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The Sixth Sentence -the Wakefield Doctrine- (‘I see clarks, scotts and rogers‘)

March 10, 2016 By clarkscottroger

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What the hell?! How are we in mid-Wednesday mode already?

New Readers? Our friend zoe hosts this Six Sentence Story bloghop each and every Thursday (as opposed to the Carrot ‘artist en scene’ which, rumour has it, meets once a month), I say rumour, because I thought it was every Monday… but now I know. (our boy Oscar is rumored to have said, “There is only one thing in the world worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about.” )

I don’t suppose the prompt word this week is rumor, huh? Hold on a second… (this is where I type SOC stuff in order to believe that I’m going to be surprised (in a pleasant way))

Second ……. second

Second

‘You can do this,’ he thought, staring around the room, seeing and acknowledging the other, yet refusing to allow the facts of the present situation to gain too much control of his feelings. There was time for both of them, unfortunately, the time remaining for one was diminishing at an unpredictable rate. He knew that his own fear, (for the future), could not be allowed to dominate, the peace that the other was clearly enjoying could only be maintained by his own feelings of calmness and serenity. There seemed to be no way to maintain this balance, a balance between knowing and feeling. Ironically, the other was, by nature, able to embrace the limitless peace, (found only in the here and now), and thereby be immune to the anticipation of the future in which only one would remain to find the remainder of the path through life.

‘We can do this,’ this second assertion contained the realization that peace, (for him), was to be found in the peace felt by the other, and, with this acceptance become possible for them both.

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Six. Sentence(s). Story. -the Wakefield Doctrine-

March 3, 2016 By clarkscottroger

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Like this, except different

Am in my ‘Hors d’oeuvres and light snicky-snacks’, phase of my psyching up for a Six. Like the adult, (as in parents, not theme), parties when growing up, as kids, we would get to drink tomato juice without it being Thanksgiving, and Planter’s Peanuts! (there was that ‘key’ attached to the bottom of the can, to open it, like a tin of sardines), I loved those peanuts, they had enough salt on ’em to kill a family of snails, and coke and ginger ale! and, (to a child), inexplicable tonic water (hey! it looked soda, it even came in a soda bottle!! a totally un-appreciated life lesson, indecipherable until the onset of puberty). Soda in good glasses, (not the colorful opaque plastic 8 oz glasses that we drank pretty much everything from), and, because it was an adult social occasion, there’d be plenty of coasters and ‘company ashtrays’ and your mother smelled like perfume. That’s kinda what I do, prior to trying to find words that have sufficient love for each other as to cause them to form word-families of sentences.

zoe does this thing, every Thursday, called the Six Sentence Story. Participants are provided with a prompt word and challenged to produce a story. You are invited.

This week’s prompt is Post.

“Come on, you can do this!” he thought, the morning light filling the window, replacing the fluorescent privacy of the desk lamp.

He enjoyed this challenge to his creativity and he worried about his competence in crafting a story to meet accepted standards. Resigned to the fact that the Post he had cobbled together, (stopping to smile at the visual the came with the etymology of the expression), and suspecting the exacting preciseness of the words, as they were displayed on the computer screen, might be masking an inadequacy of grammar and rhetoric, like the 5 year old’s birthday present, over-attention to securing the wrapping paper, resulting in more tape than wrapping. As he was about to hit ‘Publish’, he had a stomach-wrenching thought,

Shit! do exclamations always indicate the end of a sentence?

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‘Monday the unlikely’ -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘…of Motivation and videos, serials and insights’

February 29, 2016 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So a number of topics to cover:

friend of the Doctrine, zoe has a new bloghop that we are participating in, over at the Carrot… (this will be linked over there, so be on your best behavior! I don’t want a repeat of what happened last time we went visiting as a Guest Post writer! I still haven’t heard back from the blogger who asked us!)
running a little late on Chapter 20 (will still write a little teaser)
an old video, like the secret moon rocks sample, still waiting to go viral
Cynthia and Denise and I had a most excellent and insightfulizing discussion during Saturday’s Call-in…. about why clarks are so easily bored. We’ll trial-balloon a few thoughts today.

