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‘buttered toast, optimism and children’ the Wakefield Doctrine ‘disappointment and the three personality types’

October 3, 2014 By

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I was taking out the garbage this morning, thinking about the Wakefield Doctrine. I was concerned that I’d be late getting the trash down the long driveway to the curb, because the recycling company had changed the pickup schedule and I was running about 15 minutes behind. As I took off the lid to the plastic garbage can and slid off the top of the recycling container (the first was a rounded-square shaped top and I simply popped it off the plastic ‘garbage can’, letting it fall to the ground;  the second was a rectangular lid that I slid off, carefully so that it remained  leaning on a slant against the end of the container), when, for no apparent reason I thought about:

  • disappointment
  • the Wakefield Doctrine
  • manifesting1 in the three worldviews
  • …if I hurried, I might get these thoughts to turn into a Post

Please allow me elaborate on each of the three bullet points, showing how each thought connected to the other and hopefully, the resultant Wakefield Doctrine insight becomes one that will prove useful to one of you today.

…disappointment:   more akin to losing hope in goals, than it is feeling let down by others. This thought was represented (to me) as ‘the falling buttered toast’.  Does it land butter side up? does it not…  ( ‘…man it always lands butter side down’). For reason unclear, this lead me to think about Christine and zoe. One was posing a hypothetical question about adolescent boys and the other was reminding me that I needed to get more organized with the presentation of the…

…Wakefield Doctrine:  Now, in this context, since my mind was already running down the path of buttered toast and how it represents the way a clark invest(s) (ourselfs) in goals, particularly the ‘public goals/amibtions/bids-for-inclusion-in-whatever-group-is-important-at-the-moment.2
What the Wakefield Doctrine would say about goals and disappointments was immediately modified by remembering Christine’s Comment, if there is a better form of presenting the Wakefield Doctrine, it must include specific examples of it’s principles being applied to everyday life situations. And so, I thought, how to understand why the child is seemingly more upset (or, perhaps, upset for a longer period of time than seems appropriate) at a disappointment, which lead to….

…manifesting in the three worldviews:  the person3 is disappointed:

  1. clarks feel/experience disappointment as a judgement of insufficiency (it was not that they lost because they raced against faster runners, they lost because they were not good enough runners)
  2. scotts feel/experience disappointment as stimulation…. (the 12th girl of the night to tell him to go to hell could only mean two things: the next one was surely going to say yes or now he could enjoy a quiet evening with nothing more than a Coke, a bag of Oreos and a good book)
  3. rogers feel/experience disappointment as evidence that something is not right… their Opponent (who won this time) clearly trained better, had better equipment, knew the inside scoop on conditions at the track, the loss is actually an enhancement of the roger’s efforts…. the importance and value in training is made all the greater… there is no question about if they can win, it is simply what they must do in order to win.

 

1)  ‘Manifesting’ is the term to indicate that the same experience for each of the three personality types is experienced differently.

2) you definitely get points if, on reading this,  you found your eyebrow trying to crawl to the top of your forehead, (the better to try to signal the others in the room….. “hey!! guys!! did you just hear what he wrote?!! we got him now!”)

3)  your 16-year-old boy coming home from the track meet; your 17 year old daughter coming into the house after cheer… from the track meet; your husband returning to his family from the staff meeting that was called to make a big announcement; your wife standing at the mailbox after opening the long anticipated envelope

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23rd of 30 the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers)

September 23, 2014 By

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Surely today must be a rambling and or otherwise pointless Post, non? (as opposed to a Pointillist Post?) Maybe. Maybe not.

(Semi-not)

I made reference this Sunday past (I love that ‘construction’…. ‘this (whatever time reference) past’  anyone out there know what it’s called? (no, roger…. I don’t believe it’s called ‘cutsey archaic writing style’ I’m pretty sure there’s no such a thing. But thanks for suggesting it.) Hey! speaking of rogers…. a person alone in an empty house: rogers are most likely to have the TV on, not because they are watching it…they might be doing the dishes, paying bills (and yes, rogers ‘love’ paying bills, it’s so orderly and responsible), even vacuuming  the house…the TV will be on (if no TV then the radio….preferably talk radio). clarks? they’ll leave the TV off, but they will talk to themselves… out loud.  scotts…. are you kidding? stay home in an empty house? hell…there’s stuff to do!  people to meet! cars to chase!
(this, btw, is a good illustration of the variety of uses to the Wakefield Doctrine. ok, so rogers like to have the TV on when alone… it’s not just to keep themselves company, it is to ‘be in the Herd’, be a part of the world(Herd). They may not be consciously  listening directly to the TV (or the radio…even the talk radio shows), but they are aware of it and it is describing the world, on some level/to some extent and that’s what rogers are about, being in the world of the known, the tradition, the….continuity of people.)

