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X! -the Wakefield Doctrine- veXing!

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As sure as the sun rise, baby

…in the tradition of bloggers, since time immemorial (or, say,  2009), I’m inserting a music video in the hopes of stimulating my ‘hey-it-meant-something-to-you-a-lifetime-ago-why-wouldn’t-total-strangers-get-something-out-of-it?’ gland and try to finish this Post.

(ed note: of course, that was the Allman Brothers, back when everyone was alive and it (‘Not My Cross To Bear’), was a staple of the dorm playlists. dormitory music motto: ‘the place one’s parents paid a lot of money to live in,  that sounded like those big city apartment scenes in most crime movies, pretty much just before the good guys almost catch the bad guys, but manage a decent shoot-out nevertheless‘ )

Still, nothing for the letter X….

while we wait, let me suggest you go and visit our friends posts, they’ve written something interesting.  Go see Val and Kristi, then head over to Dyanne and  Zoe’s and, even though she’s pulled the plug on the ‘Again-and-again April Blog Challenge’, stop by Christine’s place.

…awright! 163 (words and counting)

I’ll forgo the odd X words:  xylophone, Xylocaine* Xanthippe** xenophile, X Chromosome (lol…no, not a word!)

So! That was a fascinating Post!

You know, it was originally my thought to compile this series of posts as my ‘ok, here’s a pre-rough preliminary draft of something I really should try to get on-line published‘.  The idea being that it would offer an overview of the Wakefield Doctrine, in a format that is ‘accessible’ or, at very least, familiar to readers. There are a couple of Posts I may need to rewrite, but the sense I get is that, the interesting thing about this here blog here is the process, the conversation that has developed and evolved. That’s not saying that the Wakefield Doctrine is not ‘standalone interesting’ but, since I’ll be the first to admit that what we have here is chance, anecdotal, yet still a rather fresh insight into personality and behavior, I should not try to write a ‘real book’.
If, however, I persist in my ambition to produce something that will stand alone and allow a total stranger to read once and acquire an understanding of the Wakefield Doctrine, sufficient to either:

  • a better understanding of the people in their life or, failing that,
  • enjoy the experience of seeing (the)  clarks, scotts and rogers that populate their world, all acting just like the Doctrine says they will!

I better frickin do it. That wouldn’t be a bad thing, would it?

OK! you’ve convinced me.  Couple of more Posts to conclude this rogerian slow-motion train wreck and then I can start vexing myself over the horrible problem of compiling this thing into a ‘Begining-Middle-End’ work of literature.***

 

* no! really! this is what I found when I went to check the spelling (spellcheck has a problem with a lot of X based word), no word of a lie:

“Causes numbness or loss of feeling in an area of your body.
Given before and during surgery, childbirth, or dental work.
Also treats emergency heart rhythm problems. ”   (is it just me that finds that sequence of concerns amusing?)

** wife of Socrates… a real cut-up, according to ‘the Wikipedia’… the things we learn on bloghops!

*** yeah!  I did, in fact, use the L word in reference to this here blog here…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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‘G’ -the Wakefield Doctrine-Guilt’ (now, who’s surprised… no, really, anyone?)

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clarks hide it, scotts ignore it and rogers embrace it…  the glue of conformity, the velvet underwear of the conformer, easily the second most popular form of personal self-indulgence

GuiltGuilt…..Guilt…….Guilt, yeah Guilt

not the easiest of concepts to relate to our little personality theories, but what the hell:

  • guilty pleasures:  rogers!
  • guilty as charged: scotts!
  • guilt and shame: …. (you knew this one, didn’t you!  lol)  clarks!

lets get all Daniel on this here concept here.

guilt  noun \ˈgilt\
: responsibility for a crime or for doing something bad or wrong
: a bad feeling caused by knowing or thinking that you have done something bad or wrong (courtesy: merriamwebstercambridgeoxford.com)

my, that certainly covers the personal reality waterfront, doesn’t it? But, this here blog relates things on a personal level (no! wait!  don’t laugh… I mean, sure, clarks do not strike most people as being excessively personal and/or personable people, at least on first meeting.  funny story: when I was 5 years old I decided that I really should sign any birthday or holiday cars with my full name…even those to immediate family. and the thing is, though I can’t remember the rationale, I still have a sense of the appropriateness of it…at least to my 5 year old self).

clarks feel guilt. ours and anyone else’s that we decide we have a ‘relationship with/to’… there’s a old term for this, one that predates the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers,  called ‘getting Ed Sullivaned’. The origin being how, as a young clark, I would watch the Ed Sullivan Show* and, the culture being barely out of the vaudeville era, there would be acrobatic acts and plate juggler guys. These would be people who’s mission in life was to get these, like, flexible poles, stand them on end, put a dinner plate on the top end, and make them spin. The goal was to get as many spinning as possible…. wait, what the hell am I doing, let me go youtube it

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zhoos1oY404?list=PL4F4AEC6CDC823498

… hey, come on!  it was the 60s in our parents living room watching on a black and white tv.

