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…in with the few, the blue the new!!! that’s it! -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘rise and find, binyons!’

January 1, 2015 By clarkscottroger

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sure, it’s not Sunday morning, but this is my boy Edward H

…trying a few things different with today, ( Anno Dominoes 2015), starting with conveying my hopes and wishes of the best of all possible timelines for the next 12 months to all of the Readers, fans, followers, DownSprings and friends of the Wakefield Doctrine.

Since I have not yet reduced the next year of my life into a concise, reasonable and surely-will-come-to-pass-provided-I-think-it-through-carefully-enough-and-pick-the-perfect-set-of-words, including bulletpoints (bulletpoints motto: ‘hey! we’re the scotts of ….of word arrangement!‘)( hey!!) and, maybe, block quoted sections of referential information ( I’d don’t really need to do a ‘block quote motto here, do I? yeah, I know that you know what I was going to do).

There! I just stumbled upon the theme of the Post and only 106 words in….!

The coming year here at the Wakefield Doctrine….

learn more about the nature and, more importantly, the effect of secondary (and tertiary) aspects
remember how to be outrageously funny…. yes, you’re correct! bring back my scottian aspect in writing (at least in some of these Posts)
appreciate the level of understanding of this here Doctrine here being enjoyed by the Readers, and write Posts accordingly
despite that (the previous point), I will get back to the basic goal of this blog: to present the Wakefield Doctrine in such manner that anyone reading it the for the first time can understand, appreciate and apply the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine and get an immediate benefit, even if it is only to have a little fun, that very same day!
apply the principles to my own context

OK… short and to the point, (come on!! scottian aspect!)

(I’ll return later in the day and add to this post, as one of my projects for this year is to see if I can increase my flexibility in how I go about writing Posts. To date, it’s pretty much been: one sitting, early morning. It would be useful to be able to write at different times of the day and, in more than ‘one take’.)

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Reflection on 2014 -the Wakefield Doctrine- enirtcoD dleifekaW eht- 4102 no noitcelfeR*

December 31, 2014 By clarkscottroger

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2014. the Year of the clarks

that’s it. to elaborate on that statement would be to indulge in a clarklike need, (which everyone knows, is not a choice of the individual, rather it is the character of their reality), to understand. Which is is kinda ironic, as the word, ‘understanding’ has the sense of finality to it ( “ah! I finally understand!” “I just don’t understand you!” “Why can’t you understand, I’ve changed!“) and clarks are many things, ‘final and established’ are not on the list of the things (that)…. (clarks) are. So, I will leave it to you to enjoy today’s Post in a manner that is the only manner available to you, according to your predominant worldview, like it could be any other way:

clarks: ” but…. but!! granted I had better days and less horrible days this year… oh wait, I see what you mean yeah sure cool maybe no, you’re right, this is not the time or place…”
scotts: ” you fricken’ clarks! of course it was your year, you had us around way more than ever (and, for the record, even though I know that you can’t help with the running yourself down (and running into doors in your haste to make up for something)…. cut it out.”
rogers: ” well, it’s been…. no wait, what the heck (… lol, you’re welcome)… just what the heck have you started with this rogers with secondary clarks…. but thanks for balancing, or, at least, trying to balance the negative and the positive… even though the clark worldview is, somehow nearly un-workable in terms of quantifiable correctness, it’s a start”

screw it! here I am, worrying about leaving anyone out, if I went with the ‘mention-the-high-points-of-the-year-past ( the fact of the matter, for all of my living inside my head, the things that happened in 2014 that are memorable and significant in my life, issued from people, both real and virtual), but that would be so… clarklike…. so, the only fair way to approach this is to see what comes out of the next 7 minutes of typing….

lol…. er, I remember…. wait, lets get a category (honestly! this never happened before!… no, don’t tell me it happens to nearly all bloggers at one time or another) the

2014 brought about: seeing the benefit of knowing other clarks, I wouldn’t call it a community, we clarks are way too …clarklike for that! but I am convinced that my knowing other clarks (as clarks) has improved my life, Lizzi’s efforts to create a community totally manifested this year at the TToT, Cynthia (tbfkac**) graduated er…graduate school lol, and continues to show us what/how clarks can do to improve their own lives (and by doing so, the lives of others), Christine for demonstrating the peculiarly fun relationship between clarks and scotts, Kristi (K2), not only for participating as a roger, but demonstrating the value and impact of secondary aspects, zoe (and her little dog, too! not only for her technical insight into personality and behavior, but her demonstration (of the benefits) that derive from living by the adage ‘to thine ownself be true’…she does that, in very trying circumstances, better than most….and she has a secondary rogerian aspect, but we’re not holding that against her, are we?
(man! try to deliberately do a stream of consciousness and all of sudden, I go all Roberts Rules of Order*** on this here Post here)

…. Kristi (not only for being a good person, but being a clark who takes it to the world… we all ‘helped’ her get ready for that ‘Voices of’ thing last spring…. and she did an amazing job, despite that!)… and Tucker, for being a person who is growing up in front of us… no, seriously! start blog: small child, write this post: a friend of mine’s kid (ok not so good at describing the subtle changes in childhood)….

