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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

New Readers: hey, seeing how the year is just starting, here’s a collection of ProTips and…and! a useful RePrint.

  • clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel
  • the quickest way to identify a clark among scotts and rogers? Ask: How much is two plus two?
  • you cannot get/do/use the Doctrine incorrectly. (Hint: your predominant worldview will shape your correct/incorrect efforts)
  • a clark, a scott and a roger stand on a sidewalk, at noon, across from a popular restaurant; the immediate subjective state of each tells you everything you need to know about the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine
  • the Doctrine is a tool: (for) better appreciating how the other person is experiencing the world
  • (this) tool is for self-improving yourself, provided you have the need (ProTip Hint: although 2/3s of any group lack this particular need, your type is only about 13 percent of the general population)
  • the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them

Useful RePrint:

the Wakefield Doctrine: how to recognize the three personality types in the people around you

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory that is more a ‘way of looking at the world as the other person does’, thereby gaining useful insight into their damn personalities)

clarks: the Outsider.  clarks can be difficult to notice, (but) easy to identify. They are everywhere, but have a form of protective coloration that is sort of like a messed up chameleon,  always leaving some part of themselves ‘un-background-colorated’ (picture the lizard totally indistinguishable from the rock they are sitting on …with a bright blue head!)  For today,  try this:

  • smile at everyone, the ones who respond with a ‘smile’ that consists of compressing the lips while (slightly) raising their eyebrows… clark
  • if you are at work look for the person who is working (at a desk or a machine or waiting on a table), say ‘hello’ to everyone in a loud voice, the person you see who turns their head in your direction, but does not look up (or, god forbid responds with a ‘Hi!’) theres your clark
  • the young woman in the impeccably tailored business attire, is that a tattoo?.. a hint of purple in the coif? hello, clark
scotts: don’t worry about finding them, they’ll find you! scotts are the ‘center of attention’ that never stops moving. The scottian female will be in charge, no matter where you are today. Better yet,  think to yourself, “If I yell ‘Fire’ nearly everyone will start running away, the one who is coming towards me? That’ll be the scott”. (er…this is meant to be  ‘figuratively speaking’, you know? of course, the scotts reading this Post on their smartphones, have already yelled, ‘Fire!!’)  lol Instead, try this:
  • smile at everyone, the person who smiles back but does not break eye contact first…scott
  • at work,as you enter the office/work area,  look for the person who is already looking back at you, getting up….and coming towards you!   there’s your scott
  • the guy behind the desk, when you start to complain about the service in the store, smiles and asks you to tell him every detail of the problem you are having…scott
 rogers: sometimes mistaken for scotts, especially in an expertise-centric environment like work or school. rogersare very prominent  in their domain and combined with their genius-level sociability, they will often come across as being scottian. The evidence of their rogerian personality lies in the personal-ness of their attention, they will get you to feel that they are hanging on your every word!  Don’t worry about whether you will find rogers where you are1 …if you want them to identify themselves, try this:
  • smile at everyone, the people that smile back but immediately look at one of the others in the room…roger!!
  • if you are at work, the person with the most photos and diplomas and awards on their desk or in their work area… and those photos of family and friends? the person displaying them will be in every single one of the photos  lol  rogers!
  • your doctor, the judge at the trial for your lawsuit, your accountant,the Chairwoman of your local PTA virtually anyone you think of as the  ‘go to’ person when you have  a problem with technology or ritual or social acceptance … rogers
Enjoy the day and let us know how you make out spotting the clarks and scotts and rogers in your life!
1)  current thinking holds that rogers account for 60% of the population2
2)  except following times of war or other life threatening civil disruptions, being the bulk of the membership of armies and mobs, the herd is usually decimated, but their natural charm usually restores their ‘numbers’ pretty quickly, post-reconstructionistically speaking.

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Wakefield Doctrine’s weekly contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop. A ‘Grat’ Blog(hop), the theme is gratitude in general, the sharing (the) people, places and things that have caused us (other participants and yours truly) to experience the psycho-emotional state of gratitude, specifically. The TToT lists are, by tradition, ten (10) items in length and may be gathered (and garnered) from the author’s past, present and future (real and imagined). So, not much likelihood of a lack of material, ya know?

For the Wakefield Doctrine this week, we cite:

1) Phyllis

2) Una

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) the Six Sentence Story bloghop

5) start of New Year, aka Holidays are over…relax!

6) speaking of Holidays. one (or two) more holidays and we can get back to simple Five-Days(in a row) Workweek! today is either Friday or Monday, right?

