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Tuesday Wednesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “…and now, our regularly scheduled Tuesday post.”

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Cut!  At the bottom, in a nice, neat, block quote, is the post that I started Sunday night with every intention to publish Tuesday. But I didn’t. NP. Here it is, in it’s-completed-this-morning-entirety. …down there, at the bottom.

But, sometimes, clarks have been known to get all gnomishly-enthusiastic and excited by a pile of information, like a cardboard box full of Saturday Evening Posts in mint condition. What about the simple, laugh-out-loud fun for the scotts and rogers (and some clarks)?

So how do you know if you’re dealing with a clark or a scott or roger? Start by looking at them:

  • clark (Outsider) bad posture, sloppy dresser with something going on that prevents you from thinking ‘aww, poor homeless person’… it might be a pair of two hundred dollars shoes, barely showing at the end of the frayed cuffs of a pair of worn out Dockers, or a streak of green on the side of a head of hair that looks like the aftermath of an unsuccessful eviction of a family of robins, the color is perfect and un-ignorable. Maybe it’s something as simple as mis-matched fluorescent socks* Or perhaps a really short mini-skirt….. over a softly-worn pair of Levis. Best be thinking: ‘clark‘. (Doctrine Insight Hint: clarks do not like being in the spotlight however, they will not tolerate being ignored)
  • scott (Predator) hands-down, single first clue: their eyes. There is no, absolutely no mistaking the ‘eyes of a scott‘. Hell, even in photos they grab you. Go back to yesterday’s post and look at the photo of the clark, scott and roger. If we need to tell you (yes, I removed the caption…lol) which is the scott, the door is to your left.   no! clark! come back! you are only being un-necessarily polite and considerate of your fellow Readers when you say you’re not sure…(the same way you used to sit there, in the exam room with your SAT pretending to be still answering questions, until someone else gets up to return their Number 2 pencil and test booklet)… clarks sense scotts the way a lemur will notice the .000012 percent reduction in the light reflected by the leaves of the tree over-hanging the watering hole, a careless panther goes hungry.
    The thing about the eyes of a scott is that they are totally alert, alive and aware of whatever is going on around them…even when there’s nothing going on…. ok, one more thing about scotts: scottian females? One word: sex appeal (like the chrome on a ’59 Cadillac Eldorado, you won’t even think about stepping out of the road) or a male scott? he’s the one telling jokes. very effectively, everyone laughs and the jokes, guaranteed, will get more outrageous, increasingly risqué and the circle of his audience will diminish. He doesn’t mind, he’s just looking for the perfect …..lemur to take to lunch.
  • rogers (Herd Member) well, to begin with, two-thirds of the population are rogers. These fortunate people grew up in a world where everyone belonged (even that odd one on the fringe…. they belonged; the better to highlight the virtue of the Herd.
  • 0rogers are sociable and charming, they enjoy people and they know everything about everyone (important distinction here, we said, ‘they know everything about everyone’ not ‘they know everything’ contrary to how they may talk.) We collectively owe the relative stability of the culture to our rogerian human. He or she is the one forming the clumps of people in the too-large reception room (they are not the center of these clumps… that position is occupied by a scott (by choice) or a clark (by error in judgement and/or bad luck). The scott is glad to be there, the clark not so much. Good thing that rogers live in the reality of the quantifiable universe… we rely on them to keep the airplanes in the sky, the computers connecting the parts of our modern world and assure us that Hester Prynne did not suffer in vain.

Where has the time gone?!!?!  I got to get out of here. Please forgive any typoes… tomorrow, don’t forget Six Sentence Story! The prompt word is up. Go there, get it and write yourself a sextidacious story and join in the fun.

 

 

* true example. I remember them (and wish they still made them… orange and green flourescent) from high school

As the subtitle implies, today being Tuesday we will focus on the use and application of the Wakefield Doctrine in the personal reality of the Outsider. aka clarks.

