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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “VOTRE INVITATION A LA CONFERENCE” (‘is there a translator in the house?’)

October 27, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Well, sure! I could go to ‘the google’ and I could also take a wild guess as to what this cryptic phrase/Post sub-title, (found in the subject line of a spamish email), means in English. Or….or! I could use this as an old school Doctrine jumping off point for a quick ‘n quirky Tuesday Post. Which would you prefer?

Thank you. I appreciate your vote of confidence and adventurous nature.

So who besides me, looking at the photo above (origin: somewhere in the googlesphere a few years ago, totally don’t remember my search parameters) sees, at first a happy tourist and …a split, sure-if-you-have-a-mind-to-imagine-things-differently, second later a terrified woman being kidnapped by two men who seemed so Old World charming, sitting at a table in the picaresque* outdoor café …and why is that guy on the left hiding his right hand?!? You can almost hear her screams.

So what’s this got to do with the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)? You mean, the personality theory that not only is a fun way to better understand the people in your life, but the Wakefield Doctrine that offers such an insight into how the other person is experiencing the world that you will know what they’re about to do, even before they! That Wakefield Doctrine?

Well, I guess that pretty much says it all.

No! wait! there is one other thing about the Wakefield Doctrine that’s different from all the other personality theory, self-help programs and “Win the affections of that Girl/Guy Everytime” social coaching system! Well, actually there are two things. ….and one thing before I tell you about the two things. But, lets not make this too easy. First the second thing:

‘the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them’.

(This should be self-explanatory, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned in the past 5 years of writing this blog, it’s that the things I think are clear, usually aren’t and the parts of the Doctrine that I’m certain is going to be tough to understand, you people get right away.) In any event, this admonition is at the heart of the Doctrine and is a good example of why it’s such a useful tool for understanding the people in our lives. Everything you learn about people through the use of the Wakefield Doctrine, has value, bearing, meaning and use for you, and only you. It (this added insight and understanding) is helpful in understanding how you are (or should) (or might) relate yourself to this other person (or spouse) (or boss) (or that girl in history class) (or that guy who might or might not be a client, but manages to say something to you every time he comes to where you work, and now that you think about it, he does seem to come up with pretty flimsy pretexts)… that is the only value in the Wakefield Doctrine.
You know how, when, an otherwise intelligent and mature person comes across one of the countless surveys and personality profiles and ‘Which heroic legendary for history are you?’ things that you used to see in the backs of magazines (the ones sold in supermarkets checkout lines, not the kind that you actually subscribe to) or, more recently on the internest, the first thing this person will be heard to say is, “Honey!! Come here! you have to take this survey! They have you down to a ‘T’!
That’s what the ‘…for you, not them’ means… well, now that I straighten out my syntax, that’s what the phrase …implies …that the Wakefield Doctrine does …not offer (lol). Unlike the ‘Oscar Meyers, Briggs and Stratton personality system’ or (the) ‘Kubler, Fran and Ollie Seven Stages of self- acceptance’, the Wakefield Doctrine is not a mirror-coated club.

What you learn about people using the Doctrine affects how you act (and react and feel and grow), it does nothing for the other person, so don’t bother trying to tell them. (Unless, you’re, like trying to get lucky at a bar and you see this really cute/hot roger or clark or even scott… then, you have our blessings and best wishes.)

damn! out of time…. check back later, (or even better write us a comment), and we’ll get to the First thing ….and, the one thing that helps understand the two things.

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6th Day of the Week -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘…can mean only one thing/can only mean one thing/only one thing is meant!’

October 22, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

As the clever sub-title intimates* I am faux-consumed by my efforts to tolerate my ambition to develop my skills in the pen ‘n paper arena. Though we all like the illusion (or is that ‘allusion’? “is there a rhetorician in the house?!”) …and yes, I did just spend a few minutes researching the etymology of that phrase. But that’s not important now** What is important now is that I get a rough draft of this week’s Six Sentence Story. A bloghop curated by Friend of the Doctrine, zoe, readers are challenged and invited (or, invited and then challenged, like accepting an invitation to a formal dinner, only to realize as you’re being seated that a) you don’t know anyone else at the table and 2) you have no idea what piece of cutlery to use with which course (most of which are clearly of ignotorum culina) but you’re there and, overall, it is kinda cool, so you decide to tough it out.) Like that, only different. (Full Disclosure: I toyed with the idea that this ‘setup’ would be my Six, for this week’s prompt ‘Entrance’. But I’ve lost the thread and besides, I’m still debating leaving the footnotes and god knows what impact it has on your pre-reading experience might be, best I continue right to the story).

