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July 28, 2018 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

‘the nail in the coffin being carried by millennials: a modern ‘wallet’
yeah, right that’s a hundred dollar bill (well, three-quarters of one)…
“cash? what is this ‘cash’ you speak of? are you hiding food in the woods?“

 

This is our…. hey, it’s the last Saturday in July (aka… time to step up on the slingshot-to-October) lets not shave, wear socks or bother with capital letters. (there are those who say that my people, clarks, don’t have a wild side. ha!)

this is the Ten Things of Thankful. created once upon by Lizzi (of the House of Lewis) as her own clark-like bootstraps (through which she succeeded in changing her frame-of-reference). hosted by Kristi, it is a place to register your gratitude. writing style and format are… shall we agree on ‘tolerantly casual’? Ten is the number cited in the title, but, of course, there is a certain Book of Secret Rules (aka Secret Book of Rules) that allows for all sorts of tomfoolery*, provided it is of good intent.

1) Una

“Sheep’s in the meadow and the…”

2) Phyllis

3) the Writers Club Now this is a recent development. A club. People who enjoy writing. (Only requirement for membership: the willingness to answer the following question: Do you think there’d be a difference between being a member of a group or… belonging to a really cool club? (lol… no, I’m serious. And it’s an essay question. Compare and contrast. You remember!)  Warning! The ‘clubhouse’ is a blog (at the link) when you get there you’ll see one Post. It is (as I refer to it in the most recent entry) the refrigerator wall for the club. at the moment. leave a comment, a question whatever. (The answer to the un-asked question: At this point some hardy souls, adventurous denizens of the world virtual. Val and Mimi, Denise and Kerry and Pat Brockett at present.)

4) hey Zoe!  you owe me an answer to the qualifying question (for a trial membership in the Writers Club) and DSM-5 citation…. tell Joules to let the bears down from the tree and send a photo

5) new correspondent** Lorraine. She stopped in last weekend with a fun TToT post.

6) Pat for her joining in on a Six-duet over at the Six Sentence Story

7) Driveway Corn

(There’s a bright, golden haze on the meadow driveway
The corn is as high as a elephant’s eye rearview mirror
And it looks like it’s climbing clear up to the sky)

8) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE  (this is for any Readers, fans, followers, blog wanderers and tourists, if you feel like you’d like to participate but are hesitant… (“I’m sure all those people are published and professional writers, surely I’ll look silly. except for that Doctrine guy, what’s the deal with him? Don’t he realize that people might not get the ‘humor’?”) send in your ‘One Thing of Thankful’ and we’ll put here at Number 8. Serially!

9) Sunday Supplement  Phyllis and Una go for a non-9-mph-passenger-seat-with-the-window-a-safe-one-third-up-around-the-abandoned-golf-course-where-the-scents-and-smells-are-like-driving-through-the-Mall-of-America-at 33-mph-in-a-convertible-with-the-top-down ….walk.

“come on! lets go! first the car and then outside in the woods!”

10) Secret Rule 1.3 (go ahead, ask! the BoSR/SBoR is there to be used by men and women who toil over a smouldering*** keyboard.)

music vid?

* lets see you come up with a emoji for that

** that should be ‘participants’… but clearly I’m all caught up in the winds of time reaching gale force and can’t help myself.

*** for our Founderess, for all of being the our cultural taproot and home to the Bard, they still can’t lose the extra ‘U’s

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “… of development, writers clubs and understanding the world around us.”

July 23, 2018 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Do we outgrow the past or do we simply forget? Do the improvements, growth and developments we achieve (through effort, ambition and circumstance) become like, well, the way it is.

We admit to a fondness for the occasional peculiar word or phrases that, although uncommon in everyday conversation, are fun. Today (in light of the opening sentences) the fun word/phrase/expression is raison d‘être. (which our friends at wikipedia define as  “…a French expression commonly used in English, meaning “reason for being” or “reason to be”.”)

The Wakefield Doctrine is the reason for the existence of this blog. All, and only, because it hit me one night that it would be good to ‘formalize’ my personal system for explaining the world and the people in it.

The Wakefield Doctrine holds that we are, all of us, born with the potential to experience the world as one of three characteristic realities. At an early age we ‘pick’ one of these three ‘worldviews’ and we are on our way to becoming clarks, scotts or rogers. The Wakefield Doctrine, as a personality ‘theory’, is not concerned with how you would describe yourself, the results of questionnaires created to identify traits and interests or even what you think that girl is doing sitting out there in the middle of the field looking back towards the house filled with people she may or may not be related to (well, sometimes we enjoy the traditional approaches; I mean, damn! give yourself away in one description much, clark? lol). Unlike other tools developed by psychology, sociology and phrenology, tools easily transposed to popular media such as ‘the Face Book’ where they lie, attractively packaged, club-shaped mirrors waiting for someone to notice, “Oh, honey! Come here! I found this personality test in my magazine and it so has you down to a T! Lets take it together. You first.”

