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TToT 198 the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

June 27, 2014 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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3) ….all three are located here, in the recent past…. step through here

4) speaking of recent Past. I am grateful for the experience of not running over a cat today! So, I was driving along a fairly wide, non-interstate-highway type road and paying attention, (as I usually do), and I saw a cat running across a lawn on my right (and about 2 house up the road) heading across the road. The thing of it was, it was running, not sprinting and although it looked in my direction as it left the lawn (of the house on the right) and hit the pavement, I could see the cat logic, in it’s brain was surely insisting that it needed to continue on it’s path. I applied significant breakage and slowed down. The cat did not, he kept on running (as Mr. Anderson would have said) but, having the situation under control I was able to visualize the path of the cat and there is no doubt that our paths would have crossed, much to the detriment of said, unidentified feline, had I not seen it and slowed down.

5) to further enhance my experience, once I was certain that I was not going to run over the cat, I enjoyed the realization that I had not. I actually thought, ‘hey! no matter what else I do today, it has been a successful day’. I then laughed at how very strange the interior life of clarks experience and, how, in the privacy of our own minds, there is much good. It’s too bad that there is so very little hope of translating those kinds of moments into anything that has an exchange value for use in our interactions (socially) with the rogers and the scotts.

6) I am grateful that I know Kristi Campbell. I cite this because she wrote a Post that I read today (which, given how little time I seem to have these days, is saying something in and of itself)… the Post was a part of her Finish the Sentence Friday ‘hop, and it was titled: ‘8 ways to cost self compassion. or, how not to be, or raise, an asshole’

7) Una and our Friday Night Car Rides and the fact that I did not try and upload the two videos I made last evening. Both of them were not very good and, even though sometimes that does not stop me, this time I thought, ‘clark, just because this is live, and it was good for the first 2.3 minutes… sometimes it’s best to forego the act of Posting’ I’m glad that I did. …forgo the Posting, that is.

8) the Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Call-in… which we do every Saturday night at 8 pm (the number is on the front page somewhere)… and last week we had a surprise Caller in the form of Jean! A very significant part of the fun is when we get these unanticipated people dropping in… she was, you won’t be surprised to hear, delightful and it was an enjoyable Call-ins conversation.

9) Cyndi… now, she is doing well and we are very proud of her, so why dontcha go to Pictimilitude and see for yourself!

10) SR 1.3*

* Secret Rule (from the Book of Secret Rules (aka the secret Book of Rules) that states: ‘the completion of a list of 10 items, can, in fact, be one of those items. Traditionally it is saved for number 10, but there ain’t no Secret Rule what says you have to use it as number 10. ya know?’

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Wednesday the Wakefield Doctrine (come on! Guest tomorrow, lets pick up all these incomplete sentences and such, the place is a mess!)

June 25, 2014 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Tomorrow is Thursday, which means a Guest Writer of a Guest Post on Guest Post Thursday’s Guest Post, and…and! we have a scott coming to visit! Always fun. (aggravating and exhausting on occasion and, if the true be known, hard to keep up with often and if it weren’t for the ‘payoff’, none of us clarks would even consider trying… but that’s for another Post).
So be sure to tune in… in fact, let’s get all ‘Girl Scout cookie’ on tomorrow… (?!?) yeah, find 3 people and get them to read and comment on tomorrow’s Post. (just so you don’t forget where you’re getting this idea), of the three:

1 has to be a person who has never read a blog (it is allowable to print the post, if that’s even possible) and
1 has to be someone who reads blogs, but has never been to the Wakefield Doctrine,
1 has to be someone who has read the Doctrine blog, but ‘doesn’t have time for that crap!’ and
the last person can be anyone who you are willing to bet will find it fascinating.*

The discussion this week has been very enjoyable and helpful and I have gained additional insight into the Wakefield Doctrine. (ed. note: you can expect the Wakefield Doctrine to provide you with an additional insight, show you something about the other person you hadn’t realized before, see a part of yourself in a different light (or, at very least from a slightly different perspective) and enjoy the process (of all this insight stuff**) I did want to add one thing to our discussion of the Rule of ‘everyone does everything, at one time or another’:

…you know how we said that it’s not that clarks do things differently from scotts, but that things manifest differently for clarks (as they do for scotts and rogers). The list of examples is as long and as varied as you would care to make it. Occupations, avocations, interests and hobbies, sex symbols and revered icons, ambition and love, hate and reverence, wanting to look good and not caring how you appear….all of these ‘things’ are common to all of us (clarks and scotts and rogers) and all of these things ‘manifest’ differently in each of the three worldviews. The most important thing you can get from this Rule is that, for each of us, in our respective worldviews, these things are reality.
This might be one of the 3 most difficult concepts in the Wakefield Doctrine to understand. The world around you is real. The ‘common world’ that we all share (that one is easy) and the personal reality that you er…personally experience is real. a clark is an Outsider and the scott, with their hair-trigger emotions, are experiencing the world where that is the best approach to life… after all, predators do not thrive and survive by being laid-back and the roger who insists that there is a Right Way and (other ways, not nearly as good as)… the world is quantifiable for them.

