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pre-Six Post -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘…out with the old, in with the non-old!’

December 31, 2015 By clarkscottroger

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Am sitting here at 2:30 typing my warm-up words for zoe’s Six Sentence Story. Yes, it’s early for me, but my email is not working and so I sit here, a 21st Century Odysseus being slowly put to death by silence. (…still no email!! ayiee! yes, I realize that only 12 minutes have past, but it is a long 12 minutes.) Yeah that Homer reference was a teeny bit too obscure (“dooh!!”). In any event, here is my Six.

Resolve

He set out in the early morning, in the way of all 12 year old boys, running towards the new day. He knew what was expected of him that day, and still he ran, we did say he was 12 years old, didn’t we?

Being still only 12 years old and therefore, statistically and individually, not fully mature, he felt an energy that did not automatically and instantly transform into work, this being a secret held non-consciously by nearly all 12 year old boys. If the embarrassing changes in his voice, Mother Nature’s subtle way of marking her second most favored experiments, were any indication, he was surely moments (or months) away from taking his place among the men of his culture.

He knew, without knowing, from that time on, more would be expected and less would be allowed. He resolved to run as he could, as long as he could, as the joy of this day would be a part of him always, remembered or not.

Don’t forget! Rob and Laura invite you to invite the New Year in the company of the witty and sophisticated, albeit mildly sardonic and oft times virtual ‘people’ at the First Friday Night Vidchat 0f 2017!! …. leave Comment RSVP or watch the Facebook, bring a friend, they’re all going to be there!

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- of future past tenses

December 29, 2015 By clarkscottroger

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So who the hell secretly changed the number of days of the week from ‘ok… I have just enough time’ to ‘what the hell, it’s nearly Wednesday and I haven’t even started yet!’

Blogdominion Chapter 11 is out on the newsstands. Hey! If you’re new to our story about rogue computers, nuns with mysterious pasts and a very attractive female Detective who’s always angry and if you were to ask her about why…. yep! she’d getting really mad! Anyway, what I started to say is, ‘Blogdominion’ begins with a Prologue, which for reasons unknown shows as Chapter 0, followed by the Chapters, so be sure to start with the Prologue. And, while you’re there, (at jukepop.com), don’t forget to ‘Vote’… yeah, I know, the world has, in fact, never stopped being a fricken popularity contest. If you think about it, the dynamics at work in our lives are not all that different from the whole, high school experience. Like swimming in a fast flowing river with muddy shores, you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t! Anyway…. go read the Story of Sister Margaret Ryan and Ed Willoughby and Tom Fearing and Orel Rees and the others and let me know how you like it! (I’m interested in your reaction to the characters. Just today I got a comment from Josie Two Shoes, regarding a character in the most recent Six Sentence Story, to the effect that she liked this corporate admin, one Anya Claireaux, and I’m like, ‘ok I get what you like about her…’ what was cool was that, from Josie’s Comment, I could see Anya in a different light. Given that I made her up, this ‘oh really Anya? why didn’t you tell me?’ Very cool.

the Wakefield Doctrine is a unique, useful and fun way to better understand the behavior of the people in our lives. Today, if you’re like me* you’ll have a moment where you find yourself thinking, “now why in the world would they go and say/do a thing like that! I really thought I knew them better.” That is what the Wakefield Doctrine is for, that moment, that point in our daily life when we are forced to accept that, for all of being-married-to/raising-from-infants/still-got-a-shot-if-I-don’t-blow-it-now, we don’t always know the people in our lives as well as we should…or could.

All thats necessary, to drastically cut down on the number of times you’re surprised by the behavior of the people in your life, is a thorough understanding of the characteristics of the three worldviews and a willingness to ‘see the world as the other person is experiencing it’.

Pretty simple, isn’t it?

Coming up this Week!!

Year in Review
Six Sentence Story
New Year’s Day Evening with Rob and Laura

stay tuned!

*hey, sorry! ‘today, if you’re like many of the Readers of the Doctrine**

**i.e. anyone coming back here, more than once…

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TT-ho-ho-ho-T -the Wakefield Doctrine- the Christmas 2015 Tour

December 26, 2015 By clarkscottroger

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This should be a fun list. (Early, and hopefully necessary* warning: no lifeforms were taken advantage of or otherwise surprised merely for the sake of dramatic and/or humorous effect).
Christmas this past week. One should be permitted to claim, by virtue of participation in such a 800 pound gorilla of holidays, the entire List of Ten Items, without having to type the words. But, that is not our way. Here, at the bloghop that Lizzi built, it is within the act of engagement, of participation that the benefits and values are to be found.

Did someone say, ‘Yeah, sure we’ve all seen the gif children swarming through the pages of ‘the Facebook’ like ants on a piece of cinnamon toast left on the patio in early summer, they’re everywhere. But…. but! where are the sharing of the Christmas canine?

