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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘the day (of the workweek) of maximum, unsubstantiated optimism, (!!! go!! clarks!)

February 23, 2016 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

no, seriously! Today’s subtitle is not nearly as cynical, sardonic or sarcastic as it may sound on first read. It’s a statement of fact for clarks, a funny thing for scotts and flashing of emotional content for rogers. But, as they say in one of the top three funniest movies of all time, ‘but that’s not important right now’*

What is important is that I continue to provide insights, suggestions, advice and information to help anyone interested in better understanding the people in their lives, to appreciate what the Wakefield Doctrine has to offer.

The Wakefield Doctrine offers:

an additional perspective on the world around us, which can be a good thing, provided you’re a person who believes that there is more than one way to see the world
speaking of ‘more than one way to see the world’, isn’t the verb in that very common observation begging for a closer look? damn straight it does!
we’ll get to that as soon as I complete this here bullet list here; according to the Doctrine, we have three ‘ways’ (there it is again!!) to experience the world: as an Outsider(clark), Predator(scott) and a Herd Member(roger) and by ‘experience‘ we mean ‘personal reality’ and by ‘personal reality’ we mean, the world actually is quantifiable (provided you’re a roger), full of prey and larger predators (if you’re a scott) and distant and apart from, a country for which you lost your citizenship (if you woke up this morning, a clark)

ok! any questions, write a comment.

that business about ‘more than one way to see the world’? online dictionary:

way (noun)
1) a method, style, or manner of doing something
2) a road, track, path, or street for traveling along

how convenient is that?! three examples of noun (and) adverbial form(s) of the word! I’ll leave you, the Reader, to decide which (definition) corresponds to which worldview, (because you know that they will!)

On to other Tuesday Business.

Hey! Friend of the Doctrine zoe is working on this very excellent site, (the) ‘Carrot‘ and, I believe she has something going on Monday’s (or will have going on, on Mondays), so what say you jump over there…. click here and check it out. If you do, I’ll tell you about the latest in ‘Blogdominion’ and, maybe even tell you about the upcoming Chapter 20!! ‘gwan with ye now!’

Blogdominion Chapter 19. yeah, it does end with a bit of an old-school cliff hanger! what can I say? Sister Margaret! that young lady has a way of finding the road-less-traveled, whether she likes it or not! So… Chapter 20? I believe we’re all in for some surprises. No, really! I’m including myself in that promise! (For those just joining us, I’ll say, GO READ the Story! start with the Prologue and then up to Chapter 19. Seriously, it’s a fun adventure but, like most fun stories, it’s as much about the people in it as it is about what happens. My approach to writing Blogdominion is, what I believe, they refer to as, ‘seat of the pants’ style (of writing). Want to know how serious I am about this approach I am? I don’t know, as of this writing (7:24 am Tuesday the 23rd), how Chapter 20 ends!

So, go! read the story and join us on the adventure!

Airplane!

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- the middle of the stupidest month of the year.

February 20, 2016 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

10 Things (aka Items), representing, signifying or otherwise constituting a state, an act, a job, a favorite position, a sailboat, a special child, a special place, many people at once, no one but ourselves, a quiet time, a sad time, a time to hide and a place where no one but those good to us know about… you know, life. That’s sort of what the TToT is all about. Generating, encouraging, reinforcing, eliciting, contradicting (hypo-gratitude), and sowing the seeds of change, that’s kind of what many think the attitude of gratitude has the potential for creating or otherwise helping within our own individual lives.

