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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “…because what Monday isn’t made better by the perspective of the Doctrine?”

December 14, 2020 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

If, as Ben Gazzera asserts in the video below, life is but a dream, where does that leave us, this winter-dark Monday morning?

Is this a message of hope or an harbinger of doom (an expression deriving from the 10th Century), near as I can make out. The etymology includes innkeeper, which surely gots to, allowing for our citation below, be giving off a Anthony Perkins vibe to any of us old enough to have Hitchcock’s movie in our childhood memories.

Well that certainly elevates our early morning/beginning of the workweek discussion.

Here, look at what I found!*

Avaunt! Begonel O demon false! You harbinger of woe!
At random driven, my tortured soul no safe retreat does know.
My mind lacks faith, my heart mistrusts, my soul in pain sinks low.
O woe to him who feels the sting of your deadly smiting blow!

“O Evil Spirit!” by Nikoloz Baratashvili (courtesy of our friends at All Poetry)**

The Wakefield Doctrine reminds us, pertinent to the above, that the world we experience is grounded in our predominant worldview, i.e. that of the Outsider(clark) which would presume that most of the bad stuff implied is, well, private and we’ll not be discussing it, will we? or (if you’re) a scott(the Predator) then… “Bring it on bitches, you and me… right here and right now, we’ll know who’s the alpha!!” or, the last possibility/interpretation; how this view of the world would manifest to the Herd Member(rogers): “God, life is good… a little to the left, the center will hold.”

We use the Wakefield Doctrine to our benefit by accepting/positing/choosing-to-believe/recognizing the validity of the above, so that we will not be in thrall to any of them. Seeing how reality is personal, we are availed of the opportunity to manoeuvre through the day today. Knowing that what seems to be inevitable and real is one of three ways that the world might manifest.

Gots to love that Everything Rule.

(Come back later in the day and let us know how you made out!)

* what is there to not like about the internet, am I right?

** ayyiee! you should read the rest of the poem… a bit of a roger, methinks

from the criminally under-appreciated ‘Road House’ (lol)

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Friday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

December 11, 2020 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

There’s an old saying, “Fridays are the Monday-mornings of living a full and satisfying life.”

Why the love-hate relationship between clarks and the most looked-forward-to day of the workweek?

Consider that your homework.

New Readers! While our subscriptioneers get busy organizing their notes, and make sure they have enough yellow-highlights, clear-plastic rulers, No.2 pencils and, to be ready to take the assignment-completion-process up to the next level, a supply of three-by-five index cards; (Of course, there’s a cork board and little colored pins!), lets go for a quick tour of the Wakefield Doctrine.

The Wakefield Doctrine starts out with three different (yet intricately interrelated) predominant worldviews. ‘Predominant worldview’ is the preferred term denoting personal reality writ large. While scraping the guardrails in terms of a distinction between what an individual’s subjective reality is and the proposition that the whole, yeah, everything, world that is considered ‘reality’, knowing the differences between the three predominant worldviews of the Wakefield Doctrine are essential to deriving the benefits of this unique, fun and quite useful perspective on the world around us and the people who make it up.*

We’re born with the possibility of having one, (of three), predominant worldviews being established (the the ‘other two’ becoming secondary), and thereby being our ‘reality’. It (the predominant worldview) shapes, influences and serves as the context in which we develop the tools and strategies that shape our subsequent relationship with life …and such.

The three are:

the reality of the Outsider(clarks)
the world of the Predator(scotts)
the life of the Herd Member(rogers)

If discussed in terms of personality types, the above are the three personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine. For the Doctrine, personality type is not an assignment or a categorization based on a how many of a number of predetermined characteristics, traits or inclinations an individual demonstrates. Personality type is, for the Wakefield Doctrine, a description of how a person relates themselves to the world around them.

Learn the characteristics of the three, ask the question: “How is this person/how am I relating themselves/myself to the world around?”

The cool and fun part is the accuracy of the descriptions of the three ways to relate to the world.

There’s a bunch more to learn, but…. today is Friday. So have fun on the weekend.

* total, long-running, and favorite play-on-words here at the Doctrine… (and a totally obtuse reference to the ideas on reality as Carlos Castaneda so elegantly presented in his writings, i.e. reality is perception and the players contribute to the script, to mix as many metaphors and rhetorical devices as possible… ya know?)

