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‘she said, how would you like to waste some time’ the Wakefield Doctrine it says Monday on my Calendar, does that mean that I have to get focused on real life?

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"…you know that I enjoy my work, don't you?"

“…you know that I enjoy my work, don’t you?”

In a word, no.

The Title of today’s Post is a bit mis-leading. Weekend days are different from week days even if, as in my case,  you work on Saturday and/or Sunday. So, at this moment, in the context of the 7 days that virtually all of us who are reading this are required to divide the time of our lifes, there is a feeling, a sense of,  ‘ok time to focus on serious things‘.  And, as most of us know, the word ‘serious’ in this instance is not meant to imply ‘more important’ or ‘more valuable’. It is does not even rise to the level of significance as to cause a reasonable person to think, ‘I must change what I’m doing with my life’.
There is, with the onset of the workweek, however,  a shifting of responsibility.   And not in a good way, like,  ‘hey! the responsible thing is for me to go to work, or school or focus on my duties as homemaker‘…  there is something about this more fundamental going on, and I’ll continue using the word responsible, because it seems to convey the sense, “ok enough about you. now it’s time to get serious and respond to something that is:  not you“.  It must be a good thing, but the essential goodness lies in your subsuming your personal interests to something else, a something that is larger, less direct, mostly benign …but not always.

But, I’m being way too…. clarklike for a Monday morning. Time to set aside the toys and games, devices and distractions and get back to being a responsible life form.

(Hey!  the Wakefield Doctrine does maintain that we all grow up and develop our personalities in one of three characteristic worldviews, right?  and it is/are the worldview that we live in that not only gives us our ‘personality type’ but also allows us to know more about the people in our lives than we have any business knowing, right? Well, here’s the thing, sometimes it’s fun to share your insight with the people closest to you, like “hey darling I love the way your fashion sense tells the world that while you love being a woman, you want to make it absolutely clear to everyone that it is your choice how much of this quality you will share with the world around you and they better not mistake this qualification  as being some kind of weird girl thing. (or) when you’re hanging with friends and you think to say, ‘yeah, you have such an ability to concentrate, it’s really impressive how personally you take the slightest most innocent criticism as a personal attack’ and sometimes it might be better to hold back on the sharing (of how much you know about the way that they relate to the world around them).

The Wakefield Doctrine offers insight, but not license. It’s been a while, but it bears repeating,   “the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them”

Off to the workweek with ya now.

 

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‘one TToT Post down, 103 left’ the Wakefield Doctrine ‘it’s not just a bloghop, it’s an adventure!’

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(no… I seriously have no idea why this image with this post)

(no… I seriously have no idea why this image with this post)

Today is Sunday. This is (another) TToT Post. Still in the same bloghop, same weekend.  (New Readers/Participants! a ‘second’ List on a given weekend is not required/ is entirely optional, it is not a bad thing/ it can be fun, and finally,  you should not feel like you are expected to do 2 lists/totally should try one it can be fun. [If I get away with this one more weekend, I will be forever grateful to….[1] )

Today is Sunday. This is ‘a second Post’ for me. Still the first TToT Weekend of the New Year. (New Readers/Participants! the format of these Lists is left entirely  to you/the most commonly employed format is the numerical list, usually the items are in ascending order/if you’re feeling like throwing convention to the wind, descending won’t get you in trouble and finally, you can get all Louisa May on it and do away with numbering entirely… take a walk on the wild side! [2])

Today is Sunday. This is ‘the third item of what-hopefully-will-be a Ten item list. Still only Sunday Morning. (New Readers/Participants! it does, in fact, say Ten Things as the required number of things/there is a potential for variance, everyone writes lists with 10 things/except those of us how might have reason to have more or less than this eponymous number and finally, you totally have the right to break up a topic over multiple items, learn from a pro, kid [3] )

Today is not Monday. This is ‘not even halfway through a List of Ten things that I will claim to be grateful for. It is still Sunday Morning, but the time is slipping. (New Readers/Participants! it should be obvious to all that I hitched my wagon to a horse that may not finish the race/that would be a mixed metaphor if I had fleshed it out a little more, you might as well see the stressful, why-the-hell-did-I-go-with-the-three-in-one schtick? and finally, even when you do get yourself out on a literary limb, there are tricks/ legal or illegal there is an answer, come on, no guts no glory! [4])

Today is still Sunday. The is halfway through my Second List of Ten Things of Thankful. Time to bring out the big guns. (New Readers/Participants? Don’t tell anyone I told you, but there is a Secret Book of Rules/not available to anyone…at least not officially, the requirement for use is to have the (fill in the gender/demographic/writing-style/personal style/taste appropriate reference to nerve, courage, daring, temerity or balls …here) and the language that implies that you already know what’s in the Book and finally, seeing how I have opened the Book, if you will, I will cite Rule 7.7 (subchapter 5) that states, in part”  ‘if a participant commits  to a tricky list and totally finds (themselves) without the… whatever to finish, provided they3 are at the halfway point (see Rule 3 for def of halfway) then you are permitted to claim an item credit that is the equivalent to 50% of double the number of items written so far’  …thank you, thank you very much [5],[6],[7],[8])