1) Una’s Christmas 2015

2) the Wakefield Doctrine because, well as my old Latin Teacher might have said, ‘sine qua non, binyon, sine qua non’

3)tree houses, which now have Chimes, which all X Chromates will tell you are essential to a proper domicile

4) the weather!! call me selfishly narrow-minded and insensitive to the future generations, what with their having to contend with rising sea level and such, but it’s great!

5)Bogdominion Chapter 11 on it’s way! (Spoiler Alert! Maribeth gives Sister Margaret a ride to the Convent from O’Hare… lets just say there were no shenanigans….at the airport! We catch up with Stephen Eddington, who’s in town to visit with his elderly mother but finds himself in a surprise meeting with the new Head of Omni Corp’s IT Services Division and there’s something funny going on at corporate, although, if you ask Steve about this guy’s secretary, don’t expect him to laugh! All that and a Alice Willoughby confides in her mom about something that’ s scaring her.)

6)leftovers are so integral to the proper enjoyment of holiday meals…. so, lets think of this, Item 6, as being your favorite Grat Item of the entire year…whatever it might be

7)my co-hostinae: Christine and Lisa and Kristi and Kristi and Sarah and Michelle and Dyanne and zoe and… Lizzi

8)the Graviteers! this is truly one of the most remarkable things of the 2015 year… christine, kristi, val, lisa, joy (yells and whistles, (the high-pitched type of whistle that only scotts can do…make or female) in the back of the audience or school yard…) sarah and lizzi You are the Champions!

9)oh yeah! that new frontier in bad holiday behavior?? we all know, that my wrapping skills are the worst among Y Chromians at least in North America… but but! this year I’ve raised the bar. First let me describe my ‘home office’, which is the back bedroom in our house. It’s nice because a) it’s a good sized room and 2) there are windows that look out into the woods… very peaceful like, and, it also serves as a Guest Room on the occasion we have house guests. In any event, right next to my desk are the two closets that you expect in a bedroom. They’re used by Phyllis for over-flow and off season clothing storage. So you can image my surprise when glance at the closet what should I see but a price tag at the end of a string dangling from a sleeve! …now I’ve spent a lot of time talking about how astute and totally perspective those who come here more than once are…so I need not go into detail as to what came to mind when I saw the perfect present in the closet! I. Am. King. of Present. Givers!! (do your own visual of me as Leonardo and we’ll call it even.

10)SBoR/BoSR SR 1.3

*of course I discussed it…after Christmas morning, but before post

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Merry Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine-

December 24, 2015 By clarkscottroger

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There is an ancient Inuit saying, appropriate to this week’s prompt, “The snow is always here, sometimes we think we can only see it when it returns”

Late with the start/ warm up/ the hand-in-hand-walk/ phase of finding out what words are available to me for this week’s Six Sentence Story. I’ve taken the extra precaution to have an abacus available to me, although, the fact of having such a device is no guarantee that I will actually use it. And, using it should not be taken as an assurance that I will use it correctly. Sometimes we can have all the tools in the world, the very exact same tools that the much admired, never-incorrect-in-execution Master Craftsman and still the result is somehow disappointing, “tools”, as the other old saying would remind us, “are the zippers and buttons and clasps of happiness.”

So today is Six Sentence Story, ‘the gift that keeps on demanding’, made available for those of us who enjoy the thrill of a challenge by Friend of the Doctrine, zoe.

“What a great view, just look at that snow come down,” Stephen Eddington stood, staring past the receptionist’s desk, out through the glass wall that framed the Downtown Chicago skyline like a modern-day Currier and Ives.

“Surely Provo has storms that would put this flurry to shame,” Anya Clarieaux spoke quietly, feeling pleasure at managing to get up from her very formal, business-like receptionist’s desk and be standing close enough to the young engineer to feel the fabric of his off-the-rack suit catch and tug shyly at the sleeve of her blouse as she pointed out towards the slightly snow-whitened skyscrapers.

Stephen looked at the receptionist, now standing very close to his left side, revised his estimate of her age downward, and immediately felt an odd yet pleasurable sense of alarm, which he eagerly ignored.

“Send Mr Eddington in now, Anya,” the voice of the Vice President of the IT Services Division suddenly demanded the attention of both the young Computer Engineer and the attractive woman, shifting the axis of their world from the city beyond to a door marked: ‘Private’.

With a smile, Anya walked ahead and held the door for Stephen Eddington, who hesitated as he approached, straightened his tie and whispered, “How do I look?”

Looking very directly into his eyes, Anya said, “You’ll be fine…” straightened his already very straight tie and slipped a folded piece of paper in the breast pocket of his suit coat.