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quick-reprint Wednesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ’cause it’s all about the Doctrine, isn’t it?’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks scotts and rogers)

courtesy: Friend of the Doctrine Val

courtesy: Friend of the Doctrine Val

Feeling guilty about the number of useful, entertaining and instructive Posts that I’ve been producing of late. Seeing how the goal of this blog is to write a single Post that a stranger, wandering the blogosphere could read and understand and, if they were so inclined, apply the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine in their life, that very same day and realize a direct benefit from having learned about the Wakefield Doctrine, it kinda behooves me to post them Posts! (yeah, that was one long-assed sentence! I’m just limbering up for zoe’s Six Sentence Story!)

This goal, the thing about writing one simple Post that allows you, the Reader, one new perspective on life just from reading a Post, that’s not too ambitious is it? Wait! Don’t answer yet!  It’s definitely not too ambitious from the perspective of what the Wakefield Doctrine is and how it might be applied. Sure, maybe a little ambitious on my part. My skills are coming along, but I have a bit of a ways to go. As to the Doctrine and what it has to offer? Not a doubt in my mind that if you use the three worldviews as a way to see the world as the other person is experiencing it, you can’t not benefit. clarks become less vague and uncertain as to what they really want, scotts less volatile and flighty and their enthusiasm becomes more disciplined and focused and rogers, well, suffice to say, some of them become kind and totally altruistic! But don’t take my word for it, read!

So, here’s a reprint from last year. In two parts! That way, if you like what you read, you can go ahead and listen to the video. If not, then, hey! have a nice day, be sure to stop back in again (sometimes, it takes a couple of visits to get this Doctrine thing.)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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Some people come here and before the end of their first visit, ‘get’ the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine personality theory. Other people read and read, they know there is something here, they enjoy the company of the other Readers but, nevertheless, struggle with the concept. It’s funny, how, very often, the ones that struggle at first? …end up getting further into the use and application and enjoyment of a new idea, than do those who pick it up easily and without difficulty. I’m thinking about Val and Sarah, who have recently written comments expressing a certain… frustration or (semi)-aggravation at knowing the principles but missing out on the fun. To them, (and anyone else out there encountering difficulties with our little personality theory), I want to say, ‘Thank you!’

I used to remind myself (and have myself reminded at by the people* who were here when I started the blog), ‘if the Reader don’t get it, it’s my fault’.
Meaning, of course, it was my responsibility to present the Wakefield Doctrine in manner that would allow anyone having the slightest interest, to read, understand, use and enjoy the Doctrine. It’s funny about blogs, how we start out with a certain goal or idea or image of what it will be like when we have Readers but, somehow as success comes along, some of the fun (and aggravation), risking taking (and embarrassing early attempts) and adventurousness leaves us… we become content that we have what we set out to get, often we are fearful (to some extent, sometimes great, often small ways) of taking chances. (“Hey! careful there! don’t want to alienate any Readers!!” “…are you sure you want to take that approach?” “Dude! don’t screw it up, you know how you always sabotage yourself.”)

I will repeat, ‘Thanks Sarah and Val!’ Thank you for reminding me of the most important thing: a) that I present the Wakefield Doctrine in terms that all of us can read and learn and enjoy and 2) I remember to have fun. ( “It ain’t a college elective we’re writing here!! it’s the damn Wakefield Doctrine.”)

So today I’ll try to present the Doctrine in 2 ways: written and aural***

the Wakefield Doctrine has one simple requirement: the willingness to imagine that we all live in one of three worldviews (these are personal realities… that little portion of reality that is ours alone) and that by (our) growing up and developing into adults in the context of these three worldviews, our personality types are manifested. These three worldviews are: the life of the Outsider(clarks), the reality of the Predator(scotts) and the world of the Herd Member(rogers). We are all born with the potential to live in any of these three, we all settle into one (the predominant worldview), but never lose the capability to experience the world as do ‘the other two’.

the Wakefield Doctrine is best learned by: reading about the characteristics of the three worldviews and learning (for each of the personality types) a person’s likes, dislikes, phobias and failings, strengths, weaknesses and (preferred) strategies in relating to the world.