That being said, while the consensus is: focus on 10 things that made you feel grateful and write them in a Post, this particular gratitude-centric bloghop, being founded by a clark of the finest water, not only leaves the form and manner of execution to us as individuals, she kinda goes out of her way to let everyone know that they are welcome here, in TToT-ville. So come on down!

given that I got all Edmond Hoyle on y’all in the intro, best start with one of the main things that I’m grateful for here at this here bloghop here, the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) which very simply states that, provided the writer is of good intent, and can cite a plausible Rule (chapter and verse, rigorously cited, please), there is total carte blanche as to how you may present your Items
Una… Chodsky pes, extraordinaire she enjoys our Friday walks, now that the day isn’t the winter-time shortened to 20 minutes on a cloudy day… so we went cow-baiting yesterday afternoon:
Phyllis a most critical element in the writing of the wonderful online series, ‘Blogdominion’ (This is a grat item of multiple inference: that there is a serial novel is an item on this list, on it’s own merits. That Phyllis is willing to do one of the final pre-publishing readings is very appreciated, in that, as a roger, she provides an insight into how the general public might respond to what I’ve written. (rogers, of course, being ‘the general public’, bless their hyper-emotive hearts)
jukepop.com, a site for those who would write online. One of the challenges of writing on-line is arranging Posts ‘in order’, so that a new visitor can easily read it in it’s intended order, like picking up a book. The site allows easy access to the Chapters comprising the Serial Story, and also allows for comments and votes for (hint hint), because as we all know, High School is the eternal state of reality. So, if you haven’t read it yet, I’ll provide the direct link to the Prologue and you be the judge: ‘Blogdominion‘
Well, this certainly has been an orderly TToT! Makes think I need to do something, god knows that as much as clarks yearn to be accepted, we find (that) being just one of the crowd, a bit…. limiting, maybe a touch boring?
Wakefield Doctrine the BoyScout-GirlScout Handbook/National Scholastic/Chilton Repair Manuel/Cliff Notes for better understanding the people in our lives around us! Find your way to understanding the Doctrine sufficiently to allow the clarks, scotts and rogers to step out of the over-crowded cast of characters in our lives and you will have a certain advantage, i.e. you will know the other person better than they know themselves! And you will be amused, because, and I’m going out on a limb here, most of us who write blog are total people watchers.
geography! my local geography which is bordering the ocean. There was ‘some weather’, as we say in these parts, this week past and so I made the side trip down to the shore to look at the waves….
SR 1.3 (“Secret Rule 1.3 in part and in whole, allows, that when a list is completed, the fact of the completion of said list is a valid Item [of Thankful] and therefore may be substituted in the place of [a]nother item, despite and even though, there is an element of causality-looping that you couldn’t push with a bulldozer

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‘Six Sentence, Six Sentence, Six Sentence Story’ the Wakefield Doctrine- “ …and the moon is in the seventh house“*

February 18, 2016 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

*apparently** that line is, in fact, a lyric from ‘the Age of Aquarius’ from the musical ‘Hair!’

** ‘apparently’ because I have a tendency to write first and understand second, particularly on a Wednesday evening, when I’m in Six Sentence Story Warm-up mode.

Back now, bereft of parentheticals and astrixeseses…. so, zoe has this blog hop, Six Sentence Story every Thursday and the object is to write a story employing the word prompt provided and keep it to 6 sentences. (oh man! I’ve been known in the past as having a touch of arithlexia, this week’s Story really challenges the counting system… whole lines, in quotes I am not counting as individual sentences, unless Al stuck a period in them, which happens once….I think)

This week our prompt is ‘Fray’

“Half a league, half a league, half a league onward” he read, the forest outside his window beginning to glow grayly with the approach of Dawn.

“Cannon to right of them, Cannon to left of them, Cannon in front of them” the poet continued, bestowing hideous honor on the special variety of mass murderer that society produces on a secret timetable, marked by statues in city parks and the dreams of young boys inoculated with malignant dreams of purpose.

“Stormed at with shot and shell, While horse and hero fell. They that had fought so well“, like the drunken patron in lobby of the whorehouse, describing acts of passion as if to repeat them loudly (enough) would reverse the achingly slow destruction of the good, inherent in life of the not-yet-old girl.

“Honour the charge they made! Honour the Light Brigade, Noble six hundred!”

“I know how this ends, it’s bravado and all, one more cup of coffee and into the fray, into the valley of Commerce rode the….” laughing at himself, he hit ‘Publish’.