“…continue Hey I’ll fight tunee securely on the edge hello ok so maybe this dictate as a matter means way of writing a blog postwill require practice I will continue while driving my car stock stop”

back at the keyboard. The above, of course, is me playing with toys, in this case, the dictate-into-the-tablet-as-a-way-to-write-Posts… a thanks to Denise who over the past year has been constantly suggesting that I write down whatever random thoughts I might have while driving, she also deserves mention as a clark-doing-amazing things…. hey! that’s what this Post is all about!

2014 has illustrated the huge potential of a new kind of context, one that is of the real world, with scotts and rogers but with the emphasis on …not supportive (that’s not possible if you’re an Outsider) not really nurturing ( ’cause that’s what all clarks try to do, except with everyone other than themselves)…. identification yeah, that’s the touchstone word for this year past, for this inter-something of clarks, along with scotts and rogers!

Instead of needing (from the other person) and without demanding (from the people around us), if I simply identify with you, I gain without taking and (somehow) as a result, can give without being indebted…

sure! ‘2014 the year of identification’ among clarks and scotts and rogers, because, as we know from the Wakefield Doctrine: we live our lives in one personal reality (the predominant worldview of the Outsider/clark, the Predator/scott or the Herd Member/roger), but we always retain the potential to see the world as the other two are experiencing it.

(* yes, I did use that reversing site on a TToT Post in the Year past… (a point to your clarklike nature for noticing it, a point to your rogerian nature if it seems important to let everyone know it)

** tbfkac: the blogger formerly known as Cyndi

*** no, that doesn’t make sense, but I smiled as I typed it, so it fricken stays

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the Wakefield Doctrine ‘elevator pitch version: 12.0.24.14’

December 24, 2014 By clarkscottroger

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(As I wrote the title today, and thought to myself, ‘yeah, a reasonable theme for a Wednesdaypost’, a second thought intruded, like the overly-aggressive dance partner, insisting on ‘just-one-more-this-is-a-great-song-to… This second thought, like the unwelcome guest at the party who tries to either get invited in, failing that is satisfying with the prospect of spoiling the evening for everyone else, echoes the doubt that is sub-text to many of the efforts here at the Doctrine blog, with the faux-friendly, ‘that’s the way to get taken seriously! call what you do here a ‘writing exercise’, an elevator pitch’. That’ll do it.)

the Wakefield Doctrine? it’s a way of looking at your life and the people in it. Not quite a personality theory, per se, this thing is more a perspective on why we do the things that we do. A way of posing the question, ‘of all the possible responses to this situation, out of the near-countless options open to me, why would I choose to act this way’. The Wakefield Doctrine would have us ask, ‘why would I choose to feel this way’, given that how we feel about our lives can be more critical to living a satisfying life, than what we think to ourselves (though, arguably this two can be one and nearly the same). Properly applied, the Doctrine will drastically reduce the number of times you find yourself saying, ‘Why on earth would they go and do/say something like that?! I really thought I knew them better.’

There are, 3 personality types that (can) account for everyone in the world. The three: clarks, scotts and rogers:

clarks grow up and develop in the world of the Outsider, for clarks, the world (and everyone and everything except for them) is ‘out there’ and they (the clarks) are in this place that they find themselves in, quietly and, at times, desperately, trying to blend in, to pass as ‘a real person’… but before you begin to feel sorry for them, know that clarks touch the world that is not, and in doing so, have the gift of genuine creativity and true (albeit a touch self-destructive) selflessness
scotts live today the life of the Predator… while this word/label/type has connotations of hostile aggressiveness, voraciousness and truly basic appetites, these qualities of life can only be maintained by living in and of the present… not dozing away the day in a dream of future pleasure or the memory of pleasure already felt, of the three personality types, scotts live their lives by embracing the moment…
rogers are Members of the Herd and therefore know that the world is quantifiable and, while accepting that life is not always fair or good, kind or just, seek to discover the Right/Correct way to demonstrate this fundamental fact… it’s been said that a roger knows that there is a Right Way and a million Wrong Ways to act and they hope only to be able to demonstrate the Right Way rather than be content to merely point out the wrong

