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September 2014 Daily Post Challenge (#1) “…accepting the Award for Mr. Quality, the lovely and enticing Ms. Quantity!”

September 1, 2014 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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…as has happened an un-counted number of times since I started this blog, I am in an introspective phase of…. ‘what am I doing with this Wakefield Doctrine’.  Surely this time of re-examination is as common as frayed-waistband underwear, however, it always manifests as a unique this-time-it’s-different experience. For better or for worse, I have decided to be more….public with my self-examination. My questioning of the whole point of my writing a blog, regardless of the fact that it is about a unique and productive and fun theory of personality, seems to be an inevitable part of the process that started …(no frickin way!) 5 years ago.

Of course, for those of us who would write a blog, every moment of doubt is always sincere and heartfelt and genuine, (no!-stop-giggling-I’m-trying-to make-a-serious-point-here). But like the first crush/first car/first fear, this time  feels different. That is, I suspect, as it is supposed to be.

So, on each of the next 30 days, I will write a Post. They will be long Posts and they will be short Posts, they will be weird Posts and they will be TToT Posts (wait, I already said ‘weird’) and, for the record, I have not the slightest idea if there will be any point or value or anything other than….quantity.

…. so to start,  I know what it is that’s bothering me about the state of the Wakefield Doctrine blog:

  1. that I would write such a sentence and actually leave it in the Post
  2. that, for those who were around for the first couple of years, the Wakefield Doctrine was the point of this blog, not clark Farley-that-guy-with-that-‘personality-theory’
  3. a (seeming) loss of the ‘hey! this is the Wakefield Doctrine and you should see what it can do!’

…and, (to certain Readers), yes this blog will continue to be a semi-public experiment/demonstration of the use and efficacy of the principles of the  Wakefield Doctrine as a tool for self-development.

but then, you knew that, didn’t you.

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Wed nes day the Wakefield Doctrine ‘…of shared expectations and stainless steel serving dishes’

August 20, 2014 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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2 reasons for today’s Post:

  1. new Readers
  2. tomorrow is Guest Thursday’s Guest Post… (‘…key-lark day’)
  3. rogers and expectations

Second Reason:

GPTGP: nothing novel concept, invite people to write a Guest Post. Ask representatives of each of the three ‘personality types’ to write on a given Thursday, still not ground-breaking, at least introduces a certain degree of expectations (on the part of Readers). My instructing all Guests: “write anything you like. Have fun, no topics suggested, no minimum nor maximum lengths. pretend that you have a new blog, it’s not only already set up, but it has a readership and they do not know anything about your regular blog. write and have fun. email it to and I will post it”  I will say without reservation, the result has been more than I had anticipated. Not ‘more’ in the sense of ‘more exciting’ or ‘generating more visits to the Doctrine’ not even, ‘produce more questions about this little personality theory of ours.  Rather, it has provided a weekly illustration of the three worldviews of the Wakefield Doctrine.

  • clarklike GuestWriters  that have us (commenting), “wow!  who would have thought… what a creative approach… how cool is that?”
  • Guest Posts written by our scottian friends,  I can hear the laughter and appreciation of Readers, “I couldn’t stop laughing…. I can’t believe she wrote that…. god, what fun these Posts are”  (and)
  • our rogerian friend’s Posts… there is something very special going on there. They (the Posts) are so….engaging, personable…. interesting in a way that is at once comfortable and yet presenting a viewpoint that challenge(s) the Reader.

So each Writer, with or without intending to, has allowed us, to see the world (from a certain Doctrine perspective), as they experience it.

(content deleted…even though I spent a good hour last night writing a ‘brief intro to the Wakefield Doctrine’… gotta stay under 1000 words)

So this Doctrine is about helping us understand the behavior of the people in our lives, right? Ok then, you want an example?

clarks and rogers.
as a pair, this combination has the advantage of stability (at a price) and, at the same time,  allows each to relax a little within their respective worldviews. Not the most high-energy combination (certainly not to the dynamic levels of a clark-scott or a scott-scott(!), but also not the quiet-symnetry of a clark-clark or the ‘who-can-build-a-structure-of-expectations-of-life-first’ of a roger-roger), but not bad. That being said, one area of conflicts between clarks and rogers is found in the area of expectations.*

Now, as the Rule of ‘Everyone Does Everything A One Time or Another’ asserts, there is nothing that is the exclusive domain of one of the three worldviews. The ‘worldviews’ are not bubbles of reality, distinct in the quantity and quality of the things that make up one’s world. Even something as  ….subjective as ‘expectations’ is manifested in each of the three worldviews, differently in each. Today we’ll focus on the expectations (as manifested) in the reality of the Herd Member, rogers.  A little true-life anecdote should serve our purpose.