Issue 2. (I might not complete this, I seem to be a on a bit of a roll, what with describing how to infer the worldview of a person and, more importantly, how to expand the metaphor (of the Wakefield Doctrine) in order to enhance your insight into the lives of the people around you. Yeah… sorry, Lizzi!  postponing the ‘Boy in the Orange Sweater’ story. Thanks for the suggestion, I did find the story among. What I would like to do, time permitting, is tell the story again and then reprint the story as I wrote it the first time. I’d be interested if there are any difference in the re-telling that may serve as indicators of any effect of the Doctrine on me.

Instead of that, for today’s 23rd Post, hows about some quick tips on determining the predominate worldview of a person?

  • look at them (be careful now… some are very alert, might be best to observe from some ‘cover’)
  • scotts: easiest of the three! two words: ‘alert’  scotts you can see on first glance, they’re paying attention, look at the face first, specifically the eyes. there is a look to scotts that are unmistakable. posture is good, very physical, tendency  to move quickly and decisively (even with crutches)
  • clarks: look for bad posture and a distant gaze, listen for low volume-difficult-to-understand-but-distinct-enough-to-think-you-should-listen speech, dress is on the….eclectic side  (guy clarks pretty much will wear what amounts, in a fashion-sense as a tent, unless they decide to go totally contrarian (a clark contrarian?? no way!), in which case they’ll be the high school student in the 3 piece suit and wingtip shoes… the female clarks  look to the face and head, followed by everything else… take a note pad (where the scottian person reveals their relationship to the world around them in the alertness in their gaze, clarks will be trying to hide, amidst so much fashion-dissonnace that they should able to make a quick getaway (if they feel they are being overly scrutinized.) clarklike female…prefers the couture of the House of Androgyny
  • rogers:  they are of the Herd, they are the excel-by-conformity crowd… dress well, not distinctively. If it’s popular, they will wear it. (hey! want to hear a ‘true’ example of the rogerian worldview? woman I knew, whenever there was reason to have a formal sort of dinner, she would find the latest ‘Home Lovel’y magazine, go to the dinner and recipes section and totally reproduce the dinner that is illustrated…right down to the centerpiece… but that’s not the rogerian part! beautiful table, full of what appears to be delicious (if not somewhat exotic) food …and no salt and no pepper and no butter on the table…. (‘why on earth would you need those? if properly prepared, it’s guaranteed to be good… they said’)
    with each of the ‘other two’ worldviews we suggested you could identify on the basis of appearance?  …ever see the TV commercial for Angie’s List? ….lol  yeah
  • Observe the person in real life, preferably in a situation where they are interacting with other people
  • ok? now, Step 1: throw out the ‘no-fricken-way-they’re-a’ and that leaves you with two worldviews. Step 2: decide between the two. (With some of the difficult calls to make, such as between a ‘strong roger‘ and a ‘tired scott‘ you may need to continue observing them interacting with the world. don’t be afraid to go up and talk to them…well, sometimes, be afraid.)
  • the point of this? Simple. You are trying to infer how that person ‘relates themselves to the world around them’. Know this and you will not only be able to predict their actions and reactions, you will know more about them than they know about themselves

 

 

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#21 #thewakefielddoctrine #3worldviews #clarksscottsrogers #itsforyounotthem!

September 21, 2014 By

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Grateful for:

1) Books that connected within the child that I was at time in life that I read them:

  • Tom Swift Jr
  • Bullfinch’s Mythology
  • Stranger in a Strange Land
  • the Teachings of don Juan (a Yaqui Way of Knowledge)

5) Records that connected me to a world that I really thought was out there:

  • Wagner’s Ride of the Valkyries
  • Herb Alpert ‘A Taste of Honey’*
  • Led Zeppelin  ‘Led Zeppelin’
  • Jimi Hendrix Experience ‘Are you Experienced?’

