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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘if everyday of the week were Tuesday, there would be no wars’

March 17, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

No! I’m actually serious. Consider your day right now. You’re over the strain (for some the assault) of the beginning of the workweek… you’ve given up your hold on the weekend. You have your job, you have your classes, you have the home-to-make tasks… and, maybe for just today, you kinda think you can handle it! Hell, there’s a good chance that you’ll find yourself, maybe not enjoying it, but at very least, having a good feeling about what you do during the workweek. And the people you work sit by side with/ sit in class alongside/ talk to and instruct and raise into adults they’re not so bad today, are they? We all have workweek days and we all have weekends (maybe minutes at a time, maybe a lifetime’s worth), but Tuesdays are the day of the workweek and when what we do (during our workweek) looks and feels and gives us the most of what we thought it would when we started out, new in the job/first day of class/infant brought home to build the family…

So, if the world could just make itself see everyday as a Tuesday, there would be no wars.

What does this have to do with the Wakefield Doctrine? a lot…

(I have to interrupt myself, this and the previous Post this week, were started at my usual time of day for writing Posts, i.e. 5:30 am, however, today I thought to try to complete the Post(s) in the later morning. It is now 5:30 pm so I need to wrap it up. What’s interesting is that when I write about a Day, it is the day (yet) to come, not the day that has passed… I suspect I may need to work on my scheduling.)

… a lot and nothing. The Wakefield Doctrine is not an answer, it is, however a very cool set of questions. And, even as a set of cool questions, it is not the implied answers, (to these cool questions), that is the value of learning this thing of ours, it is the process of asking… that is where the benefit of the Wakefield Doctrine can be found. Simply put: every time I use/play with/look through/use as a inter-personal Cliff Notes/ or otherwise use the perspective that the Doctrine offers, I learn something about myself. There’s an old saying, ‘every window is a mirror’. To use the Wakefield Doctrine is to accept yourself, (the good qualities and the ‘oh-no-way-I’m-like-that‘ parts); when you set out to see the world as the other person is experiencing it, you will run into yourself. But that’s a good thing….not always comfortable, but good.

what time is it?

…oh! oh! vidchat this Friday…. we usually start at 7:00 pm (which as we all know is ‘are you still awake British Meantime’) but if anyone knows that they will not be able to join us until a later hour… lets us know! Adjustments and accommodations will be made.

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the Wakefield Doctrine ‘writer’s… (what’s that term…..) er ‘blck’ block!! writer’s block Monday!’

March 9, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

(bit of writer’s block this morning, however, I find that my day will be better if I manage to post something that I will find myself not minding reading, later in the day today)

How much of a block, you ask? So much so that when I tell myself to simply start with a basic description of the Doctrine, I can’t find the words to start. damn! That is one mighty writers block! Fortunately for all of us, I’m a clark and, as we all know, or should know, of the three personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine, clarks have the largest ego.

…hey!! I just discovered what a writer’s block really is!* It isn’t that I don’t have anything to write, or say or describe or explore in this Post. It’s that there’s a part of me that thinks everything/anything I write sucks. but…but! here is the interesting part… I know that much of what I write is possibly of a suckacious nature, that is nothing new. What seems to be happening is that I am listening to that part of my mind. So, to recapitulate, I have writers block because I would rather have writers block than face the possible negative feedback of writing a Post that I’m telling myself is so bad that I shouldn’t bother, that I should simply wait until this, ‘writers block’ passes.

fuck that.

(unfortunately or not), I have only so much time in the morning to devote to the blog. otherwise I am thinking I could write a few hundred words on the tendency of clarks to maintain our worldviews by submitting to the negative pressure from within, as opposed to the negative pressure without. Not that there’s not a lot of negative pressure from the world that all the clarks of the world are walking into this fine Monday morning. There is. A lot of negative shit that we (clarks) know is a part of being who and what we are… but this morning, I will offer to any clarks reading this the following observation:

as clarks we are driven by the need to learn what we believe (correctly or not) that everyone else knows, this knowledge confers on all the people around us (or, at very least, on the scotts and rogers) the ….what’s that cool legal phrase often found in a formal lease, ‘the right to quiet enjoyment‘ of (their) lives. As clarks, we observe people going about their lives without the burden of wondering if they have that right. As clarks, we assume that we do not. We don’t necessarily assume that we cannot, or should not have that right, we just know that we don’t and spend our lives looking for a way to know what everyone else knows.

Well, my time this morning is up. Thank you for reading. I believe that my writer’s block has scurried back under the bed, to wait for the next morning that I step into the day too tentatively, leaving myself open and vulnerable to it’s toothy kiss.

…lol well, there is something to be said for ‘writer’s block’

scotts? rogers? (if you’re new to the Doctrine, please be assured that no clarks were permanently injured in the course of writing this Post. all insights were performed by a trained professional. do not attempt this at home.

