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Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine-

March 4, 2020 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Denise is the host.

The standard for stories utilizing the prompt word is six (and only six) sentence total length.

This week’s prompt word:

COAT

The truck stop might have enjoyed a Three Star rating from Michlen for the look on the young man’s face; the couple’s after-work breakfast passed in a blur of conversation that sounded, inside his head, like a combination of getting 800s on his SATs and summertime.

Leaving a tip that would take two days of overtime to balance, he looked up to see his companion already standing next to the chrome coat hook at the end of the red-vinyl booth; an avalanche of dark brown hair balanced on her shoulders and eyes that invited rather than rejected, brought back his inherent insecurity.

Standing, he took her coat from the chrome hanger and, recovering from a moment of unaccustomed joy, realized he held it open, easily two arm lengths from it’s owner; panic almost blocked the sight of a slightly raised eyebrow pulling the corner of the young woman’s mouth into a grin.

Taking a chance, which he would play and replay in his mind at moments when his memory insisted it had to have been someone else, he stepped forward.

He felt a growing confidence as she slid her right arm into the sleeve of the proffered coat, only to falter when, rather than pull the coat towards the other arm, she turned her body, slid her other arm in and leaned towards him; with the subtlest of shrugs, the young woman brought his hands, (of which he had little awareness), to rest lightly on her shoulders,

Her smile reordered his world in ways that would require years of life and decades of experiences to properly appreciate, as the new couple stepped into as new a day as he could have imagined.

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

March 1, 2020 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks,scotts and rogers)

A reminder of a season to come.

Thanks to Kristi, our host, for being here each and every weekend. Surely this is one of the longer-running bloghops in the ‘sphere.

Come join us, with your own post listing the people, places or things that cause you to feel grateful. Or, check out Item 8 which is, in a sense, an updated version of, “My god! It’s Opening Night and the lead has fallen down and broken an essential body part!! Can you go on in their place?! Only one line is necessary.”

A bit sparse this week, work interfered in that special way that work can, reminiscent of childhood admonitions, “Why sure, Clark. Stay home and write your post. Your clients will understand. Here, I’ll write you a note to give them. ‘Dear Clark’s client. Now I know you think you need to sell and/or buy a house today. But he has a post to write and can’t’.

1) Una ——————————————–↓

‘A dog and her human.’

2) Phyllis———–↑

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) the Hobbomock Chronicles and Episode Eight

5) the lack of snow and it being March 1st

6) fun telephone call-in Cynthia and Denise

7) Six Sentence Story bloghop.

8) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE

9) something, something

10) Secret Rule 1.3 ’cause life is more fun with secret rules (that we get to make up)

music

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

February 24, 2020 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

I just (finally) found the youtube-posted song ‘In the Hall of the Mountain King’* and looked at the photo of the composer and, …hey, that guy a clark?”

Now, new Readers, they be thinking, ‘What?! I just waded through 1408 posts about the characteristics of the three worldviews and he’s saying he can tell by looking?!?!’

Well…. yeah, guess I am saying that.

sometimes, with some people, most often with multiple photos that are good enough to see the eyes, one can. and by ‘one can’ I don’t just mean me. I mean you. Hear me out.

… Show of hands…. clark?

lol

Admittedly it’s tough to pick a predominant worldview on the basis of a single photo and get it right. However, the principle that underlies the more studied approach to figuring whether a person is a clark(Outsider), a scott(Predator) or a roger(Herd Member) is, at it’s heart is based on the same question: How does this person (say, Edvard Grieg) relate himself to the world around him?

You need to know as much about the relationship of the individual to their worlds, as possible. In particular, how do they perceive it, how do they react to it and how do they feel about it. And a person’s eyes, well, how much more of an insight (into) how ones see the world than the focus of their eyes, the intensity of their gaze, the orientation of their field of view? Lets consider all three:

clarks (Outsider) by the most fundamental measure of their relationship with the world around them, clarks view it ‘from afar’. clarks live in a) their heads and 2) the future. And, while they recognize the wisdom of staying aware of their surroundings, it is just not their first priority. Plus, there’s that little matter of fear. If there’s a fingerprint to the nature of a clark’s expression while observing the world around them, it is fear. That little extra in the corner of the eye, the seeking of the escape route, the wary scanning for ambush, the hesitancy when things get too active. Our boy Edvard, he’s had more than one paper clip hit him in the back of the head.
scotts (Predator) … like you’ve ever seen a lioness, standing between her cubs and a throng of cell-phone wearing, rapid-pass flashing tourists, appear to be distracted. yeah, sure. scotts are, in this case, very easy to spot. It helps to have a video or, if you’re feeling all Marlin Perkins, in person. Look at their eyes. Are they ever not paying attention to the world around them? I didn’t think so. No predator does. And, here’s where the Doctrine really gets fun, if the person you believe is relating themselves to the world around them as does a Predator, why wouldn’t you expect them to look the part?!
rogers (Herd Members) the most difficult of the three, at least to spot from a photo, (or in person with the sound muted). A roger shows an active interest in their surroundings, however, unlike the Scott, their first concern is not detecting prey and larger predators. They are not viewing everything from afar, as does the clark, ready to bolt at the first sign of the threat of scrutiny. No, a roger is a member of the herd and what do members of herd spend their time looking at? Someone? Thats right! Other members of the herd! (A little more in-depth: they are not merely observing those who are members of their heard, they are calculating their own position, relative to a hypothetical and highly-desired center. Of their herd. They’ll be there or they’ll be square and anyone will tell you, there are no corners in a head.

So…. get out there and identify your friends and family, coworkers and fellow students! The more you practice, the better you get.

as a child, this song, used in a cheesy production of the Pied Piper of Hamlin, this song was the essence of scary. foreboding threats, not quite expressed. you know, the world to a clark.

lol

* way, way more difficult than it sounds, to find the correct version of the tune

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘because, at the end of the day, it has always been about the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers’

February 17, 2020 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Visitors to these pages, may of late, be tempted to think that this blog is about developing my writing chops. And, they would not be entirely wrong. When you think about the history of this blog, they are actually more correct than they know. This blog, from the first post back in June 2009, has been like one of those cardboard-cover, no-way-you-can-remove-a-single-page and don’t-even-think-about-rolling-up or folding-them-to-fit-anywhere-other-than-on-the-top-of-a-pile-of-textbooks.*

It’s no secret that once I started to meet people here in the blogosphere, I became aware of the fact that this is a world of the written word. (The inkblot-shaped island, Rhetoria, off the coast of the Noticia Archipelago, to be precise.) But I digress.

While I’ve always been painfully aware of my relative lack of skills in the written word, the drive provided by the Wakefield Doctrine overcame any temptation to get all Ed Sullivan’d when I’d read the posts and stories and such put forth by the people I hung out with here and on ‘the Facebook’.

The reason there are still new posts here is that, in a really interesting and odd relationship with an idea, I’ve been charged with the task of writing ‘the Perfect Wakefield Doctrine Post’.

Haven’t done it yet. Still trying. ‘Course, having spent this much time cranking out the wordage, it should come as no surprise that, in order to practice, (‘to practice is to improve‘), I’m found myself writing stories with topics that, to new Reader, might seem to have nothing to do with our little personality theory. (yeah, hah! as if).

(ok! Perfect Wakefield Doctrine blogpost Take: 787834.x)

The Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective on the world and the people who make it our personal reality. The Doctrine proposes that we are, all of us, born with the predisposition to experience our surroundings in one of three characteristic ways. These three are:

the reality of the Outsider(clarks)
the world of the Predator(scotts)
the life of the Herd Member(rogers)

At a very early age, (way young, like, one or two-years-of-age, probably just before the acquisition of language***), we settle into one of the three. We refer to this as one’s predominant worldview. The child does not, however, lose the capacity to experience the world as ‘the other two’. And, for many, there is a certain relative strength in the un-realized worldviews. Example: I am a clark (predominant worldview), with a (strong) secondary scottian aspect and a (weak) tertiary rogerian streak.

[Damn! Gots to stop in my effort to write the perfect Doctrine blogpost. The ‘real’ world is demanding my attention.]

but…but! Before I go, let me say a single thing about the Doctrine that serves to set it apart from all the other systems and schema for understanding how people deal with the world.

