeing as you have already brought up the topic. When it comes to matters of the soul and deities and such, then: clarks are spiritual, rogers are religious and scotts… they pretty much decide on which sect has the hottest clergy and/or offer the most opportunity to get some…enlightenment.)

Alright! That takes cares of the mandatory, ‘hey-we’re-blog writers-and-music-fans-write-something-profound-insightful-or-failing-that-weirder-than anything’ Done…Done….(and)…Done!

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Caritas abundat in omnia – Hildegard von Bingen

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Elected – Alice Cooper
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fs6AExtcNEQ
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Old Time Mix – Fred Hammond

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Let the Praise Begin – Fred Hammond

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Oh What a Night – Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nDxhugRKZ8g
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