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(Part 2)useday -the Wakefield Doctrine- (“…let’s pretend to agree that today’s still Tuesday, ok?”)

June 24, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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…in our last Post we left two thoughts started, but not completed:

  1. a renewed appreciation for the skills that allow something that has so much potential for being confusing to be made simple enough to allow for the ‘parts to connect’
  2. that the key to reducing stress and anxiety for clarks is to re-frame ‘the questions of the world’
  3. and cognitively dissonant jokes are a lot of fun!  (hey! this is the damn age of instant communication, right? wanna see something funny?  yeah, no! wait… I’ll do a  self-video I do this every chance I get, out there in the ‘real’ world!)
  4. video joke:  

…while we wait for the cameras to warm up, you want to know an interesting way to tell if you’re talking to a clark? (btw this only works if you’re a clark too!) ‘bumping into each other, conversationally’. You know, you’re like, talking with this other person and you’re always both stopping and starting statements at the same instant.

Bullet Point #1: the three worldviews, i.e. the personal reality that you are living in at this moment, (more critically, the character of the world that you, as a very small and young human found yourself having to develop coping skills and strategies to stay alive and flourish in… it is the ‘style’ of coping that characterizes the three personality types):

  • the reality of the Outsider  aka clarks.  a clark is simply (yeah, right) a person who developed a set of social skills, (did I already use the ‘yeah right!’?), that are best suited to living in a world where you are the Outsider. you know that you’re different from everyone (… everyone), and your primary drive is to learn whatever it was that you missed, because when you look around, everyone around you seem ‘to belong’ and you’re pretty sure it was something they were taught that you weren’t. You still have to make your way through life and while you know you have something special, (the things inside your head), you are totally certain that you need to keep it to yourself… just in case, …’cause you realize there’s a possibility that you’ve been cast out/into this world, for a reason
  • the life of the Predator aka scotts  your basic human! a Shelby cobra:  powerful, agile, no radio (so of course you should sing loud!), handles really well (hey, you look like you need a hug), funny (pull my finger!),  at times uncomfortable (he doesn’t want to understand!! but you, you’re different, you’re smarter than him). But the truth is, the person who grows up in the personal reality of the Predator acts first and reflects when he/she has a spare moment which is…. hardly ever!! Mercurial in temperament, loyal without being slavish, the scottian personal coping strategies reflect a world where life is to be lived, is too short for spending time inside one’s head reflecting and regretting… it is a strategy prone to errors in judgement for the consequences of impulsive action, you know, a natural leader!  (hot, too!  it’s that directness, the animal magnetism thing)
  • the world of the Herd Member aka rogers  ‘a certainty wrapped in tradition coated with confidence‘  rogers are like scotts in that there was no question as to the meaning of life and what they (as individuals) should be, rogers belong.   hey! you want to know something about rogers that they don’t know about themselves? When rogers write posts and blogs and such? while they appreciate comments and reactions, (to what they write), they don’t really care if they get one comment or 2 thousand.  why?  because rogers ‘are of the Herd’, this means that, in their reality, there is always a Herd (of like-minded/similar-in-a-way-beyond-the-need-to-understand other people…and things) and the Herd will read their post. rogers know this on a level beyond conscious knowing…. sort of like when you walk down a flight of stairs, you don’t need to think about whether ‘down is that way’…. it’s simply down.  so the mere act of writing ‘in public’ includes the reading of this writing (by the Herd). hence their inconceivable lack of concern for feedback!

gotta run!  (yeah, still haven’t got to the matter of ‘re-framing the questions of the World’  later!  I promise!)

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- (yeah, no! I think there’s a kitchen sink down there somewhere!)

June 20, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

1) I am ever grateful for belonging to, participating in, co-hostifying a bloghop that has such confidence in the integrity of its ‘theme’, i.e. the listing, describing and sharing events and occasions, people, animals and multiplayer sports that participants feel a sense of gratitude for, that the “Rules”,  at least when not secret or dance enhanced, are easy to break and, most importantly, flexible. This flexibility is totally contingent on having the proper attitude/intent/heart.

2) Well, I do watch some TV. But we have basic cable, so, for the most part, there isn’t a lot to watch… not counting, ‘How It’s Made’, ‘Castle’, ‘Parks and Recreation’.  That being said, when I do watch I have the remote ready to mute any and all commercials. There is a commercial that I’ll watch, ‘Hannah and Her Horse’. (For anyone reading this who is of a certain age, the phrase ‘I buy it for the articles’ may ring a bell.) But….but!  I will laugh and turn up the sound whenever this commercial comes on. (I was in the office yesterday, talking to an associate and I mentioned Hannah and was rewarded with a blank look and a, “I don’t know what you’re talking about“. So, I opened her office door and said to the room at large, ‘hey! any of you guys familiar with that commercial, ‘Hannah and her Horse‘  the reaction was, as expected, ‘yeah! great commercial!’ What is kind of funny though,  is that no one could remember what the commercial was selling.  Go figure. Seeing how I don’t know how the vid will ‘display’, I’ll post it at the bottom of the page.