Central to the hypothesis of the Wakefield Doctrine is the notion that we all live in a reality that is, to a certain degree, personal. Nothing weird, mystical or magical. Simply that if you and I are standing in front of the entrance to, say, a very popular restaurant, our experience of that moment will not be identical. The Doctrine takes this and jumps up above the individual and says, ‘Suppose the world was one in which individuals are separated from each other in a way not easily discernible or, better still, imagine that the life we wake up into after each sleep is that of the Predator, simple and direct, eat or be eaten; or suppose everything in the world is knowable and, to a degree established in a way that allows for complete agreement among like-minded people, that the universe is, in fact, definable and quantifiable.’

This is key to understanding the Doctrine. Children (you, me and the girl behind the counter asking if that’ll be Regular or Premium) all grow and develop (their) personalities in order to successfully interact with the environment that surrounds them. Social, physical, the whole thing. And this is done in the context of the nature and character of the world, as they experience it. These strategies evolve and develop into the style we refer to as our ‘personality type’.

I grew up in the world of the Outsider (clark). I developed a way of relating to the people and the world around me that permits me to stay out of the limelight (can’t have people pointing at me and telling everyone that we don’t belong) while at the same time giving me the tools and the drive to search for whatever it was that I didn’t learn when I was too young to realize it i.e. how to be a real person.

A friend of mine grew up in the reality of the Predator (scott). She’s a lot of fun to be around, gets more done in a morning than most people do in a week. She is always on alert, never is not paying attention to whats going on around her and everyone likes her…except for the ones who are terrified of her. Temperament is often un-fairly pronounced with the accent entirely on the first syllable… we prefer the word: mercurial. You want something done right away, you ask her and step out-of-the-way.

If you want that thing done right… you find my friend who grew up in the life of the Herd Member (roger). He will know how to do it so that the joints line up, the glue doesn’t stick out at the ends and it stays the way it’s supposed to be… forever. He knows the simple fact of the life that there’s a Right Way.  No, nothing as an alternative, no second-runner-up. One way. Fortunately, my friend has so many other people around him that grew up knowing that they all belong. Sure there’s minor disagreements over decor, but it’s all one big hap…. Herd. The world is good. Just have to understand.

OK enough for a Monday morning.

Gotta go work on the Writers Club. Stuff to do…

 

 

 

 

 

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- “… of weeds and flowers, technology and dreams.”

July 21, 2018 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Three clarks.

This is the virtual place that Lizzi created. Having created it, (and nurturing it into a bloghop for all sorts of people of good intent), she passed the reins, (or tiara (or scepter)) to Josie.

Kristi now maintains the home fires. Each week she prepares the place for those who would contribute their experiences with the world that has engendered a feeling of gratitude. And, since we’ve been with the TToT from the beginning time, the Wakefield Doctrine gets to participate too! )

These are the things I am grateful for this week.

1) Una

A dog guarding the spiral corn.

 

2) Phyllis

Phyllis, work, treehouse. The essentials.

 

3) weeds

Thistle just before flowering. Still dangerous.

Green stuff and weeds, flourishing.

 

4) flowers

Rose supplanted by a dog.

 

5) oh, man! no way I’ll succeed in relating the feeling I had this morning when a favorite science fiction book stepped (almost) into reality. I was on google street view… wait, the book first. That way, if you want to have the same experience I did, you can read the book first and duplicate the steps that lead to my own…  (cool word…come on, clark! find a cool word)…. frisson. (Sure, I’ll go with that.) …moment of frisson.
Where was I? The book!  Roadmarks by Roger Zelazny (1979).
Spoiler Alert! (in case you want to attempt the aforementioned ‘replicate clark’s moment of frisson’.) The ‘hook’ in the story echoed for me today in a way that was… well, here I am writing a TToT Item of Gratitude because of it. Very cool. (yeah, no way that made any sense. but rather than waste time and electrons, if you’re still curious, ask me in a comment to explain what the hell Item 5 was supposed to mean. Ed.)