* at least what it really is, for a clark

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Tun -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘stress is actually fear, …dressed up like a really hot woman (or) man*’

February 10, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

ok quick and short little Post. the asterix in the subtitle? (ahem)

‘the Wakefield Doctrine is both gender and culture neutral. the personality types are simply the best effort on the part of (an) individual to contend with a personal reality’ that is (best) characterized as:

the worldview of ‘the Outsider’ (clarks): the predominate feature of this individual’s reality is the, ‘apart from’ that imbues the life of the clark. often confused (willfully or not) with being different, odd, introverted, shy, anti-social or funny-like-that, apartness is them, not us. (of the three personality types), only clarks know that ‘they are here and the world is out there’. it is a common misperception (when encountering a clark) to mistake being (their) ‘apart from’ as ‘being different, shy, antisocial, artistic, eccentric, just-don’t-want-to-be-like-everyone-else’
the world of the ‘the Predator’ (scotts) immediately identifiable by their presence, scotts have the quality of certainty and decisiveness that make them most likely picked as the leader. they have simply learned the advantage of impatience…. the most common mistake people make about scotts is that ‘they should slow down just a little and maybe people will understand them and they won’t keep getting into trouble with (the principle, the shift manager, the cops, the parish priest or their best friend’s mother)’
the life of ‘the Herd Member’ (rogers) they’re everywhere, the majority of (any given) population. the most common error people make about rogers is that they are ‘taking things personally, when they are taking things personally’… they are, (one of the most tried and true tests to determine a rogerian personality type is to count the personal pronouns in their speech,) but that’s not the point! rogers,live in an chronological world, where B always follows A … unless there was a time when A followed B and then, depending on the current situation, that may be the way it’s always been.

… so, the point of our bullet-pointed insight: as you go through your day today, observe the other person, infer ‘how they are relating themselves to the world around them’, you will then know their predominant worldview and will be in a position to (be able) to see the world as the other person is experiencing it.

Why? Why go through all this? Because it is (for many of us) better to know than to not know, because everyone’s life has people in it…important people/loved one/barely-tolerated-co-workers/necessary people/obligatory people… they (or rather our interaction with them) is what makes up our day. Now if you are a person who always: gets along with everyone/never has a problem dealing with people/likes and respects everyone… then you can skip this section and go down and listen to our bonus music video …there you go, just click on the red arrow (from an album that disappeared from the shelves before you were born)

… everyone/anyone else? back to the title. stress: it happens, it is the fear that we will not meet the demands of the world around us, (as best we understand it… the world and the demands!) and, yet, when you look closer at this fear, it reflects a desire, a hope, a need within to be in harmony with our surroundings… not to submit to a greater force, as much as to find the common measure in those we interact with…

damn! look at the time!! got to go find the common measure out there

(yeah, a bit of a throwback to early blog days, I really enjoyed this song, so here ya go)

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Mu -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘the Weekend in (re)-View: there were encouraged smiles in Outerville’

February 9, 2015 By clarkscottroger

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…I thought I had the ‘hook’ for today’s Post earlier this morning, around 6:10am. My computer froze up and the Error Message appeared:

Hit continue to ‘Force Quit’ the Application

damn! doesn’t that describe what happens to clarks so often? (Especially on Mondays because we’ve just had two days during which time we could pick the people we were with), we learn and remember that part of what the Wakefield Doctrine offers is, as they so cleverly put it, ‘to self-improve oneself’. But this weekend was encouraging. A good TToT and a good Call-in discussion. So today, I will go out into the world (see, I told you I was a clark!) and know that there are other clarks struggling with the semi-self-imposed status of Outsider and, simply by virtue of this (identification with other clarks), I will more frequently remember to not forget that I have a choice in how I think and act and feel.

Had a great Saturday Night Call-in this weekend. Cynthia, Denise and the Progenitor roger! Topic: how do clarks best deal with the roger in the workplace (or to be a bit more accurate: how to manage a rogerian-dominated workplace). Very fun and informative and entertaining and everything you could want from a phone conversation.

So what do we clarks know now that we did not know, say, 3 or 4 years ago? For starters, that there is a direct (but not directly appreciable) benefit from associating with clarks in a context that encourages identification (with/for the other clarks). We also better understand our selfs and while this is not, in and of itself, a benefit, it is the sharing of this (increased) self-understanding that makes the identificationing with other clarks so effective.