Once learned, look around and they will be there.
Once learned, observe the behavior of the people in your life and infer how the other person is ‘relating themselves to the world around them’.
Once you have reached a certain level of familiarity (with the three worldviews), be prepared for people to act like clarks and scotts and rogers with a spontaneity and genuineness that may first creep you out (like how did they know to do that) and then you will see behavior and traits that you know you didn’t read about here, but you are certain is a characteristic of the worldview. (at this point, you will laugh and thank us or you will swear to never go near ‘those people and their Doctrine’ again). oh, yeah,…. by the way? if you get to a certain point in learning the Doctrine to where you can see the clarks, scotts and rogers in your life? you…er may not be able to not see them, ya know?
The rest is having fun and writing Comments and contributing to the understanding of the Wakefield Doctrine… like I said, fun stuff.

(as promised: Video Supplement )

* Denise and roger and glenn and jennifer and… Molly (who I saw in the Comments yesterday, she was the total (home)school marm, whenever I would express my misgivings on some point of presentation… as Denzel would say, ‘Laura Engal ain’t got nothin on her!!**)

** no, I don’t think she would say that, but I liked the quote and, somehow, in the way that these things have, the photo I encountered fits just fine for today’s Post.

*** well, not rising to the level of a true rogerian expression, I still enjoy the look of that word choice

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-the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘the fun of knowing that the world, …well, that the world is a pretty unpredictable place.’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

no, it's ok! I'm a Saint

no, it’s ok! I’m a Saint

Of course, I mean unpredictable within a reasonable set of parameters. (no, don’t worry, this is not one of those Posts…. it’s just that I have to walk before I run… or is that crawl before I jump… no, I’m pretty sure it’s walk don’t run, unless something is chasing you and you’re fairly certain you don’t want it to catch you, at least not until you’re ready to be caught.)

Well, this is shaping up to be a pretty free-form Monday Post! Might be best if I get to the valuable content before it gets too non-sensical. Agreed?

the Wakefield Doctrine is a very, very useful and fun tool for better understanding the people in our lives. With the perspectives (of the three personality types/worldviews) we are in a position to see the world as the other person is experiencing it. And we all want to better understand the people we encounter today, don’t we? Well, you should. And I’m not saying this from any ‘oh-my-love-of-life-and-all-the-animals-and-fowls-in-the-world simply compels me to spend my life in seeking insight into my fellow human beings. I do, after all, have a significant secondary scottian aspect.*  So be on the lookout for the clarks, scotts and rogers out there today. When you interact with them, remind yourself that, if you simply acknowledge the clarks, they’ll go to the ends of the earth for you, and if you don’t show any fear or tendency to run away, you can have the scotts eating from your hand and the rogers… well, be patient.

Speaking of patient!  Chapter 3 is on the books. Please go to Blogdominion and give me whatever feedback you are inclined to give.  If you’re going there the first time, the site is a little slow and clunky, but you’ll see that there is a Chapter 0-3 (zero being the Prologue). The site lets you Vote or Comment or even Review. Thank you.

This Week: the Gravity Challenge takes on the Godzilla of food months, November! The Graviteers are totally up to the Challenge, but they’ll appreciate it if you stop by from time to time and cheer them on…. zoe and them will be lurking, up there around Wednesday or Thursday, with her Six Sentence Story (like big kids in the Junior High School locker room…. ‘hey lets pants ‘im’) come on! join us, you know you want to!  and now that Lizzi is back, (for now), from her amazing walkabout… stop by Considerings and say ‘Hidy!’….   While she’s very busy shaping the future for a generation of grade schoolers and may not be at her blog when you go there, stop by Pictimilitude!  Cynthia has a side project that you’re totally going to love… (can’t tell you, it’s a secret! But for a hint: you won’t feel as bad as you once did if you don’t stay inside the lines!)