6) Speaking of Writing and such, ‘the Writers Club‘ is..coming along fine, thank you for asking. Actually it is. I’m grateful for the responses of the people I’ve been talking to about it.
Speaking of pirates, has anyone posed the ‘qualifying membership question’ to zoe yet? What?! OK, I got this.   Zoe: In the world of people, associates, rogers and clarks, there are Groups and there are clubs. Is there a difference? (A simple yes or no will suffice. DSM-5 citations optional but will count towards score. You may pick up your No. 2 pencils and begin….now.)

7) Friend of the Doctrine Cynthia as she follows the most remarkable of paths. In part remarkable because of her dedication and determination and plain, old hard work in discerning where the path might be found. As students of the Doctrine will attest to, the most difficult part of self-improving oneself is not in ‘the effort to do what is necessary’. Rather, the difficulty is in allowing oneself to see what really needs to be changed. And, then the path appears. If you’re looking for it. Cynthia is way good at that shit.

8) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE. (Presented as a public service). This space on the Doctrine’s List is reserved and available to any Reader who might be toying with the notion of participating in what clearly is a muy coolito bloghop. However, speaking for my people, sometimes we know something might be fun but the risk of doing things wrong (and thereby inviting excessive scrutiny) totally outweighs the benefit …so we sit it out. Here is the place you can try it out. Send in your Grat Item as a comment and I’ll place it right here. With full attribution as you would have it. Come on! You know you want to.

9)Sunday Supplement

Talk about your ‘set up’ photos! Here’s a photo from a ride to the pet store today.

Una is my co-pilot.
Yeah, I know! I’ve got about six semi-amusing captions for this here photo here.

10) Secret Rule 1.3 (from the Book of Secret Rules, aka the Secret Book of Rules) which states, in part: “[t]he act and fact of completing a list (of Ten Things) comprises, constitutes, manifests and, ‘my-god-I-did-it’ for inclusion as an Item on (said) List. Convention holds that it (the Item alluding to the completion, et. al.) is placed in the last position. Unless, there are more and then (that) realization may create an infinitely recurring loop of gratitude. Watch it.”)

 

 

Music video this week: good song, decent singing, incredible guitar playing.

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

July 14, 2018 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

…Late start.

Thanks to Kristi for her continuing efforts to untangle the ‘Hydra of html’ that has been loosed upon her by the dark god, Inlinkz. (visual: wading through coiling serpentine shapes, needle-teeth scything the air with toxic whispers, brown-cardboard packing boxes held overhead, very much 1940s jungle thriller…’cept in the dry, high-mountain region of the country and wards-full of friends, none of whom will get all bug-eyed, muttering something about ‘bad ju ju‘ and run off down the suburban street.) Thanks Kristi!

Well… that certainly puts a modicum of pressure on this here list of Ten Things of Thankful, doan it?

1) Una:  for being my role model.

2) Phyllis: for being my enabler (in a good way…mostly)

3) the Wakefield Doctrine: for sine qua non(ing) me in this realm.

4) the Writers Club: something new(ish) (you know I’m a clark, right? welll what’s more natural than my wanting to start a club?  (yeah… that’s the non-verbal sound I made lol)

5) (it’s true, though. It will be a club and not a group… (first qualification for applicants! sense the difference in those two: club v group)

6) The internet and it’s associated technology: it widens the world and allows us all to ‘get a whole new group of everyone’*.

7) Lizzi St. Claire (nee Lewis)  talk about your sine qua!  She created this place in the ‘sphere. Not because it would become a cool place for people of good intent to gather and allow identification among very different lives to take place. No, she did it because…. And she did it alone. At the beginning time, when the Ten Things were simply a recurring theme among the posts in her blog. Whether anyone read it or not. Very cool.

8) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE (Anyone out there reading and really would like to be writing (a TToT post) but …not…quite….ready. Try this: send in your Item of Thankful as a comment (with whatever attribution you prefer**) and I’ll post it here.

9) Sunday Supplement:

So, about this Writers Club.  My interest in writing is attributable to my decision to participate in the blogging community. It is, imo, a literal world or a literary world…or maybe a world of the written word. Of course, not that everyone in the blogosphere is obsessed writing. They are as good as is necessary to their enjoyment of this place. Speaking for myself, from the moment I hit ‘Publish’ on my first Doctrine post, I knew I’d never stop playing catch-up, in terms of my skills against the demands of my ambitions.

Anyway. The idea of having a ‘place’ where different people can try different things, writingistically-speaking strikes me as a good thing. We can share ideas, problems tricks and successes as we follow whatever our path in this world of imagination and ideas takes us. So I set up a site but I need to get it organized so that we have designated common areas and each of us can set up projects that we might want to try. I’m using ‘Pages’ for this, cause we can make them ‘private’. More to follow.

