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Wednesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘Lady Godiva, her scottian husband and….a clark’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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Seeing how, of late,  we’ve been all studious and learning the use of the Wakefield Doctrine to self-improve our own selfs, lets kick back and have a mid-week break! You all deserve it*.

Lady Godiva took pity on the people of Coventry, who were suffering grievously under her husband’s oppressive taxation. Lady Godiva appealed again and again to her husband, who obstinately refused to remit the tolls. At last, weary of her entreaties, he said he would grant her request if she would strip naked and ride on a horse through the streets of the town. Lady Godiva took him at his word and, after issuing a proclamation that all persons should stay indoors and shut their windows, she rode through the town, clothed only in her long hair. Just one person in the town, a tailor ever afterwards known as Peeping Tom, disobeyed her proclamation in one of the most famous instances of voyeurism. In the story, Tom bores a hole in his shutters so that he might see Godiva pass, and is struck blind. In the end, Godiva’s husband keeps his word and abolishes the onerous taxes.

Most of you will not need me to tell you whats going on with this most…. civic of fairy tales (cautionary tale?… fable? morality play?… whatever). I will, however, address the New Reader.

New Reader? The fun (and real value) to be found in the Wakefield Doctrine lies not in being able to immediately identify Lady Godvia as a roger, her, kind-of-a-jerk, husband as a scott and …and poor Tom as a clark. It does not. The real fun (and value to ourselves, as people trying to better understand the people in our lives), lies in accepting that we have the qualities of all three of the characters in this story. ( One would represent our predominant worldview, and ‘the other two’ as our secondary and tertiary aspects, which, of course, our potential to be better (or worse) people.)

(While the more experienced Readers giggle in the back of the class and compose their smart-assed, but nevertheless perceptive interpretations of this Tale, lets review the three personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine):

  • clarks are the ‘personality type’ that results from growing up as ‘the Outsider’. Through no fault of their own (though, they will go through life suspecting that there was something that was their fault…but that’s a whole ‘nother Post), clarks seek to learn how to live the best life possible, they place their stock in understanding the world, and believe that what they think is missing (in their lives) is knowable and rational. They are very creative, funny and (they) see the rules of social order as just another interesting thing about all the real people around them
  • scotts are identified by the coping strategies that have allowed wolves, lions, dogs and other predators to thrive through history.  scotts are impulsive and decisive, mercurial and sentimental, for them the world is very simple: wake up… eat, protect the pack, be alert to threats and opportunity in the day, reproduce (of course! metaphorically as well as literal! knucklehead!) and sleep. scotts are the first pick for captain …of the other team (lol…. no, think about it a little….) (if you’re reading this you were in the other team… not the first team)  they are great best friends and scary adversaries
  • rogers are the people who grow up and develop their coping skills knowing that they are ‘a part of’, they belong. rogers live (and thrive) in a world that is quantifiable, understandable, predictable ( in an unpredictable way) and above all has Rules…. rogers live searching for the Right Way (to do things) and will go all out to help others engaged in this task… the Yearbook Committee?  pretty much all rogers (with one clark or so to do the stupid work)

ok.

You now know what is necessary in order to understand why we are identifying our three main characters as we are….lets open the Post for Comments.

(New Readers?  the real fun lies in what is really required to successfully  identify another’s worldview, i.e. you need to see the world as the other person is experiencing it.  So…. Lady Godiva’s husband?  so he says, ‘sure, I’ll lower taxes if you ride naked through the streets of town’…. bet that guy had a supply of banana peels, seltzer bottles and whoopee cushions around the palace and, that naked part?  And Godiva?  issue a proclamation (aka a Law)… that she would ride naked (implying that she would be exposed to all) but then say…. ‘you can’t look’  god! how many times in high school did we have to deal with that kind of behavior!  … Tom?  clarkclarkclark  oh man, dude! you don’t have to make things so difficult for yourself… she doesn’t care!)

 

* did we mention how the Doctrine is predicated on reality being personal?  that last sentence is the perfect example of what we mean by personal reality.

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mondae -the Wakefield Doctrine- (to continue with our lesson… ‘what good does it do to know this stuff?’)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Friend of the Doctrine 'Mel' with a hat in 'Michigan' (from our series: 'Didn't I see the Doctrine in…')

Friend of the Doctrine Mel, with a hat in ‘Michigan’
(from our series: ‘Didn’t I see the Doctrine in…’)

(Towards the end of last week’s Posts, we began to look at a ‘problem’ reported by our friend, Cynthia:

Outsider. This could be my motto for life. I’m surrounded by rogers and um…ya know…have figured out that the office environment…well…let’s just hope the rogers don’t gang up on me and kick my ass.

this ‘problem’ serves us well, both as an illustration of the Doctrine as a tool of understanding and as a tool for self-helping ourselfs. By this I mean, (that) when we feel uncomfortable in a social context, the source (of the feeling) is ‘without’. We are charged by the Doctrine* to never forget that the responsibility (for the feeling) is ‘within’.

… the answer to the question posed in our subtitle?