He held the door for her. She smiled, (her head tilted down, as if to watch her step, yet her eyes looking up without the slightest hint of her attention being anywhere but on him), and he would do anything for her, at least, for the remainder of the evening.

She stepped through the door. He glanced at her, (while simultaneously looking in all directions with an air of challenge and pride and a little bit of uncertainty), she knew that what she knew no longer mattered, what she was, tied her to his world for the remainder of the evening.

They made their entrance.

And Mother Nature smiled.

*too much? no, seriously, new Readers? the reason for the scrabble-plus vocabulary is quite simple, I’m a clark and clarks view language and words and such like, …well, like a lion views his mane or a streetwalker views her mini skirt… it is the characteristic that, while related to functional value, at some point, ontologically speaking, is a bit of an appendix, in modern-day living, ya know?

**great recurring line in ‘Airplane’

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Monday Morning Post -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘well, because it’s better to start the week knowing, than not knowing’

October 19, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

According to my new writing schedule, this week’s Monday’s Post is expected to be ‘something educational, (in terms of the Wakefield Doctrine), something fun (like the Posts I used to write, the ones with all the bullet points and the slightly scandalous inferences hidden among long, run-on sentences, a lot like the way you studied the whole weekend to learn phrenology because ‘you want to come up and see my etchings’ wasn’t creative enough for you) and, finally, a little (or a lot) self-promotional of my serial, ‘Blogdominion‘ (link to Chapter 1 is here… yeah, that right, click there, or if you’re still reading there’ll be another link at the end of this sentence… right here. No! don’t worry, you have time to click on the link and read it, we’ll wait and won’t get into anything too involved or complicated, until you get back. ( Hey, for anyone familiar with the Beverly Hillbillies, didn’t that last thing, about where the link I was putting in this Post, didn’t it make you think of the old bit that Jethro Bodine used to do with his expensive Swiss wristwatch? “The exact time is 5:04..oh 8…no! 10….no!!” Still funny 50 years later! and, (jeez some of you people read kinda slow…no, we promised to wait)… anyway, there’s a secret zen lesson in that silly joke about the watch. That the here and now is not something we can anticipate, because if we stop to note its presence, then it’s already over…) hey! you’re back!! Great!

I had planned on making a reference to the seeming contradiction of being a clark and deliberately finding the most public of forums to practice my writing, but let’s instead cut and paste a passage from the Page on clarks:

… you know what? never mind. Never mind reading something that has already been said (about clarks). If I’m going to write the book on the Wakefield Doctrine (after I successfully write the serial, ‘Blogdominion’ (and… maybe one other story after that), then I need to keep my Doctrine chops fresh. And besides, the Wakefield Doctrine isn’t some text booky kind of personality theory with sections to memorize and like all the things that they try to make you learn in school! Hell no. The Wakefield Doctrine is simply a perspective on life. We all have at least one of them, (perspectives, not Doctrines). Our perspective on the world is what puts ‘the personal’ in ‘personal reality’. The Doctrine says, ‘hey! you’ve got your perspective pretty well memorized and immortalized, how about one more? It’ll help…really!’ (And you’re, like, all, ‘yeah sure. the world is what I run into today at work, dropping the kids off at daycare, dodging those assholes in the corridor that I have to go down, ’cause that’s where my locker is, getting in and out of the supermarket fast enough to get to the gym… you mean that imaginary world?’)

