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Monday Musings -the Wakefield Doctrine-

October 12, 2020 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Plenty of topics from the weekend to discuss. Everything from: Best Practices to determine a person’s predominant worldview (aka personality type), the role of secondary and tertiary aspects, to the question of seemingly multiple types. These are gratefully drawn from comments and observations from Pat and Mimi  in comments and, in our Saturday Night Call-in, Denise and Cynthia.

Before we get started, lets crank up the wayback* and see what we might have already written on these (and other) topics.

So, I’m here at the keyboard, feeling good about remembering my recent resolution to write more Doctrine posts, and the thought arrives, all paper-lunch-bag-frantic-bell-tolling as the yellow school bus, still half a suburban block in the distance, swallows it’s last passenger, and I think to myself, I think, ‘Hey, lets jump-start the post with a reprint, that always works‘.

In this weekend’s TToT, I thought to clever-up and devise a method to produce truly representative Grat Items** so I went and found a random time generator (‘Yeah, I wish***’). That experiment did not work, but the idea came to me this morning, ‘How about trying it with dates?” (Full Disclosure: up until now, when we’re in the mood for a reprint, our first strategy is to go back and find the same date, different year. Surprisingly (lol, ok, stop laughing, clarks) it doesn’t always work, all that well.)

In any event, I got me a random date generator and it produced three dates between January 2009 and October Now, 2020. The first two (12/22/2011 and 09/13/2019) did not yield a post, nothing written on that date. The third time was the charm.

So, from the Wakefield Doctrine on 10/03/2012 we present:

Wednesday Morning: (“…when I get to the bottom I go back to the top of the slide”) the Wakefield Doctrine 3 ways of relating to the world

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine ( a personality theory that gives life to the adage, ‘first walk a mile in their moccasins’ )

Me?  …” oh, not half-bad”… “well, you know, a little of this and a little of that”…”six of one, a half dozen of the other”… “fair-to-middlin”

Wednesday: the end of the first half, the beginning of the second half of the week, and therein lies our perspective for Today’s Post!
As we all know, the Wakefield Doctrine is all about inferring the ‘nature’ of the personal reality (worldview) of a person. We see a girl walking down a city street at lunch hour and (from a distance) we see: a tailored business suit, fashionably understated eyeglasses, LV handbag… but! when the distance between you decreases and she passes you by,  you notice a streak of purple in her hair, a silver and black bracelet with spikes and the unmistakable sound of Michael Schenker’s guitar leaking from her ear buds. …yes, she a most likely a clark! and her life is an open book. That’s why the Wakefield Doctrine is as useful as it is!

Wednesday? No, we have not forgotten about ‘whose day is Wednesday?’ it is important to remember that there are new people reading this blog every day and seeing how they come to these Posts first, it is incumbent upon us to try to help them get up to speed on this thing of ours… speaking of which… a lot of Readers are coming to us from ‘the Facebook’ these days so we need you to go there and ‘LIKE’ the Wakefield Doctrine page that we have there. So click on the following link:  ‘God yes! I truly ‘LIKE’ the Wakefield Doctrine and I might even someday work up the guts to write a Comment…just not today!’

(What do you mean almost out of time?!? 300 words already?!? damn!  no, totally critical to the narrative arc of this here story here… yeah, the video had better be great… ok to the point)

Screw this,  hey!  You people (not counting most of the DownSprings like DS#1 and Ms AKH and Molly ) have had a free ride for long enough… lets see you give something back for a change! You read these Posts and you listen to the videos and you scratch your heads while trying to figure out the reason for some of the photos… well here’s the thing. You need to offer your opinion of who’s ‘Day’ is Wednesday. (?…alright,  for the benefit of S. who is almost ready to write a Comment, a little help with deciding how to Vote)

Wednesday is for clark:

  • a day to hope that something un-expected, (but good!) will happen to make up for the first half
  • the end of the first part of the week, and therefore a success
  • a very good day as the memory of the last weekend has faded enough for the expectations of the coming weekend to start to show
Wednesday is for a scott:
  • another day
  • if there have been no Warrants served by now, chances are there won’t be
  • those frickin rogerian bosses are getting distracted and off the constant harping about doing better work
Wednesday is for a roger:
  • another day to work and to learn and excel against the backdrop of those losers
  • a new opportunity to show the Professor, the Supervisor, the Owner how much better you can do the job (than those others)
  • a day to hope for a Quiz, ask for a Date, make fun of a geek or keep a secret from the spouse…what a Day of Promise!
Thats all ya get!  So Write a Comment and vote for which of the 3 personality types gets the most out of Wednesday!

So, as we can see, the Everything Rule was anticipated back then, in the early days of the Doctrine.

Refresher: ‘the Everything Rule’ states: “Everyone does everything, at one time or another.”

In a nutshell: all three worldviews are of common, there is nothing in the way of a job, hobby, occupation, avocation, predilection, inspiration, vocation or perversion that is the exclusive domain of one of the three to the exclusion of the other two. The key to illustration this principle is to ask, ‘How does the very scott-friendly occupation of cop manifest in the world of the clark and the roger‘, or ‘Those rogers are natural machine-operators, everyone knows the best accountants are rogers, but!! what does a clarklike accountant look like or, god-forbid, a scottian CPA (“You want a Profit Loss Statement?!!? I got yer Profit Loss Statement… right here!)

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* ‘Wayback Machine, from the cartoon ‘Mr. Peabody and Sherman’

** ‘Grat Items’ a term for the components of the list of things for which I am thankful for the TToT post (created by Friend of The Doctrine, Lizzi)

*** lol don’t get scared, New clarklike Readers, at our hearing your thoughts, this is, after all, the Wakefield Doctrine

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘of renewal and resuscitation’

October 5, 2020 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

That, when I begin to type my standard intro-line (‘Welcome to…’) the WP autocorrects no matter what letters I use shouldn’t bother me; that, sometimes, I let it, should.

We could consider the role of ‘energy’ in the quality of our daily lives, and by ‘we’ I mean ‘me’ and by ‘consider’, I mostly mean, ‘the Reader reads’ and by ‘the Reader’, well, that where things get interesting.

After all, one of the beauty parts (as Lou Collins would’ve said) of this world of blogs and blogging is that we have all the benefits of companionship and friends and such that is available in the ‘real’ world, without the responsibility and emotional upkeep that the mundane requires of it’s participants.

‘Communication is the problem to the answer’ suggestive? Sure. A description of the goal of the Wakefield Doctrine? Kinda*

At the heart of the Wakefield Doctrine is the simple (but very difficult to acquire) power of perspective.

ok. enough of the ‘hey!! write one of those ‘oh-my-god-I-can’t-believe-you-made-that-connection’ posts that were the style here, back in the heyday** of the Wakefield Doctrine.

(This post is the result of a October 4th Resolution*** to write more, with the goal being of a certain clarklike characteristic to expend effort in a cart-horse manner. lol)

The Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective on life, the world and the people who make it up. Grounded in the notion that all of us are born to experience the world in one of three characteristic manners, as the Outsider(clarks), the Predator(scotts) or the Herd Member(rogers), this personality theory offers an opportunity to see the world as the other person is experiencing it. The key premise to this, ‘personality theory’, is that reality is, to small but perceivable degree, personal. What makes one’s reality personal is the character of the relationship between the individual and the surrounding world.

The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that the most useful, (and, fun), way to characterize the relationship is, as mentioned: Outsider, Predator and Herd Member.