3)  You know what day today is?* Saturday, but not TToT Live Saturday. TToT Live Saturday is only one week away!

4) Una and the Cows (see lead photo/video) (yes… this week, it would seem that we’re throwing out the rule book when it comes to where to place the video links!)

5)  How about an ambi-grateful Item for this week’s list? The 2 Mile Run?  love it! wouldn’t do without it… love the group  and hate it, it’s boring and repetitive (every morning, ‘cept Sundays!) and the Elapsed Time thing!! ayiiee up, down…. down a little,  ..way the hell back up again… if it weren’t for Kristi and Alex and Val, who, I know for a fact, are experiencing the same thing…well, maybe a few less mutters of ‘fricken running!!’  lol  but, the fact is, while most of you know what I mean about being ambi-grateful for the 2 Mile Run, my fellow  2 Milers know how I feel. (there’s that business of identification again!  such an amazing concept, no?)

6) shout out to the concept of the Wakefield Doctrine blog. By this I mean, the drive to write a blog on the principles, applications and appreciation of our little personality theory. I mention this because since the very first post I’ve gone through phases where I can’t write enough posts and, other times it’s like having dental work… admittedly necessary but certainly not enjoyable, even when the chair side assistant is totally hot. So lately I’ve been trying to find my ‘next take’ on the Doctrine. There’s an advantage to experience in this case, I’m not panicking and thinking ‘omg! I’m out of stuff to write…I’ll never write another post that people will want to read! when the hell is this thing gonna take off!! come on clark!! think of something!!’   well, maybe a little. But the simple fact of the matter is that I still enjoy writing and being read. (What’s genuinely discouraging and puzzling is my …capacity. no, wait, don’t laugh!  but the thing is, if I write a 2 Mile Run post first thing, (right after ‘running’ my 2 Miles)…. even though these posts are short and all… maybe 100 words… I some who then don’t feel like writing for the Doctrine.   (no, it’s not funny, zoe…. you and Dyanne can stop giggling).  My solution is: depending on when I wrote my last Doctrine post, I’ll hold off on writing the 2 Mile Run post until later in the day and simple focus on the Wakefield Doctrine. It is totally still enjoyable to hit publish at the start of the day. Then, no matter how bad my day my go, I can read the Comments and see the reactions of Readers. Worth the effort.

7) Hey!  Lets do a Poll!  We haven’t done one of those in a while!  And since the TToLive is only a week away, lets focus on the very basic Question:

8) I will be attending the TTohLive! next week if:

9) I will not be attending the TTohLive! next week because:

…yeah, right!  like anyone who is able to, would miss out on this event!  el.oh.el.

10) SR 1.3 (UK SR: 3.1)

 

 

 

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- “…dispose the Day.”*

June 13, 2015 By

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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1)  that I have a bloghop to be a (co)-host for/to, which conveys a certain sense of belonging and, at the same time, a responsibility to  participate each week

2)  … grateful for the..something about the TToT that makes it exceptional, especially the very basic yet often under-emphasized principle (of an exercise like a gratitude blog) that maintains that the primary, initial value is the act of engaging in the exercise…  it’s not just writing 10 items that would appear to demonstrate a thankful for  attitude towards (one’s) life… it is (for me), the fact of doing it anyway. (Something our esteemed Founder demonstrated even before this ‘hop got started more than 2 years ago

3)  hey!  new TToTeers!! have you heard about hypo-gratitude? (yeah, there is such a thing!)  There are times and there are things that may possess a quality that, while overall is a good thing, at the same time there is a feeling associated with it…. that you don’t feel so grateful for… ambivalence might be a better word to describe it…

4) 2 Mile Run   I am genuinely grateful that today is Saturday, ’cause we have tomorrow (Sunday) off!  We don’t have  to run on Sunday.

5) I would say ‘gratitude’ for my work… but this has been one of those weeks that the term hypo-gratitude was coined to describe.

6) BoSR/SBoR   Hey!!!  anyone new to the TToT out there?  ask about the Secret Book of Rules (aka Book of Secret Rules) it is simply one of the most fun thing about this here bloghop here… so ask already!