Today is still Sunday. My god! will this list ever end!?! Time to give credit where credit is due. (New Readers/Participants? This group is amazing, not just for the overall willingness of the participants to be helpful and supportive/after all except for the weekends when Rich Rumple and Jak are able to stop in, this is pretty much woman-ville (aka the Benevolent Kingdom of Xchromatopia), ask for advice/ do not hesitate and finally don’t listen to what they say about how scary Christine is or the warnings that if you are seen too much hanging out with Kristi, your writing career is veering off the path. [9])

Today is Sunday. All I need are photos (and maybe a music video) and I can get in the shower and get dressed and ready for the Wakefield Doctrine Sunday Morning Video chats with my co-hosts Lizzi and Michelle  (wait!! no…. I will be hosting with them not getting dressed or in the shower…that’s totally not what I meant).  Hey Readers!!  Yeah you new Participants!!  thanks for coming by, this TToT really is fun… and you want some one to blame for this train wreck of a Post?  Well head over to the Comments section and thank Louise (of ‘babygatesdown‘)  it’s all her fault!  see what she said?   “I sometimes wonder if there is anything Wikipedia doesn’t know….”  no, now that I look at the words I don’t have any idea how I got to here from there, but it’s true…that phrase got me going. somehow.  hey! Louise  everyone really want to thank you  lol  (It’s funny about blame… it grows irresistibly like the crush we all have on our 3rd grade teacher, the one who actually talked to you like you were a person or something and if that wasn’t enough to throw your emotional self into the volcano of puppy love, she laughed at your jokes like she thought they were funny!  (I will always be grateful for that in my 8 year old boyhood) [10])

I’m out!

 

Ten Things of Thankful

 

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TToTeen fourteen, that is! the Wakefield Doctrine 10Things, 44 words each, this is the Year of brevi

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New Year…mid-Winter break over  how much college metaphor can we get away with in today, the first TToT of the New Year.

 …you wanna know how committed to the spirit of this thing I am? this section is ‘off the book’, by way of a demonstration of the strength of my feelings, I will squander what, in the previous year, would have been Thankfuls enough for three weeks by writing it here, not in today’s list! (Bold words you say?) Well, that’s the new me… (who is kinda like the old me, but different). In any event, before we go any further, I just want to state, for the record, how much I am in awe of Lizzi and the thing that she has brought into existence here, in this here bloghop here. Sure, lots of us have ideas for blogs and even bloghops, some of us even do blogs and (a smaller group of us) try to start bloghops but very few succeed. Even fewer stay with (their) idea long enough for it to take on a life of it’s own. Lizzi has done this thing.  That’s all I have to say.

Ten Things of Thankful 2014 (Saturday 1st)

1) …in the middle of one of the more impressively cold winters, I am grateful that I am not (still) fishing for a living. If that were the case I would so  be colder than I am, it helps me to remind myself of that.

2) I am grateful for the Wakefield Doctrine Video chats, which started with Michelle and Lizzi, these live Posts (in a sense) are well on their way to becoming the next cool, blog-centric thing to do, people are starting to get comfortable with the    format

3) Numbered Lists and bullet lists.  Probably my favorite (and most used) ‘special effect’ available among the vast quantity of tools we all have at our disposal with Word. (‘though I should put in a good for superscript and subscript), wait wait! cannot forget italics

4) That there are other people, of like mind,  here at the TToT, and I don’t just mean only the people who enjoy bloghops, not even just people who enjoy Gratitude themed ‘hops, rather it is the people who have fun with words and thoughts

5) I have to put my work (in the real world) here as an item, both as ‘List Item’ and my own deliberate use of this format with the aim to cultivate the difficult but good life necessity, an occupation not always fun, usually satisfying

6) the Wakefield Doctrine, for continuing to provide me with the raison d’être  in terms of both the blog itself and the secondary benefits derived from the hours and hours invested in writing it, I have yet to feel like it’s a chore to write

7) dirty jokes! oddly enough one of the ‘Esprit de corps‘  features of the new vid chats!), credit to Lizzi and Kristi* as a way of dispelling the fear that what amounts to a live blog  Post aspect might come off as snooty,  otherwise intimidating

8) I am very grateful for both youTube and wikipedia, to be sure… the two mainstays of my blog-existence, I have not yet run into a word, a phrase, song or a song fragment that these two ‘places in the virtual world’ can’t flesh out

9) (Dirty Joke):” A man comes home from work, walks into his bedroom, and finds a stranger making love to his wife. He says, “What the hell are you two doing?” His wife turns to the stranger and says, “I told you he was stupid.”

10) The Book of Secret Rules (aka ‘the Secret Book of Rules) which, somewhere among it’s pages, clearly allows that if we choose to push past our own comfort zones in pursuit of self-development, you must be willing to take the chance and risk failure

Well there you have it! Ten x 44!