(New Readers: the Doctrine is built upon the concept of personal reality. That space around you that only you experience directly. Not necessarily physically close but definitely close to you. Nothing too outré, straining one’s credulity muscles; the world-as-you-experience-it that varies in small, but perceivable ways from everyone else.  The Doctrine’s employees this principle of personal reality, (often substituting the phrase ‘predominant worldview’) to account for the manner in which personality is developed. If you are raised, grow-up and develop in a world best described as the world of the Outsider, your style and strategies to cope with the world will be different from a child raised in the reality of the Predator (or Herd Member).

The Wakefield Doctrine offers three perspectives on the world and the people who make it a place in which to live. With a thorough understanding of the nature and character of each, you will be better equipped able to see the world as others are experiencing it.

Today the topic is totally the secret of relationship.

oh man… so I play a lot of jigsaw and I saw the secret of the universe this Sunday morning past.

The puzzle? Doesn’t much matter, but to help any rogers and scotts, it was of two women in the foreground, a crowd of other people in the background. Maybe a sporting, maybe not, the point being the foreground and background consisted of similar objects (‘people’).

So I completed the majority of the two women (primary, foreground figures enough to know I’ve got them mostly ‘assembled’. I’ve established most (but not all) of the outer boundaries. The blank space in the middle was getting tight. My efforts were to figure our how each of the primary figures connected to the surrounding background. (The objects of the gestalt, for all you Fritz Perls fans). Nothing was fitting, connecting, linking!! I tried moving them (the two main figures) up and moving them down against the row of indents and projections of the open edge of the boundary. Nothin!

Then, epiphany. It occurs to me, “Maybe this nearly-complete-figure on the right belongs on the left. And the one on the left belongs on the right.”

cha ching.

The Secret of the Universe in our willingness to consider that the relationship of the parts of our world might offer other configurations….

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “Parte Two”

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

(Photo by Jude Domski/WireImage)

 

We interrupt the previously drafted post for this, Part Two, carried over from yesterday.

The post that we’re pre-empting was to have been about clarks and relationship. That is deliberately the singular, ‘relationship’. You’ll have to come back tomorrow to find out why.

On to Columbus, rogers, the Everything Rule and … Alton Brown.

I stumbled upon a rerun of ‘Good Eats’ last night. ‘Good Eats’ is the show that got me into watching cooking shows. That’s all the more impressive, given that I’m not particularly into eating, much less cooking. But I will watch Good Eats because of Alton Brown. He is a clark. He teaches us way more stuff than Martha Stewart and Emeril whatshisname. Way more.

(New Readers: there are three personality types in the Wakefield Doctrine. These three, clarks, scotts and rogers are what they are because of the character of the world they grew up and developed in. clarks learned to negotiate life by growing up in the world of the Outsider, scotts honed their skills by surviving in the world of the Predator and rogers were at home in the world of the Herd Member. We’re not trying to fit people into categories (like some personality theories I could mention, …rhymes with Oscar Meyer….;p) rather we gain valuable insight into the people around us by identifying the world as they are experiencing it. This requires putting ourselves in their shoes. Not easy, but the payoff is, when you correctly infer a person’s predominant worldview (aka personality type), you will know more about them than they know about themselves. And it’s fun.
The thing I would mention today is that, of the three, it is said, ‘clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel‘. Of the intellect, the body and the heart. But, boy howdy, do clarks loves information and fun facts. The more non-practical the better. A clark’s curiosity is as inexhaustible as a scott’s libido and a roger’s certainty. They just plain never met a fact they didn’t like. Sorta. There is an explanation for this endless search for new and interesting information. That’s for a more advanced post, after you’ve had enough time to get familiar with the basics.)

(…OK, you’ve had enough time.  lol. Did we mention that anyone who reads more than one Doctrine post on purpose is either a clark or they’re a scott or roger with a significant secondary clarklike aspect? It’s true. If that ‘secondary aspect’ is giving you pause, not to worry. That is for another post. Nothing weird, just need to keep the asides to a certain minimum. Check back later, or ask the question in a Comment).