Oh, yeah, that and write a YA mystery series by the name of ‘The Hobbomock Chronicles’. So if you’re up for some interesting times in a tiny corner of the virtual world, let me know.

10) Secret Rule 1.3 Go ahead, ask.  (I dare ya, I double dare ya.)

 

(footnotes)

 

* early in my days here in the virtual world, when everything was new and therefore risky, my fear would sometimes manifest itself in the most pedestrian of ways. “Hey, be careful clark… you’re getting kinda out there. If you don’t watch out you’re gonna get everyone mad at  you.” I am totally grateful for the thought that followed, “Well, then, I guess I’ll just need to get another set of everyone“.

** of course I know how you feel! This is the Wakefield Doctrine!

 

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

June 10, 2018 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

‘Phyllis and Una and Home’

This week’s TToT is gonna be on the photo-centric side. Josie Two-Shoes opens the doors to this bloghop and invites one and all to share the things that inspire the state/emotion/experience of gratitude that we might care to share.

(We interrupt this intro narrative to exert editorial authority and usurp an Item, for this purpose referred to as, ‘Man! Look at what wikipedia says about the editorial we!” Otherwise it will be considered Item 7)

A nosism the use of ‘we’ to refer to oneself

Main article: Royal we
A common example is the royal we (Pluralis Majestatis), which is a nosism employed by a person of high office, such as a monarch, earl, or pope.

The editorial we is a similar phenomena

The editorial we is a similar phenomenon, in which editorial columnists in newspapers and similar commentators in other media refer to themselves as wewhen giving their opinions. Here, the writer has once more cast himself or herself in the role of spokesman: either for the media institution who employs him, or more generally on behalf of the party or body of citizens who agree with the commentary.

Similar to the editorial we is the practice common in scientific literature of referring to a generic third person by we (instead of the more common one or the informal you):

  • By adding three and five, we obtain eight.
  • We are therefore led also to a definition of “time” in physics. — Albert Einstein

“We” in this sense often refers to “the reader and the author”, since the author often assumes that the reader knows certain principles or previous theorems for the sake of brevity (or, if not, the reader is prompted to look them up), for example, so that the author does not need to explicitly write out every step of a mathematical proof.

1, 2, 3:

 

4, 5, 6:

Gratitude for the others in the interworld, both as individuals and groups: You should visit Finish the Sentence Friday, they’ve got the most basic of all prompts this week. We’re in the very beginning of Open Enrollment at the Gravity Challenge… come over, sign up and lose!* It’s no secret that we talk about the nature of reality and such, a fair amount in the Doctrine. Friend of the Doctrine, Cynthia is the person to go to when you, ‘want to see it in stores’1. Stop over to Intuitive and Spiritual and tell her the Doctrine sent ya. And, finally if you gots a hankering to arrange words in new and surprising sequences, head for the Six Sentence Story, Denise and them will total blow yer mind.**

7, 8, 9:

Sorry, only 8 and 9 left (see above)

‘The Wakefield Doctrine’ spanning the globe.
Friend of the Doctrine, Alex somewhere in Greece invoking the Rite of Hat.

 

THIS SPACE AVAILABLE (If any Reader wants to participate, however are not certain, in light of this Post, they are yet comfortable contributing to such a…. literary mélange as is this here bloghop here, feel free to send in your Grat Items and we’ll be happy to post them in this space.

10: Secret Rule 1.3

 

 


*  Gravity Challenge joke. Despite what a cursory inspection might lead you to believe, the emphasis in the Challenge in not losing weight; it’s practicing the art of altering one’s reality. (No! Really, ask anyone!) We participate by sending in photos of the readout of our scales each morning (‘cept Sunday). Kristi’s Rule is the best illustration of this principle, i.e. the photo (that is a requirement) need show only that portion of the number that you would post. It’s about change, not status. Ya know?

1) To ‘see it in stores’ is an old colloquial expression for, ‘ok, I get the concept, and sure, the Wakefield Doctrine offers a fun, useful and productive perspective on the world around me, but sometimes I’d like to gain reference points that, while helping me learn to live better in the here and now, has less of the ‘raised eyebrow factor’. Talking about mindfulness and centering oneself in the here and now does not make people look at you funny. Exclaiming, “Wow! She is such a scott!” or “Man, rogers sho do keep us on our toes, emotional-combatively-speaking”, tends to inspire the look.”

** it’s a writing challenge, one prompt word, six sentences, fun.

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