10) People that connected with me…at a point in my life that,  I did not have a prayer in the world of appreciating the long-term effects of my interactions with them:

  • Nancy Jackson
  • Sister Mary Imelda
  • Miss Hiester
  • Coach Collins

3) Situations (that we all encounter) the effects and repercussions are still felt:

  • Swimming Lessons at age 10
  • Stuck in a car in a snowstorm on the Bourne Bridge
  • The boy in the orange sweater
  • Tufts Small Animal Hospital

2) this has been one of those TToTs that cause me to push back from the keyboard and say, ‘no frickin way!  don’t even think about hitting publish.’

4) lol…. (oh, yes I did!)

6) this Post today does, in fact, serve as an illustration of one of the principles  of the Wakefield Doctrine i.e. ‘manifesting’. We all have similar experiences as we live life; you buy gas at the 7/11, you study really hard for SATs, you get turned down by the girl of your dreams, you feel amazed at the person that your husband as learned to become, your child makes you wonder how you managed to be so fortunate….all the countless parts of a day-in-a-life. However, there are three personality types (in the Wakefield Doctrine) and there is no dividing up/off all these events and feelings, hopes and a-damn-good-job-for-a-guy-like-you, we all experience all of them. It’s how they ‘manifest’ for us, as individuals, that tells us the character of our worldview.

7) (New Readers?) 3 worldviews of the Doctrine:

  1. the world of the Outsider (clarks) in which the world is out there and we are here left to figure it all out, not really introverts as much as people who are trying to ‘pass as real people’…. funny thing about clarks, ‘we do not seek the spotlight, but we do not tolerate being ignored’
  2. the life of the Predator (scotts) the world is here, not next Tuesday and not ‘because she said she never wanted to see me again, I can’t go on‘, scotts act quickly and decisively and often correctly, they are mercurial in temperament, yet totally social. At a party the scottian man or woman will ‘work the room’ (or if they want a rest) they will be entertaining the people gathered around them
  3. the reality of the Herd Member (rogers) the term Herd is sometimes read as being a mindless drone… nothing could be further from the truth…rogers are independent, action oriented, emotional….members of the Herd. rogers wake up every morning with a-certainty-that-does-not-allow-or-require-or-stimulate-a-question that there is a Right way to do things and that is their primary mission, to carry on whatever tradition of correct action shapes their individual lives. They are social the way that books in a library could be said to be social, i.e. there is a connection between and among them all, not necessarily one book on shelf A (2nd Floor Antiquities Collection) and Shelf E2 (Auto Mechanics for the Hobbyist)

8)  Man… you know how on some Posts you write and you write and you enjoy it and all…. (then) you stop and you think, ‘damn! gots to be 2000 words better stop here‘  I did and looked and said,  “600 words here?!!”

9) If I wasn’t sincere in my efforts to write about things I am grateful for, I wouldn’t stop at Number 9….

10) 1.3 y’all …. (despite or maybe because of  the très weird Post and all…lol)

 

 

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Number 8 (of 30) the Wakefield Doctrine “Archimedes ain’t got nothin on me!!”*

September 8, 2014 By

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Leverage.

It’s kinda hard to see in the photo, but the green thing in the ‘before’ photo is my pry bar. The bridge is over a stream that feeds off the small pond on our property. The pond, in turn, is feed by a small river. The river floods most years (not major, Midwestern flooding, like Christine or Dyanne might consider flooding) but it will raise the water level by a couple of feet, which can be enough to float the bridge off the concrete base on either side of the stream. Then I have to either dis-mantle and re-build (the bridge) or, as is the case this year, move it up and over about 6 feet.

Anyway, that’s how I spent a part of Sunday. Applying force. Moving objects. Changing the environment (or features therein).

…speaking of change. I have been fortunate in having the opportunity to engage in some rather challenging and very productive discussions  with the clarks ’round the Doctrine lately. (them being: zoe and Lizzi and Denise and Cyndi). What I have, as a result,  is the beginnings of a hint of an insight, regarding how clarks (might) approach the process of change and (the) self-developing of our-own-selfs:

  • sure, you can change how you are
  • yeah, thinking and learning is how we manifest our efforts to deal with the world, that doesn’t necessarily mean that we will never see real and genuine change
  • leverage is about force being applied indirectly, so even though the rational approach is limited in what it can apprehend (in the way of finding new ways of relating the world around us), it (the rational approach) can be used to bring parts of ourselves, (the non-rational parts of ourselves), to the forefront, where, maybe, we can accept them and add these qualities to who we are

like moving a bridge that weighs a few hundred pounds, ya know?