Become familiar with the characteristics of these there worldviews (personal realities) and you will be ready to use the Wakefield Doctrine in your day today. How? Simple. Observe the behavior of the person (or yourself) and ask the question, ‘how are they relating themselves to the world around them?’. The successful application of our little personality theory is to able to ‘see the world as the other person is experiencing it’. Do this and you will know more about the other person (and about yourself) than you have any right to know. You will be able to anticipate their actions and decisions, choices and reactions to all sorts of the everyday situations that we all find ourselves in…. well, everyday!

In case any of you are thinking, ‘well, this is a fine theory and I’m sure to study it, but I’m on a coffee break at work! I want to have some quiet fun!’, I say…. alright, here’s some Christmas music (along with some Doctrine observationing):

…sure, I enjoy the normal things about the Christmas season! As a matter of fact, Phyllis just came into the room to ask if I knew ‘the name of that song that everyone likes’ (New Readers? Phyllis is a roger)… I assumed that I knew the answer and so I figured out what she meant and gave her the ‘half-correct’ answer (New Readers? I’m a clark). The song is from Handel’s Messiah. I went and found a youtube of it from a performance by the Royal Choral Society. As I watched, I began to see things… odd things. The (female) lead singer (at 0:16 into the vid)… and then, the young girl who wishes she were somewhere else ( at 0:22 ) then! (and I just saw it as I went through the vid looking for the next scene…the women in the center (of both rows), one with short brown hair, the woman behind her with long blond hair… holy smoke, rogers on amphetamines?) ( at 0:30 )…now watch the two singers in the back row… what the hell?! their friends, were, like, up in the audience waving at them? ( at 0:32 ) why are we seeing only the backs of the people who are clearly lead singers? ( at 0:48 ). ( at 1:16 ) sure are a lot of rogers, but those two, one in the row behind the other….one with a crew cut, both with glasses). It’s safe to say that, among the men in this chorus, most are rogers with a handful of clarks (the ones with the slightly pained look on their faces)…. here!! ( at 1:44 ) one of each!! we don’t have to tell you which is which, do we? ( at 2:36 ) …how the hell did they get Angela Merkel to sit in?!! ) I find it interesting to note that there’s a much higher percentage of clarklike females in the chorus compared to the number of than male-like clarks! )

Here you go:

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-the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘of popularity, self-promotion and ‘the everything Rule’

December 19, 2014 By clarkscottroger

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A little ‘light reading’ for this, the most lightest of Workweek Days…. Friday (courtesy of the gang down at the Wakefield Doctrine)

The question is this:

can a person become popular without the talent/capacity/capability to effectively self-promote themselves
(“...what does this have to do with personality types, Friday and, since we’re asking extra credit questions, what the hell is ‘the everything Rule'”)

Great question!

Allow me to answer the Second (and totally un-authorized) question first: the ‘everything Rule’ (short for: ‘everyone does everything, at one time or another’) is a reminder, to those of us who would use the Wakefield Doctrine as intended, (and not as way to figure out our kids, get our husbands to stop with the constant….or get lucky in study hall), to remember that the Doctrine is predicated on the notion that we all live in one of three worldviews. For example: I grew up (and developed my skills and strategies and interpersonal coping mechanisms) in the worldview of ‘the Outsider’, as a result, if you were to observe me today at work, you would come to the conclusion: ‘hey! he’s got one of those clark personality types that the Doctrine warned us about.’ One of the cool things about the Doctrine, is that we do not need to know about traits and tastes, habits, hobbies and interests in order to assign a personality type. Instead, we observe a person’s everyday behavior and infer how that person is ‘relating themselves to the world around them’.
The goal is to determine which of the three worldviews one is living in, (the Outsider/clark or the Predator/scott or the Herd Member/roger), once I know this, I know more about you than you know about yourself. All without a single survey question! Cool, non?
….anyway, the ‘everything Rule’ simply states that, while we all live in the same common world, i.e. the world of Nightly News with Brian Williams/the world of 19 year old Checkout girls who look at you and even answer a direct question without ever, for a second, actually seeing you/the world of surly car mechanics/the world of oppressively kind in-laws/the world of hopes that exceed any possibility of being realized yet cannot be let go of because what would your life be then/the world of the internet and websites that are flashy and full of banal, insipid advice on how to live life without the slightest hint of an original idea to distinguish it from countless other popular websites… our personal experience is…well, personal. Of course, this being the Doctrine, we take that common sense observation and say that the very reality that I live out today in is different, that although we clarks live in the same world with scotts and have the same things happen to us as do rogers, how these things ‘manifest’ is different for each of us.