Years and years ago, the Progenitor roger and I were talking about buying a business. Knowing what I did about rogers (both the individual and the personality type), I suggested that he consider something in the food service industry, you know, like a restaurant or cafe or such. Somewhat surprisingly, roger enthusiastically agreed! He went on at length how he had been thinking along those very same lines and was, in fact, researching the restaurant business. (A little backstory here: this is mid-eighties and in our area barbecue wings ‘burst on the scene’ in cafes and restaurants, sports bars… like that.)
In any event, I made the statement that ‘the restaurant business is incredibly competitive, how tricky it must be to succeed in the business’. To which roger responded:“I’ve spent a lot of time on this, looking for the difference between success and failure in a restaurant that serves wings and the key to it all is ….stainless serving dishes.” 

‘stainless steel serving dishes.’

This phrase has become a fun ‘shorthand’ for the particularly rogerian focus on a single element (of an otherwise complex subject). And no, this is not making fun of rogers (ok, a little  but not in a mean way), rather this phrase serves as a reminder of how very real the personal realities of people can be. So much of what we experience in our day-to-day lives is subjected to a personal shorthand… incredibly intricate, involved and complex ideas…reduced to four words. We (clarks, scotts and rogers) all do it.

the problem that arises, (and the prompting for this post),  when two people are engaged in a mutual effort, no…let me call it ‘a process shared’. It might be working on a project with a co-worker or maybe a science project in school or even something simple, like a home improvement project. Two people with, not only two images of the outcome, but two different ideas of ‘the best way’ to: get from start to finish/the surest way to get ‘an A’/ this is how you handle the sub-contractors to get that addition built just the way you wanted it.

‘stainless steel serving dishes’

it’s not that I was more realistic or that roger was more practical… it was not even that he was right and I was wrong… however, if I did not translate ‘stainless steel serving dishes‘ into my own, personal equivalent of  ‘this is what I feel is the critical piece of an otherwise large and complex effort’  if I do not do the translation, then I cannot expect to understand.

Many systems of insight, personality theories are designed to enhance our understanding of the people (and their behavior) in our lives. In this, the Wakefield Doctrine is not different. Where the Wakefield Doctrine is different, is that we don’t  suggest that, in our example today, that roger did not have a realistic understanding the restaurant business, we are not even suggesting that you accept that ‘maybe he just doesn’t get it’…. what the Wakefield Doctrine is saying is that, ‘living in a different worldview as he does, roger may very well be experiencing something that does not exist for a clark or a scott.‘

 

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Tuesday the Wakefield Doctrine …probably the least clark-inimical Day of the Workweek ( so, of course we talk about fear!)

August 12, 2014 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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hey! Friend of the Doctrine Kristi writes:

“Is it totally normal for Clarks, as they get older, to not worry about being an outsider so much? Because I feel like I don’t care about that part these days. I might just be tired though…”

Very provocative question! I can think of two ‘answers’. As with (most) things Doctrine, the real value, however, is to be found in how the Question/Answer, manifests (in my worldview or your worldview)  The coolest thing about this here personality theory here, is that without fail, anytime I try to apply its principles to a situation, a problem, a hypothetical or I-need-to-know,  I learn something new about myself.

Answer 1)  yes. as we grow older, many of us clarks find that we don’t care so much about our status as Outsiders. (Here it is important to remember the Wakefield Doctrine‘s rather unique approach to personality types and behavior, i.e. we clarks are Outsiders in our own personal reality.1) The thing of it is, as we get older, our interests and passions become less…varied. We like what we like and are less inclined to seek the new, the different, the maybe-this-will-be-different-and-I-won’t-feel-so-not-a-part-of-everything. Not saying that this is a bad thing. Hell, of the three worldviews, we are the most curious and (most) likely to discover the unique and strange things in the world around us. (As clarks) we also have a tendency to encounter situations that, perhaps, our scottian and rogerian family members and friends would not… to the extent that, as young(er) clarks, we often hear, ‘you did what?!  you hangout with who??!’   (of course, we hear those alarmed statements and feel just the glimmer of pride, that we are doing something that, by all indications, the real people in our lives would not ever try to do.)