* I know it is not necessary and it goes without saying, but the Kristi credited with co-developing the ‘dirty joke’ feature of the vid chats is Kristi Campbell and not ‘our Kristi from the West’ (aka K2)  not that it’s a bad thing, but one would manifest it as a virtue and the other would not manifest it as a virtue (this relates to the Wakefield Doctrine as follows: while we all live in one of three worldviews, that of the Outsider, the Predator and the Herd Member and each (of these three) have certain …aptitudes, affinities for common life activities, like: occupations, avocations, callings, talents, bad habits and proclivities, no one worldview can lay claim to any of these. Another way to put it:  there are no ‘purely scottian‘ occupation, there are not hobbies that are ‘clarklike things to do’ all of these things/ideas/impulses exist in all three worldviews, it’s just that they manifest differently in each. Another way to put it,  “everyone does everything, at one time or another”. So, using our example of the dirty joke feature and our two Kristi(s). ‘dirty joke’ manifests as something distinctly and discernibly different in Kristi (from the West)” worldview as compared to Kristi Campbell’s. And right there is the mistake that we all make and is the reason why the Wakefield Doctrine is so uniquely valuable!  I said  ‘as compared to’  and that is not the best way to say it (or think about it). It (‘dirty joke’) is a different thing in each of these two’s worlds. One is not ‘the real one’ and 99% of our inability to understand the people in our lives arises from insisting that one of these is real and therefore the other Kristi is in denial, is not accepting things for what they are or prefers to insist that what she wants is her right!.  So, a little reminder that in order to use the Wakefield Doctrine you will need to allow for the fact that the reality the other person is experiencing can, in fact, be different.

(..yeah, Christine.  I kinda made up for the 44-words-only-for-each-item, huh?)  lol

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Vid chat Friday …the Wakefield Doctrine (“hold that thought and don’t run off anywhere, I need to go outside and shovel the frozen water out from in way of my car”)

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not real people, but if they were, I'm pretty sure I'd be the one in black

not real people, but if they were, I’m pretty sure I’d be the one in black

Tonight beginning at 7:00 pm EST  we* will be found at the Wakefield Doctrine ‘yeah,-but-it’s-not-that-I-couldn’t-go-out-with-friends-tonight-you’d-be-amazed-at-how-many-friends-I-have-who-want-me-to-join-them-on-a‘ Friday Video Chat!

I know, you’re thinking, “…oh man! that sounds complicated but there’s sure to be something tasty there, gotta get one of these clarks to set me up to get in on that action.”   or you might be thinking,  “…hmmm, that guest list down at the bottom of the page makes it sound like there’ll be some scotts and some real people there, yeah maybe I’ll stop in tonight as soon as I finish sorting the weekend laundry and get my list of chores down” . If you’re not identifying with either of those, hate to tell ya, but chances are you’re already at the Vid Chat in your head,  hey!! hey, clark!!!  real world to clark yo!  we are out here, not in there… no, I’m not questioning how much you want to join us now… I am saying that come 6:45 EST (whatever that is in your local timezone), you’re probably going to come down with a bad case of, “…darn-it-this-thing-doesn’t-work!-I’m-on-the-screeen-they-can’t-hear-me-they-seem-to-be-laughing-think-I-better-research-this-thing-some-more-I-can-always-try-again-next-week.”  

Well, seeing how this is the New Year, I’ll just leave the attribution (of the responses above) to the appropriate worldviews up to you Readers.  But I will give you a hint:

  1. Outsider: the line between the subjective and the objective is…variable and a bit on the fuzzy side. clarks think.
  2. Predators: live life, eat/sleep/reproduce/defecate develop the skills to serve these drives and everything else takes care of itself. scotts act.
  3. Herd Members: remember what they have learned, ‘a stitch in time, saves nine’ and for everything in life, there is a Right Way and a wrong way,  rogers feel.

No, this is not some kinda College Admissions Test!  I got you covered, don’t worry about nothin… you can figure out that google+ hangout thing!  and,  …and! tonight when you see all the faces on your computer/tablet/phone display? (each of us in little squares, like the frickin Brady Bunch!!), chances are the audio will be off… don’t panic or get mad or get hurt feelings!!    just go ahead and move your cursor to the top of your screen, get them icons to appear (includes a little red phone looking thing) and even though the microphone icon seems to be off (with a slash through it) give that darlin’ a little click. Chances are you’ll be live and alive at the Vid Chat… just tell ’em  Clark sent ya.

 

*Lizzi and Michelle   (we’re the original Rob and Laura (and Laura) Petrie)… lol and zoe and Denise (who should be a little late)  and, if we’re lucky Kristi and maybe even Christine…. Jny!!!  yo… join us tonight, I promise I won’t let anyone mess with ya… unless, what the hell am I thinking? you’re a … *secret Rule 3.7*

 

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First Video Post of 2014 the Wakefield Doctrine (so many ways to learn!)

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Lets start the year off right… live action.

It’s already the middle of Thursday, so I’m going to post this today and then do a more traditional Post tomorrow!

 

(Hey!! Cyndi… 42 words!!!  is this like Jeopardy where I can put this tiny number of words into my account, to be used to offset the first Post that I do that will surely be the beginnings of my back-sliding ways?)

 

 

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