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine-

November 21, 2020 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

…no! Come back, this will make sense if you read the Post. We promise.

Hosted by Dyanne. (Hostinae Quatraenous c.2020) who has graciously, (one can be forgiven for wondering what shade of rose her glasses were when she sent the email back to Kristi), taken on the deceptively challenging job of hosting the TToT.

This is the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop.

Enjoyed by millions.

1) Una

Warning: this photo constitutes an achronologic depiction of a post-branching of a timeline.
See Grat Item 3

2) Phyllis

3) The photo above, between Una and Phyllis? A near-perfect Grat Item. I mean, Peter Paul Mounds perfect. Here’s the story: Our backyard is basically a clearing in the middle of a pine forest*. Our practice, when letting Una out at night, is that I go out onto the deck and look for any animals that might be in the yard. That would be mostly late-night deer and rabbits with the munchies.** Usually there’s nothing out there and I open the door, Una goes out and comes back in, easy peasy. And therein lies the gratacious aspect to this adventure. Sometimes, when it’s extra cold or I’m tired, I might stick my head out for a cursory scan. (“A single grain of sand falls soundlessly from the upper lip of the Great Sphinx. Time destroys all, however limited the attention span of Man.”) Last night was not cold, so I asked Una to wait by the French doors that open out to the deck. I always scan from left to right, starting with the shed, down along the perimeter, past Ola’s grave and ending with the darkly-featureless woods. Movement caught my eye. In the middle of the lawn. My first thought was…. Pepé Le Pew! (No, seriously, the skunk was full-on black-with-white-stripe-down-its-back.) It was walking from the woods towards the shed. Kinda ambled, like Popeye, if Popeye was a quadruped, rather than the man that he yam. I said, “Holy Smoke!” The skunk took no notice. I did some calculations and, seeing how I was an arm’s length from the door into the house, figured I could outrun he or she, should, he or she, take offense at my presence. The skunk continued on, past the deck, past the garden and under the shed. I thought, “Damn! Only Eight more Grat Items left!”

4) Lizzi because, back in the late eighties, she began on a path that included creating a bloghop. (Interesting fact: She and I were among the first, at least in our circle of Facebookian friends, to do a life-video chat) Funny Doctrine insight: So we set a time to sign on, to whatever app google had back then, and there we were, face to face. I said, ‘Hello’. (transatlantic pause) and Lizzi said, ‘Hello’ And the connection dropped. My first thought, no word of a lie, was ‘She thinks you’re a creep and hung up.’ Fortunately I had a Doctrine to remind me that I was a clark and, it turns out that Lizzi did not think I was a creep. At least not then. lol

5) The internet. It’s capacity to function as a duct-tape-and-cardboard time machine, allowing us to travel back to when things were different. (see music vids this week)

6) Six Sentence Story

7) Writing, (and the practice of writing) which takes a form that, while a part of improving my skills, is also entertaining in the process. (Now, if only physical exercise could be like that, you know, while you’re doing the exercise, you become or appear to be the end product. Somehow. In top shape and totally stylin. err…. we have two serial stories ‘the Case of the Missing Fig Leaf‘ and ‘the Whitechapel Interlude’, from the Ian Devereaux pulp detective and the Book of the Order of Lilith )

8) THIS SPACE AVAILABLE

9) something something

10) Secret Rule 1.3 From the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules): We had the opportunity to remind Lisa that, as an offset to her uncertainty about joining in this weekend, with a ‘full TToT post’, the BoSR/SBoR lets a body, with sufficiently persuasive citations of appropriate chapter and verse she might send in a list of less/more than Ten Things.

musics

* Full Disclosure. When we bought the house, one cold January in the late 1960s, the forest of pines were of a certain age that created a full screen of green. The nature of pines includes not only growing tall, but, in that process, preventing the next generation from getting established to quickly. Pine trees block sunlight year ’round. The short form: we can see neighbors now.

** keeping the theme of the ’60s alive, ya know

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

November 2, 2020 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

So you got these three personality types, clarks(Outsiders), scotts(Predators) and rogers(Herd Members). And, because everyone else around this blog seems to be having fun, you’re willing to give this ‘Doctrine thing’ the benefit of the doubt.

What next?

This is a legitimate question. In fact, for the other two-thirds* of the Reader population, it, (this question), indicates a sincere desire to explore the use of our personality theory in the ‘real’ world.