…but there is still, the fear.

Answer 1.b) when we are young clarks, we are not as accomplished at disguising our Outsider nature. fear is a wet army blanket, big, cumbersome and impossible to fold into an inconspicuous shape. As we grow and mature, we get better at negotiating with the fear. more sophisticated, if you will. But it is there. always.  not, at this point of our lives, is the fear always so obvious. what makes fear so insidious, at the later stages of a clark’s life is that it has become an integral part of the calculus of our interactions with the world around us.

Answer B)  many of us have learned at least part of the Answer that we have been seeking our entire lives.2  …. well, hell, spend a lifetime trying and even though it is a fundamentally flawed assumption, you are going to learn something about how to look and act and sound like everyone around you.

Answer 6) …besides, maybe we are getting old, but so are the scotts and rogers in our world… and I’ll let you in on a little secret Insider Doctrine wisdom, age is kinder to clarks than it is to scotts and rogers (which is as it should be….given that we started out our lives old.)

 

 

(hey!! I deny being, in any way, addicted to the stats. if no one comes to the Doctrine on a given day, means nothing at all to me! even if I don’t post new content!)

(…however.  I got a chuckle* out of zoe’s Post from yesterday, so if you are reading this, you should be reading this!)

 

* yes, that does totally identify me as an old person…

 

 

1) remember, the Doctrine seeks only to infer ‘how a person is relating themselves to the world around them’, identifying this relationship, will tell us if they are living in the world of the Outsider or the Predator or the Herd Member… once this is correctly inferred, we know all about ya. The Wakefield Doctrine maintains that: if you grown up, mature and develop in the (personal) reality of  the Outsider, then you will tend to make certain decisions, prefer certain approaches to life situations and act a certain way, because it is the best coping strategy, (aka personality type), given the world you exist in. The same applies to those who develop in the world of the Predator or the reality of the Herd Member. Personality type, for the Wakefield Doctrine, is simply the characteristic coping strategies best suited to a given worldview.

2) clarks believe that there is something that they do not know about life that accounts for their not being like everyone else. clarks believe (consciously or not) that there is information, knowledge, fact (you know, rational stuff) that once learned, will allow them to be accepted into the company of ‘real people’.

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TToT the Wakefield Doctrine ( Ten Things, right? the primary criteria of any list surely is/are the number of items)

August 9, 2014 By

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Gratiudious items for this week:

  1. got my camera (Sony Bloggie) to work again… come on telephone-in-car Interviews!
  2. got a chance/took a chance and explained /introduced the Wakefield Doctrine to my dental hygenistist  result?: smile from her and shiny teeth (for me)
  3. glenn for vid interview
  4. got started on this list Friday morning… not  Saturday morning
  5. took a video of (a portion) of our Friday walk, I played it back and found myself laughing (at the fun we have)
  6. the photo above is of Una… dogs have this innate ability to develop certain habits and behaviors that are rather cool, in this example, she decided fairly early in her life to sit next to me at my  (quote) desk (unquote) and, being small enough, use my legs as the back-half of her den.*
  7. the Wakefield Doctrine… yesterday at the office: an agent from another company arrived to drop off some docs. he is a total roger** so Denise (not Girlie-on-the-Edge Denise, a different Denise***) and I are standing, (with another agent), at the copy machine (i.e. the modern equivalent of the  Dagwood Bumpstead water cooler), anyway, we’re standing there talking and Denise says to Ben (the roger), ‘hey what about that showing you were going to confirm’ and he takes out his phone and holds it up to show the email confirmation (from his Seller) for the showing in question. A simple ‘yes’ would have served. He proceeds to hold up the phone to show a photo of an un-related property,  so he could say, “You know this house? I just sold it” (…no response from us) “…full Price!” (still no response)…”five Offers!” I looked at Denise and smiled as she started to play with the roger, (the way that scotts like to do)  “oh really? that’s amazing!! your own Buyer?” and, of course, he brightened right up… (I walked back to my desk laughing… my work was done).
  8. this bloghop with it’s astonishing capacity to allow ….variations on the simple, used-by-countless-skilled-and-sucessful bloggers format of a Gratitude List bloghop. I mean, how simple need it be? Write about the 10 things you most identify as the events or people, activity or relationship that engenders a feeling of Gratitude… that has occurred in the previous 7 days. Pretty straight forward, right?
    lol…. and then there’s this blog Post (though I will say, it’s not like I’m alone anymore with the outré grat list…. our friend zoe is given to taking the path less-written and our Founderess Lizzi! I mean, have you seen some of the things she’s done?  secret Password protected Posts no less! ( v cool… and yes, I did try ‘clarkscottroger’ and ‘the Wakefield Doctrine’ as possible passwords…. no ego here! lol)
  9. …so if you are out there and are thinking,  “damn! that bloghop sure does have some talented and hot writers and writerettes… I don’t know if I can be as clear and straight forward as some of them like this Kristi or that Dyanne or … or Chicken Coop wall woman… .” take heart… join us this weekend.