But enough about clarks. how about scotts and rogers? What are they getting out of this thing that they could not get elsewhere? Again, for starters:

an increased sense of awareness of that which bothers scotts (on a pre-conscious level), with a better acceptance that it is not a flaw (this, by virtue of the scott’s heightened clarklike aspect)

(for the rogers) a sense of an increased-enthusiasm-for-nothing-that-is-identifiable, yet not perceived as threatening

Feet notes:

so: Denise and Cyn-thee-uh and the Progenitor roger were all on the Wakefield Doctrine Saturday Night Call-in this Saturday past. It was a splendid time, the high points, syllabus-istically speaking the insight nodes were as follows:

topic: how do clarks manage (themselves or others) in the workplace with an emphasis on the difficulties of dealing with rogerian co-workers

agreed: the negative, ‘lashing out’ of a roger is worse than being nipped by a scott or ignored by a clark

agreed: that the reason for this ‘over-reaction’ by the clark is their emotional investment (conscious or otherwise)

agree: the tendency is for clarks to take (false) responsibility for the actions, reactions and consequences involving others

agree: rogers (and scotts) think they know what it is it fear (the negative) reactions of others, but they are wrong

agree: rogers do not accept admission of ineptitude, no member of the Herd would ever consider this

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘#hashtag… that’s how you use it, correct? …didn’t think so’

February 7, 2015 By clarkscottroger

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(your weekly cow)

‘Night Cows’ (apologies to Edward Hopper…or his estate…or fans or whatever)

1) With only a couple of properly placed participles, the statement: ‘appreciating a point in my future allows me to experience today, as does a point in my past, relative to today, can evoke a wistful sense of missed opportunity’

3) You know, when Item 1 popped into my head, I really liked it and raced to a computer, in order to write it down, lest I forget. Coming back to it this morning, (I wrote it down on, Wednesday…Thursday), I was less enthused. The problem is bifold. I enjoy this writing challenge each weekend (… yes, you’re right, ‘the-person-who-caught-the-implication-in-that-choice-of-words’ …probably zoe and lizzi, I’ll bet Christine and Dyanne did as well, but they’re too fond of the Doctrine to say anything that might sound cruel…. pretty sure Kristi noticed, but too kind to call me on that) and I get something from the forced ‘reflectionary insight’** that comes from having to write about myself, (as opposed to the Wakefield Doctrine). But here I am, in no small part, because I am the sole co-hostinimus, and it’s the correct thing to do.

4) So lets go with: I’m grateful that I am not (yet) sick with the flu as is Phyllis, who has the flu this week. I did get to have the fun, (this is really a clarklike thing), of being able to suggest something that would help her feel less bad. Phyllis somehow was not aware of the amazing properties of ginger ale! no, seriously! After my holding forth on the palliative qualities of Canada Dry, she relented so I went to the Stop n Shop at some early morning hour and brought some home. A measure of her inexperience with this particular home remedy, she tried to drink it at room temperature!! “non! non! non!!! on ne boit tout simplement pas ce à quoi que ce soit plus de 17 degrés centigrades … !!” Well, I’m pleased to report that it helped.

5) hey! I got one and actual Item of gratitude! In the course of work this week, access was needed to a house, the client was not local and their local resources were not available until too late, so I got a shovel and dug out the porch (and part of the driveway) myself. (Given the demographic of my industry), it should come as no surprise that the mere suggestion that I was considering doing this, was met with, ‘wait, your absentee client will make the arrangements eventually. you can’t do that!‘ (of course that last part?… like that convinced me to change my plan lol ). In any event, I shoveled. Afterwards someone said, ‘are you out of your mind? it’s 17 degrees‘ and I remembered the, (fortunately few), times that I’ve been in the hospital and replied, ‘well, I know for a fact that there’ve been times in my life when I would have given anything to be out there in the snow, (which I hate), shoveling (which I love) instead of where I was, ya know?’ I think they understood. (I reminded myself immediately to leave the metaphysics out of the workplace, luckily the person I was speaking to was a clark… in fact, rather than let the silence that followed my statement go on too long, I challenged him to admit to knowing what I meant. (Still need to leave the weird(er) stuff at home or at the Doctrine or here…)

6) the above, weird as it may sound, has me sneaking up on feeling grateful… that I can remember to think, to feel a certain way, about how I’m getting through a given day. Thats sorta like gratitude, right?

7) hat!! Wakefield Doctrine hats (“…for your damn head“)…. we have a hat, (one of the last remaining in my current supply), going out to a Reader of the Wakefield Doctrine!! very fun! yes, I am totally going to try and make a mystery of it…

8) hypo-grateful for (allowing myself) to not keep up with technology. The demands of my work are becoming such, that I have had to go and access and (try) to learn to use a lot of the multi-platform…. stuff. There are incredible tools to coordinate what I do and avoid duplication of effort and, most of all, avoid the dreaded… ‘forgetting the one thing that totally had to be done today’.

9) I am grateful to have the opportunity to write today’s Post and all…

10) 1.3 (you knew I was going for that, didn’t you!)

2) … ok with that for a start, my better side* is yelling, ‘this time you’ve gone too far!! there’s weird and there’s wtf?!’

* better side? (oh that better side… I started out thinking that I would include either: a) a Poll or 2) a video or B) a mixed up List order. Fortunately for you, I am at the bottom of the list… (to enhance your feeling of gratitude lets just say that I was thinking…’hey suppose I figure out this twitter thing that everyone thinks is so good and finish the post by twitter!’ not this week, at any rate.

** faux rogerian expression