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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- “…and now, with llamas!”

January 8, 2016 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

the Wakefield Doctrine…on the Road in…Arizona! (2000-something ago)

Now I remember where I saw the reference to llamas! Kristi’s Mom’s TToT post of last week! She had a Grat Item that had to do with the impressive and highly developed level of behavior exhibited by these animals. Well, never let it be said that the Wakefield Doctrine is not capable of being inspired to reach for a higher level of appreciation of the wonders of Nature!

1) llamas

2) there was something else this week that was pretty impressive… oh yeah, the number of people out for walks with their dogs today. Today I decided to get home early and take Una for ‘a Walk’. And we got as far as the first turn when we met our first person out walking their dog, except they were, like, on foot and everything. Unfortunately, that meant I had to roll up Una’s window, ’cause she’s not a fan of other people walking their dogs. I did not get it on tape.

3) vidchats now, it may seem odd that I should single out vidchats as a Grat Item on a Friday evening when I was not able to actually host a vidchat… but, only if this were your first visit to the TToT and had not yet encountered the….diversity of outlooks on the world and such. It is a good time and I suspect that I will make sure I am able to do this thing next Friday (01/15/16) because I will make a point next week to not fall dreadfully behind on my writing for Blogdominion…

4) …surely this (the Serial Story ‘Blogdominion‘ hosted on Jukepop) belongs up here in the top 5 for Grat Items. That I undertook the challenge of starting a serial story on a site that is devoted to hosting serials (or all types and genres), which means it’s pretty damn public, is amazing. I’m grateful that I did. I must admit to not always feeling the new-flannel comfort of knowing that every Chapter I write gets me closer to actually completing the story. That I would find myself at Chapter 13, which seems by all measures to be about the halfway point in this story, that’s just insane. But here I am. Unfortunately, some weeks I fall behind and find myself with only a first rough draft on Friday. This is not ideal, as I always (up to the present) publish the week’s Chapter on Sunday, by early evening. Most weeks I have a 3rd rough draft by now. But, somewhere in that, I’m sure is a Grat Item.

5) I normally cite Lizzi and the co-hostinae for their incredible efforts to create and nurture the community that is this bloghop. But this week, I’ll say, “hey! new participants! welcome to the TToT” That this is still happening (3 or 6 or however many years we’ve been on the air) is pretty darn cool.

6) For all the new TToT writers, I will extend a welcome and a simple: the Secret Book of Rules (aka the Book of Secret Rules) is and can be your best friend! And like some best friends, it can turn on you in the blink of an eye and take all that you hold dear and make it as if…. No, disregard that. The BoSR/SBoR is reliable, trustworthy and scary. Lets let it go at that… and if you have any questions, ask anyone. No matter what they tell you, it’s true. (Well, because there’s a Secret Rule covering that, of course!)

7) Una for being the perfect life form and role model for me (at least in terms of how to live life in the here and now and such, less on matters requiring opposable thumbs, negotiating contracts and coloring inside the lines.

8) Phyllis for much the same reasons as Una, (except she does have opposable thumbs, colors inside the lines really well, being a roger and all, and for introducing the use of Kindle’s into the household

9) the Graviteers (at the Gravity Challenge)

10) zoe and the Six Sentence Story…. the most aggravating fun I have all week!

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘well, seeing how it starts on a Friday, 2016 may just turn out to be cool 12 months’

January 2, 2016 By clarkscottroger

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No, I’m serial! It’s a near-scientific fact that Years that begin on a Friday are way, way cooler than, say a Year that starts on a Monday or a Wednesday. Ask anyone!

This is the first TToT of 2016. Which, as years to be alive in goes, is pretty damn cool. It is so far in the future. Growing up in the 1960s reading science fiction, I’m struck by the fact that most of the writers of that era, (1940s to 1960s, the so-called ‘Golden Age of Science Fiction’), when they needed to have a date for some future event, or maybe the setting for a time travel story, rarely left the 20th Century. Other than Yeager and Evans,* there seemed to be no need to imagine the 21st Century much beyond 2010. Anyway, I lost my train of thought… oh yeah, the future and how cool it is to be this far into it. That and the drive to self-improve oneself is on the minds of most of the people that I interact with, here in the ‘sphere. And there’s this, the TToT, I’m sure there must be a roger in the group who has the exact date of when Lizzi started this thing and that way, we could figure how long we’ve been at it… yearistically-speaking, of course.

To the Grat List!

1) this here bloghop here, the TToT. A lot of things can be said about the benefits of a regime of cultivating gratitude for the things of everyday life. All very true and, for the most part, already said better than I might. For me, the primary benefit is (to be found) in the continuity of the community that’s formed around this the TToT. The theme (of gratitude) is not particularly unique, in fact, to borrow an expression from an author that I enjoyed reading in the above referenced period of time, the field of gratitude blogs is so crowded that ‘you can’t swing a dead cat without hitting one (gratitude blog)’.