Hypo-gratitudinous items for this week:

  1. thumbnail photo (…on the Wakefield Doctrine landing page….here, notice the color of the leaves on the apple tree?  yeah, I know…”what color?” it’s only August and the leaves are beginning to turn… what the hell!?!)
  2. Item 1 on the ‘Grat List’ above came a day too late, as I had to use my phone of the video of glenn’s Post for GPTGP…

 

Video that made me laugh…twice, both times I’ve watched it!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBGpq5KdWDA

 

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* dogs have an innate drive/instinct to find a safe place in their environment, a cave or den (literally or figuratively) in our case, semi-under my banquet table/desk

** Cyndi had an observation (forming the basis of yesterday’s Post) about whether or not it is possible to not have a significant secondary or tertiary aspects (it is and Ben, in our story above, is a person with pretty much just his predominant rogerian worldview… the result is: a very successful real estate agent. No, really! in this business the most successful man-like agents are rogers and the most successful female agents are scotts  and the best agents are clarks1

*** she is a scott with a significant secondary clarklike aspect

1) if by ‘best’ we mean,  ‘putting the clients interests before the agent’s own interests’

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GPTGP… the Wakefield Doctrine…. (s) scott without a keyboard

August 7, 2014 By

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(What the hell! I arranged for a vid Post for the scott of this Thursday’s Guest Post Thursday’s Guest Post and I don’t have it! I went to Wakefield, met Glenn, (who got in my car), gave him the instructions that I give every Guest Post Writer (“…anything you want to” etc etc) proceeded to drive around Wakefield (actually, even cooler, we drove to Narragansett, the Town Beach, under ‘the Towers’ and  down Ocean Road) and he talked his Post into my phone (vid).
…gone…into the ozone. somewhere between the phone and ‘the youtube’.  great. Now what?  …clarks are creatively resourceful, if nothing else…so, following are some videos that Glenn has done in the past few years. He should be reading this, so if you want to find out about last night, go ahead and ask. That is, after all, why god invented Comments.)

I’ve known this Thursday’s Guest Post ‘Writer’ for a very long time. Glenn is one of the few people who have learned about the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers from, essentially, the beginning. Glenn was, in fact, a participant in my decision to rename my theory and start a blog.* He works in the human services field (business,  occupation) and is an accomplished trainer (read: stand in front of a crowd of strangers and get them to think and believe a certain thing). Glenn is also, to the surprise of no one reading this, a talented musician. In fact, one of the reasons he’s been absent from these pages in the last couple of years is that he has been busy being successful with his band (and with his ‘solo act’). I did say he was a scott, right?

…glenn?

 

(here is a part of a video interview with glenn)

http://wwwyoutube.com/watch?v=Vuz-RIgvaFg?list=PL18908905F7AE7250

here is the end of the previous:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1DhppWfVXUo?list=PL18908905F7AE7250

the hell with this Post. What follows is a video of glenn telling us a joke (scottian credentials, if you will)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jsmvoPwftD4?list=UUENReugtoAwk-oXfZwORZFQ

 

1922261_10202422578943664_66308303_n glenn miller  (who can be found on ‘the Facebook’)

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