Speaking of Alton Brown, I was reading some interviews he gave and one quote totally said, ‘Cut and Paste!’ He said:  “I’d rather be original than good.”  damn! Such a clarklike statement.

But today is Part 2 of the post about Chris Columbus.

With historical figures, it is, of course, impossible to interview the person. Were that possible, identification of their predominant worldview would be as …as easy as getting a roger mad or a scott angry.* (lol) Were we interviewing Christopher, we’d be listening for the use of personal pronouns, paying attention to his body language and, most productively, paying attention to how he is reacting to the environment around us. The people, the place, the things that happen during the interview. This last, if we’ve done our homework, would be sufficient to make a determination of his worldview.

(Someone out there ask me ‘Why?’)

…Thank you, Mimi!

You will see the phrase, ‘how a person relates themselves to the world around them‘ all over this here blog here. You will always see it with a qualifying admonition, to the effect that ‘we said, ‘...how a person relates themselves to the world‘ we did not say ‘...how a person relates to the world‘. The distinction is important and goes to the heart of the Wakefield Doctrine. We strive to see the world as the other person is experiencing it. The implication of the, ‘relates themselves’ is key to the whole shebang.

A clark doesn’t mumble because there’s something wrong with their voice. A scott doesn’t shout in order to overcome their own deafness. A roger does not gossip because the other person asked a direct question.

Consider what the world is like to an Outsider who is required to speak to others, however, is uncertain to their status among the listeners.

Think about the reaction of those around a Predator who howls, as a warning, as a signal, for the pure joy of the sound.

What does a Herd Member think is going to happen when they pass along a tidbit of incidental information about a person in their (social/work/school) environment; are they concerned with repercussions to their revelations, despite the fact that they are merely sharing what others probably already know?

This is what the Wakefield Doctrine is all about.

Don’t stop with perceiving what the other person mumbles, shouts, whispers. Put yourself in their position and look around and imagine the world they are experiencing.

What they do will make a new/additional sense to you.

Chris would start by letting us know that he had the total backing of the throne (in no small part due to the virtue of his project and the persuasiveness of his argument) and, to be on the safe side, the support of the Church. When asked about the voyage, he would tell us how difficult it was, and despite your assurances that you knew, he would cite the difficulties he experienced. How he felt and, with a touch of modesty, would remind us that even though his crew did not share his vision and, through no fault of his own, they considered mutiny. Fortunately he was a good leader and talked them out of it. The land that he found was vindication of his life and he felt a certain pride at knowing that the savages would be saved.

Everyone in Christopher’s world (and therefore in his tale) were a part of his Herd. The Herd that spread out around him. Even the natives, they were Members….provided they proved themselves to be good Christian slaves.

Tomorrow! clarks and them

 

 

 

* is there a difference? Are you even doing your reading?! scotts get angry, rogers get mad and clarks…mostly not in any recognizable form. This, actually, is a good opportunity to talk about ‘manifesting’. In the context of ‘the Everything Rule’ we say, ‘while everyone does everything, at one time or another, how that thing (emotion or reaction, occupation, hobby or odd obsession), manifests, varies in a manner that directly reflects the individual’s predominant worldview.

 

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- “Fue hace quinqué años en junio, Sargeant Pepper le enseñó a la banda a tocar

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

“Clueless and Fate on a Summer Afternoon.”
(Landscape Orientation)
The vertical stiles along the railing of the deck might (to the bird in the photo) appear as a fatally-inefficient wall or a forest created by a more thoughtful and considerate diety. In any event in the relentlessly three dimensional reality of the aforementioned bird its just a rather bland demarcation of the square flat forest glade that it chose to take a breather on.

 

 

Our Host, Kristi, pointed out in her weekly announcement of the opening of the week’s post over on, ‘el Facialibre’* that June is, in facto, the multiversary of the beginnings of this here bloghop here. (Apparently** that was five years ago, this June past.)