manifest: (ex.) Christine and Lizzi and Kristi are riding in a car one night after going to see a really great show. Suddenly the highway behind them is filled with flashing blue light… (common enough experience, right?) . The experience that unfolds for each of our three friends is going to be different. No, really. How this encounter manifests is distinguishably different for each of them, from start to finish. The experience will manifest according to the character and nature of their respective worldviews.

damn! off on a tangent again.

popularity:

for clarks it does not exist, it is knowable and observable, but it does not exist
for scotts is a fact of life, it is useable and enjoyable, but, in the final analysis, of no account
for rogers it is necessary, essential and expected…like saying to a person, ‘hey beautiful child you have there, isn’t the gravitational attraction of the Earth great today?’

Qucik response Monday! -the Wakefield Doctrine- (‘yeah, I do start every day with the Wakefield Doctrine on my mind’)

December 15, 2014 By clarkscottroger

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Drexel

Two purposes for today’s brief Post:

to follow-up on an Item in Saturday’s Post that elicited several very good Comments
to see if writing a Post, (with a certain deliberate intent) can serve as a way to focus my outlook on the current day
because it’s fun and if I’m ever going to learn to do this writing thing as good as them folks I read, I guess I better practice, right?

The Item:

as a clark, I find that when I’m walking to the mailbox in the rain without a coat or in December without shoes, it helps me realize how important it is to appreciate what is. That I am not in a hospital bed, or in a wheel chair or in the house because I am not able to leave…. I find that I ‘enjoy’ the harsh feelings of the 30 degree morning in part when I can know that it is a very real possibility that someday I will be in a place where I look back on (these days) and wish to anything that I might again have the opportunity to do something as silly as walk to the mailbox without shoes or a coat in December.

The Comment:

Knowing cold does make one appreciate warm more. Maybe I need to walk to the mailbox in bare feet so I can appreciate the heat of the sidewalk in summer time? (Kristi)

It is an interesting way to remain grateful for what you do have and an interesting way to create memories to look back on. That walking in the cold to the mailbox. Maybe a little masochistic . (Fangboner)

It may seem odd for me to say that I agree with the first and (feel) the need to explain as to the second Comment.

This exercise (the walking, not the writing) is about leverage. In the world(view) of a clark there is a form of disconnect between the rational and the emotional. Not an absence of emotions and not a control of the rational. Both are quite there, simply not integrated…. wait, that’s getting too er clarklike.
Try this: clarks think, scotts act and rogers feel. yeah! that’s better.
The world that I woke up to this morning is a world in which the rational is the medium of expression for me. While for, say Kristi, the world is, among other things, a world in which emotions are the medium (and, possibly the message). Fine. Both equal, not being compared as which is better, they just are that way.

You know that thing about how there is one predominant worldview and we still have ‘the other two’ within? This is what the barefoot thing is really about. I know that I ‘live in my head’. I know that while that is the way it is, it is not necessarily the best way to live. So, while I might know this, I ask myself how do I alter it? no, learning more about how to live is not the answer! I’m already learning the shit out of things. Anyone? Dyanne? ‘Stop thinking and just live!!!’ yes, that is one answer. Kristi in her Comment actually gives us the answer, in her choice of words. no, not the ‘knowing’ part. the ‘appreciating’ part. the emotional aspect of the experience.

(For a clark) to do what we’re talking about, requires emotional leverage. To find a way to generate feelings(emotions) in concert with knowing something.
I get that I should appreciate the day I have today. I understand that I should not act like I’m immortal today*. I know that the littlest thing I do and say and encounter and share today, may very well be a thing of priceless value to me someday. I know that there will come a time, when I’m on my deathbed and I (may) have a moment to reflect on my life. A life spent inside my head is not a bad thing, but it is not as good as a life spent thinking and acting and feeling.

ya know?

Thanks to Kristi and Fangboner and the others what Commented at the Doctrine this weekend.

* a reference to something that Castanada had his character don Juan Mateus say about living in the present and making decisions not as if I would get a chance to do it again, rather to act as if it were my only chance to act. At least that’s how I read it.