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- insights and intuitions

February 16, 2016 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

You know what it’s like, having the Wakefield Doctrine as an Alternate perspective on life and the people around us? It’s fun, that’s what it’s like! I had an ‘old school Post writing moment’ Sunday afternoon that was so much fun, because it took me back to the early days of writing this blog. Which is to say, you’re sitting there, minding your own business, maybe watching TV and someone says something or does something that makes the lightbulb go on, over your head. No, I’m serious, that’s very, very close to the experience. Maybe not, get-out-of-the-bathtub-and-run-outside-without-clothes-on level of excitement, but I did stop, (reading or watching TV or whatever I was doing), and walked directly to my computer to write the first draft of this Post.

(A little contexting here, for our newer Readers), the Wakefield Doctrine is predicated on the notion that we all live our lives, to a certain extent, in a reality that is characterized as being that of: a) the Outsider (clarks), b) the Predator (scotts) or c) the Herd Member (rogers) and that it’s the style of our coping strategies and social skills, (to contend with these three very different realities), that gives rise to what others call ‘personality type’.
A big part of the process of learning to use the Wakefield Doctrine as an effective tool for understanding the people in our lives, involves discovering what the world looks like to people living in (one of ) these three realities, (i.e. worldview). There is considerable information available here that will help you identify the behavior that’s characteristic of clarks, scotts and rogers.
You know, the girl wearing the cutest little dress with an exquisite string of pearls…and a plaid shirt and Doc Martens…. or the guy on the bicycle with 3 water bottles, streamlined helmet and enough logos on his head-to-toe spandex to almost not make you think of Pat Benatar. Those characteristics. The very cool thing is that it works. You will find that rogers, given a garage workshop and a pegboard, will decide that it makes the most sense to outline the tools before he hangs them on the pegboard… well, because…

But that’s not what this Post is about. This Post is about the gifts of insight, the eureka moments enjoyed when new insight and understanding makes itself available. Some things are ….too far inside a worldview to be accessible to those of us from one of the other two realities. Then it’s totally critical that we remain alert! The best example, which is a little too long a story for this post, was the insight that lead to the recognition of ‘referential authority‘ as being a feature of the rogerian worldview, and only the rogerian worldview.

So, back to our story. Phyllis got a call on her phone, didn’t answer, there was no message and, more importantly, it was not a telephone number she recognized. She googled the number, it showed an address in a nearby city, but not one that was home to anyone she knew. Fine. End of story. Wrong number.
I went back to my book/TV show. I looked up a short time later and Phyllis was still trying to figure out who made the call and I realized right there, ‘rogers do not believe in wrong numbers‘ (hint: in the worldview of our Herd Member friends, the universe is quantifiable and knowable…and definable. ‘there is always a reason for ___ (fill in the blank when you have a couple of hours).

Anyway. As soon as that lightbulb went on over my head I was headed to the Wakefield Doctrine to add one more characteristic of the rogerian worldview to our collective understanding. …well, because I’m a clark!! and there is no higher value than to know things! of course.

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Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine-

February 11, 2016 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So here it is, Wednesday evening. Plowing word-furrows on the blank and sterile page of a draft post, hoping that this preparation of the page within which I need to raise some words to grow into thoughts and, maybe even, ideas. That’d be delightful. But for now, I’ll just type in the totally-unsupportable notion that even bad, no… random words on a page can become the birthing place of Six Sentence Story, which as we all know, is zoe’s stern, but encouraging gift to those of us who not only enjoy writing, but enjoy the practice of this art.

This week’s prompt is ‘Draw’

He believed that he knew what she wanted of him. Since their transition from classmates to class-couple, he’d been working furiously on improving his fluency in the secret language of those-who-would-be-in-love. Figure Drawing 101, where they met and became, ‘acquaintances-with-an-option-on-caring’, was where, every Thursday evening (6:30 to 10:00 pm) they conducted their initial negotiations and practiced the art. He was young and inexperienced in the affairs of the heart; she was young.

In both classroom instruction and relationships, there comes a time for testing competency, however, not all testing prohibits cooperation.

As he clumsily smeared paint on the canvas, she said, ‘Do I have to draw you a picture?’