Carrot! (oh shit! I just jumped over there and…and she’s got people sending in genuinely interesting things, information and samples of, like, talented people working on things paintings and playing musical instruments, making really attractive jewelry. damn! gotta just tough it out)

Hey! I used to do travel videos! Well, not so much travel videos as videos of places that I visited when on business trips… not so much videos as selfies (before they were all the rage and total expected)…. here’s one I found in an old Post!

here you go zoe!

Item 2: Chapter 20…. a little late this week. Plan to publish tonight, still need a little polish and a rogerian review (courtesy of Phyllis). Chapter 20 accounts for what happen after Chapter 19…. no, wait, that did come out right, of course, it deals with Chapter 19! What I’m saying is that, you know how Chapter 19 ended? well, it now seems that Sister Margaret did not make the safest decision, one might even say that her impulsive act has set off a chain of events that no one could have anticipated… yeah, I know! I like Sister Margaret too! Watch for the Chapter later tonight, early tomorrow morning.

Item 3: well, that’s kinda already covered in Item 1

Item 4: so we were talking about the Doctrine and someone, I think it was Cynthia said, ‘I notice that I always end up getting bored, no matter how interesting or challenging or difficult a project might be at the beginning. You don’t suppose the Doctrine addresses that, do you?’ As a matter of fact, the Wakefield Doctrine does! The Wakefield Doctrine can say that it addresses virtually everything in life, because it’s concerned with relationships, not merely a list of activities, attributes, tendencies or inclinations. The Doctrine does not limit itself to providing a comprehensive list of things that hopefully match what a person ascribes to their own personality types. No, it does not. What the Wakefield Doctrine does, is direct our attention to the way, ‘we relate ourselves to the world around us‘. (Note the exact wordation. I didn’t mean to say, ‘we relate to the world around us‘, there is a huge difference in the two statements). So that’s why I think we can work with the topic that our accomplished friend has raised…. in the next Post! lol (sorry, gots to finish Chapter 20)

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

February 27, 2016 By clarkscottroger

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This is a regular, weekly feature at the Wakefield Doctrine, in part because I am one of the host(s) (technically a hostus, being the sole representative from the Y Chromia (motto: “it’s a land of loud, fun and relatively short lived passions! Hey!!”) in distinction to my esteemed co-hostinae (Sarah, Michelle, Kristi, Christine, Kristi, Lisa, Dyanne and zoe)… our Miss Lewis, being Founder and Head Mistress.

…and so I write a TToT Post each week, in an attempt to convey those aspects of my life that engender a sense, (and subsequent feeling), of gratitude. I do this because I am hostus and because I enjoy it and because I believe it is beneficial, both to me for the writing and for you the Reader in the reading. Pretty simple, isn’t it?