2) Friday Night vidchat… always fun, even if the topic is dream-murder and flying (or, as some of us prefer, bounce-flying) you never know who might drop in… last night it was zoe and Denise, Lizzi and Kerri and it was a good chat

3) the Graviteers over at the Gravity Challenge: Christine, Val, Kristi, Lisa, Joy, Sarah and Lizzi (yes, she does get around!)

4) zoe’s Six Sentence Story every Thursday, 1/2 writing exercise, 1/2 fun and 1/2 skills enhancement… you really need to join us

5) ‘Blogdominion‘ in Chapter 12 (due to hit the newsstands this Sunday) in which, we visit with Tom and Cheri Fearing, Tom is getting what he things he needs to be a good husband and Cheri is worried that the news of a addition to the family might cause discord in the the-Family-that-wants-to-be and we’ll catch up with Maribeth Hartley as we learn the information that Sister Margaret Ryan has un-covered in the late Father Noonan’s Journal and Stephen Eddington is in Chicago visiting his mother and is called for a meeting with the new VP of IT Services who makes Stephen an offer that it might be unwise to refuse… meeting Anya Clarieaux certainly ratchets up the stakes for our young engineer…. join us this weekend for all this and more!

6) Phyllis for having the quality of self that sees that things like tree houses are easy to see in a context of being 5 to 13 years old, but to see how something like a tree house can manifest to an adult and have the will to see it brought into reality… v cool

7) Una dog. perfect. lifeform.

8) the SGV (the Seven Guard Virgins) the people like us (well maybe like some of us… no! not saying anything about anyone in particular, Dyanne!) who remind us that the beauty of this virtual world is that, while, by definition, we can be anyone to anyone, we must face a certain judgment on the purity of our motives and intention… and, I for one, know that the next-to-the newest GV totally is into me, I know I saw her smile at something I wrote last week. just sayin.

9) the Book of Secret Rules (aka the Secret Book of Rules) the BoSR/SBoR allows that the simplest standard of successful participation be recognized, i.e. it is not the number of items, the clarity of the description, it is not the turning lemons in to apple turnovers, it is not even the level of skill of the participant. It (this standard that is manifested by the existence of the SB0R/BoSR) recognizes that it is the participation, with good intent, that is the measure of success for a TT0T list.

10) 1.3 the first of the Secret Rules and the one that most symbolizes the difference between the TToT and most other exercises in gratitude. SR 1.3 states that the act of completing a TToT list is, in fact, a valid item for said List.

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pre-Six Post -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘…out with the old, in with the non-old!’

December 31, 2015 By clarkscottroger

Welcome to the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

Am sitting here at 2:30 typing my warm-up words for zoe’s Six Sentence Story. Yes, it’s early for me, but my email is not working and so I sit here, a 21st Century Odysseus being slowly put to death by silence. (…still no email!! ayiee! yes, I realize that only 12 minutes have past, but it is a long 12 minutes.) Yeah that Homer reference was a teeny bit too obscure (“dooh!!”). In any event, here is my Six.

Resolve

He set out in the early morning, in the way of all 12 year old boys, running towards the new day. He knew what was expected of him that day, and still he ran, we did say he was 12 years old, didn’t we?

Being still only 12 years old and therefore, statistically and individually, not fully mature, he felt an energy that did not automatically and instantly transform into work, this being a secret held non-consciously by nearly all 12 year old boys. If the embarrassing changes in his voice, Mother Nature’s subtle way of marking her second most favored experiments, were any indication, he was surely moments (or months) away from taking his place among the men of his culture.

He knew, without knowing, from that time on, more would be expected and less would be allowed. He resolved to run as he could, as long as he could, as the joy of this day would be a part of him always, remembered or not.

Don’t forget! Rob and Laura invite you to invite the New Year in the company of the witty and sophisticated, albeit mildly sardonic and oft times virtual ‘people’ at the First Friday Night Vidchat 0f 2017!! …. leave Comment RSVP or watch the Facebook, bring a friend, they’re all going to be there!

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Tuesday -the Wakefield Doctrine- of future past tenses

December 29, 2015 By clarkscottroger

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So who the hell secretly changed the number of days of the week from ‘ok… I have just enough time’ to ‘what the hell, it’s nearly Wednesday and I haven’t even started yet!’