lol ok. I get it. It’s Monday, not a lot of time for the metaphysics. I’ll keep it as simple as possible and if you don’t believe that reality, (real reality), is personal, write us a comment and we’ll do a whole Post on the subject tomorrow. But for today, know that your world will be experienced as if it were the following:

the world of the Outsider (clarks) experience the world as a stranger would upon entering a country that they studied up on, learned all about, took 8 weeks of Berlitz* even found a store that sold clothing that is (supposed to be) fashionable in this country… they get off the plane, get past Customs and now need to meet one person (someone they’ve never met) and they have no idea where in this country they are …go!
the reality of the Predator (scotts) if people who you’re responsible would only either hurry up or get out of the way, the day would go a lot more pleasantly! You know that you’ve got everyone’s best interest at heart, but sometimes… well, you gotta make ’em do the right thing, get the most of life!
the life as a Herd Member (rogers) life is a simple as you make it and if people would just slow down a little, then you would be better able to help them understand what clearly they are not understanding… understand?

There you have it! Your Monday Morning Wakefield Doctrine pre-game locker room pep talk. No! really!

Don’t forget!! Go to juke pop and read Chapter 1 of Blogdominion! If you’re going there for the first time, don’t forget the Prologue, (kinda necessary to the enjoyment of Chapter 1, well, guess that’s why it’s called a Prologue…. and vote!! and like and comment and stuff!

thanks

*for you not-so-old people, Rosetta Stone, ok?

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Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘wherein we concoct a word smoothie (‘palabra batido‘) to send to friends’

October 15, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Hey, if I seem to start and stop in the narrative here, today, that’s only because I have two (self-imposed) deadlines*, being this Six Sentence Story and publishing Chapter 1 of Blogdominion. So the thing about z’s Six Sentence Story (and, now, the writing of the other story) is that I’m further reinforcing the belief that, although I do enjoy writing, I must suffer the tortures of the damned for at least 1, maybe 2 days before I hit ‘Publish’. Still, I enjoy it. ….the writing of the story, not the tortures of the damned…. well, maybe that part a little too. Anyway, Six Sentence Stories You need to try it… it’s a helluva lot of fun.

Tears slowly dropped, like lava breaking out of the crust as it flows down the volcano-side, keeping his face suspended from the quiet, peaceful embrace of the pillow on the un-worn, sheets-unwrinkled-after 6-days single bed….

“If shedding a tear means having one less in the future, then I’m all for it,” the man-to-be said, getting off the bed and sitting behind the formica desk that filled 1/3 of the dormitory room.

“Hate to break it to ya, but it’s not that simple”, smiled the girl from the open door, “tears are not countable, and there’s no way of knowing how many you have left to cry, …every girl knows that!”

‘Who the hell are you and what gives you any right to tell me that?’ he thought and then, throwing caution to the wind, spoke aloud, “I’m sorry, but were you talking to me?”

“…and besides! I’m not a girl“, he continued to the empty doorway, “but thanks for talking to me!”

…and she smiled to herself as she left the building.

*yeah, every bit as daunting as the ‘how the word came to be coined’, except without the getting physically dead part, here’s a link

** no, seriously! I had, like, two paragraphs written that was a setup for the photo of the meerkats, it was an attempt at a ‘4th Wall’ voice in the story and I referenced Christina’s World (Wyeth) and TATs (Thematic Apperception Test) and everything, but then I realized that I was holding back on my avowed desire to improve my writing. Given how much help zoe’s been my breaking out of my own self-definition, I figured I better cut it out and take a chance with the first sentence, which proceeded to take on a life of it’s own, and you know how that goes….

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‘Monday’s Child is Fair of Face’ -the Wakefield Doctrine- (yeah, I could’ve gone with ‘Prodigal Daughter’ …call me sentimental)

October 12, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Busy week ahead, need to keep the rhythm strong, so this, a Monday morning Post-ette.

I’m determined to have my writing schedule keep pace with self-imposed demands, a task I gladly accept. There is a Six Sentence Story to get ready for* and work on Chapter 1 of Blogdominion and, hopefully, a Finish the Sentence Friday. In addition to that, I’m committing to writing at least one traditional Wakefield Doctrine Post each week. I’d like to pull in Lizzi, now back from her walkabout in the New World, to start us off. (From a Comment on the TToT this weekend), our Ms. Rogers say,

“Yes. I think we take from each other on that – we’ve both been there, both done that, both will do the same again in future – and always mindfully (taking notes) in the knowledge that whilst we’re always alone, we also aren’t, and can (if nothing else) be USEFUL in these times when otherwise it might seem more prudent to curl into a ball and cry.”