 

 

 

*not certain what this means? then clearly you need to spend more time reading about the three worldviews (aka personality types) of the Doctrine. ok… since you’re asking nicely, according to the Wakefield Doctrine, we are, all of us, born with the potential to experience the world from one of three perspectives:

  1. as an Outsider (clarks)
  2. as a Predator (scotts)
  3. as would a Member of the Herd (rogers)

and, at an early age we settle into one (of these three personal realities). The rest of our early lives are spent learning and practicing strategies and approaches that are most effective in the context we find ourselfs. But, we never lose the potential to experience the world as do ‘the other two’ (the 2 non-predominant worldviews). Some of us, in fact, have characteristics from ‘the other two’ at higher levels than others. Myself, as an example, I’m a clark with a significant secondary scottian aspect and a marginal tertiary rogerian aspect. What this means is that I mumble, put my hand near my face when I’m talking to you, my posture is sort of a slouch, but I’m pretty funny and totally a good listener. You know someone like that, I know you do. Now, about that secondary scottian aspect. This post today is about learning to understand people better and is, by and large, pretty insightful. It also has an image of a painting of a guy grabbing some medieval chick’s boob…. with a funny caption.  Any questions?

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FTSF -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘lets go visit our friends who got us started on bloghops, way back in ’12 or was it ’10?’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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Friend of the Doctrine, Lizzi, made an appeal today, from her position as spokesbeing at the BB&G* for all readers to either join in the TToT this weekend or jump in on the Finish the Sentence Friday today. Well, all it took…, (as Linda Ronstadt would sing), because the Finish The Sentence Friday is, like, the ‘hop that got us here at the Doctrine totally into the business of bloghops. (Sort of like in high school, where, as a clark, I’d move on the fringes of the established social groups, such as, the jocks, the Honor Society, the voc ed, the proto-hippies, even the tough guys (and surprisingly kind-hearted, but way hot girlfriends) out in the student parking lot, smoking cigarettes… I’d always find one person who had just enough secondary clarklike aspect to  be secret buddies with and sometimes, as I passed through the halls between classes, they’d acknowledge me while they where among their kind and I’d be walking on air the rest of the day) … well, that’s kinda the story with how I got into bloghops. Athough it was Kristi (and Stephanie and Janine and Kate) at the FTSF, who invited me to hang our with cool (virtual) kids in the blogosphere.

So today, over at the FTSF, the show-us-your-heart Sentence fragment is,

“In 1,000 years from now…”

…distance will not be a factor, in our activities and our relationships. While nothing totally new, the percentage of relationships that are necessarily embedded in a physical connection, (birth, reproduction, death and the-chance-encounter-with-a-person-that-makes-a-list-like-this-totally-moot), will be way, way higher. Just as the human race got through a couple of thousand years of self-development predicated on a relationship with a god/high power/supreme being, i.e. never in the same room with, so human culture and society becomes un-tethered to the touch-me, hit-you, hold-me, where-have-you-gone paradigm.

It will be the best of times, it will be the worst of times….

 

*long story, but that’s our acronym for the Bloppy Bloopers group on ‘the Facebook’

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Six Sentence Story -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘everything is already connected, it doesn’t always show, but you knew that’

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

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Friend of the Doctrine, zoe/ivy has this bloghop called Six Sentence Story. The idea is to take a prompt word (different every week) and write a story…involving that word, using only (not more and not less) six sentences. Many people are naturally creative and others are quite skilled and they participate (as you can see in the form of the other blog icons) for the fun and enjoyment and camaraderie and such. I will admit to being one who enjoys the camaraderie of the activity and do not hesitate to say, I look for the opportunity to improve my skills by sharing my efforts with the others of similar intent. Regular readers know that I’m basically jogging in place… or stretching or limbering up or…. pick your favorite simile. The prompt word this week, at the Six Sentence Story is ‘refuse’.  And we’re doing something a little different this week, (lets see if you spot it.)

The Sacrifice*

“No”

“That’s simply not going to be enough, you may say the word, but words do not change reality because, as a successful man such as yourself, you surely realize that the world does not care what you say or even what you think, what’s real is what you have before you.”