In any event, the phrase ‘Ed Sullivaned’ comes from the feeling I would get when the juggler messed up and dropped something. I would feel totally, honestly, look-around-and-hope-no-one-was-looking-at-me-for-an-explanation  guilty/embarrassed.  Sort of projectile empathy.  Anyway, eventually  the phrase came to be associate with the experience of guilt on behalf of another person.

….time to go, work is calling like: ‘a something-something-hooker-something from the other room, while I try to explain to friends how this is not really the real me‘… everyone feels like that at one time or another? right?

 

* early 60’s television show, actually a variety show hosted by a guy who looked like Richard Nixon and he was ‘the venue’ for the first major appearances of performers in the nascent pop music era… Elvis, the Beatles, George Carlin…any entertainer you might enjoy who is more than 50 years old?  probably appeared on Ed Sullivan.

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E -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘the Everything Rule’

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easily one of the most challenging aspects of the Wakefield Doctrine, the ‘everything Rule’ lies at the very heart of our view of personality types.  Lets remind ourselfs how the Wakefield Doctrine views ‘personality types.

the Wakefield Doctrine maintains that we are born with the potential to experience the world as one of three characteristic personal realities (aka worldviews) and, at an early age we find ourselves in one (our predominant worldview).
A three year old confronting a world in which life is a constant (and beautiful) struggle, his/her very reality demands quick reactions and constant alertness,  the child’s relationship to the world is that of the predator. Everyday life is both a challenge and a celebration, the child learns that the only way to cope with the world is to remain ever in the moment …alive, un-distracted by the abstract, eschewing the internal world of self-questioning and introspection, thriving in the concrete and objective world.  For this child-soon-to-be-an-adolescent-then-adult, life is simple:  eat, sleep, play, hunt. This child will grow up with what we call the scottian personality type. ( Of course, the ‘other two worldviews’, the children living in and contending with those realities will develop the social styles, the coping strategies, the compensations that reflect the reality of the Outsider/clark and the Herd Members/rogers).  The Wakefield Doctrine does not really concern itself with favorite colors, preferences in food, most desired mates… all we need to know is, ‘how does that person relate themselves to the world around them?’

the (three) personality types of the Wakefield Doctrine represent the (individual’s) best effort to cope with the world, as they experience it. The reality of the three worldviews is essential to understanding and effectively using the Wakefield Doctrine as a tool to better understanding the people in our lives.

Ok, so you’ve learned the characteristics of the three worldviews sufficiently enough to allow you to identify the predominant worldview of the people you know and encounter everyday: the girl at the supermarket with the streak of purple in her hair, the boy who sits behind you in History class who always says something that makes you laugh (but no one else seems to hear him), the guy at the gas station with the odd, pressed-lip-smile, the husband who traces outlines of the tools on the pegboard in his workshop, the daughter who is so pretty but insists on spoiling a perfectly good outfit with such odd accessories, the nephew who is so intelligent and yet is getting straight ‘Cs’, the wife who is so sexy and while you’re glad everyone at every social occasion compliments you, sometimes you feel left out.   All these people you can now recognize as being clarks and scotts and rogers.  It’s tempting to think,  ‘My cousin is a carpenter and he’s a wild man I wonder if being a carpenter is a scottian job?’  or maybe, you reflect on last Summer and recall, ‘everyone was so excited about the family vacation, except my daughter, who seemed to be going out of her way to express her indifference, could that be a clark thing?”

‘the everything Rule’ states that: ‘everyone does everything, at one time or another’  

The Rules establishes two things:

  1. (it serves to) remind us that anyone can be a firefighter or a policeman, an accountant or a groundskeeper or a librarian, a physician or a chef
  2. (insists that) it’s incumbent upon us to put ourselves in the worldview of the person we are (trying) to understand and see what it means to be: a cop or a firefighter, a stay-at-home-mom or an insurance adjuster,  from the other person’s perspective, from within their worldview (not ours).

While we all know that scotts have a certain natural…. enthusiasm for an occupation like law enforcement and, therefore tend to excel at it, (what’s not to like for a scott?!!  chase people! drive cars really fast while making a lot of noise… shooting off guns and capturing people (yeah, handcuffs too!)…it’s easy to see why our scottian brothers and sisters like the work), there are very successful clarks and rogers in this line of work. It’s just that for a clark, while the excitement is attractive, they will see their role as being one to protect the innocent, to right wrongs. As too, our rogerian friends who would be cops, they would experience the job as a chance to maintain the Law (and what roger wouldn’t totally love that idea?).