7) SGV  ( you might want to check in with Lizzi or zoe/ivy )

8) Hey!!!!! don’t forget  TToLive!!  June 27 2015  You will be one of the people who are there… (oh oh!  Feel a Kenneth Branagh  speech coming on….  TToT a ‘household word’ indeed, “…we happy few, we band of bloggers“)

…(update!  I realized that I should have included more information!  TToT will be Live on Saturday June 27 2015 starting 10:30 EDT and ending 11:30 EDT… further details available, i.e. dress code, menu, assigned topics etc  stay tuned!

https://wwwyoutube.com/watch?v=A-yZNMWFqvM

9)  sweat; sweatiness; excess temperatue  I’m totally grateful for it.  (You know that old saying, ‘hot enough for ya?’… my answer is always, “Why no, it is not (yet) hot enough for me.”

10) * footnote for subtitle   I figured I better put the explanation here rather than at the bottom, because you will have just finished the vid clip and that phrase is, of course, one of the very last lines

 

 

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘only 23 days left to summer*, stay up late and enjoy it’

May 30, 2015 By

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("you know, clark, if you would only put half the effort you put into these photos on our 'walks' you might find things going easier at work")

(“you know, clark, if you would only put half the effort that you put into these photos on our ‘walks’ , into your work, you might be surprised at how much easier and less stressful it will become. No, don’t say it, you’re right… you drive and I’ll look out the window, we do this part of the week…perfectly”)

(Here! lets try something different1 and take the 1st paragraph of the 3rd TToT Post and copy the initial 5 lines!!2 Won’t that be fun??!!3)

I feel like I should do better intros to these things – does that make sense? After all, we’re all about thankfulness in the midst of joy, adversity, the busyness and the sheer bloody BORINGNESS of everyday life, and yet so often I forget to mention, right at the start, how important it is to REMEMBER to be thankful. I’m thankful for thankfulness because it often saves me from becoming ridiculous, and if it doesn’t do that, then at least it reminds me to buck my ideas up and pay attention to the good things and good people in my life.
Here’s to thankfulness, in all its glitterysparklygoodness.

Here’s to getting it right this time, and making it ABUNDANTLY clear what’s going on.

1)  I (remain) grateful for inclusion in the company of the co-hostinae of the TToT. As the demands on my time increases on the work/real-life side, it’s heartening to know that there is someplace in the world that I can write a post like today’s and not be (overly) concerned at the response.

2) …speaking of Posts, I felt good about a couple of Posts (at the Doctrine) this week. Well, as good as I am capable of. (This last is not excessive self-criticism, simply a matter of watching my own approach to this blog change and develop over the years and seeing the way that, as we’re so fond of saying, I relate myself to it (the Wakefield Doctrine blog), is still, by and large, and on the whole a positive thing)

3) Work:  at once an item of gratitude and hypo-gratitude, it’s there, every day. Funny about work and blogs, as much as this Doctrine and blogs and people I know forms the center of my RL, I am constantly having to maintain a balance between work and blogging. I am not so good at balancing the time I devote to work and to non-work. Fortunately, what I do for work is never boring, always interesting (even when it’s horrifyingly stressful), but I find that the mindset that I have when writing blog posts is not the best mindset for accomplishing what I need to accomplish in the work world.

4) Phyllis and Una and the homeplace… it, though I often leave first thing in the morning and Phyllis returns last thing in the evening, is still a refuge

5)

(to follow up on the video clark’s claim of three items):

  • technology
  • canines
  • ego

9) the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules), even though everyone’s Post is usually interesting and relatable, the enthusiasm and creativity expressed when a participant in the TToT finds themselves needing the help that the BoSR/SBoR is there to provide… it’s just plain cool. It (the Book) is a manifestation of the unique sense of community that has become a part of this, ‘the blog that Lizzi created’….and there ain’t nothin out there like it.

10) speaking of the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules)  …lol  you know, I usually invoke SR 1.3 (English ed. 3.1) for Number 10.  But, I also want to give a ‘shootout’ to our Seven GVs… especially, you know who…

 

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* the days get longer here in the northern hemisphere until the 22nd of June and then, alas they proceed to get shorter and darker and more and more winter like (the quantity of light available to us in a given day being very much a part of what makes winter so….wintery)

1) hey Dyanne…zoe no giggling back there… it’s not like I’m always striving for the …’the road less traveled’ in these Posts! (yeah, sometimes it’s ‘the road not even hinted at in any map I ever saw!’)

2) semi arbitrary algorithm   except for the odd and hopefully prime numbers

3) well, yes, fun is a subjective experience… that sounds like a valid item for this list!! thank you to whoever out there thought that!4

4) of course you exist in my mind out there! and no, it’s not (overly) weird to think about what the Readers will be thinking while writing, we all do that….don’t we? Now, if it’s weird you want, try this idea: everyone lives in their own perfect world. (Why, yes, I am quite prepared to defend that assertion! But that’s for another Post! We are reaching the footnote-to-content-equilibrium-point, anymore and this Post simply won’t make any sense!)