This understanding/appreciation will make your life so much more…. yours and so much less…. forced by others. and all you have to do is accept that there are three characteristic personal realities (worldviews) and if you know the one you live in and you identify the ones that the people around you live in, things will be better.

* astute Readers will immediately realize:

that the requirements will result in at very least, one of each of the three personality types
that they will have to write these directions down, as they are inexplicably difficult to follow

** yes, the Doctrine does provide insight and all, but that doesn’t mean that it’s all serious and solemn and learned and such, it’s fun to watch the scott at work perk up when a new person walks into the room, I mean, if they had a tail that wagged and ears the could stand up it wouldn’t be more fun… and the rogers, while they can be ….difficult, to know them is to be protected from their specialized form of spontaneous, heart-felt communication, aka ‘lashing-out’ and clarks!… you remember as a kid, there used to be a cartoon-like puzzle in the Sunday paper, usually the comics section, where there was a drawing and you were supposed to find the hidden: pilgrims….pirates…parrots…scary animals? and how you could be staring and staring and just when you were about to give up in disgust, suddenly a figure would appear out of the background…and then another and another?? (if you are not a clark), then the same kind of fun awaits you when you decide that you know enough about the characteristics of the worldview of the Outsider(clarks)… they’re frickin everywhere!! (who do you think does the boring-yet-high-risk-to-career-path-yet-deemed-necessary-by-the-rogerian-middle-manager??

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Monday morning Post the Wakefield Doctrine (“…hello, how do you do?“)

June 23, 2014 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

…I’m back. (no, not ‘back from writer’s block’ back… back from wandering around the internet in search of a hook for today’s Post). I will admit that it’s still there, the lurking fear of having nothing to say on behalf of our little personality theory here. The cure for that, is to remember that the definition of the Wakefield Doctrine is

a unique, useful and fun way to view the behavior of the people in our lives. With the Wakefield Doctrine, as (an additional) perspective on life, you need never again find yourself saying, ‘how could they say something like that? I really thought I knew them better than that!’

fun: a long list of etymological root sources, none of which I thought were all that funny, except maybe for ‘virgin’ and ‘cheat’ (now that I see that in print, maybe we’re on to something!)

first un-planned end of a relationship:

clarks (it is) at the hands of a scott
scotts (totally caught off guard, which is so not like scotts) at the hands of a roger
rogers (in a tiny, not-nearly-enough-to-make-up-for-a-lot-of-the-other-stuff) at the hands of a roger

(lol… now that’s more like it! Hey, Jin-nay called in this Saturday on the Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Drive Call-in! And one of the things we were talking about was the fun of the early days of the blog… a lot of the ‘language’ and expressions of the principles of the Doctrine were way more provocative and outrageous and…well, and fun! It’s just that some concepts are easier to convey this sense of ‘hey!! listen to this!!’ in the spoken form than in the written form. Un-avoidable, I suppose… but still, it was fun to talk in realtime with Jean. Funny how distinctive scotts (and rogers and even clarks) are even in a voice-only format. Fun

the other thing to come out of this weekend was a re-appreciation of ‘the everything Rule’. This is, of course, the Rule that states: ‘everyone does everything, at one time or another’.

(here is a temporarily useful approach to the Monday morning Post writing: I will not try to write a complete Post. I will write what I (am) enjoying, but when the temptation to ‘make a point’ arises and I find myself bogging down, I’ll just say: ‘to be cont’d’)

(Free Wakefield Doctrine docTee to the Reader who correctly identifies which of the three worldviews is most sympathetic to this approach to problem-solving)*

(for any of the Readers who, through no fault of their own, were born long enough ago to have watched this show (and enjoyed it different ways, appropriate to the different ages they watched)

*some restrictions may apply, Contestants must look within and determine if they really, truly deserve the award and measure, by their own worldviews standards, the cost to themselves and the others (participating in this contest) of insisting on getting the shirt, even when they already have one, what the hell does one think they are proving, I mean you can only wear one docTee at a time, ok, if you’re a clarklike female you could manage to wear more than one and, sure just because you’re a scottian woman and thought it would look better tying a knot on one side, and tearing a shoulder off does not automatically qualify you for an extra shirt and the rogers do have to have one shirt to wear while the other is at the dry cleaners (despite the insistence of the tag that says, ‘wash any damn way you choose, it’s a frickin undershirt!’)