As is her way, L keyed on one of my favorite topics… concepts… clark-insights, whatever the word is, identification. Learning to identify, (with other clarks), represents the single most beneficial thing to come out of the Doctrine, at least in terms of benefitting those Readers with the personal reality of the Outsider (aka clarks). That’s not to say that our scottian and rogerian friends do not, or cannot, benefit by this simple (yet very difficult) choice of perception. Disclaimer: the concept of ‘identification with others’ is very not original with the Doctrine. One might even say that it, identification, is an inherent relationship among (and between) people since time immemorial. It has always existed and it has always offered an opportunity to get beyond the confines of ‘me’. That being said, for those of us here, learning about the (additional) perspective on life that is the Wakefield Doctrine, who are clarks are focused on ‘how to step in from the Outside’**. Identifying with other clarks affords us one more avenue to become a real person.

The Comment thread on yesterday’s TToT that Lizzi initiated, will say it better than I can, here on a pre-dawn Monday morning.

Other stuff. Blogdominion. (Warning! what follows is a characteristic clarklike lament that treats self-improvement like it was a setback. We are so crazy when it comes to stuff like that! Man! you’d think we want to stay the same and never improve and are repelling the honest-no-big-deal compliments like… well, like clarks! jeez!)
Anyway. I’m really enjoying this learning to write thing! Which makes total Doctrine sense and serves both as an illustration of the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine and as an ‘Close’ to this Post!

clarks enjoy learning things, (see footnote** below and the Page on clarks), and when something engages our interest, we enjoy acquiring new skills. This enthusiasm naturally invites the good wishes of the people around us (the scotts and rogers). We (clarks) shy away from the compliments because a) it makes us the center of attention and, therefore, subject to scrutiny, which may extend beyond the immediate subject and 2) we are afraid to change, or better to say, we are afraid that self-improvement makes us even more different from those around us and we risk losing what we think we have or… worse, we lose the special feature of being Outsiders and run the risk of turning into just another person.

ok, that’ll be quite enough for today. Gotta save some subjective angst for zoe’s Stories and the Serial!

*the careful preparation for which consists of:

Monday: don’t look
Tuesday: no! I mean it! do not look
Wednesday: ok…look, now don’t think about it until later*
(Wednesday)* unless you have an idea for a story**
(Wednesday later)** yeah, right, like that’s gonna happen… why do I do this to myself!?!***
Wednesday very late)*** well, cause there’s a bunch of skilled bloggers and, no matter what, if you participate, your own skills will improve and besides they liked that one last week… or the week before, hey! ‘last week or the week before’ that sounds interesting
Thursday: what was I thinking?!?! ‘last week or the week before’ what does that even mean?!?! damn! time to write something anything and hit
Thursday (at some point): Publish

** the nature of the personal reality (aka ‘worldview’) of clarks is that of the Outsider. A more complete description of this worldview can be found on the Page on clarks…. a less complete description would be: clarks are the people who know that that they are different and this difference sets them apart (not above or over others…apart from) all the people in: their families (growing up), their friends at school (learning about the world) and at work and in marriage and while engaged in living. clarks perceive the world as being ‘out there’… a separate place. clarks believe that they are different because of something within them, most likely, something they didn’t learn that everyone else clearly has learned and so, clarks search the world of the rational, the intellectual, the ‘knowing about’, all in the increasingly desperate drive to learn what everyone seems to already know. Of course, as everyone else knows, it’s not in the mind, it’s in the heart. Overlooking this does not deprive the clarks of the capacity to be like everyone else, overlooking this does make them clearly different. And that’s why clarks mumble a lot and laugh at odd things and will do anything for a friend (while avoiding accepting credit), because we are searching for what, once we learn it, will make us real people.