The memory came back, un-invited but forcibly, like the junior high school bully, looking for chance to pick a fight, that she loved him made the guilt he felt for the deception, not exactly better, but somehow noble.”

“I refuse to accept that,”

“Refuse all you want, what’s done is done and cling as you might to what is only denial and not refutation, nothing will change what is no longer a maybe.”

“But you both love me….”

 

*thanks to DVD

 

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- “VOTRE INVITATION A LA CONFERENCE” (‘is there a translator in the house?’)

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

...wire money?....please?!

Well, sure! I could go to ‘the google’ and I could also take a wild guess as to what this cryptic phrase/Post sub-title, (found in the subject line of a spamish email), means in English. Or….or! I could use this as an old school Doctrine jumping off point for a quick ‘n quirky Tuesday Post.  Which would you prefer?

Thank you. I appreciate your vote of confidence and adventurous nature.

So who besides me, looking at the photo above (origin: somewhere in the googlesphere a few years ago, totally don’t remember my search parameters) sees, at first a happy tourist and …a split, sure-if-you-have-a-mind-to-imagine-things-differently, second later a terrified woman being kidnapped by two men who seemed so Old World charming, sitting at a table in the picaresque* outdoor café  …and why is that guy on the left hiding his right hand?!?  You can almost hear her screams.

So what’s this got to do with the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)? You mean, the personality theory that not only is a fun way to better understand the people in your life, but the Wakefield Doctrine that offers such an insight into how the other person is experiencing the world that you will know what they’re about to do, even before they! That Wakefield Doctrine?

Well, I guess that pretty much says it all.

No!  wait!  there is one other thing about the Wakefield Doctrine that’s different from all the other personality theory, self-help programs and “Win the affections of that Girl/Guy Everytime” social coaching system! Well, actually there are two things.  ….and one thing before I tell you about the two things.  But, lets not make this too easy. First the second thing:

‘the Wakefield Doctrine is for you, not them’.

(This should be self-explanatory, but if there’s one thing I’ve learned in the past 5 years of writing this blog, it’s that the things I think are clear, usually aren’t and the parts of the Doctrine that I’m certain is going to be tough to understand, you people get right away.) In any event, this admonition is at the heart of the Doctrine and is a good example of why it’s such a useful tool for understanding the people in our lives. Everything you learn about people through the use of the Wakefield Doctrine, has value, bearing, meaning and use for you, and only you. It (this added insight and understanding) is helpful in understanding how you are (or should) (or might) relate yourself to this other person (or spouse) (or boss) (or that girl in history class) (or that guy who might or might not be a client, but manages to say something to you every time he comes to where you work, and now that you think about it, he does seem to come up with pretty flimsy pretexts)… that is the only value in the Wakefield Doctrine.
You know how, when, an otherwise intelligent and mature person comes across one of the countless surveys and personality profiles and ‘Which heroic legendary for history are you?’ things that you used to see in the backs of magazines (the ones sold in supermarkets checkout lines, not the kind that you actually subscribe to) or, more recently on the internest, the first thing this person will be heard to say is, “Honey!! Come here! you have to take this survey! They have you down to a ‘T’!
That’s what the ‘…for you, not them’ means… well, now that I straighten out my syntax,  that’s what the phrase …implies …that the Wakefield Doctrine does …not offer (lol).  Unlike the ‘Oscar Meyers, Briggs and Stratton personality system’ or (the) ‘Kubler, Fran and Ollie Seven Stages of self- acceptance’, the Wakefield Doctrine is not a mirror-coated club.

What you learn about people using the Doctrine affects how you act (and react and feel and grow), it does nothing for the other person, so don’t bother trying to tell them.  (Unless, you’re, like trying to get lucky at a bar and you see this really cute/hot roger or clark or even scott… then, you have our blessings and best wishes.)

damn! out of time…. check back later, (or even better write us a comment), and we’ll get to the First thing ….and, the one thing that helps understand the two things.

 

 

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