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(interim Post) the Wakefield Doctrine

June 17, 2014 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

(I was thinking about ways to over-come my current…whatever with Post-writing and, for no apparent reason, I flashbacked to a time years ago when I used to play Tennis and Tennis-related. What came back to me were the times we used to try and psyche each other out while in the middle of a close game. The strategy I most enjoyed (and I actually laughed to myself when I remembered it) was to get the other person to focus on ‘how they played’. The ‘how’, in this instance, was not ‘how well are you playing’, but rather, ‘how is it you get the racket to be in a position to intersect with the (projected) path of the ball?’ I’ll confess that, much like the MAD Strategy of the Cold War or the revenge sex in our early 20’s, backlash from the attempt to employ this gambit was pretty much assured.)

It occurs to me that I am, of late, doing just that when I sit down to write the day’s Wakefield Doctrine post. I’ll start with the ambition to write a really good Post, explaining the Wakefield Doctrine in terms that everyone can appreciate and understand and, pretty much right as soon as I get past, ‘the Wakefield Doctrine is…’, I ‘look’. psych!

(I used to describe my approach to writing Posts as, ‘I’ll seize on an idea, establish some kind of attitude or premise or position and then spend the rest of the time trying to write my way out of it’.) (lol)

So, be prepared for some fairly…. odd Posts in the coming days.

(I do have some kind of internal Puritan who really expects every one of these things to offer something of value (to you, the Reader), so I’ll do an easy one.)

Kristi’s Post contained what I refer to as ‘an artifact of her worldview’ when she made the seemingly innocuous statement that included the phrase, ‘the security of expectations’. Am I being needlessly modest if I say, I stared at that sentence for about 5 minutes before it hit me, this thought was from a reality that I have never experienced.

I think I’ll return to this topic tomorrow. Let me leave you with a thought, ‘expectations are a noun in the worldview of rogers and a verb in the worldview of clarks‘… clarks labor under/dodge and hide from (unless we are trying to undercut) expectations… rogers find security in them. can I get a ‘damn!’

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Wednesday the Wakefield Doctrine (‘remember that story about the 3 blind-folded people and the elephant? worldviews…’)

June 4, 2014 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

The place of hats.

The hats (for certain people’s damn heads), have been ordered! That’s the good news. The, less than exciting news, is that we are in the middle of the embroidered hat season and the wait for my hats (for your damn heads!) was at least 3 weeks!! This from the clark behind the counter (older woman, slightly slouched posture, light, but non-directive gait), who remembered me as soon as I walked in the store. This impressed me, due to the fact that I was last there over 2 years ago.

clarks and conversations. (if you are a clark) and you know another clark, then you can walk up to them and start your last conversation where you left off. an hour, a week, a fortnight, doesn’t matter! Say you’re at the mall and you run into a clarklike friend that you haven’t spoken to in, say, 17 months. You will be able to start the conversation with the second half of the the sentence that you left un-completed the last time you spoke.¹ They’ll pick up the thread without pause. scotts on the other hand, tend n0t to have that kind of continuity, however, the advantage of this is, you can say the same things you said last time you had a conversation! Provided, and this is critical, provided you are as enthusiastic as you were (the first time).

Do not forget! Tomorrow is Thursday Guest Post Thursday!! and…and!! we have a scottian guest post writer!

(the thing about the elephant? it occurred to me on my morning ‘run’, that this famous story is almost an example of what we mean by worldviews/personal realities. The Doctrine maintains, of course, that we all encounter the world (elephant), however, we insist that the differences (in how it is perceived, lies within us, not the elephant, or whichever end of the elephant we encounter). The worldview of a clark or a scott or a roger is real. We act and react and respond and interact with the world around us as we do, because of the nature of the reality/world that we find ourselves in, not because we feel like it, are prone to, are in the mood to, being contrary against. The characteristics of the three ‘personality types’ of the Wakefield Doctrine represent the most reasonably effective strategies to: deal with the world around us/get through our lives/be the best humans we can be, …given the nature of our world.

you know?