7) kind of a hypograt, but we’ve had very cold daytime temperatures ’round these parts of late… the good part is that the two snow events have been total powder snow… easy to shovel, don’cha know

8) something, something

9) Phyllis came up with a good line this week. The kind of bon mot that not only is funny (well, bring a smile in any event) but also quite appropriate. She say, “Since we’ve lived here, we’ve had three dogs ….and a Husky” bar rum bump.

10) Secret Rule 1.3

 

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aiyiiee! these musicians?!?!  what, are they from the secret Classical Musician Celebrity-Impersonator Guild or what?!! The cello player… seriously can’t decide on Robert Plant or Albert Lee.  Then among the violins Vince Gill (with silver hair, if he doesn’t already have it) and Tony Shalhoub and Taissa Famiga from the excellent movie, ‘The Final Girls

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Last Monday of the year.

(No, we’re not so bereft of new content as to do a Year in Review post or a New Year Resolutions post.

(who just yelled out, ‘More like New fricken’ 24 Hours Resolution post?!?!)

oh yeah? forget you

lol

just for that… a RePrint post.

wait… before that… “hey scotts!! err, rogers? before the RePrint, there are free refreshments in the lobby. Yep, all you can eat roger, all you can chase, scott. We’ll announce the beginning of the ‘Print to leave you plenty of time to get settled in.

ok, that leaves the clarks.

ever notice irregularities or, worse, discontinuities in time? no, not the passage of contemporaneous time. historical time. aka the historical record. sorta a like ‘space creeps’ except more the public record  and such.

just had a spell (yeah, totally deliberate choice of words. archaic fer sure) of historical unreliability. Reading through old posts for the RePrint. Stopped in 2018 and noticed 1st person POV on our part. In the post. We were taken aback. Sure, there was a time when these were written in the first person. I have not trouble with that. Just that we thought that (approach to writing Doctrine posts) had stopped in the ‘early two-thousand teens…’

huh

for the record, we prefer (at least currently) the third person POV as being more consistent with our perceived role as Curator of the Doctrine. But no, as recently as 2018 I found posts written in the 1st.

odd

Well, to self-inflict an expression that totally pisses off a clark (when used by a roger) when we’re trying, really trying to overcome something, “Don’t over-think it”

For the record: Fuck You. Over-think this.

That, btw, is something only a roger would say to a clark. Why? Well… we’re glad you asked. We know this because of one of the totally valuable insights provided by the Wakefield Doctrine. Which is: When it comes to clarks, rogers have the ability to ‘lash out’. And it, at least before the Wakefield Doctrine would always be devestatingly effective.

Remind us in Comments if you want to hear more.

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Monday the Wakefield Doctrine (“…lets try something a little different to start our week, ok?”) Part t t two!

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers).passing-baton

I (almost) always write Posts in the morning. Reflected in these (first part of the day) Posts is my intent to offer guidelines and tips, pointers and suggestions to you, the Reader, that the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine might appear in your own personal life.*  It seems (somewhat to my surprise) that those who follow this blog have a much more comprehensive understanding of our little personality theory. So I thought to myself, I thought, “if mornings are the time (of the day) of clarks and the daytime is for scotts and the end of the afternoon is a more roger-friendly part of the day, lets skip the morning and write a Post at the end of the day.”**

So stop back this evening, lets see what a Post written in the comfortable, romantic part of the day looks like!

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OK  it’s 6:00 pm EST  the hour of the roger.  Why do I say that?  because, clarks live for the future, scotts live in the present and rogers live in the past.*  So, the experiment today was, how does a Wakefield Doctrine Post sound when it is written from a rogerian perspective?

(lets put on our black beret, whip out a pipe and see what comes of my fevered brow!**)

this Wakefield Doctrine it’s something that opens doors that you had no idea were even there to be open. Finding within yourself a place that you can stand and observe the people and the animals and the fowls and everything in the world, this Doctrine is like one of those crazy hand held, brass and gilt mechanisms (that Anton Leewuwenhoek invented) to look at the way people try to deal with the demands of everyday life. There are three of these, ‘places’:

  1. on the Outside  never a part of, always separate from, it’s hard to imagine how these poor bastards get through life… not alone, that would be easy, to be alone then you could get all grizzly adams and strike out on your own and build a satisfying life in a herd of one…. no, these clarks are neither alone nor of the herd… trapped by their minds, they spend a lifetime looking in the wrong corners
  2. where the Predator roams… the less said, the better about these people. they are very much a force of nature, like a forest fire or a tornado… incredible power, and attractiveness and life and death dealing,  and like a forest fire they can create new from the destroyed old, they are the Sirens and the wolf packs   a simple people and as long as you never forget what you’re dealing with, then nothing bad has to happen
  3. in and of the Herd, this is the worldview of the rogers. to be a part of and connected is so basic a truth as to be non expressible … if you have to ask about belonging, then you don’t…the opposite of clarks and the complement to scotts, these are the people who keep the game going, highly emotional giving all to the continuation of what has been, rogers all live in a perfect world… of course, perfection can cut and tear as well as nuture and salve… you know

thanks for listening, yo

 

*subtle point here, that ‘living in the past’… it is not so literal, like  “why excuse me, I don’t want to prepare dinner, simply because when I was 5 years old, I was forced to prepare dinner”. that is living based on a personal series of elapsed life events. our rogers are not hiding in the past, Mrs Haversham-like, but they (the rogers) know that the past is, in fact, the aggregate of experiences of people (‘the herd’) and the standard of living a good life is to be found there…for the rogers. dig?

** it is a medical fact, that the only male person who can wear a beret is a roger… scientists remain baffled why this is true (that anyone would want to)

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Hey!  I’m thinking about asking for Guest Posts.   let me know what you all think about it, want to do about it, feel about.

*meaning, you can learn the characteristics of the three worldviews but it is only when you observe the behavior of a person in your life, will the ‘realness’ of the Doctrine be established… everyone who finds this Doctrine interesting has a moment when they stop and say, “my god! that’s of one of those rogers that the Wakefield Doctrine talks about!!” (or clarks or scotts, of course).

** meaning more the end of my work day than my awake day, say 6:00 pm EST

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Wakefield Doctrine’s contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TToT) bloghop.

The following is a list that, upon reflection, (and if clarks are nothing, they are relfectory lifeforms), represent our appreciation of the people, places, things and events that have elicited the state of gratitude.

1) Phyllis

2) Una (On a Winter’s Beach. A long, long time ago.)

3) the Wakefield Doctrine

4) the current weather… warm. windy rainy day as Winter ends (a low front moving up the coast causes winds to come out of the southeast. which is mostly warm. (fity degrees at the time of this writing.)

5) how windy?

6) this windy (wait for it 2:59)

7) From no less an authority than the Old Farmers Almanac:

Starting Monday, December 23, the days will start getting longer, and the Sun will be slightly higher up in the sky. (cit or would that be ibid or perhaps op.cit?!!) any aways here

8) something, something

9) in light of the above List, we totally need to nod in appreciation, (if not supplication), to the internet. Vast amounts of knowledge at the touch of the keyboard. Whether true, accurate or not. lol

10) Secret Rule 1.3

 

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Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

This is the Wakefield Doctrine’s weakly contribution to the Ten Things of Thankful (TT0T) bloghop. An exercise in the awareness of the capacity to be grateful for shit in our lifes, participating in this bloghop is, when you think about it, exercising one of the most critical mental/physical/emotional capacities inherent (and woefully under-used) in people, that of allowing for additional perspectives on the world around us and the people who make it up.

1) Phyllis

2) Una (demonstrating an impeccable approach to  life, i.e. engage the world without reservation)

3) the Wakefield Doctrine (sine qua non, y’all sine qua non)

4) only 17 days before the Onset of Summer (note to newer Hostinae, cai and KnitCat …the days get longer! light is surely the mother of warm)

5) the Six Sentence Story bloghop

6) Christmas Light-shouting!! We all have one in our neighborhood. And, yes, to our more erudite students of the Wakefield Doctrine* (we’re looking at you, Mimi, Denise, CynthiaMisky) yes! for the most part this kind of outdoor display does suggest a scottian homeowner, a light-shouter.

7) ok, if you insist! below is a video (which we all know means it must be true) of our seasonal lighting display, affectionately referred to as Area 51

8) something, something

9) oh, yeah! Grat for both Dyanne and Lisa for connecting up with this here bloghop here, last week(ish)

10) Secret Rule 1.3. Which is, of course, that Rule that states, in part, “…the completion of three-quarters (or seven-sixths) of a TT0T list is valid as a Grat on self-same list…traditionally in the Number 10 position”
ibid, op.cit. Wakefield Doctrine  2009-2029  (shoutout to Andrew our newest Host for his independent discovery of SR 1.3 (Hey! Andrew! There remains an entire Book of Secret Rules (aka Secret Book of Rules) that is available to hosts, hostinae and anyone reading a TToT with a hankerin’ for stirring things up)

 

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