For reasons not yet understood, we all settle into one of the three realities, (predominant worldviews), at a very early age. Although we never lose the capacity to experience the world as do ‘the other two’ we proceed to grow, age, mature and otherwise develop our style of interacting with the world in response to the character of our world. One might say, I have the perfect personality type, given the nature of the world I had to contend with as a child:

  • clarks growing up in a reality in which they are Outsiders, learn to avoid the spotlight, while at the same time, searching for the missing piece, the one bit of information they apparently lack, something that clearly, most everyone around them were taught, given how comfortable they all seem with each other… they all belong. Outsiders do not.
  • scotts live in the world of the Predator where life is threat and reward, pleasure and discomfit, win and lose, a simple life which does not provide a whole lotta time to reflect on the meaning of things that do not appear to be chasing you or are not running away,. Predators live for the day, not so much philosophy as strategy.
  • rogers are a part of a complete and wholly quantifiable world, growing up, the Herd Member does not spend time hiding from others or chasing others, rather they spend their time learning the ways of those closest, this learning is not a discovery of something new as it is practice of something, (a Way of Life) that is tried and true.

Thats all we have time for today. However, the effort has, for me, already been rewarded. (Besides the tuneage)

Hey! Tell your friends you’ve come across a really fun personality theroy.

 

* but not really

** thanks to our friends at etymonline for:

heyday (n.)
also hey-day, late 16c. as an exclamation, an alteration of heyda (1520s), an exclamation of playfulness, cheerfulness, or surprise, something like Modern English hurrah; apparently it is an extended form of the Middle English interjection hey or hei. Compare Dutch heidaar, Germann heida, Danish heida. Modern sense of “stage of greatest vigor” first recorded 1751 (perhaps from a notion that the word was high-day), and it altered the spelling.

*** yeah, I agree, doesn’t quite have the gravitas of ‘New Year’s Resolution’ but then, as the old trope would hold, ‘Its New Years Day somewhere, or, at least, sometime’

the above tune started us off on this post, the following is soundtrackistic for the post that picks up where the strikethrough ends

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

September 20, 2020 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

A black and white picture. One sees a chalice while another, the profiles of two people facing each other. An example of an ambiguous bi-stable image, aka (the) ‘Rubin Vase’, created by Edgar Rubin in 1915. For us here at the Doctrine, it serves as a reminder, perspective is everything.

 

This is the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop.

Kristi hosts (with the help of Pat and Lisa, Dyanne and, of course Mimi) this long-running bloghop. The theme is gratitude and the approach is simple. Write/share/and-otherwise-list the people, places and things in your reality that have inspired/incited/or-nudged you into feeling grateful.

Pretty simple, isn’t it?

1) Phyllis

2) Una

3) work It gives me something to do during the day that gets me out of the house, ’cause Una has her own schedule during weekdays, which involves a concentration (as we might have said in college) in napping.

4) Six Sentence Story each week a bunch of writers write a story-ette employing a prompt word. It is very good exercise, (in crafting the wordage) and fun to read.

5) Serials. the Case of the Missing Fig Leaf and the Whitechapel Interlude. Each week, one (of these two serial stories) has a chapter added by way of a new Six Sentence Story.

6) Replaced old(er) car with new(er) version, there is something to be said for continuity*

7) No longer summer (Una and Phyllis don’t mind. Phyllis is in charge of moving new firewood onto rack and backyard stack, via yellow wagon to Una’s left)

8) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE. for anyone out there in the Reader-zone thinking, ‘Hey, I could write one of those posts. Heck, if this Doctrine post is the bar, well, I’ll have a double!’  Come on down. But if you’re wanting to check the water temp first, send us a single Grat Item and we’ll plug it in right here. Give you a look-see and all.

9) something, something

10) Secret Rule 1.3 because without process how could anything begin and without an ending, how would we know? (Book of Secret Rules (Secret Book of Rules) Prologue to Chapter II ‘so what’s the deal with this Rule 1.3?’ et al ibid.

 

* Continuity is, as we all know, Habit’s younger brother, who, unlike his older brother appreciates the value of hard-work. To this older brother, (and his friends Novelty & Hormones), constant amazement, Continuity applies himself to his studies and, as a result, prepares for the future in a way that does not involve the wholesale destruction of irreplaceable braincells or a GPA that is kept afloat, like a seat cushion in the North Atlantic, SAT and Miller Analogy test scores solidly in the 99th percentile.