1) Una  ↓

2) Phyllis*** ↑

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE (up here in Number 4 position this week only, to make room for a reverse countdown of previous TToT posts, because of the ‘reunion theme’ that Kristi started off her weekly posting) In any event, this Item is reserved for anyone who is in the position of desire being one tiny, (really small, surely shouldn’t have any effect at all, yet…) step behin self-consciousness. The answer, (for this week in any event, and surely, with the first Item posted the rest will be way easier), is to send as a Comment your Item (and desired attribution) and I’ll post it here.

5) Item June 2017

6) Item: June 2016

7) Item: June 2015

8) Item: June 2014

9) Item the very first Wakefield Doctrine TToT

10) Secret Rule 1.3 (from the Book of Secret Rules aka the Secret Book of Rules, which, in part, states: ‘the completion of a Ten Things of Thankful list, does, in fact,  constitute, comprise and qualify as (an) Item of Thankful’… go ahead, stick that bad boy right there at number 10!’)

 

* not ‘real’ Spanish

** clarks and Time, they have a certain, nontraditional relationship, so a clark, if asked how long the TToT has been going on might answer ”Eight years?’ (or) ‘At least three years now!’ both with equal enthusiasm and yet, go up to your nearest clark and say, “hey! do me a favor? let me know when 17 minutes have elapsed.” and as sure as you can say, ‘jeez, is that really the best use of a magnificent mind?’ the clark will say, ‘err, excuse me? your 17 minutes are up.’   no, really. I’m serious,

*** sorta, thats her computer, though

(music vid)

(For reasons that don’t stick to words overly-well, this song has a strong association with Ola.)

 

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

It is common knowledge among those who visit this blog more than twice* that I started it in order to expose the maximum number of people to the benefits of the Wakefield Doctrine.

As the years pass, I’ve pursued one ambition, to write the perfect Wakefield Doctrine post. It, (this perfect Wakefield Doctrine post), would be such that a Reader would, reading it but once, look around his or her world, (and the people who make it up), and apply the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine to their benefit.

So let’s try one this morning.

The Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective on life, the world and the people who surround us, as we navigate the course from our helpless births to our powerless deaths. The Wakefield Doctrine is a tool. A tool to aid the understanding of the afore-mentioned world, people and life, as well as a better understanding ourselves.  (Tools are funny things. Our world is crowded with those offering to sell us tools. Before signing up for the 3 Easy Payment Plan, we would be well-served to remember our experiences as young children when encountering tools. I, for one, still believe that a hammer can work on a screw; if the need is strong enough or the patience limited. lol)

The Wakefield Doctrine is predicated on the notion that we are, all of us, born with the potential to experience life in one of three characteristic realities. The world of the Outsider(clarks), that of the Predator(scotts) and the life of the Herd Member(rogers). At a very early age, we settle into one of these three. We grow and mature, learning and developing strategies for interacting with the world.

The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that, even though we all settle into one (and only one) of these three worldviews, (Outsider, Predator, Herd Member), we retain the potential of ‘the other two’. This explains why sometimes, a person new to the Doctrine might say, ‘Hey! I know I’m a clark but there are times when I surely am a scott.’ At times of sufficient duress, we sometimes access the strategies and styles of ‘the other two’ in order to deal with the situation. (This, btw, is a total hint at the power of the Doctrine as a tool for self-improvement.)

The Wakefield Doctrine, at its heart, is all about ‘How we relate ourselves to the world around us‘. The wording is critical and quite deliberate. We are all used to the idea of ‘relating to the world’, our efforts to respond to the demands of daily life. We did not say that. What we said was, ‘How we relate ourselves to the world around us.’ The emphasis on the self is not as egocentric and self-absorbent** as it may sound. It is, rather, a call to know yourself.

So that’s the philosophical part. Now the fun part! How do you recognize the three personality types?  wellll! Before I go into a ‘three part description, lets go simple(st): clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel.

Of course, as we said, this is not about answering self-describing questions in the back of a magazine or on the facebook. This is about the identifying the reality that surrounds you or the person you are trying to understand.