( Here’s a funny thing. In answer to my rhetorical question,  I started to write: ‘it depends on a person’s predominant worldview..’  Which, of course, would have been a followed by an explanation of how, of the three personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine, clarks are the only ones who need the insight that is available.  But then, I stopped. And I thought to myself, I thought, “Wait a minute!! You’re about to be wrong!! The benefits of the use of the Wakefield Doctrine, as a perspective on the behavior of those around us, is not limited, constrained, defined or otherwise affected by a person’s worldview! It’s the same for scotts and rogers as it is for clarks.)

the Wakefield Doctrine is one more way to perceive the world we live in. It is not the Answer. It is not (even) an Answer. It is way that allows a person to come closer to seeing the world as the other person is experiencing it.

If you are inclined to feel apart from the world, wonder if there is something that everyone knows that you do not, then the you might be living in the personal reality of the Outsider (clarks);
If you are impulsive and emotional (without taking people….personally) and yet are surprised (but not overly concerned) when people get exasperated with your suggestions to ‘do something/anything’, then you might be living in the personal reality of the Predator (scotts) and
If you are living and, the odd thing is that you’re curious about this Doctrine thing, in a world that, while challenging is and can be quite satisfying, even with the seeming reluctance (and, at times it seems, stubbornness ) of those around you to do it the Right Way, then you may very well be in the worldview of the Herd Member (rogers)…

all three of these perspectives are the ways that people relate themselves to the world around them. Consider that, ‘the other person’, today is dealing with the same situation (as you are), however, they are experiencing it from one of these three perspectives. But remember, although knowing this does not change them, knowing this might change you.

 

 

* the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them

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TToFreeze -the Wakefield Doctrine- (ok! ok!!! here’s number 8…don’t tempt me into re-posting this on the theme of 8s!)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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you might have to click on the photo to enlarge it enough to see the temperature on the dashboard…14F

…you want to hear something weird? As I sat down and started writing this Post, I had a flashback to when I was a kid in the 1960s when the Catholic Church introduced Saturday evening Mass. There was a movement in the Roman Catholic church to liberalize the faith, (perhaps better to say, ‘liberalize the practice of the faith’,  and please now don’t hold me to the chronology …it was the 1960s), but I think the progression was: changing from all Latin Mass, removing the prohibition against eating meat on Fridays, and then having a Mass on Saturday evening that ‘counted as going to Sunday Mass’. Now, I’m not saying that Posting on Friday evening is the same as going to Saturday Mass, instead of Sunday morning Mass, but….   you know I was very much a clark, even back then, at age…say 5 or 6… I seem to recall reacting to (these) changes with thoughts along the lines of concern.  It’s interesting, this sensitivity to change in a clark, something you would associate with rogers.  (I recall taking piano lesson when I was about 12. Being a clark, naturally, I was semi-precocious, and I took to the lessons pretty easily. The drawback was that even then, as a clark, I thought of learning to play the piano as a ticket (or at very least, a socially-negotiable skill) to acceptance. I would daydream about playing and impressing people. (clarks reading this will recognize the poignantly incorrect use of the term ‘impress people’… that it was not to make them feel envious of my skill, rather it was to trade my efforts (to acquire it) for their acceptance of me as a real person.)

Anyway….here we are Friday night. Not that there’s anything wrong with writing a TToT Post on a Friday Night!! It just so happens that I have amore (no!! no!!! a more than busy day…. a more! that’s what I meant!!)  so it’s good that I can get this post out of the way early.

1) the photo up at the top? that is, I believe, Monday morning in my car, on my way back from Hell Hollow Rd (Voluntown CT). It was very cold. But there was no snow on the ground and so my opening Grat Item is: no snow….at least up until today.

2) hey! Una and I went for a walk today!  (I managed to get home before dark and thought, well, why the hell not?) Here is the vid:

3) as I mentioned in the video, I feel like doing some video Items, so lets start out with one of the first TToT video Posts…last Summer (or maybe that was the Summer before)

4) I am grateful for ‘the youtube’ for the car videos… now just so Christine doesn’t feel that it’s just me …what with the driving and filming and such, following is a video from a couple of years ago, on a Saturday Night Drive… there were two real people in the car with me and 2 people, ‘in the dashboard’…

5) [This place reserved for a photo taken while on the road tomorrow…. requests are being accepted….only requirements: unlikely place, found in New England, interesting, but not too girlish…]

6) Working with a young, new agent at the office. (By ‘new’ I mean, in ‘the business’ about a year or so… by ‘young’ I mean 24 years old…by ‘working with’ I mean the kid’s a clark… aiyee! I’m learning (against my will and otherwise) a lot about myself…lol  but, that’s what this personality theory of ours is for, right?

7) Some might call this too inconsequential to be on a grat list, but:  I’m grateful for knowing people like Lizzi, (though any number of you out there might have come up with something as fun as the expression), ‘Thursday’s kind of the Tuesday of the end of the week.’  (…from ‘the Facebook’ this week).