From the Wakefield Doctrine’s perspective, your approach to life the best way available. Your personality type is perfect. For you. Provided you’re willing to accept that ‘personality’ is for the purposes of our discussion, a shorthand for the strategies and styles of interacting with the world around us. For your world. The list of characteristics and identifiers for our three types are but descriptions. When you grew up and practiced the ways that helped you survive and thrive, what kind of reality were you contending with? Whether you were in the reality of the Outsider or the Predator or the Herd Member, we know how you approached the family, the friends, the neighborhood, the job, the world. With an understanding of the three worldviews, we know, (as you will know), more about the other person than should otherwise be possible.

The mission statement, (as a roger might say), of the Wakefield Doctrine is ‘to better appreciate how we relate ourselves to the world around us’.

The goal of learning the Doctrine is to develop the ‘other two ways’ to interact with the world in a dynamic balance.

…I do have to run. Be back.

*sure, put it between two text books, hell, if you’re in a hurry to stop in the middle of a crowed corridor, put two of ’em on top of each other and then in the middle of the pile of books.**

** hypo-birthday’d Readers? This was back in the day. One carried school books under a crooked arm, from class-to-class, on and off the bus.

*** from the Doctrine’s perspective, the common expression of ‘the babbling of an infant’ is more telling than most appreciate. Before settling into one of the three worldviews, in theory, the child is in all three. Their efforts to communicate is non-intelligible, not because they’re not making sense, its just they are speaking a language we’ve all forgotten. Call it Babelese. Makes a lot more sense, “How cute! Little clark is Babeling at us as if he could talk”

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Pre-Nova Anno* -the Wakefield Doctrine-

December 30, 2019 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

*just in case you forgot which blog you clicked on…

Surely this internet is every bit a Charles Atlas ad for clarks the world throughout (younger clarks? the photo at the top of the post should get you started.)

Hey! Just a minute, before you read any further. There are certain premiseses appurtenant in the most fundamental sense to the use of the Wakefield Doctrine as a tool for enhancing one’s variety of perspectives and self-improving oneself, and they are:

the Wakefield Doctrine is gender neutral
the Wakefield Doctrine is age and culture neutral

Perhaps expanding on this will also serve as an outline of our little personality theory.

The reason we can say, ‘the Wakefield Doctrine is gender neutral’ is that each of the three ‘personality types’ are descriptions of the personal reality one is experiencing. This is not a list of qualities, traits and characteristics of any individual, like all those other mix ‘n match, which-personality-type-do-you-hope-the-score says-you-are. (thats right, I’m looking at you, Oscar Meyers Briggs and Stratton schedule. INFP this.)

The Wakefield Doctrine proposes that we, all of us, grow up (and most importantly), develop our abilities and strategies for survival in one of three characteristic worlds, aka personal realities. They are:

the reality of a clark (the Outsider)
the world of a scott (the Predator)
the life of the roger (the Herd Member)

In simplest of terms, it is the nature/character of the worlds we grow up in that determine the way we interact with the world and the people that make it up.

This means that, when we use the Wakefield Doctrine to better understand people, we first observe their behavior with an eye towards understanding how they (the other person) are relating themselves to the world around them. Using the three personality types as a lens, we determine which (of the three) their acts and attitudes, beliefs and intentions are ‘clearest’. (You know, how, when you’re at the eye doctor and they make you look through that round-periscope thing and then change one lens at a time “Is this clear? Now, is this clearer than that?”)

You watching and thinking, “On the basis of the way that person is interacting with (fill in the blank) is it more consistent with being an Outsider(clark) or a Herd Member(Roger)”. Continue your observationing. Now they’re talking to the person (fill in the blank), “Is that conversation sensible from a scott(Predator) or a clark(Outsider)?”

The Wakefield Doctrine is all about acquiring an appreciation of ‘how I relate myself to the world around me’*

Charles Atlas? I identify more with the guy in the drawing. But it is my relationship to world as an Outsider that is useful to know, not gender. We’re lifeforms first, then clarks, scotts and rogers.

And….and! there’s this thing here called ‘the Everything Rule’ which states: ‘everyone does everything at one time or another’. This serves to remind us that, sure a roger could get sand kicked in his or her face. Hell, a scott could get sand kicked in his or her face. How they relate themselves to this occurrence is very different.

Thanks and a shoutout to Denise over at girlie. She posted an old Doctrine post on the Facebook and it jump-started this here post here.

* as always, I will say, ‘We said, how I relate myself to the world around me’ we did not say, ‘How I relate to the world around me’

Big difference, yo.