Get out there and watch the interactions between your fellow planet-mates. We trust you’ve been doing your reading of posts, both current and archival, but just in case you’ve been falling behind, or simply giving this blog one more try**, lets go with a quick refresher.

The Wakefield Doctrine holds that there are three personality types, clarks, scotts and rogers. These three ‘types’ are markers for the character and nature of the relationship one maintains with the world around them. We all are born with the potential of each, but develop in the world of one and only one. Good news, (and sorry, rogers), since we never lose the potential of ‘the other two’, we can experience these other realities at various times and in a variety of circumstances, mostly under duress.

So how does that help you use the Wakefield Doctrine today as you make your way through classes at school, sitting in a doctor’s office, waiting for Godot or trying to buy the week’s groceries?

Pay attention to any and all interactions between people. And it will, without exception, be ‘between people, not among people’. One person and another. Now, you’re saying to yourself, you’re saying, “So, everything is a duet?” To this I say, “Take a penny, please! That is a most insightful way to express the observable ….err… expression of the Wakefield Doctrine!”

It’s always a duet. Even when there are five people.

Back in the day I might have gone on, at length, providing multiple examples of how interactions are, at their heart, always ‘a duet’. But not this morning. This morning, we will say, go out and watch the interactions, see for yourself. If you’re not directly involved, stand two-people away and watch. You will see, in order of visibility:

a scott enjoying themselves, seemingly sharing their insight and/or take on whatever the situation is, they will do so loudly enough that even you people two or three people away will feel all theatre-in-the-round, (Doctrine Tip: don’t leave before they are done, you risk becoming their next act);
a roger reminding everyone around them (and they will wait, they’re in no real hurry, if they are talking to one person they plan on it being passed along), they sound welcoming, inclusive and disarmingly friendly, don’t you wish you were that confident in public, (Doctrine Insight: with rogers, the person in ‘personable’ is always me;
a clark… keep your eyes (and ears) on the other person, the one who doesn’t fade in and out like an AM radio on a supersonic plane. they, the clark will be mumbling and slouching, but not running away. Watch for them to try to bring others into the situation, however, don’t let them see you looking, (not eye contact, no one but another clark is ephemeral enough to maintain eye contact with a clark) but if they spot you, you might find yourself playing the understudy,

Keep in mind, as you observe the world that we, all of us, relate ourselves to the world as Outsiders(clarks), Predators(scotts) or Herd Members(rogers).

…you’ll know each when you see/hear them.***

* without being obsessively. rogerian about the math, the accepted distribution of the three worldviews in the general population is: rogers: 66 (74, if someone attractive is asking) percent, scotts: 11 percent and clarks: 23 percent, or so

** interesting insight to the readership hereabouts, anyone returning a second time and reading to the end (yes, footnotes count) of a post is either a clark or a scott or a roger with a significant secondary clarklike aspect.

*** Doctrine Warning! Stay around reading long enough and you will see them, the clarks, scotts and rogers in your world. The thing is, you might not be able to not see them after this.

#theWakefieldDoctrine

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Friday -the Wakefield Doctrine-

October 16, 2020 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Was engaged in a conversation with Phyllis this morning that inevitably came round to the Doctrine, I believe the touch-point was personal reality and it made me think of the early days of this blog.

Back then, the pace was…different, faster, in the way of running across a field of rain-soaked snow, you know, keep the speed as high as possible because the ten-year-old inside knew that it was possible, if you did it right, to lift your foot even as you stepped forward. At a running pace, you’d try to not put your full weight on the lead foot, and basically, hop over it.

The better to not get your shoes soaked in the grey-snow pools lurking between the tufts of grass that offered a dry passage.

….where was I?

oh, yeah , the early years and the kinds of things we’d write to get attention

clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel (err not exactly fire-in-a-crowded-theatre level on the provocative meter)

I got one! clarks are crazy, scotts are stupid and rogers are dumb (distinctly remember when I came up with that one… interesting, the scotts laughed but the rogers (the Progenitor roger, no less) got really mad.)

ok, ok, one more then a music vid and its off to work

‘Everyone lives in a perfect world‘

(I stand by this statement, but will provide a hint as to why its so terribly true: a) we all live in a reality that is to a small, but meaningful degree, personal and 2) the world we encounter is a reflection of us (including parts and aspects we may not be aware of).