So the everything Rule is there to remind us that when we seek to understand another person, the key is to see the world as they are experiencing it. So when your child come to you and says, “Mom!! Mom!! Tomorrow in school we have Career Day and we’re supposed to pick one thing that we think we should be good at and I signed up,   (for)Librarian!!!  (for) Firefighter!! (for) Ruiner-of-many-a-man’s-life!!! (for) brain surgeon!!”

So that’s ‘the everything Rule’.  (And this Rule applies to everything, not just jobs.  It applies to feelings and ambitions, goals and obsessions, passion and depression.  (yes, even something as subjective as ‘depression’ is amenable to better understanding through application of ‘the everything Rule’!  Simple:  understand the person’s worldview, put yourself in that worldview…what is ‘depression’ in that reality?  And it is different… that I guarantee. And it is difficult to achieve, this perspective…that I also guarantee. But the whole idea of the Wakefield Doctrine is to become able to see the world as the other person is experiencing it.)

(…. I knew you’d think that!)

 

 

 

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Monday -the Wakefield Doctrine- ‘one dress rehearsal, a day off and we be so ready for them alphabet mfers’

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Lets see:

donate to wikipedia?  ✔
youtube updated and standing by?  ✔
online dictionary?? cheque!

comic sans font… when brow gets too high?… well, of course!  er  

images from 5 years of Posts…. illustrating, emphasizing… bizarre innuendae ?? yatzee!

‘kay, looks like I’m all ready to take on those rogers of regimented rhetoric, the fabulous A-to-Zers… the Blog Hopping Challenge of all time. April 1st through the 31st … alphabet?!  we got ya alphabet right here!

(shit! the alphabet, that will be easy enough, I can always go look at Kristi or Z or Val’s Posts… now the theme itself… I better review the Doctrine,  lets see:

    • perspective on the world around us…
    • personal reality/worldviews
    • three personality types
    • clarks, scotts and rogers

(ok… 21 more to go)

  • ‘the everything Rule’…
  • three types,
  • one predominant with two as potential. secondary and tertiary aspects.
  • know the other person better than they know themselves,
  • infer how a person is ‘relating themselves to the world around them’,
  • off-color jokes (?!),    (off-color jokes?! what the hell kind of alphabet category is that?!)

simple: the Wakefield Doctrine (the theory of clarks, scotts and rogers) is a perspective on human behavior, a way to see the actions and reactions (and interactions) of the people who make up our lives, in a way that not only provides us with insight, but is (also) quite amusing, without being mean or off-putting. As a ‘lens’, the Wakefield Doctrine provides us with a glimpse into the world of ‘the other person’. Predicated on two simple ideas: a) there are three characteristic worldviews (i.e. personal realities), and that, although we have the capacity to live in any of the three, we all settle into one, at a very early age and 2) our personality type is simply a reflection of the reality that we grew up, developed in and are currently experiencing, and 3) if we understand the nature and character of each of the three worldviews and we infer how the other person is relating themselves to the world around them, we can be in a position to see the world as they are experiencing it. This can only mean that we will come closer to understanding the other person.  In fact, with practice and determination, it is quite possible to know more about the other person than they know about themselves.

As a benefit, of the practice of, seeing the world as they are experiencing it, you need hear yourself say, “How could they go and do such a thing/say such a thing? I really thought I knew them better than that!”  A further benefit of the study and application of the principles of the Wakefield Doctrine is the realization that how we relate ourselves to the world around us, (as would the Outsider/clark, the Predator/scott or the Herd Member/roger) is at the heart of the give and take, the problems and conflicts, the joy and passion that manifests itself in the unfolding of our everyday life.
By knowing that my world is of a certain character I am better able to understand how I contribute, not only to actions and reactions with people throughout my day, but to the nature and quality of those actions and interactions. Rather than giving us cause to say, ‘well, it’s them! they’re the ones being unreasonable!’ we now are in a position to, (be able to), accept that how I relate myself to the world around me today plays a totally significant role in how the people around me act…and react….and annoy the hell out of me…and are so attractive…. and stubborn. Although sounding very self-centered and egotistical, there is, within the Wakefield Doctrine, an inherent responsibility to understand the other person which, in turn, conveys a freedom (from our own limitations).

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TToT -the Wakefield Doctrine- Ninety Two (times incomplete thoughts, partial clauses…interesting random facts….better have a seat!)

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…Hill cows!!!

…Hill cows!!!