I need to hurry my list today. I’m increasingly of the belief that we are all gifted with a certain amount, potential, quantity of whatever you choose to call ‘creativity’. It’s not a pleasant concept, unless you do a ‘double back’ (‘hey! turn that frown upside down!) and say that you’re glad to not have none of it. I suspect that I might do well to designate this as a (potential) item of hypo-gratitude. It’s just that I need to finish rough-drafting Chapter 20 and I’m only just sitting down to write this… does anyone else have an opinion on the matter of ‘creativity: endless supply or spend it wisely?’
Speaking of Chapter 20. Blogdominion’s next installment is due to ‘hit newsstands by weekend’s ending’ watch your local listings! (In Chapter 20, things take a turn sinister as the Vantablack limousine pulls up to the front of Hazel Eddington’s house (actually it happens in Chapter 19). Inside the long, dark car was trouble…. for everyone except the Omni Corp. Maribeth Hartley is not having that much better a day, as she finds herself in the shower with her clothes on, again… we do, however get to visit with Orel and Theresa Rees, (who, alert Readers will recall did a guest appearance in Six Sentence Story this week), who are very much a welcome breath of fresh air, after the time in Chicago, in the company of Anya Claieaux… about whom some have whispered, ‘when she walks into a room it somehow becomes 1:30 am and you feel that, somehow, you might have a shot‘ and Ed Willoughby is feeling quite disappointed in how his wife and family are failing to rally around him in the current crisis and decides to work late at the office, not such a good idea.
speaking of Six Sentence Story, you really should try it! Fun and challenging… come on! what’s not to like? zoe is a gracious and supportive host of this fine exercise in creative writing
Speaking of creative writing, zoe (in the guise of Ivy) has this excellent blog Carrot, she mentioned on the phone last night that there was an interesting ‘hop that she is doing on Mondays…where even non-blog writers can participate and send in things…. sounds like fun your should try it!
Speaking of jokes! It’s a given that clarks are not good at telling jokes (scotts are good at telling jokes…. you know why, really think about it, if you still are not sure, write a Comment, will be happy to enlighten you). which is not to say that clark are not funny… they totally can be, but jokes? not really. So, being a clark (with a secondary scottian aspect) let me tell a joke. Well, know that I think about it, it’s not really a joke…per se, more of a riddle… but you’ll laugh at the end! no, really and because we’re online, you won’t be too self conscious to come up here to the front…. hey everyone !! lets get Dyanne to help us out!! come one up, Dyanne!! OK! I’m going to ask you three question that I want you to answer and then, I’ll ask you a question but I’ll tell you the answer you have in your mind without having to be told…. no! come back! Quick Answers now: What’s 3 + 4? …. ok, What’s 7+2…. alright! and 4 + 5? Now…. name a vegetable!! (Click here and the Answer will be in the Title line of the Post!)
Yep! that’s where you were (when you clicked out to find out what Dyanne was thinking in Item 5 that’s the Gravity Challenge…. it’s a daily (except for Sunday) effort that we participate in that is fun and healthy and such…. if you want to change something about your weight (or you like to take photos of scales) you should join, Christine, Val, Lisa Kristi, Sarah and… Joy! it’s fun
Speaking of fun… you know how stressful reality can be these days and how, even though you know for a fact, that building a fort in the living room would be relaxing, you just can’t because it wouldn’t be ‘adult’ and ‘mature’, right? Well, we have the solution! Like-since-forever-Friend-of-the-Doctrine Cynthia has this blog…. Contemplative Coloring! go there try it!
Una and Phyllis…. well, Una for this item because Phyllis hardly ever sticks her face out the window of my car as we drive along. WARNING! don’t tell Christine about the following photos, well, not the second photo, anyway…. I’ve said too much already!
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Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine-

February 25, 2016 By clarkscottroger

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specifically (or contemporaneously), I’m in the warm-up phase of our weekly attempt to tell a story using only Six Sentences. Every Thursday zoe charges us all with this task and provides the ‘prompt word’. Although how prompted I am at the moment, (5:39 pm Wednesday at my office), is open to interpretation. But, since you’re here…. would you like to see some etchings?

ah! memories of the ambitious dreams of youth! who doesn’t remember those days…. (I’m thinking mid-teens to 20’s aka ‘adolescence to ‘enough already, grow up!’) It is, at the moment, an archetypical setting, the beginnings of a dark and stormy night. For what it’s worth, night has never really held any particular terror for me…. 3 to 4 am, now that’s another matter, entirely. There is no time of the day more inimical to the sane and normal human than 3:00 am.

Lets see what the prompt is for this Thursday! cleave.

…cleave.

that’s just great, well, my track record is well established, normal everyday words like, bread and change those words come back, on a Thursday morning, hung with the strange psycho-socio-geo-logical detritus, like seaweed on a half-eaten cod fish, lying in the frozen sand of February beach, I can just imagine what kind of broken fingernail scratches will be the result of a word like cleave! Non-Spoiler Alert!!!! I tried, believe me when I say this, I tried to find a handhold. an open window in the cultural reference edifice that would let me include ‘Leave it to Beaver’… but, no, nothin! damn!

“You know I love you, Orel,” for Theresa Carloni, this moment represented the essence of the love/hate relationship that God seemed to secretly maintain for his most beloved of creations, the human race. That two people are the elemental unit upon which families, groups, religions, cultures, societies and, ultimately human civilization is built, is difficult to contest, that the divisions among these higher associations are emotionally expressed by their constituency is equally without doubt.

‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.’ is what I’ve been taught since before I learned to think,” for Orel Rees, the gulf that existed between his way of life and that of the girl he loved, was a challenge to understand, rather than an admonition to respect and suffer, with the dubious honor of thoughtless obedience.

“I’m a girl from a large Italian family, which means I’m a Catholic girl, and our Church is the true Church,” Theresa refused to believe that God was so small as to make permanent, the distinctions that separated one religion from another.

‘Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh’, is how I was taught a family is formed,” Orel Rees, an engineer by training and disposition, smiled and saw a connection.

Hey! our parents? lets see them argue with, “…whatever God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”