  • clarks (Outsiders): self-effacing, shy, diffident and hopelessly rebellious. clarks live in the world of thought and ideas, knowledge and information, they are congenitally curious, and are heir to a wealth of facts of varying degrees of practical value. clarks will be found on the edges of the group, have a tendency to mutter and exhibit fairly poor posture, they are passive by choice (the saying is: ‘clarks abhor being the center of attention but will not tolerate being ignored’) Hopelessly creative, imaginatively self-destructive they make great friends and disappointing students/employees
  • scotts (Predators): aggressive, mercurial, confident and always on the move. The saying ‘Carpe diem’ applies to scotts both literally and figuratively.. they are the easiest of the three personality types to pick out… they are the ones at the center of a group (at least after they’re established their ranking among any other scotts in the area) and people like them, scotts are natural leaders because they are certain and have confidence, they don’t always have the best plan but they are the first in most situations to say ‘Follow Me!’ and most people do… off the cliff or into the New Frontier… doesn’t matter to the scott, all that matters is that they are acting and living life…now!
  • rogers (Herd Members): sociable, knowledgeable and always at home. those who grow up and develop their personality in the reality of the Herd Members have the advantage of certainty, they know they belong. rogers know that the world is a quantifiable place and that there is a Right Way (-to do things, to operate machinery, build a deck, cure a disease, raise a family) and their pride in being aware of this forms their attractiveness and lays the groundwork for their downfalls and setbacks. They are easy to talk to, socially confident and account for the present state of the ‘hard sciences’ especially engineering. Which is re-assuring as you travel thirty-five thousand feet above the ground. (scottian engineers are easily distracted and might be in the break room with the newest intern when it was time to re-check the calculations for the airframe of the newest jet and clarklike engineers….well, there’s that thing about 2 + 2*** so maybe it’s good that, with their dislike for mathematics, the percentage of aeronautical engineers who are clarks is fairly small.)

There you have it.

 

* once is accidental, twice is ‘did that site really claim to know more about me than I know about myself?!’ but three times is the charm, the curse and an indication of either: a) predominant clarklike worldview or 2) a significant secondary clarklike aspect. in either of these cases, we say, ‘welcome’

** one of my favorite ‘rogerian expressions’. Beyond the scope of a post. Go look it up.

*** ask a scott, “How much is 2 + 2? And, after making a joke, they’ll laugh and say ‘I’ll tell ya later’. ask a roger the same question and they will say, “4” (No comment, question or even emotion. It’s just a fact of life.) Pose this question to a clark, “How much is 2 + 2?” and their likely response will be something like “In what context?”

 

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- “…and then there were seven.”

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

“J’accuse…!”
Farmer Oppenheimer was heard to say, shoulders slumped as he looked out over the once burgeoning spiral of life-giving corn. Resigned to the inevitable, it was the same tone of voice with which he argued to get off the path that he’d been set upon by the dogs of war
I am become death, the destroyer of worlds.”

This week is over. And thank goodness for that! I’m certain that, weird as I might be, I’m not the only one who noticed that someone was playing tricks with time this week past. And not the run-of-the-mill, ‘what time did you say it was? no way! that was the fastest morning ever!’. No, nothing so…common. It was more, (to self): ‘Why is my calendar so empty today..oh, it’s not Monday, its Wednesday.’ or even, “No, we have to get this done for the weekend, so lets start right now. … three days? what are you talking about three days left, it’s Thursday afternoon!…right?”

(Helpful Tips for Newer TToT participants: Say you’re writing your list and things are going smoothly, as you recount a period of time, (could be the week that has just passed, or maybe the semester in college when it finally registered that you were living on your own), anything. Then seemingly out of nowhere you run up against a thing, event, occurrence or an interaction with that-really-annoying-middle-manager* that has you thinking, ‘Nah, no way I’m grateful for that!’ There are two frequently observed approaches to dealing with the negative and/or awful things that happen to all of us: a) find the positive in it (good) or 2) refer to it as a ‘Item of Hypogratitude’ and pull that Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) down from the shelf.(maybe not as good, but more fun)

Of course, the bottom line here at the TToT, is that there is no requirement for what makes a ‘good’ TToT post. (I might argue, ‘well, ‘good intent’ surely is a requisite.) But as our host, Kristi would surely say, ‘Joining-in is, in and of itself, both a reward and a gift (to the others).’