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9) (Hey! that second video? In it, I believe I stated that #9 was ‘sense of direction’ as in being grateful for the clark’s natural sense of direction…

10) Got to say I’m so grateful for the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)… as the old saying goes,  “If it’s not in ‘the Book’ then you must be mistaken!!”   lol… yeah, getting kind of late, will have to get up early tomorrow and finish this here Post here.

 

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W. -the Wakefield Doctrine- ( ‘of clarks and contronyms …and other general insights’)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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A Comment from Linda yesterday, included the observation that we (are), “…attracting a group of individualistic minded peeps.” I replied,

 “It was a ‘tentative article of faith’, in the beginning of this blog that, by virtue of what the Doctrine is, the readership would have to be those with very robust imaginations…and, more importantly, people who enjoyed playing with the new…”

…’tentative article of faith‘ (?!)
New Readers? Here at the Doctrine we talk about personal realities. More precisely, we talk about living in one of three characteristic personal realities (aka worldviews): that of the Outsider (clarks), the Predator (scotts) and the Herd Member (rogers). What may not always come across strongly enough in these Posts is the fact that these are real realities. One of the primary differences between the Wakefield Doctrine and other personality type systems/schema is that we do not focus on what a person tells us about themselves as much as we focus on appreciating how a person is ‘relating themselves to the world around them’.
In fact, if there is a single statement that best describes the Wakefield Doctrine (and it’s value),  it would be, ‘using the Wakefield Doctrine as a perspective, we infer how a person (or ourselves) are relating themselves to the world around them and, by virtue of this understanding, be able to see the world as the (other) person is experiencing it.‘  And in order to pull that off, you need to be able and willing to imagine that:

  • …reality is, to a certain, but very real extent, personal. nothing weird, like singing pencils or the ability to turn invisible (no, wait… that is possible in the clarklike world view)… lets say, the ability to flying without the aid of technology
  • …there are three characteristic worldviews (personal realities)  that of the Outsider, the Predator and the Herd Member
  • …we are all born with the potential to experience life in any one of these three realities and that, at an early age, we settle into one, (our predominant worldview), however, we never lose the capacity to experience the world as do ‘the other two’
  • …what other people refer to as personality types (and imply is, in part or in whole, a simple choice of the individual to act a certain way), the Wakefield Doctrine describes as ‘the most effective strategy for dealing with the world, given the nature and character of the world….you know, the world of the Outsider, the life of the Predator, the reality of the Herd Member
  • …using the Doctrine is as easy as your imagination. Know the characteristic of the three worldviews, observe the people in your life and (correctly) infer how they are relating themselves to the world around… (as Lizzi would say), ‘Boom!’  you now know more about the other person than they know about themselves
  • …it’s fun to be able to see the clarks and the scotts and the rogers in your life! …and, at times, initially, it can be a little spooky. If you persist with the Doctrine you will have the experience of interacting with a person, they will act in a manner that you find yourself thinking, ‘she is so a clark‘ or ‘jeez! not too much a scott!’  or  ‘oh man! he is such a roger‘  the spooky part is that you’ll then realize that the behavior that prompted this response was not among the descriptions or examples or characteristics that you read here… they’re just acting the way they are supposed to

so, have fun today. Tell us about any characteristic of (any of) the three worldviews that you may observe today. Remind me tomorrow to get started on the topic of secondary aspects. thank you

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M. -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘sure, we all would like a hint how to use this Doctrine on the first day of the w. week’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Given that all you Readers are sitting in one of three worldviews as you read today’s Post, it’s only right that I make it clear which worldview I am talking about when I present a hint, isn’t it?

Well, actually no. It’s only right in the context of one of you. But that’s not important right now. Right at this moment, most of you Readers are at the start of your Monday, so on with the Doctrine hints:

  • clarks will be the ones most likely to get up early, followed by rogers and, (yeah, maybe a little surprising)…scotts are the last to rise and shine
  • clarks will be remarkably (and suspiciously) optimistic and talkative
  • rogers will not
  • scotts (who are still in bed) will begin to see that getting the other person back into bed is the best approach for everyone involved ( by ‘everyone’ we mean, of course, the scott)
  • clarks will look forward to the day the way that a person with a horrible toothache will look forward to going to the dentist
  • rogers will look forward to their day…in detail  with no need to share or express their concerns for the upcoming day
  • scotts will still be in bed
  • clarks sometimes feel anxiety about ‘the start of the day’  not necessarily the events that they anticipate happening, but rather, the point at which forward momentum begins
  • rogers will become more animated and energetic, but unless the other person is also in the same line of work, this brightening view of the coming day will remain inside their heads
  • scotts will (finally) get going… the least amount of preparation for the day of the three (consistent with their roles in the work day)
  • clarks and breakfast?  what, are you insane?!?!
  • rogers and breakfast?  well, we always have (fill in the blank precisely, please)
  • scotts and breakfast?  yeah sure… come on!  lets get going!!

That accounts for ‘our’ morning. I have every intention of returning to this here Post here at noon today and provide us with a look at the tipping point of the first day of the work week.  Unless you have a coment.

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