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-the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘an 18 minute Post’ (why, no, I haven’t traded in my parentheseses for commas!)

May 28, 2015 By

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(Yeah, the subtitle?  I tried this once before, i.e. the ‘clock-is-ticking’ approach to Post writing, but given that I originally intended to write about the very early ‘Basics’ of the Doctrine, nothing wrong with trying it again, today.)

the Wakefield Doctrine is gender-neutral/the Wakefield Doctrine is culture-neutral

And…and! even though I found a perfectly good paragraph from 2009 that discusses this gender/culture neutrality, I’m gonna walk the straight and narrow and not copy-paste. One of the more interesting effects of writing on the same topic over successive years is how, in many circumstances, I will pick exactly the same words to describe a concept and, at other times, the concept I’m trying to explain has, itself, changed over time. This is, to no small degree, attributable to my own perception of the readership of this post (and blog). The early days were, well, early days. I spent most of my time thinking about how to get across the characteristics of the three worldviews. Hell, I spent a great deal of time trying to find the words to say, ‘We all exist in a reality that is, to a small but very real degree, personal and the very moment we are in can be quite different for:

  • the person across the counter
  • the classroom of students we are charged with teaching about history and calisthenics, hygiene and geometry
  • those others at the Registry of Motor Vehicles, where the lines are long and the patience seems to get sucked out of us the moment we see the people who are all writing and filling in their forms as fast as possible, the better to get into line ahead of the old person who seems happy to be standing anywhere and is surely going to take.too.long
  • us at the 2nd interview as we watch the Interviewer, hoping for some clues to the right answer, like we were trying to pick up a girl at the sorority mixer…only the fear of failure is not as great
  • the person on the other side of the bed
  • being at the gym, seeing the person that you didn’t think you had become like and definitely do not want to stay like, in the wall of mirrors in the exercise room

as in, ‘what do you mean, I shouldn’t put myself down all the time?’… ‘but everyone does care about how my day went‘ … ‘nahh! she thought it was funny! you’re always making things too serious!!’

I will now demonstrate my own development, (as a blog writer), and not apologies for not knowing all the above explanations and examples were not really necessary.

damn! look at the time!! (no, really!  look at the time… wherever you are at this very moment, this is what we mean by ‘your worldview’.)
The Wakefield Doctrine is all about our efforts to accept that ‘the other person’ lives in one of three characteristic personal realities and that, if we are successful in inferring which one that is, we will be in a position to know much more about ‘the other person’ than we have any right to know. (the Wakefield Doctrine) charges us with understanding how the other person is relating themselves to the world around them…as (does) an Outsider(clark) or a Predator(scott) or a Herd Member(roger). When we understand this, we become capable of seeing the world as the other person experiences it.

Out of time! shit!  (you know how I promised to not reprint an old explanation of gender and cultural neutrality? well, did I mention that I was a clark?  and, how, sometimes for us, things change? hell, a lot of times, for us, things change. So… I’m gonna leave the reprint section in block quotes.  If it doesn’t make a lot of sense, let me know and I’ll clarify.

…we would make a point of stating that the Wakefield Doctrine is both gender and culture neutral. What we meant is that it does not matter what part of the world you are from, it’s the nature and character of your own worldview that matters (personality type-wise). We contend that the worldviews that are the basis of the three personality types are inseparable from the human condition. Further, while standards of behavior may vary from one culture to another, a person who grows up, develops and otherwise matures living in a reality best characterized as the world of Predator and Prey, will be: aggressive, inquisitive, quick to react, action-oriented with a minimum of self-reflection. That reality exists in Zimbabwe and New Auckland as well as Mansfield Ohio. Not only that, but the Doctrine maintains that gender prescribes the capacity/ability (of a person to act a certain way), not their reasons for acting. A female growing up, developing and otherwise maturing in a world where she is the Outsider, will still develop: an insatiable desire to learn new information and facts, be drawn to the fringes of whatever culture she happens to be in and have an abundance of what is referred to as intuition, all that she is permitted (by physiology as well local culture) in order to live her life.

btw. the leap from Outsider to Predator is, somehow shorter than the leap from Outsider to Herd Member. This observation appears, at first blush, insightful and therefore, promising of some value, but that’s the just a clark talking.

 

 

…so Christine wonders at the statement: “scotts love loud noises”  Remind me, it’s about time we revisited the wild kingdom, I should write a Post strictly about our scottian friends.

 

although I would love to have the talent and the skills to come up with six sentences that relate to the word or concept or quality of ‘rush’, that doesn’t mean that you, the reader will not enjoy reading those who do. so get on over to zoe’s (tbpkaI) and read them things. (Yeah, I am counting my sentences, and totally want to this come out in six sentences. but… alas)

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