 

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

August 17, 2020 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Looks like Summer is showing signs of breaking out in terminal autumn. Nothing un-ignorable as of yet… the beginnings of fade, individual leafs and such at this point. However, the overall effect is to leave one vulnerable to a did-I-really-see-that glance, maybe shifting your eyes as you drive, trying to locate an odd sound and when you return to the road ahead, it seems a bit more distant than you recall.

But enough of this ‘psychoanalyzin’ and dramatizin” as a certain woman from my way-distant past used to admonish we students.

This is still the Wakefield Doctrine blog. And it’s primary purpose has not changed. The reason for the blog is to make the incredibly useful perspectives it offers available to the largest number of people possible. To this end, is a more personal and specific goal (or, as I mistyped, gaol, which makes for a satisfyingly obtuse wordplay*).

The challenge I long since accepted is this: write a post that allowed the Reader to understand and apply the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine after reading it once. Whether or not, especially, if not, they’d encountered this blog prior to reading the post. This would be ‘the perfect Wakefield Doctrine post’. Still working on it.

(what? now?!?! it’s like, ‘five to’ you-gots-to-get-to-the-real-world!!)

(damn, that old saying is still true***)

The Wakefield Doctrine is a perspective of the world around us and the people who make it up. Based on the notion that all of us are born with the capacity to experience life in one of three characteristic ways: as would an Outsider(clarks), as a Predator(scotts) or the Herd Member(rogers). Each of these three inform the personal reality of the individual and, at an early age, we all settle into one, (and only one), of them. While we never lose the capacity to live in the world of ‘the other two’, the context in which we develop our style of interacting with the objective world, (aka personality), is reflected in which of the three worldviews of the Doctrine we exhibit.

When we learn the qualities of the three predominant worldviews, we’re in a position to know more about the other person than they know about themselves. The reason for this: by knowing the nature of the three realities, we can know how the other person is relating themselves to the world around them. (Not, ‘how the other person is relating to the world around them, but how they are relating themselves. Critical difference.)

By observing the relationship of, (the other person), to their world, we are then able to know most of their personal qualities, predilections, foibles and ….and favorite colors! (no, not this last****) And, of course, the more we know about the other person, the more we can predict how they act and interact. And, of further course, the process of learning more and more about another person requires us to identify with them. If we have the faith/self-confidence/desperation to put ourselves at risk by identifying with another person, our self-understanding can only grow.

Lastly, by attempting and failing to write the perfect Wakefield Doctrine post, we cannot help but to self-improve ourselfs.  Seeing how, having all three qualities within, by identifying with clarks, scotts and rogers, we must come to accept the good and the bad of the totality of ourselves. Not easy. Always beneficial.

Hope you enjoyed this post.

Don’t forget to share it and send it out to wherever you can, who knows who might read it and, rushing to their phone/computer/fax machine, sending the message, “By George I think I’ve got it!”

 

* jar, jar** as Friend-of-the-Doctrine, Clairepeek used to say/type

** her native language was Norwayian…. or..to play it safe, Scandinavish… (sorry, Claire… let us make it up to you in our music vid.

*** ‘When the Master is still in the bathroom, the Student walks to the front of the class and shares what they know‘

**** just a little personality survey joke

 

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “…in which the tale of a discovery is recounted and the lessons re-cast.”

July 7, 2020 By

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The story of the Discovery of Referential Authority.

I wrote the post below as part of a phase we were going through, i.e. application of the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine to situations encountered in the ‘real’ world. It was truly a remarkable time, here at the Doctrine, during the first three or four (or five) years. Everything was new, and the world around me was filled with blank canvae and nude models, all urging me to take note of how the Wakefield Doctrine has an attachment to everything.

But, before I wax too philosophical, here is the abashed edition* of that post:

(May 3rd 2012)

In our First Post, “Won’t you have a seat, Mr Andrews will see you in a moment“, we examined the strategies available to a person seeking a position in what is often referred to as ‘the corporate world’.  In that first Post, we focused on the ‘pre-Interview’ phase of the employment process. With today’s Post we will stay with this convention, as it seems that, if the first episode is any indication, most Readers find the Applicant’s efforts to deal with the appointment process entertaining and instructive.