Hey, this has been a fun intro. I’m glad I took this route…. because, cha-ching! three Grat Items!

Lets get this party started. Grat Items for me this week:

1) Una

“Come back here again and I’ll moidalize ya!**”

(Landscape orientation)
The corn spiral forces the mottled-green (one would be forgiven for insisting its a ‘motley green’) lawn to serve as the natural backdrop it is so suited to being. The top border of the photo shows the dark pine woods behind, with the pale wood rail fence just before and below. This is a statement both of function and potential for the woods and the fence.
In the lower center of the photo, Una sits on her haunches, leaning forward at the shoulders, staring intently at something we viewers are not privileged to see.
The center of the photo is taken up by the corn spiral. Looking more like the day after the first day of the Battle of the Marne, there are as many stalks lying on the grass as there are upright and reaching for the heavens. (Not that I’m inclined to leaps of fancy, but am I the only one to feel the slight trill of sympathy (with an edge of irony) for the corn? It puts its everything into growing from the earth, reaching for un-attainable sky little realizing that success is rewarded with obliteration?)
But I digress…half of the corn plants are lying on the grass, like bent and broken drinking straws. The squirrel demon who would rule the garden un-opposed, were it not for a certain dog.

 

2) Phyllis

3) Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)

4) ‘Intro grat’ A (I’d footnote or otherwise hyperlink this up to the intro above, but then you’d never get to finish reading the post, ya know?)

5) Just a thought: I enjoyed captioning the photos but it occurred to me that I might not have provided sufficient backstory for proper enjoyment (or allowing for a reader being a relatively normal person finding themselves falling, small glass bottle in hand, labelled: ‘Read Me’.) The cause of the dying spiral corn is that darn squirrel! I was going to cite the intro again, but, you know how I mentioned that ‘there were no rules other than ‘good intent’? Well, as much as I will maintain that as a worthy attitude goal, I have certain reservations. (Most of which are grounded in my early socialization experiences, the ones that commenced when I moved into my dorm in college.) Ah ha! There! My music video for the week.

6) Current weather! Hot and humid. Love it. (For me the answer to the timeless Summer question is always, “Why no, no it is not.”)

7) the Writers Club. Only a few weeks in existence and its value has been established. (It saved me from a boring afternoon) You want to have some fun? Go to this post, at the Club and join in. If you’re not a member and would like to participate, comment here or there and I’ll totally open the door to the clubhouse. ( Or ask one of the members, Valerie or Denise, Mimi or Pat Brockett or Kerry

8) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE  (There may be a reader out there thinking they would like to join in, however the mere thought of committing to Ten Items (more or less) is a fun-leaching concern. Not to worry. Send (as a comment) your Grat Item (with whatever form of attribution you’d like) and I will post it here!  (no, think nothing of it… you’re the one taking the chance…. I mean, have you read this post?!?!  lol)

9) Sunday Supplement

Phyllis, Una and the Doctrine.
Pretty much covers it all, non?

10) Secret Rule 1.3 (in part: “[t]he fact of (the) completion of a List of Ten Things of Thankful constitutes, in and of itself, an Item of Gratitude (citation: ‘Thank God! I’m done and it’s still Saturday!’ Rule BoSR/SBoR c. 2009-2018 Manchester UK, Wakefield RI

 

 

* the person in the organization with more power to make life un-necessarily difficult that anyone can explain, the one you want to grab by the shoulders and shout, “No! No one here calls that ‘the Bible’… No one. They call it the SOP, if they call it anything. Not even you call it ‘the Bible’ except when you have someone in front of you who doesn’t know any better or is too mature to shout and walk out!”

** Curly, on innumerable occasions.

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