 

 

* a slight mis-quote of a line from the movie, ‘Training Day’  starring Denzel Washington and Ethan Hawke

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GPTGP the Wakefield Doctrine “…a Thursday Point of View”

August 21, 2014 By

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This week’s Guest Post Thursday(‘s)  Guest Post Writer is Katia Bishofs.
I met Katia a couple of years ago on (the) Finish the Sentence Friday bloghop. My first thought reading Katia’s blog, IAMTHEMILK, was, to employ an archaic expression, ‘this person really has it together’.  We  hit it off and IAMTHEMILK became one of my first stops on the ‘Friday rounds’. This is the truly cool thing about the ‘sphere, that I get to meet people from all walks of life, from all parts of the planet… and Canada!  Katia has a pretty damn remarkable presence among blogs, being printed/published and re-printed in more sites than I read!  So, when the time came to ask another clark to write a Thursday Guest Post, I realized asking her would be a perfect opportunity to demonstrate, in a small and disguised way, the efficacy of the Wakefield Doctrine as a tool of self-development!

(Yes, that is a Wakefield Doctrine docTee in the photo above.)

Without further adieu…. hey! Katia has a second site (no! not sight…site! well, maybe both, as it is a well established fact that, when it comes to intuition and near-creepy sensitivity to the thoughts and feelings of others, clarks are the masters!), it’s a website totally full of helpful and valuable information and advice for mothers (and others) engaged (or contemplating engaging) in a job search: the Recruiter Mommy.

 

…Katia?

Top Five Best Things About Being an Outsider

I’ve been involved with the blogosphere since 2012. Due to kids (mine) and life circumstances (also mine) my relationship with it is no longer monogamous, but whenever I do visit the blogosphere, I follow Clark’s doctrine with great interest.  With his help via comments on my blog, I was able to confirm my suspicions that out of the three personality types the doctrine identifies, I’m a fellow Clark. When I read about Clarks, one aspect that I find particularly fascinating about them is their overly developed sense of outsiderdom.

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I once had to come up with one of those awkward third person bios for a website I was featured on. This one read:  Katia was born in a family of immigrants. She always felt like she didn’t belong, so one day she moved and switched continents so she could ‘not belong’ for a good reason”.

Up until I immigrated my outsiderdom had been an emotional state rather than a biographical or social fact confirmed by my surroundings. That well kept secret, however, would occasionally overflow and spill over to the outside at times of emotional tide and vulnerability, making itself potentially noticeable.

After moving from Israel to Canada my sense of outsiderdom finally received a reason. Seven years into my immigration, I rarely feel like an outsider anymore. I recently attended a blogging conference, where a hilarious post was shared by Meredith Bland at Pile of Babies. That particular post inspired this one, as it made me examine what would be perceived as a disadvantageous situation in a different light. Sure, immigration was one of the toughest things I’ve ever had to do, but I can’t say that my new status of immigrant, a.k.a. outsider by choice, didn’t come with its set of perks. I give you immigration’s top five advantages:

  1. Weird behaviours are totally acceptable – scratch that. They are actually expected of you. Want to drink creamer straight from the bottle thinking that you’re treating yourself to your first ever bottled iced coffee? Want to do all of that publicly? Go for it. It can all be chucked up to cultural differences.  True story.
  2. Geographical idiocy is acceptable as well –let it be known that my inner compass is not just off, it’s set to “Trust your gut” which never fails to lead me in the wrong direction. Guess what? Move countries and with your new permanent residence you’ll also get your permanent “Get out of judgment jail” card.
  3. Your “weird behaviour immunity” extends to your kids and covers them as well– when your toddler is outside screaming “mama bum!” No biggie. Cultural differences and stuff, remember?
  4. No one’s that surprised if you start a sentence but don’t finish it –                 (see?)
  5. Political opinions are a Nice To Have – Call me apolitical. I’m from the Middle East and I overdosed on news in the first thirty years of my life. Let’s see you drag me into a political conversation after that!

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Have you ever felt like an outsider?

 

 

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Katia Bishops writes IAMTHEMILK and Recruiter Mommy and can be found on ‘the Facebook’

 

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