Small Business Environment:

….a small restaurant, in a coastal town which is also home to the State University. With only 10 tables and an open kitchen layout, the Owner, (who is also the cook), is able to greet and interact with all the patrons. It’s quite evident he enjoys what he does, is reasonably skilled and, as a result, the business is successful. The increase in business has been rapid and the Owner is finding that the part-time help from family and relatives is insufficient, and so, the ‘Help Wanted: Waitress’ ad in the local newspaper.

…The Interviewee:

The wife of a faculty member at the University, following a Sabbatical from Field Work, you have been unable to find employment in your area of expertise, Paleo-sociology (and) Urdic Languages. Rather than spend another summer in the overly-large home that you share with a husband and two cats, decide that being a Waitress wouldn’t be the worst thing to do, at least until the market for Sociologists (fluent in Farsi) improves. So you call the number in the newspaper and get an appointment to meet the Owner. Wearing your best Interview suit (a subdued brown pinstripe) and carrying your trusted iPad, you set off to the restaurant, confident that you will be able to recall your undergraduate days of work-study working in the school cafeteria.
(…. oh!  do we need to mention that you are so a roger?)

…(Second Interaction)

…you have been sitting at the table 15 minutes (30 minutes later than the scheduled interview). The ‘breakfast rush’ has finally quieted down and the woman at the cash register brings you coffee, asks (again!) if you would like something to eat and tells you that the Owner will be over in a minute.

Do you:

  • ask the woman questions about the restaurant, how long has it been in business, what background the Owner has in the restaurant business
  • Look annoyed and ask her if it is always this busy
  • smile, hand her the Application for Employment that you have completed (and somehow stapled your curriculum vita to the slightly grease-spotted form) and say, “Thank you so much! I am sure that I will enjoy working here!”
The Question: if you are a roger, which of the above is likely to be your initial reaction and which, (of the three actions above), should be your reaction, in order to increase your chances of being successful in this Interview?
Well that should be enough to get us started! As with the first Interview, consider not only which of the three personality types the people in our scenario are, but tell us why you think they are (clarks or scotts or rogers )… and while it is helpful to know the correct way to get this particular type of job, add what you can about what the Wakefield Doctrine gives our Interviewee, in terms of tools or aids that will allow her to get whatever the hell it is that she wants…. (yes, Molly and Claire  that is a totally leading question!)

So what makes this little story so landmarkistic?

As soon as it was published, every roger within reading distance was all kinds of upset and outraged. (Yeah, like that’s a surpising response…lol) But they were!)

So, naturally, I thought, ‘Hey ho! Whats the problem? She’s just trying to be helpful to another human being.” Then, enjoying the benefits of this here Doctrine here, I said (out loud) “Hey! Why so upset?” And, after much discussion, it turned out that the job applicant was taking liberties with the social order (of the restaurant) and that the only way she should have done anything was after receiving permission from whoever was in charge.

I thought to myself…”Holy smoke! I have discovered an artifact in the predominant worldview of the Herd Member that is not visible, even when employing the list of characteristics contained in the Doctrine.  …. wait a minute, I remember the story…. bathrobes… no, bath tubs…. streaking (streaking?!?!) Greece…. Eureka!!***

* an early example of a rogerian expression. An associate at my office was a movie buff and was holding forth about an upcoming release of a complete set of Star Wars movies on DVD, it was to be complete and unexpurgated , except he was a roger. He said, “I already have my pre-order in, in a couple of weeks, I’ll the complete, unabashed edition of George Lucas’ masterpiece.”
I excused myself and made haste to my computer to record this fine example of how a roger exhibits near-scottian aggressiveness.**
** no, nothing wrong with asking me to explain that reflection. Thats why god invented comment threads.

*** yeah, kind of a long way for a laughtette

To make you feel old:

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