Blogdominion Chapter 11 is out on the newsstands. Hey! If you’re new to our story about rogue computers, nuns with mysterious pasts and a very attractive female Detective who’s always angry and if you were to ask her about why…. yep! she’d getting really mad! Anyway, what I started to say is, ‘Blogdominion’ begins with a Prologue, which for reasons unknown shows as Chapter 0, followed by the Chapters, so be sure to start with the Prologue. And, while you’re there, (at jukepop.com), don’t forget to ‘Vote’… yeah, I know, the world has, in fact, never stopped being a fricken popularity contest. If you think about it, the dynamics at work in our lives are not all that different from the whole, high school experience. Like swimming in a fast flowing river with muddy shores, you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t! Anyway…. go read the Story of Sister Margaret Ryan and Ed Willoughby and Tom Fearing and Orel Rees and the others and let me know how you like it! (I’m interested in your reaction to the characters. Just today I got a comment from Josie Two Shoes, regarding a character in the most recent Six Sentence Story, to the effect that she liked this corporate admin, one Anya Claireaux, and I’m like, ‘ok I get what you like about her…’ what was cool was that, from Josie’s Comment, I could see Anya in a different light. Given that I made her up, this ‘oh really Anya? why didn’t you tell me?’ Very cool.

the Wakefield Doctrine is a unique, useful and fun way to better understand the behavior of the people in our lives. Today, if you’re like me* you’ll have a moment where you find yourself thinking, “now why in the world would they go and say/do a thing like that! I really thought I knew them better.” That is what the Wakefield Doctrine is for, that moment, that point in our daily life when we are forced to accept that, for all of being-married-to/raising-from-infants/still-got-a-shot-if-I-don’t-blow-it-now, we don’t always know the people in our lives as well as we should…or could.

All thats necessary, to drastically cut down on the number of times you’re surprised by the behavior of the people in your life, is a thorough understanding of the characteristics of the three worldviews and a willingness to ‘see the world as the other person is experiencing it’.

Pretty simple, isn’t it?

Coming up this Week!!

Year in Review
Six Sentence Story
New Year’s Day Evening with Rob and Laura

stay tuned!

*hey, sorry! ‘today, if you’re like many of the Readers of the Doctrine**

**i.e. anyone coming back here, more than once…

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TT-ho-ho-ho-T -the Wakefield Doctrine- the Christmas 2015 Tour

December 26, 2015 By clarkscottroger

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This should be a fun list. (Early, and hopefully necessary* warning: no lifeforms were taken advantage of or otherwise surprised merely for the sake of dramatic and/or humorous effect).
Christmas this past week. One should be permitted to claim, by virtue of participation in such a 800 pound gorilla of holidays, the entire List of Ten Items, without having to type the words. But, that is not our way. Here, at the bloghop that Lizzi built, it is within the act of engagement, of participation that the benefits and values are to be found.

Did someone say, ‘Yeah, sure we’ve all seen the gif children swarming through the pages of ‘the Facebook’ like ants on a piece of cinnamon toast left on the patio in early summer, they’re everywhere. But…. but! where are the sharing of the Christmas canine?

1) Una’s Christmas 2015

2) the Wakefield Doctrine because, well as my old Latin Teacher might have said, ‘sine qua non, binyon, sine qua non’

3)tree houses, which now have Chimes, which all X Chromates will tell you are essential to a proper domicile

4) the weather!! call me selfishly narrow-minded and insensitive to the future generations, what with their having to contend with rising sea level and such, but it’s great!

5)Bogdominion Chapter 11 on it’s way! (Spoiler Alert! Maribeth gives Sister Margaret a ride to the Convent from O’Hare… lets just say there were no shenanigans….at the airport! We catch up with Stephen Eddington, who’s in town to visit with his elderly mother but finds himself in a surprise meeting with the new Head of Omni Corp’s IT Services Division and there’s something funny going on at corporate, although, if you ask Steve about this guy’s secretary, don’t expect him to laugh! All that and a Alice Willoughby confides in her mom about something that’ s scaring her.)

6)leftovers are so integral to the proper enjoyment of holiday meals…. so, lets think of this, Item 6, as being your favorite Grat Item of the entire year…whatever it might be

7)my co-hostinae: Christine and Lisa and Kristi and Kristi and Sarah and Michelle and Dyanne and zoe and… Lizzi

8)the Graviteers! this is truly one of the most remarkable things of the 2015 year… christine, kristi, val, lisa, joy (yells and whistles, (the high-pitched type of whistle that only scotts can do…make or female) in the back of the audience or school yard…) sarah and lizzi You are the Champions!

9)oh yeah! that new frontier in bad holiday behavior?? we all know, that my wrapping skills are the worst among Y Chromians at least in North America… but but! this year I’ve raised the bar. First let me describe my ‘home office’, which is the back bedroom in our house. It’s nice because a) it’s a good sized room and 2) there are windows that look out into the woods… very peaceful like, and, it also serves as a Guest Room on the occasion we have house guests. In any event, right next to my desk are the two closets that you expect in a bedroom. They’re used by Phyllis for over-flow and off season clothing storage. So you can image my surprise when glance at the closet what should I see but a price tag at the end of a string dangling from a sleeve! …now I’ve spent a lot of time talking about how astute and totally perspective those who come here more than once are…so I need not go into detail as to what came to mind when I saw the perfect present in the closet! I. Am. King. of Present. Givers!! (do your own visual of me as Leonardo and we’ll call it even.