 

I got information and I’m sitting on it. Nothing special… nothing salacious or cool or social status-enhancing or like that, but it does provide an illustration of one of the deficiencies of clarks suffer when in the social environment. We know stuff and we learn and we hear things, but one of (the very few) qualities that we (clarks) are proud of, is the ability to keep things secret/maintain personal confidences. Unfortunately, this quality (also) results in a disability to participate as an active member of society.*  ( “clark, can I tell you something and you promise never to tell anyone?”  “you are such a good listener, I need to tell someone this…“).  It’s not that people of all three worldviews cannot keep a confidence,**  what’s interesting about clarks is that we can’t remember the direct and/or specific life-lesson to not repeat the things that are told to us in confidence. We just realized, at some point, that our ‘not repeating things we are told’ is considered a good and valued quality by the real people in our lives. And so we are told things.  But we have trouble asking people about their lives, past a certain….public level.  But, the thing we don’t have, is that natural inclination to participate in the commerce of social interaction…. it (information about the members of the group) is the both the binding force and the reward for those who willing become part of the herd.  You know, as I re-read this, in my ‘edit’ mode (ha ha)… I’m thinking, ‘yeah this quality is good… for them.’  Years ago, someone I knew, (a clark), said to me,  ‘you need learn how to take’.

holy smoke, what a writing newb am I!!  why didn’t I know about ‘The Proust  Questionnaire’??!!

Here is Proust’s Questionnaire:

  1. What is your idea of perfect happiness?  (‘what’s it to you?!)
  2. What is your greatest fear?  (“not having answers to questionnaires…“)
  3. What is the trait you most deplore in yourself? (“tolerating questions like this….no, that’s not true… it’s believing that I should tolerate a question like that…hey, I’m a clark“)
  4. What is your motto? (actually this last was Question # 35 (!!) I want to think up something clever, but I’ll have to get back to you

and so, if I’m reading the wikipedia correctly, if we ask the characters we create in our writing,  these questions, the result will be: a) more compelling characters or 2) our grasp on reality is further eroded to the point that we’re not certain who, among those we meet on this internet, is actually real and who is a work of fiction.

OK… at some point, I need to mention gratitude and such.

Big Gratitudinous Item:  We heard from ClairePeek!   A Friend of the Doctrine from way back…. maybe even the 1st generation! (The first generation refers to the point in this blog where people learned about/taught themselves the Wakefield Doctrine (sufficiently to see the clarks, scotts and rogers in their own, personal, ‘real’ worlds), without having come into contact with me directly. Very impressive!)

Biggest Hypo-Grat Item of the Week:  it’s snowing today. Not just the cover-the-grass-in-white, snowing, like last night, no! it’s the couple of inches…. track it into the house, brush off the car level of snow… not happy for this weather. Here, here’s a pitcha:

not so much the snow on the ground… the snow in the trees! that's the discouraging part

not so much the snow on the ground… the snow in the trees! that’s the discouraging part

(Item?  damn… totally did not think of the Tenification of my Post)

…hey! just got off the phone with an agent and I helped her, without feeling bad afterwards!  so  that’s 3 Items in itself!  (a) being able to help, 2) remembering to engage the other person, not just spout information and 3) accept the fact that it’s alright to not be nice all the time…

wow!  this is one confusing TToT post!

 

ok…one more Thankful Item… (god! the Guard Virgins are gonna kill me for this Post…. hope it’s that new one! She seems kinda….sincere about her role***)

ok lets try to organize this here TToT Post here:

  1. I’m privileged to be a co-host at what is nothing less than the best ‘hop in the blog-o-sphere!
  2. Readers who will read, knowing that a post from the Doctrine is at times confusing, while recognizing the good intent… to provide insight of some sort (self or other)
  3. Christine and her ‘doing cool things and writing about them’…. i.e. road trips!  (one of my favorite life concepts)
  4. old friends visiting back… our Ms Peek
  5. vidchats and meeting virtual friends in as close to the ‘real’ world as I’m likely to get… last night  Lisa! in da house… (fortunately I had Denise and Z and Ms Rogers to provide the social enjoyment factor)
  6. help from friends (see item 5)
  7. job where I can practice my Doctrine…. no, I still always forget at times, but I’m remembering that I’m forgetting more frequently and that’s hugely encouraging
  8. Cyndorito  and our Ms Rogers    clarks on the frontier of their own personal journey  taking notes and sending them back here
  9. the work I do that allows me the chance to get a photo like the one at the top of this post (seriously!  I was driving along in rural CT and even though the land was pretty flat and clear on both sides of the road, I was, like right on top of the area where I took the photo…. and yes,  I was yelled to myself ‘ holy shit!! Hill cows!!!’  while trying to brake the car and find my camera… )
  10. 1.3, binyons!  1.3

 

 

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* we’re using the word society in the sense of any group of people, at work or school or the store… the people we are friends with and associate with… that kind of society

** the ‘everything Rule’

*** once again, I have no idea!

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